In This Together With Dr. Josh + Christi

In this episode, we talk about the decision to listen to what's happening within the heart of our spouse. When life gets busy, our conversation at home becomes primarily content-based (i.e. information about the day, upcoming schedule, etc.). Yet, it's the process-based conversation (i.e. how we feel about what's happening in our day) that keeps us growing as a couple and feeling connected to one another. Sure, this is conversation that takes a little extra work, especially for those of us who weren't taught to communicate this way. That's because we go on autopilot to keep up with everything we're doing, that it gets too easy to neglect our being. But you, and your spouse, deserve deeper connection. In this episode, we talk about some very practical strategies for being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. If you feel stuck in your marriage, even unsure what to talk about anymore, this episode is for you.Show Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions to Becoming Famous at Home by clicking he

Healthy rhythms have the power of making, or breaking, the trajectory of our family. In this episode, Jeff Bethke joins us to talk about the daily, weekly, and seasonal rhythms he and his wife Alyssa set in their home. Jeff takes us back to why they decided to be so intentional about setting rhythms. He also has a new book releasing called To Hell with the Hustle, a book about the rhythms that keep us thriving. In this episode we talk about: * How our culture is set up to numb us from healthy rhythms* Why we have to make the decision to set and then regularly practice rhythms * The daily morning rhythm the Bethke's use at the breakfast table* How healthy rhythms can viscerally influence our kids later in their adult life* Ways your family can implement rhythms to honor the Sabbath* The 1-1-1 rhythm is for technologyShow Notes: Preorder To Hell with Hustle: Reclaiming Your Life in an Overworked, Overspent, and Overconnected World by clicking here!Purchase Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit

In this episode, we talk about making your one goal doable by setting one new rhythm in your life. Notice this next decision also includes a singular focus—one new rhythm. Remember, even with parenting, we become an overnight success a decade in the making.Some of the highlights of this episode include: * Keep your rhythm doable* Vectoring means that small changes over time leads to an entirely different destination.* Why work-life balance is not attainable* Why your first rhythm should coincide with your first goalShow Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions by clicking here. To follow along and stay accountable with others on Instagram @famousathome, click here. To request access to the private Facebook Group for women to journey together through the 7 Core Decisions, click here.To learn more about The Leader's Way cohort, click here.

When things aren't going well at home, we feel it. The toll that the pace and added emotional pain of our day has on our marriages and most important relationships can feel overwhelming, and even unmanageable.This week's episode is the beginning of the powerful, life-changing stories you'll hear as we journey through each of the decisions.  In this episode, we interview Jerrad and Leila Lopes about their rock bottom moment as a family, and the one decision each of them made to begin their ascent back to one another. Prepare yourself. These two were serious about their decisions!Jerrad and Leila are proof that our circumstances do not need to remain unmanageable. As we like to say, you can't eat an elephant in a day. Leila's one decision, one-bite-at-a-time mentality, got the process started. Sometimes, all it takes is just one person. Leila's one decision was the catalyst Jerrad needed to begin making his own decisions and move him from a place of deep brokenness, to a thriving ministry today. Out of his brok

The Famous at Home journey begins this week! We start by discussing core decision #1 -- defining your first goal. This fall, we're journeying together through the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home. Last week, we mentioned that becoming famous at home is a journey to making ongoing decisions about how we pursue one another.In this episode, we invite you to download the e-book, sit down with your spouse or loved ones, and talk about your first goal.Key talking points in this episode include: * We have 100% responsibility for how we show up.* Why our self-medicators may not be working anymore. * What one thing weighs you down the most right now? * The power of starting a gratitude journal as you begin this decision-making journey* How do define your first goalShow Notes: Follow along on Instagram at www.instagram.com/famousathomeDownload the 7 Core Decisions here: www.famousathome.com/7coredecisionsTo learn more about the Famous at Home Marriage Coaching Journey, visit www.famousathome.com/coaching

You can be famous at home and thrive on your stage. In other words, you don't have to choose between work and your family. In this episode, we welcome you to the newly titled Famous at Home podcast and discuss all of exciting initiatives ahead--including the upcoming podcast series on the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home. The Famous at Home podcast will feature conversations and interviews about how to: * Have a rock solid marriage. * Stay close to your loved ones, even when work and travel pull you apart. * Show up and make the most of raising your kids.* Avoid the pitfalls of success. * Define and clarify your family values. Show Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions by visiting www.famousathome.com/7coredecisionsTo order What Am I Feeling? click here.

In this episode, we cast the vision for Famous at Home. Up until this point, our podcast has been affectionately known as "In This Together." Like so many of you, we spent time in the trenches, having babies, chasing toddlers, and trying to find time in between to still pursue our spouse's heart. That's why we've been "in this together," trying to do all of these things well and inviting you along for the ride. But as of today, we have a new vision. And in this episode, you'll hear all about the vision of Famous at Home! That's right, starting today, we'll now be the Famous at Home podcast with Dr. Josh and Christi. You'll still get both of us--our hearts, our stories, and our journey. And don't worry, your podcast feed, as well as all of the previous episodes, will remain the same. But what's new is a fresh vision and clearer direction for what we do and how we serve families, just like yours!So beginning next week, we start a whole new journey together! And we cannot wait for you to join us on it. Listen to

Our "Best of" summer series concludes this week with one of our most downloaded episodes of this past season. We believe it speaks to where we are as a culture with the hustle we feel. This episode is about bringing freedom to your life through practical, easy-to-implement, daily habits.The modern world is a machine of a thousand invisible habits, forming us into anxious, busy, and depressed people. The trouble is that our habits are almost invisible to us. In fact, habits form us more than we form them. So what can we do about it?Welcome to The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose in an Age of Distraction. In this week's episode, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, a mergers and acquisitions lawyer who nearly crashed and burned in his own panicked lifestyle. As a husband and father to four young boys, Justin knew he needed help.In what turned out to be a fateful moment of self-discovery, Justin's compelling story led him to create The Common Rule, four doable daily and four weekly habits designed to help us create

Our summer "best of" series continues with one of our most listened to episodes on marriage. In this episode, we discuss some of the deeper reasons behind why it's so difficult to connect with the one we love the most.We also talk about our own marital journey of late and how counseling has helped us work through the baggage, blindness, and busyness of the day. Yes, three "bee's" that can "sting" your marriage. Dad jokes rock.Of course, the conversation includes practical ways we can connect at a deeper, more intimate level with our spouse.Show Notes: To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here. To learn more about marriage coaching intensives we offer, or to set up a discovery call, click here.

Welcome to part 2 of our "best of" summer series! Last week, we talked about raising our girls. This week, we talk about raising our boys. Our podcast “resident therapist," David Thomas, is back with us, live from Daystar Counseling. He talks with us about what our sons need across the developmental lifespan.In this episode, David breaks down what our boys need in the following age groups:Ages 2-4: The ExplorerAges 5-8: The LoverAges 9-12: The IndividualAges 13-17: The WandererAges 18-22: The WarriorSome of the best nuggets of this interview include:* The biggest hurdle of boys today across the developmental lifespan* Ways that boys self-medicate their pain and why* Why helping boys problem solve and use critical thinking is crucial to their development* The importance of placing your hand on your son's shoulder and addressing him by name* Why boys need less words, not more* Helping our boys navigate video gaming in a healthy wayShow Notes: To purchase the What Am I Feeling? children's book, click here.To lea

Welcome to our "best of" series of the summer! The next two episodes are gold medallion interviews with our podcast "resident therapists." This week, we interview Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling about what our daughters need. Next week, we interview David Thomas about what our sons need.In this episode, Sissy breaks down what our girls need in the following age groups:Birth-5: The Discovery YearsAges 6-11: The Adventurous YearsAges 12-15: The Narcissistic YearsAges 16-19: The Autonomous YearsSome of the best nuggets of this interview include: * The growing epidemic of anxiety in girls today * The years our daughters seem disinterested in relationship with dad * How dads can press into their daughters * Why daughters tend to be ambivalent with their moms in the narcissistic years * How moms can press into their daughters in these yearsShow Notes: To learn more, click here to purchase Sissy's book, All You Need to Know About Raising Girls.To buy Sissy's latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here.To learn

Be prepared to have your idea of how you "do" family flipped upside down. Our friends Jeremy and April Pryor join us this week to talk about multigenerational family teams on mission, a way of leading their family they have been practicing for two decades.In this episode, we talk about: * The difference between the ancient Jewish and modern day Western approach to family * How the West has redefined family to focus on individuals * Why the Western redefinition of family doesn't resonate with most men * How we can practically begin to implement a multigenerational family on mission * An innovative way of implementing the Sabbath into your homeShow Notes: Click here to purchase and learn  more about Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the SpiritClick here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow all of the Family Teams podcasts and resources.To sign up for the Family Teams event in October, click here.To follow Family Teams on Instagram, click here.

What if God has more for your marriage than happily after? Could it be that God intended your marriage to have a life-enriching, hope-giving purpose of sharing God's love with a hurting world?In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer Smith, founders of the well-loved UnveiledWife.com and HusbandRevolution.com, share their own marital journey of one in crisis, to one built on Christ's redemptive love. No matter the current condition of your marriage, God still can, and even wants to, use your marriage for His glory.In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk with us about: * Their story of marriage in crisis * How God got a hold of Aaron's heart and gave him vision for their marriage * How to practically lay down our lives for our spouse each day * Why our kids learn to interact with others based on how we interact with our spouse * What it means for your marriage to boldly chase after GodShow Notes: To purchase What Am I Feeling? click here.To purchase the Marriage After God book, click here.Follow Aaron and Jennifer

Finding friends once we have children and become "grownups" isn't always easy. Especially for families who move quite often. Especially for moms who long to talk to anyone who can tie her shoes. And especially since it takes time and trust to go deep.This episode came out of one question from our question and discussion episode. Some of the topics we discuss include: * The struggle it is to find friends you connect with * Practical ways to move from acquaintances to friends * The time and vulnerability required to go deep * How to move from authenticity to vulnerability * Christi discusses practical ways for women to find and cultivate friendships with other women * Josh discusses practical ways for men to find and cultivate friendships with other menHere's the question that got it all started:From Jenny: First, I just wanted to say thank you. I am so grateful for you. I found this podcast last week and it has already changed my life. I have two kids, 22 months apart, and my youngest is turning one next month

In this episode, we once again discuss your questions. In particular, this week's discussion points include: * Marriage books to read for non-Christians * Ways to get your spouse to increase more time together and get in sync * Next steps for rebuilding your marriage after it fell apart * How to help our kids navigate adults who lack emotional intelligence / awareness * Whether your child's enneagram type influences how we discipline and disciple themThe Questions:  * From Emily: I really like your podcast and have been feeling this urge to put my husband and I more in sync. He thinks we are great and perfect and that you shouldn't mess with something that's not broken. And we are really great most of the time, but I want more. I want us to be "in this together" more. He is fine with watching TV together at night and calling that quality time, however, we don't say any words to each other. I told him that for my birthday, which is at the end of this month, I want his time. I want to read a book together or so

Sex is the elephant in the room. At some point, every spouse feels the unspoken tension. For many marriages, the elephant grows bigger after our kids enter the family.In this episode, we call out the elephant in the room and provide ways you and your spouse can begin talking about sex with one another in an emotionally safe way. We talk about: * Why sex is so difficult to talk about in the first place * How to communicate about sex if past trauma is influencing physical intimacy in your marriage * What to do if only one spouse is interested in talking about sex * How husbands need to approach the conversation * Helpful ways for wives to approach the conversation * Why the word "duty" should be banished from the conversation altogether * Practical ways to talk about sex in an emotionally safe wayShow Notes: To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives, click here.To find a

Having an emotionally safe marriage doesn't just happen. The way we listen to and communicate with our spouse makes all the difference. But doing so takes practice--and the willingness to be empathetic.In this second episode of our two part series, we talk about the building blocks to having an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about: * What it means to be empathetic with our spouse * Why labeling emotions makes a difference * A simple way of communicating for deeper connection * Practical strategies you can implement todayShow Notes: To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here. 

So often, couples tell us that communication is their greatest problem. But more than communication, empathy for what's going on within your spouse's heart is even more crucial to connection and intimacy. In fact, our willingness to genuinely show care and concern for our spouse's feelings is where great communication begins.In this episode, we talk about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about: * What it means to be "emotionally safe" * What hinders us from being emotionally safe for our spouse * The three decisions you need to make for an emotionally safe marriage * Why blame is the greatest barrier to changeShow Notes: To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here.To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here. 

Have you ever been curious about your own family lineage? The marriage that happened you didn't know about? The hobbies passed down through the generations? Or maybe even the relational dynamics that led to addiction?Or what about the reasons you parent the way you do? Why you treat your spouse the way you do?Genograms can reveal so much about our family history. In this episode, we talk about genograms and how they can help us discover more of who we are and where we come from. We also discuss practical ways we can learn from our family history to stop negative generational patterns and embrace the positive ones.Show Notes: Click here to purchase What Am I Feeling? To learn more about genograms or how to create one, click here to download the necessary charts. *Note: You don't need to buy the software on this site.If you'd like to create your own genogram with a third party, you can check out our coaching services by clicking here and setting up a free discovery call.  

Gain insight into two husbands and dads building their family teams. That's what this episode is all about. Josh interviews Jeff Bethke about the state of the American family, how it stands in contrast to biblical fatherhood, and the practical ways we can build a family team.Specifically, we talk about: * What Abraham might be looking for in a dad today and why. * The biblical foundation and mission of family versus how we actually function in the Western world * The intentional steps you can take right now to lead your marriage and family on purpose, not by accident * What a multigenerational family team on mission looks like * How Jeff and his wife Alyssa manage and thrive on social media as a family on missionShow Notes: Click here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow Jeff's podcasts. You can learn more about and follow Jeff and Alyssa's podcast by clicking here.To purchase What Am I Feeling?, click here.