Jerry Banfield

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It is never anyone else or anything else that is causing the problem in life, it's always my reaction to whatever happens. Yesterday, as I was playing a game of League of Legends, I forgot to take smite when playing jungle. This is about the worst pre-game mistake you can make, and it is easy for anyone else in the game to spot out. Like any other shame trigger, this immediately put me on the defensive when people in the game would heckle me. Unfortunately, this anger spilled over and I took it out on my friends in the call. How many times does this happen in our life where our own mistakes cause us to lash out at others? I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

A health condition can be a great opportunity for learning and growth. I'm experiencing this right now, and I am sharing because it is so much different than how I treated health conditions in the past. In the past, I would treat things like stress headaches as a burden. They were a punishment for me somehow not living right. Today, I look at health conditions as an opportunity for learning and growth. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and i appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How things are today is a product of the decisions we have made in the past. Now this may seem obvious on the surface, but the only way to change the future is to make different decisions. Albert Einstein said, you can't use the same thinking to solve a problem that was created from that thinking. It gives me great peace of mind that I can look at the mistakes that others have made in their lives, and use it to avoid falling in to similar traps. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What you don't know is often more important than what you do know as far as how things will play out in life. In this game of League of Legends I am playing, I am having a very poor game relative to the rest of my team, but it doesn't end up mattering much in the end because a player on the opposing team quits the game. People often end up quitting when they are playing extremely poorly or are at odds with their teammates, and I could have very easily quit out of frustration as well. How many times does this happen in our life when we get so frustrated about one thing that is out of our control, that we then guarantee the outcome by giving up all together? I know I often did this to myself when it came to dating. I would get so paranoid about a girl not texting/calling me back, that I would do the same thing out of spite and force a break-up. Today, I have faith that if I do my best in life, good things will often happen as a result. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Most of what happens in life is good, and yet our default programming tells us to focus on the negative things. I was reminded of this today as I was reading the most recent reviews on my Udemy courses. While at least 80% of the reviews were positive, I couldn't help but focus on the negative reviews. I found myself overlooking 4+ kind, positive reviews praising my courses, to focus on the first negative review I could find. We are programmed this way as a survival instinct. In primitive times if we were to miss a predator in the wild, life would be short lived. However, in a world with very few problems, focusing on the negative hardly makes life worth living. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Why do I have the same goals each day? Today, I set goals I can accomplish within one day. This doesn't mean I am not aware of long-term goals I would like to accomplish, it's that these daily, short-term goals are primary. Long-term goals must exist within a daily goal for me. For example, I am interested in meeting a target weight. In the past, I may have said I wanted to be at a certain weight by a specific month. However, by setting daily goals to eat healthy and exercise everyday, the long-term goal is taken in to account within the primary objective. Putting an emphasis on short-term goals has enabled me to be far more productive than I ever was when I was focused on burdensome, often intimidating, long-term goals. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and i appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

99% of the difficulties I face in my life today are ones that I have created. This power thought is helpful for me today, because it tells me that I ultimately hold the solution to all of the problems in my own life. How many times have you blamed people around you, government, companies, etc. for the problems in your life? I know I did this for most of my adult life, and the silly thing is that I could often see how other people were putting themselves in unfavorable situations, but it was difficult for me to look in the mirror and truly identify the root of my problems. Today, I am thankful to know the true origin of most problems in my life, and this makes it easier to resolve them and be at peace. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

I typically experience amazing results when I do things for the right reasons, and accept that what happens in the future is often out of my control. This idea has proved to be helpful both as an entrepreneur and in my personal life. As an entrepreneur online, I often have to take a leap of faith when beginning work on a new project. In my personal life, doing things for the right reasons helps me to try the best at what I am doing, and respect the effort of those around me. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Today, knowing that I am no better than anyone else, and no worse than anyone else, gives me peace of mind. I used to work so hard to try and prove that I was better than everyone because on the inside I felt as if I was inferior to those around me. Viewing everyone as my equal allows me to fully respect the decisions of those around me. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

There is a world of difference between guessing and knowing. I used to be a know it all who would always put in my own two cents regardless if I really knew the answer to a question or not. Seeing the difference between guessing and knowing is the difference between being open to learning what will take place, and being closed minded because you already think you know everything. I hope this power thought is useful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What is there to lose in a game online? What am I really losing in this game of League of Legends? People seem to get so upset when they are losing at a game, but what are the actual consequences that will negatively impact their life? I used to be so obsessed with winning in online games, that it is a relief to finally be able to play games for the fun of them. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

The other day as I was browsing through some of the kind reviews people have left on my Udemy courses, it made me think about why people love my courses so much. I view myself as just an ordinary guy, and I don't believe myself to be any better at what I do than my colleagues. Then, I read, "Jerry is so enthusiastic you can tell he loves his work, and really wants to help others." This left a huge impression on me because I didn't always feel this way about my work, much less about the world at large. In the past, I was always obsessed over what I didn't have, instead of appreciating all of the blessings in my life. Today, I take the time to fully appreciate what is going on around me each moment. I love the way my wife sings to our daughter, I love the way Eckhart Tolle speaks in his books, I am thankful for the love and support I receive from my support group. I am grateful to have the opportunity to be a conduit for everything good in the world, and that is why I take the time to project a message of love

Complaining is a basic instinct that every human being is born with. This is how you let your parents know you were hungry as a baby, this is how you let your family know your basic needs were not being met. Yet, it took me a long time to break out of my basic baby instinct, that if I yelled and screamed I would eventually get my way. When we lose at the basic game of life it's easy to want to complain and lash out at others, but complaining will ultimately hurt you more than anyone else. Today, I am thankful to be in a place where I can be more of accepting of those around me. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What is the best thing to do when people are getting mad at you and criticizing you? When I am faced with criticism I will take note because it is often the universe trying to provide me with some useful information, and it is usually nothing personal. If someones criticism turns in to frustration and anger, it's usually an indication that they are already frustrated themselves, and they are simply expressing that externally. I hope this power thought is helpful for you, and i appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

It takes a lot of time and energy to try and control other people, and today I try to use all that time & energy to focus on what I can do better. I was inspired to talk about this idea after playing a League of Legends game where everyone was trying to tell each other which champions to pick, how to play the lane, and where to be on the map rather than focusing on their own play. Needless to say, people ended up getting frustrated with one another, and we ultimately lost the game. Today, I am thankful to be in position in my life where I can focus on my own actions, and trust that those around me will do their best. I hope you find this power thought useful, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What you will need in the future is already being prepared for you today. In other words, the assistance you require, in this moment, is available for you right now. A perfect example of this was when I finally decided to seek help with my alcoholism. When I attended my first AA meeting I learned that many members had been part of AA since before I was born. The help was always there, I just needed to reach out for it. I hope you enjoy this power thought, and i appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Just because there is nobody around, does not mean that you are alone. Most of my life I thought that if another person was not next to me physically, then I was alone. This was especially painful when I was struggling to deal with something or someone in my life. I often felt isolated and alone from the rest of the world. Today, I see the life in things around me. Even though I haven't seen anyone in person today, I feel one with the world around me. I hope you enjoy this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Acknowledging a problem exists is the first step to finding a solution. Coming out of denial is one of the biggest things I have struggled with throughout most of my life. This was especially true with my past relationships. Even if I knew that a particular relationship was headed in the wrong direction, I would continue to tell myself and those around me that everything was okay. To be able to find a solution to your problems in life, you must first acknowledge that one exists in the first place. I hope you enjoy this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support