Personal Development Unplugged

Performance anxiety - we all experience it - Part 1 We all perform - Yes we do! Some perform in front of an audience, before examiners, sitting exams, in sports, in meetings, with our partner or friends, in fact we all perform all the time at being us. That's why when Wills, a musician and music teacher, asked for this topic to be discussed I felt it was so important to give it my best and to that end it became a two part podcast with maybe more to follow. When I say we all preform at being us what I mean is being aligned, congruent, singing as it were with our true voice - being our best US. My aim is to give you tools that work at letting go of this anxiety and allow you to be this best you you can be. To this we'll dive into the intention of performance anxiety what it really is and what it's trying to do for you. From there we'll go on to discover processes that you can choose to apply. You may even notice that each process builds upon then one before. (Clever Heh!) Will has given permission to play one o

  I'm a hypocrite and not sorry It's okay to change your mind and beliefs In this episode I want to ask you to become more curious of what you hear and see and our own bias. I used to think changing your mind was hypocritical and that was bad - once you've made your mind up on a thing you have to stick with it! Is or was that a great belief to have? Especially in this ever changing world that seems to be uncovering new information and new ways todo things at an amazing speed. You only have to cast your gaze over the last 50 years to see how things have changed and what was believed impossible to now becoming the norm. With this speed of changing technology and information comes the great, the good and the down right lies. Discovering what to believe is becoming increasingly difficult. When we get it right we too can change for the great and the good so let's go and take a dive into how we can master this and make the improvements in our lives we desire.  It's pretty simple really when we make it so. Shine bri

It's good to know that what you've been doing is more than ok A world champion that can cram 2 months of learning into one day! and my imposter syndrome all wrapped up in one episode! (too many exclamations there!) There are times I guess when we all question ourselves "am I doing this right?" And for me I also add "I know what I do works for me and it should work for anyone else - You and my clients - but will it?" Well  you may well feel the way I did when listening what a world champion called Josh Waitzkin on the Tim Ferris podcast said what was at the foundation of his 'Art of Learning training - Elite mental performers in business and finance. Well I was knocked off my metaphorical feet as I've been doing it and teaching the very same thing for years. Come with me and find out what it is and how we can use it in so many different contexts. Yes I know I'm being artfully vague but that's to get your curiosity juiced so you learn even more. :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or

Accept your excuses and find your competition We all want to improve, don't we? What do you want to improve in? So when I started this I had in mind a five minute quickie podcast and found that I just ran on with more and ended diving a little deeper. Diving into you personal best's and then finding ways to beat them. We going to start with the promise of finding people or companies, if it's business, that are better than you - Your competition. Competition to inspire us and teach us how to get better in any area of our lives - yours and mine. We'll also go from generals to specifics so we can hone into those areas of our lives that will make the most difference for us. Let's look at our heroes and heroins, remembering they started not knowing how to do the things they excel in because they're only ordinary people that have learnt to do extraordinary things. They are there to teach us they just don't know it. You see they are your competition, not to beat but to teach, to lead us to create our PB (personal be

All things Hypnosis A review of free hypnosis tracks and they're downloadable I didn't realise just what a breadth was covered until I was reviewing the hypnosis tracks that accompany the Personal Development Unplugged podcast. I'd forgotten what we had covered and wanted to refresh myself and had the thought 'I bet others, newly coming to listen don't know what's available' So here is an overview of what's been created for you to date and a little description that may help you to find what you need. There's over 40 tracks now so you can imagine they cover a lot of the areas of self development. If you spot an area you would like me cover that's not there let me know and I'm sure we'll get to cover that too  :O) Let me know your thoughts here feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com   Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopment

From a voice to awesomeness I was reminded of a concept that I first encountered in my first NLP Practitioner training, again in my Trainers training and yet again in a Tim Ferriss podcast - you might recall FMQ 5 'The jar of awesomeness'. This time it was by a guy called Marcus Buckingham and how children in New Zealand had taken this concept and called it a 'Voice box' or more specifically My Voice box. The effect on these children and their schooling is nothing less than remarkable or Awesome!!!! And it's a process you can use for yourself and others of any age. Go on you have to listen now :O) It's also nice to know that what happens here is not some wacky out there stuff but processess that really help us improve our lives and those of others. Please share, subscribe and review (on your platform of choice) And remember you can email me directly with questions, requests and feedback on the same one email feedback@personaldevelopmentunpluged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment o

Finding compassion below the surface From an unlikely discussion between Russel Brand and Rene Brown about our views of others not doing their best. If you choose to listen you find out how this concept made me feel guilty and sad which I was not expecting and took me completely by surprise. Because of this reaction I wanted to explore deeper with a view from an NLP perspective and how we can use this to create change not in others but You and I. If you do come with me you may discover something about yourself beyond that initial reaction to judge yourself and ways to use this thought process to make changes in your behaviours and emotions creating the unconscious habit of compassion to the person most close to you - can you guess who that is? I hope this will provoke some interesting thoughts and understanding of your and others intentions below the surface of what you or they do. As I always ask please let me know those thoughts that this has brought to the surface and any other feedback  that will allow me

Making it How clever are you? Clever enough to make it? Probably Not - WHAT!!!!!!!  and that's a good thing! So now I've poked you in your metaphorical eye you have got to listen now. You see you don't know enough to be clever enough to know what you want and never make it. Thing is there's a balance between specifics and generalities which allow you to know what you want and achieve that and those goals and the wonderful ripples that will spread thought the rest of your life. SO....... I know this is a little ambiguous but if you listen from the beginning to the very end I'll share with you all of this including the how's  (I'll always include the how's ) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscr

Self sabotage - Not Again!! I got carried away -  again! Started talking about that subject I really find is just irritating  and how this badge of honour is simply an excuse and not to worn proudly. There are reasons why we 'sabotage' ourselves. What are they? Fear of failure Fear of success But let's go beneath the surface of both of these - the why's, the what's and the how's and what we can do that eliminates all of this. As we understand our intentions we can see through these fears for what they really are. So come with me down this particular rabbit hole to learn and let go. It's all about the "Y's" and the how's seem to become clear. They become so clear you really can see how we can touch the the dream as well as feelings along with taste and smell of succeeding and exceeding your goals and dreams. That's got to be worth the time - hasn't it? Enjoy with me and when you do please as always share this with everyone you can think of :O) . If you let me know you have then I'll thnk of something in retu

Not just doing something different - a personal story I have just been writing in my journal and that lead to sharing a personal story of treading water and now it's time to swim. "If you want what you never had you will have to do what you have never done" Tiffany Dufu The thing is when I considered the thought of just treading water I go to thinking 'what about the things I have achieved?'  Let me share with you where my thoughts went with even a little story. To get something different you have to know what that different is and what skills you have already learnt and can use to move on. How would a best friend react if you ignored all they had done for you in reaching and learning what you reached and learnt. I know I've gone into that ambiguous world again :O) You'll just have to listen and see how I began to notice what I had to change and what to keep in this adventure of change. Oh! and there's quite a few 'how to's' I hope you enjoy this musing and if you do please share it and also let me know - j

I'm too OLD too YOUNG Just like we discussed in FMQ 256 another reason, or excuse as we call it out, for not investing in ourselves (yep I'm in here with you) is when we say: I'm too OLD too YOUNG And we seem to say this without thinking. Come with me and listen to my personal experiences and those of my youngest son, Joseph, in which we nearly fell into this trap. Once you do follow me down this rabbit hole you will never believe your age has anything to do with accomplishing anything. No More Excuses as there are no reasons not to go for it, do it and achieve it - whatever IT is? Let me know what you have been putting off and how this has changed your outlook on what you decide to do now. It's so easy, all you have to do is email me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Remember to share this and any or all of the episodes and let me know when you do - there may be a little surprise for you when you do :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, reque

Dig your well and leave a legacy Metaphors are dripping all over the place in this 5 minute quickie podcast The saying of 'Dig the well before you become thirsty' by Harvey Mackay has been used as a foundation of 'good' networking but I wanted to think a little alternatively and see where we can use this saying more widely for our purposes of simply being better (at anything) So is it one well or many wells? and who digs? and what type of well is dug? This all goes to creating a great legacy for others to drink from. We'll go from cause and effect to taking responsibility and then to the lands of 'shoulda' and 'wish I hadda' Come with me to expand this metaphor and even take a look at our time line of the future :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simpl

Where do our beliefs come from  A personal story I wanted to share a personal story of some recent work I did with myself and more specifically the beliefs that came up that I wasn't expecting. I'll also share what happened as I worked through them. Come with me and hear this story of experiencing of not so nice feeling and how I communicated with it and my unconscious mind and how they communicated with me. Where do these beliefs come from and when I thought about it I could remember (more unconscious communication I guess) and how they continued to effect me - until now. I think, as you listen, my story will resonate within you and guide you to resolve what needs resolving. We go into the positive intention below and behind these limiting beliefs. I hope you both or the both of you, enjoy and learn something important. If you do please share with me your experience by emailing me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questio

The one thing that creates everything The next two questions are going to change your life. Another big statement but one that's true. We've talked about creating dreams, wishes and letting go of issues and this is no exception and the reason I keep doing it is for you to find your real voice and make it sing!!!! Everybody and their wife seem to be on social media giving advice as to the best morning routine and the like and I'm not sure of them actually practicing what they preach but I feel something is missing from the message. If I'm right and you do what I discuss here and ask yourself these two questions - Please write them down There you go, now all you have to do is listen (with pen and paper in hand) and find your voice and success. All in 8 minutes of a five minute quickie podcast. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevel

FMQ 254.1 Here is hypnotic spice hypnosis Yep, here is the hypnosis track to add spice into life. If you haven't listened to the podcast please do as it's good to get a conscious understanding as well as priming your unconscious mind. Please enjoy with my compliments Shine and be well Paul       Personal development [self improvement] [self development] [NLP] [Hypnosis]

Hypnotic spice Hypnosis to spice up your life So what does all this mean? Well, from wasting a little time watching a cookery program I had a mini Ah Ha! moment. Isn't it strange where and what creates them? So inspired I went to the mike and recorded the hypnosis track to have your unconscious mind 'spice' up the things that you do so you get to taste the richness of life. It's best that you listen to this episode before experiencing the hypnosis so both your conscious and unconscious minds are aligned to the making of your waking day filled with................... As you will have guessed I love hypnosis and what it can do for you and it would be really kind and nice if you would let me know of your experiences by emailing them to feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Hey and if you really want to pay it forward please share this to your friends and help grow this 'unplugged' community that is making a difference to the world we live in. And please remember to subscribe and leave a review as this will

Love and appreciation A case study that showed we push away what we want the most. Come with me to find how even secondary gain, getting things from an issue or problem, eventually will not get you the rewards you want. And How we need to do the very things we want from others. Confusing? Well all will become clear when you listen to me recall how when working with a lovely client we discovered how even taking drugs had a wonderful positive intention and created a powerful conflict that was so debilitating and effected so much in a life yet when realised disappeared so quickly. We also realised how we can achieve that positive intention so easy in so many different ways when our unconscious mind and our conscious mind are aligned to that intention but in a healthy way. Still confused? You won't be after you listen I promise - the Cloughie Unplugged promise :0) When you have listened why not let me know your thoughts, learnings or experience from this by emailing me right away at feedback@personaldevelopmentun

Living to your potential A five minute quickie podcast We go all things 'faking it until to you make it' to living your potential. and all in just a few minutes. Can it be done - you bet - and why is all this important. You may have heard my previous podcasts where I rant on about the lie of 'Faking it until you make it' and how if you're not living to your potential then you are - faking it! Thanks to Todd Herman for putting the idea into my brain. From Todd Herman's make seed I make one subtle change and it made so much sense. Well so much sense to me :0) Have a listen and see/hear/feel if it does to you too. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my

 I wonder 5 minutes that just may change your life We miss so much in our busy lives and in the busyness we may, I now I do, forget to wonder at the wonder. Yep I know that's a little ambiguous but when you listen it will make so much sense And ................. I wonder what wonders you will notice :) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more Or simply click here to go straight to Apple Music / iTunes to subscribe OR leave a review If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for me and the podcast on SPOTIFY AND the app Castbox I'm also in iHeart radio YouTube - copy n paste UC3BlpN4voq8aAN7ePsIMt2Q into search bar The Libsyn podcast page http://personaldevelomentunplugg

Make this a habit And as usual it will change your life (for the good if not great) I was reminded of this topic by a recent client and when I get to it you will go Oh! I do but you're probably, if you're like me, in a subtle state of denial. You see from the moment of our conception, well at the very least our first breath, we've chosen everything we do, have done or will do and I'm not saying consciously but unconsciously using the wisdom and experience that we have at that moment. Taking this out a little further it means everything that happens in our life we're responsible and hence we create our reality. Yes I know there are others creating their reality and they collide with us but we still choose to react or act when we collide. What a responsibility  :) In order to make these choices and make them good ones we really need to keep in mind the goals or outcomes in that given context (hey this is deep Cloughie) Let me explain - well being a podcast you'll have to listen but you will hear something that