Earn Your Happy Podcast | Motivation | Self-love | Entrepreneurship | Confidence | Fitness And Life Coaching With Lori Harder

With all of the recent events happening in the world between natural disasters, attacks and the loss of many lives, I’ve been asked how one should feel about these events. I’ve held back on responding because honestly, I didn’t know how I felt. I hadn’t even begun to process my feelings yet. But I do know that if we’re living in fear, it does nothing for the world. “When you are in fear, you are not in power.” So how do you take that power back? First, process your feelings – don’t pass them over. Heal yourself so you can spread love and light to others. Talk to someone, whether it’s a counselor, going to a trauma center or a dear friend who you know holds that space for you. Just be sure to give yourself the grace and space to process. Once you’ve healed, be sure to keep that love and light in your life by surrounding yourself with those who allow you to do the same. “Our environments reflect the results we get back in our minds.” We know that if we stay connected to these groups or tribes we can nip fe

Many don’t know this, but when I start selling my first eCourse, The Bliss Habit, I hadn’t even created it. Shocking, right? But it supports exactly what I want to talk with you all about today. You don’t have to know everything that you are doing before you actually get started! I know it sounds a little bass-ackwards, but I assure you that some of the most successful people in the world had no clue what they were doing when they first started – they just knew they had to take some sort of action. “You have to start doing to get clarity.” You can plan all day every day for months and still never have anything to put out there. This is where faith and commitment comes in. You must have faith that if you set a date or book a venue – take some sort of step forward, it will happen. Scary, right? “But in the panic there is complete magic.” And a little bit of science, too. Science has proven that when you’re committed and people are saying “yes,” and you have to deliver, your brain gets super laser-focused o

  As many of you know, my upcoming Bliss Project event is only months away and hundreds of you have already registered to join us. But I know that for some, you’re still on the fence for various reasons… Perhaps this would be your first self-development/empowerment retreat. For others, you’ve never left your family for a whole weekend. For others, there is a fear that you’re not “far enough” or knowledgeable enough to attend such an event.   Whatever the reason, I can assure you that if you’re being called to attend, it’s the perfect event for you to attend. But don’t take my word on it. Listen in to today’s conversation as I interview five women about their Bliss Project experiences. You will notice many overlapping answers and that’s because we are all way more alike than we are different.   Whether you come along or bring a friend, the weekend WILL change your life. I cannot wait for you to hear all about it (and hopefully experience it in the near future) and join our INCREDIBLE Bliss Project tribe.

  Up until very recently, I felt like I had a handle on facing my fears and getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, but I’ve come to realize that I haven’t even scratched the surface!   This weekend, I’m speaking at an event (THRIVE), and while I’m speaking to like-minded people, it’s not my usual audience. It’s got me stepping outside of my comfort zone and feeling all sorts of butterflies. It’s super beautiful and exciting but scary – all at the same time.   This quote I posted on Instagram sums up this fear, excitement and growth that I’m feeling and who I need to become to get through it:   “You’ll never grow into the woman you know you’re meant to be until she’s forced to come out. It’s your job to create a life she can’t hide from.”   So what does this mean? It’s our job to create a life based on not our current selves, but instead our future selves. You have to do the things, go to the places and let that woman out!   “You will rise to the occasion when your butt is on the line.”   S

  This past week, I’ve been feeling the importance of my tribe on a whole new level. If you listened to my podcast with Mastin Kipp last week, you’ll understand what I mean when I say, “With every new level there’s a new devil.” This could not be more true!   With my recent 14-Day Challenge wrapping up at the beginning of this week, I had a few instances come up that reminded me of the fact that the more challenges I do and the more people who join my tribe, the more diverse group of people I’m going to attract. And guess what? Even those these people are a part of my larger tribe, we all have different backgrounds and I’m not going to please everyone. It’s also a given that we’re not always going to understand one another.   It seems so simple when you write it out like that, but I didn’t get there as easily. As a verbal processor, I depended on the support of my own personal tribe to get me there. This is a group of people who I’ve collected over time and who I know hold space for me when I need it. An

  Today’s quickie is all about the word (and thing) justification. I once was a pro at justifying why I was the way I was (fearful, anxious etc.). I spent SO much time, energy and efforts on the excuses as to why I couldn’t do x-y-z when I could have been investing my time into my dreams! So let’s try a little exercise… Let’s replace the word justification with excuses. Let’s call out those excuses and see them for what they truly are – false glass ceilings – because that’s all they really are no matter what you might think.   “Human beings can do whatever we believe we can do.”   So look for the justifications/excuses in your life right now and write them down.   “If your thoughts are going toward your justifications and excuses, you’re actually living for them.”   So which is it for you? Are you living to keep your dreams alive or are you choosing to fan the flames that keep the fires of justification and excuses burning? Take a deep look and discover what you’re really living for. Hint: If your t

How many of you scroll through social media more often than you’d like to admit? Hand raised here! But check this out… My friend, Michael Zeller, just informed me the other day that when you’re distracted from a task, it takes 13 minutes for your mind to get back on track. So just think, if you’re sidetracked even four times a day, that’s a WHOLE hour of floundering trying to get back on track. This is why we must… “Get fierce with eliminating distractions.” These days our thoughts and social media are the winners when it comes to time-wasting. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think it’s always bad to spend time on social media, but it is when all you’re doing is comparing or numbing out. For instance, are you really just checking in on Jane, or do you immediately start comparing her life to yours when you look at her pictures? If the latter sounds familiar, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone, and you CAN stop comparing yourself to others, But first, you have to beat the addiction to comparison (and

I am so excited to have my husband, Chris, on again! We’ve been asked a lot of questions such as: how do we work together day in and day out? How do we live our lives and what makes us happy? These conversations are so much fun for us and we love sharing the highs and lows of our lives so far. As you’ll soon realize, while we have our “dream” lives now, it didn’t start out that way. Let’s just say I didn’t even want to give Chris the time of day when we first met! We obviously worked things out there, but be sure to listen in as we share some of our other ups, downs and lesson-learning moments in our lives. This episode is jam-packed with information about the fundamentals of our success and happiness (and so much in between) and we hope you’re able to leave with some helpful takeaways. Please feel free to let us know what other questions you have for us! We look forward to continuing our conversation on another future episode. Happy listening! -- In This Episode We Talk about: • Where Chris and Lori start

In light of the devastation that’s happening in Texas right now with Hurricane Harvey, I wanted to help in the best way I know how – and that’s through the reach of my amazing communities. As some of you may know, I’ve launched my FREE 14-Day Challenge (starts Sept. 5) and I’ve decided to link it to a donation to the Disaster Relief Fun for Houston. Here’s how I would love for you to help… For every five people that sign up for the challenge, we will donate $1 – up to $20,000. To put this in perspective, our dream number to equal that would be 100,000. The added bonus, you GET TO move your bodies for yourself – and for a cause. There’s nothing like getting a big dose of perspective when you realize that there are thousands and thousands of people right now who CAN’T go for a walk or play with their kids outside right now. We all have days where we don’t want to work out, but when you realize just how blessed we are to move our bodies, it definitely reframes it. And it’s not just fitness, it’s everything in

  Fear. Yes, it’s one of my favorite topics and I often feel like I should talk about it more because it’s seriously something that’s there every day. Heck, it’s with us is most moments, am I right? But it’s in these moments where some of our biggest breakthroughs are made. It’s that something that you know you need, but you’re scared as hell to do it.   “What you are afraid of is a clear indication of the things you need to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson   Personally, one of the biggest breakthroughs for me came with the fear I had after making a significant investment in a course with Jack Canfield. My soul was kicking and screaming, nudging, okay, shoving me, toward it. Every fear that could possibly come up did and I almost bailed on my flight…but I didn’t. I joined an amazing group of people, some who were far more successful than me and realized that they had some of the exact same fears as me. What?! It gave me the power to question,   “If I can do this, what else can I do?”   Fear is just there t

I am so excited to have my soul sister, Angelike Norrie, back on my podcast! Having gone through so many challenging life events in the last couple of years, she’s here to share how her Six Guiding Principles helped carry her through them all.   If you feel out of control, this episode is a must listen. I suggest taking notes and perhaps listening twice (if you’re able) to get all the juicy goodness out of it.   --   Questions Asked in This Episode What was it that pulled you through all of your recent life events/challenges? What does it feel like when you’re in and out of alignment – mentally and physically? What do you do when you catch yourself just doing something just to do something – even when it’s not fulfilling? What are your 6 Guiding Principles? What do you do to manage time with your family when you’re in the thick of hustling? How do you do both and still move the needle forward in life? How do we make sure social media doesn’t infiltrate our minds or send us down a negative spiral?

As many of you know, I’m in the final days of writing my book (due this week) and the act of even doing this quickie podcast was painful. It’s not that I didn’t want to record a message for all of you, it’s just that I kept thinking about all the other things I should be doing. On top of that, I wanted to make sure I was delivering an impactful message to all of you. I was so attached to how I was going to get there that I made it way more difficult than it needed to be. So, I took a deep breath, let go of that resistance and focused on what was at the forefront of my mind...and here I am! “When you stop living in the resistance and actually just do the thing, it’s amazing what gets done.” It was totally the same way before my workout today as well. Gah! Just do it already (and I did)! Anyone else? Resistance pops up everywhere, but it’s up to us to use it to our benefit. I’ve realized recently that I’ve had to let go of the idea that things should come to me in a certain form. When I have set expectations

Are you looking to find more happiness in life – especially in the present moment? Well, you’re in luck because, in this episode, Rob Mack shares some serious knowledge on how you can add more happiness into not only your life, but your relationships and career, too. Not always the happiness coach and author he is now, tune in as he also shares how his journey of unhappiness and insecurity shifted into one of peace and happiness. There are so many happiness hacks and practices in this episode – and they’re all things you can do yourself – NOW. You don’t want to miss it! -- Questions Asked in This Episode • What’s the first step to get someone to elevate their happiness from where they are? • What are your daily happiness hacks? • What do you say to people who seem to repeat the same cycle over and over? • What do you find works for people in terms of happiness? • How do we transfer from hell (that gives us pleasure) to heaven (that gives us pain in the beginning)? • What is your practice around self-gra

If you’re human (you all are, right?), you’ve likely had several dances with disappointment. And often those disappointments are because someone has let you down (or at least they’ve let your expectations down) at one time or another. I know this may be difficult to hear, but the truth is that when you set expectations of others, you’re always going to be let down, and you’re never going to see the good in that person. So how do you get around this? A recent realization I’ve made is that each person is meant to play a particular role. For example, maybe your friend, Sally, is hilarious, but she always bails on your get-togethers. But then you have another friend, who always has your back and can hold space for you when you’re upset. See how they both fulfill different roles in your life? “Let people show up in the roles that they are best at.” Once you realize that all friends don’t have to be ALL things you can free yourself and enjoy ALL of your relationships. Let go of your expectations! Have you ever

Getting 100% real with you today as I discovered that I was the recent object of someone’s gossip. Doesn’t the word alone just give you an icky feeling? Ugh, me too. And it made me want to gossip right back (which would have made me feel worse), but I didn’t. It’s our first reaction when someone says something bad about ourselves or someone else, but it never leads to anything productive. So instead, I talked it over with my husband. Because I knew I was in a safe zone to express my feelings and talk things through, I was able to determine that I didn’t need to worry about what this person chose to say about me. I was able to let it go. Now, this isn’t always the case, but because I’m not close with this person I knew there was nothing I could do that would change anything about the situation. And perhaps they didn’t even mean what they said in a bad way. If, however, this was a close relationship I would have more than likely confronted this person if I wanted the relationship to remain intact. “Gossip b

Do you ever wake up and feel like you’ve just experienced spiritual amnesia? You know, when you take classes, listen to podcasts or do something else that lights your soul on fire only to wake up the next morning feeling…not so soulful, barely recognizing who you were the day before.   I’m here to tell you that this is normal. As one of my favorite quotes says:   “Every day is day one.”   It’s one of my favorites because it’s so true. You change on a daily basis and what happened yesterday has no bearing on today. So what made you happy yesterday, doesn’t necessarily make you happy today. And many days you won’t even know who you are…red flag!   “If you’ve forgotten who you are, you may want to reassess.”   Ask yourself, “what’s working for me. What’s not?” Are you continuing to do something because you think you should or because you think you’re going to get a certain result? Sometimes we’re so caught up in what we should do that we forget what we enjoy doing.   To ensure that I stay in this con

Subscribe to Earn Your Happy on iTunes. Time to get comfortable, take your pants off (be sure to tune in to get this reference) and get ready to listen as I talk with two best friends (and podcasters), Lindsey Simcik and Krista Williams, who you will soon feel like yours too. With Lindsey originally from the East Coast and Krista from the Midwest, life brought them both out to California by way of New York. They met a couple years ago when a mutual friend suggested that Krista reach out to Lindsey for advice on auditioning for SoulCycle. They immediately clicked and felt that there would be an even bigger connection later on. They were right! Even though Krista didn’t become a SoulCycle instructor, she and Lindsey did create the hilarious and tell-it-like-it-is podcast, Almost 30. During this podcast, they share the life transitions they’re going through in real-time, where they’ve been and what tools they’ve used to help them get there – all while keeping it authentic to who they are and with a lot of laugh

Penny for your thoughts? What have you been thinking in the last week or so? List the top three feelings you’ve felt, keeping in mind it could be a combination and vary by the hour! ;) That’s how I’ve felt lately anyway. “How you feel is how you view the world around you.” Let’s say you’re happy. When you have a hectic day, you don’t get angry, you choose gratitude and feel blessed to be so busy. If you’re anxious or feeling angry, you can likely guess that ANYTHING will set you off (why are they chew SO LOUDLY?) and things don’t look as rosy. Emotions don’t just appear; they need our thoughts to fuel them. So if you’re pouring gasoline on a fire, you’re going to get bigger flames or an explosion. Same with your thoughts. If your thoughts are literally raging, your emotion (and actions for that matter) will follow suit. So how can control this whiplash of emotions on a day-to-day basis? First off, take a minute and reflect: What emotions am I feeling? Then, what are the thoughts that are fueling that emot

Are you happy right NOW in this moment? Or do you have certain contingencies that it hinges on? Are you waiting or relying on someone or something to make you happy? Whether it’s a spouse, best friend, job or goal are you depending on something other than yourself to FINALLY bring you happiness? Here’s where that gets a little tricky… “Happiness is a choice in each moment.” We must understand that the “thing” you’re waiting on is NOT going to make you any happier in the long term than you are right now in this moment. And that’s why happiness can be a little sticky at times. If you are relying on anyone other than yourself, your happiness level will average out to be where you are now until you decide to be happy all the time. OK, I’m realistic. I don’t expect you to be happy ALL the time. If something bad happens, feel those feelings, but don’t let them hang around too long. Often it’s as simple as waking up and CHOOSING the mood you’re going to be in. It’s all about adjusting your “default mood.” Sure, th

Just a couple days ago on the 4th of July, I was able to take a WHOLE day just for PLAY with friends – no writing, no meetings, no worries – celebrating America’s birthday. And while initially I felt as though it may stress me out more (I am on a book deadline), I couldn’t have been MORE wrong. Today I feel energized, more creative and honestly like I just drank about 10 straight shots of espresso (OK, let’s not get too crazy). I realized that the play is actually equally as (if not more) important as the writing, creating programs, podcasts etc. “The play IS the work.” It can be a bit confusing at first because while you’re “playing,” it doesn’t feel as though you’re being productive. But I assure you, you are! It’s especially beneficial when you feel as though you’ve hit a creativity rut. “The play is productive. The play is important. The play is creative. The play is freedom. The play is expansion. The play is real connection.” After you’ve taken the time, you’re able to come back with a fresh perspe