Love Life Connection

I know I probably say this about all of my episodes, but this one is so important. If you find yourself constantly anxious, angry, or feeling stuck, there’s a good chance you haven’t felt your feelings. If you aren’t sure how you feel sometimes or you rail against things, there’s a good chance you’re repressing your feelings. Over a lifetime of repressing your feelings, you disconnect from yourself, and minimize your ability to connect with others. So you can see how this making find love extra tricky. https://veronicagrant.com/episode96 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A lot of you have told me you feel confident when you’re around someone you DON’T like, but when it’s someone you like, you fall apart. So let’s break this down. There’s something to this, and in fact, in many of the tips I share in the episode, they’ll each get their own episodes in the very near future. Because when you feel confident except when you’re with someone you like, that tells me there’s an issue of vulnerability and your dating energy. Enough on that now, you’ll hear a lot more about your dating energy soon, but for now, in this episode, I’ll share with you SIX super simple things you can do to feel more confident on a date with someone you actually like! https://veronicagrant.com/episode95 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Would it surprise you if I said people pleasers and narcissists are a match made in heaven? It’s true. People pleasers are the largest subsection of my clients, and their biggest frustration is attracting narcissists. The bad news is this is a frustrating pattern to break, but the good news is it’s totally breakable. In fact, if you’re a people pleaser, I’ve got a meditation for you that’ll help you to say NO to others. https://veronicagrant.com/episode94 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

**Nerd train alert.** Ok, just kidding, but I do nerd out over all things personal finance. That’s why when I came across Catie, I knew I had to get her into your earbuds. Catie is a financial planner for millennial women who want to get their shit together. I love her no nonsense approach to finance, swirled with her ability to meet you where you’re at and her humor, I think you’re gonna love her too. https://veronicagrant.com/episode93 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just this morning, I deleted about 1000 subscribers from my email list. If you don’t run a business, let me explain the magnitude of this: If I’m not working with my clients, I’m probably working on building my email list and community. Some business owners never make it to the 1000 subscriber mark, and I just deleted 1000. These 1000 subscribers hadn’t opened an email from me in months; in the marketing world, they’d be called “cold subscribers.” Other business owners might think I'm crazy, but I had to make a tough call. Ultimately I did it because the cold subscribers were draining my energy. I was constantly focused on how can I re-engage them and why they didn't like me. But in keeping these cold subscribers on my list, I wasn't creating space for what I wanted to call more of into my life, nor was I serving who WAS there with my full attention. And in doing so, I realized I wasn’t asking myself the right question, which is: “How can I inspire, educate, or entertain the 1000s of women that DO want to be

I’m so grateful for my friend Dagmar and the work she does in the world. The amount of trauma, shame, and embarrassment around our sexuality is startling. And it’s not something you can so easily just compartmentalize. It shows up in how YOU show up to men and in relationships. Creating sexual freedom in your life is creating more freedom for you as a whole in your life. https://veronicagrant.com/episode91 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I interview my friend Jen on how childhood emotional trauma has affected her relationships today as an adult. Even if you’ve never been abused or didn’t experience trauma in the way Jen and I discuss on today’s episode, it doesn’t mean that your upbringing didn’t affect you in some way in how you relate to men and relationships. And if it happened 10 years ago, 20 or 30, and you haven’t dealt with it, there’s a chance it’s impacting your relationships today. https://veronicagrant.com/episode90 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating in the modern world can be tricky, but I don’t think it’s inherently because of the apps, texting, snapping, or swiping. I think what makes it tricky is part of a larger problem that we all face from living an increasingly online life. I share what I think that problem is, and what you can do to stay out of the ‘games’ modern dating brings and how to know if you’re with the ‘best’ person for you. https://veronicagrant.com/episode89 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is one of the top questions I get asked by my clients. The truth is, the answer is complicated. Sometimes a dating break is useful and very necessary. Sometimes, a dating break is holding us back. Sometimes too much dating is holding you back, and everything in between! In this episode, I ask you 5 questions that you need to ask yourself to know if you need a dating break or if you’re good to date. I think you’re gonna love it, and after you listen, come tell me what you’re going to decide to do over on Instagram! https://veronicagrant.com/episode88 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This may sound crazy, but I’ve recently cut out most of the self-help outlets in my life. Yep, I unfollowed dozens of accounts, unsubscribed from podcasts, and unsubscribed from emails. This seems kinda weird, since, well, I’m IN the self-help industry, but it dawned on me that I was completely addicted. Let’s back up a bit: We live in a world where we’re taught to be believe that we’re not good enough, and that something external can “fix” us. For years I thought I was too fat, and what’s why I couldn’t get into a relationship. Maybe you think you’re too fat. Or maybe you’ve been told you’re too emotional, too masculine, or just too “much.” https://veronicagrant.com/episode87 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previously in Part Five of How I Found Love…I had just moved to DC, had started online dating, and was so excited to meet my nice Jewish boy. Just when things were going so well, I took a couple steps back. I found myself crazy about a guy who wined and dined me, yet wasn’t really emotionally available to me. He broke up with me, and then I did a lot of online dating. Then, one of my friends invited me to a happy hour, and Stevie was there...If you missed the full Part Five of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Four, read it HERE. If you missed Part Three, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE.Here is Part Six...The finale! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you missed the full Part Four of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Three, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE. Here is Part Five, aka Three Steps Forward, and Two Steps Back... When I moved to DC, I was so excited to start dating. I felt like over the past few years since living abroad, I had reinvented myself. I was living in a city I'd wanted to live in for years, I had a new job, and I was just beginning to get ideas of my health coaching business. It was the first time I had an online dating profile, and I felt like I had thousands of potential partners at my finger tips after I signed up with OkCupid. I was confident, I wasn’t battling my body, and I was genuinely excited about life. You know how people say though that you take 3 steps forward and two steps back? Well, that was about to happen to me. But first, I had to take a giant step back. www.veronicagrant.com/episode85 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previously in Part Three of How I Found Love… After hitting a low point, things in Charleston were beginning to look up. I loved my new city, I had a great job, and quickly developed a fantastic group of friends. I dated someone for the first time that was respectful and actually wanted to be with me, and my new found confidence allowed me to dodge a bullet from another guy. If you missed the full Part Three of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE. Here is Part Four, aka, When Obama Calls... https://veronicagrant.com/episode84 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previously in Part Two of How I Found Love… After breaking up with my college sweetheart, I moved to Jerusalem for grad school. Almost immediately and back to back, I found myself in two different relationships with people who didn’t want to be with me. Even though I have a travel bug and loved living abroad, it was emotionally one of the darkest times of my life. I got to a point where I couldn’t handle my emotions anymore, so I reached out to a therapist. If you missed the full Part Two of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE. Here is Part Three...aka, Learning How To Adult https://veronicagrant.com/episode83 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you missed the full Part One of my love story, read it HERE.Here is Part Two...aka, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...I had just graduated college, I was getting ready to move to Jerusalem for grad school, and I had just broken up with my college sweetheart.Life exciting and scary at the same time.I’ve had the travel bug ever since I had 15, so I couldn’t wait to live abroad.Yet, I was nervous about making a big move, the language barriers, the cultural barriers, and of course, who would be my friends?! http://veronicagrant.com/episode82 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve worked so hard on my spirituality, my personal growth, and my relationships to be where I am today. Recently, I realized I’ve told my story of how I found love in bits and pieces here and there, but never all together in one place....Until now! This is part one in a six-part mini series about how I found love, and created my dream life. http://veronicagrant.com/episode81 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you feel like a crazy person around food, struggle with your body, and think that if you lost weight dating would be easier, this episode is for you. This episode hits home for me so hard, because for YEARS I struggled with my weight. I went on my first “diet” at age 10, dieted on and off until I was 26 years old. Dieting and trying to lose five more pounds was just a thing women did. It wasn’t until I discovered that my worth wasn’t wrapped up in size that not only did I get off the diet train for good, but it helped me become the person I needed to be to attract the relationship I wanted. You’ll hear Isabel’s passion immediately. She’s been there, and she knows how to get you out of the diet-binge cycle and improve your body image. http://veronicagrant.com/episode80 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Maybe it’s nosy or slightly stalkerish, but I love seeing people’s behind the scenes. Knowing what you ate for breakfast gives me ideas to switch up my breakfasts. Hearing your morning meditation routine helps me to tweak mine if it’s not quite working for me. I love seeing the real story behind people’s curated Instagram lives. In fact, sometimes, it’s hard for me to post on Instagram, because I feel like my life is so not Instagram-worthy. We still had unpacked boxes in our apartment until about a week ago. I’m not the neatest person either. I’m also always wearing workout clothes because I’ve either just worked out or am about to. Most importantly, seeing people’s behind the scenes helps me to not feel so alone. It’s easy for me to feel like I’m not good enough or that I don’t have my shit together as someone else when scrolling social media. But when I can see that person’s human-ness, I don’t feel as alone. I begin to see that we’re all in this together. And I can learn from them as someone standing righ

Lately, I’ve noticed a lot of stuff out floating around on the internet about manifesting your soulmate, more money, your dream house, losing 50lbs… you name it. I’m sad to say though, that as awesome as it sounds, most of it’s bullshit. Don’t get me wrong though. I’m all about manifesting. I’ve manifested this community, our move to Denver, lots of things. As much as manifesting as changed my life, I’ve see  way too many women get the wrong idea. Like, believing all you have to do is want it, and it’ll magically appear, or if a date goes bad, then it must mean the universe hates you. Nothing could be further from the truth, which is why I’m so excited to have Bri Seeley on the podcast today setting us all straight. http://veronicagrant.com/episode78 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They say success is 80% mindset and 20% tactical. In all areas of life, I couldn’t agree more. And what’s why when I got the request to do a podcast episode on discovering what you need and want in a relationship, I knew I had to break it down into two parts: the why and the what, and then the HOW. Last week’s episode, which was part 1 in this 2-part series was about the mindset and importance of discovering what you need and want in a relationship. And this week’s episode is all about putting it into practice. Knowing what you need and want doesn’t do you any good unless you know HOW to ask for it in a way that’s effective. Most conversations I find are so ineffective. Conversations between coworkers, lovers, parents and kids, and employers and employees are riddled with blame, judgment, and accusation, which isn’t going to get you anywhere. So today’s episode gets into the nitty gritty of how to have an authentic conversation. I go into the weeds here, and since I’m guessing that maybe you’re listening to t