The Terri Cole Show

This is the last week of 2020! I share my annual ritual, that allows you to leave behind all the crap that you don’t want to bring into 2021. "How do we want to feel, especially as we are embarking on a brand new year?" -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/274 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of you desire to have real love in your life - but how do we know what real love looks like? Real love is different (and sometime opposite) than what we see in romantic movies, but these top 10 traits give you a solid guide to find or keep the healthy love relationship you desire. "In a healthy relationship you are each a full person. The magic is that when you get together the thing that is created is something that would never exist if you haven’t get together." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/273 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raise your hand if you are an empath or a highly sensitive person? I know I am, and if your are too, this show is for you. Today, I'm talking about having a proactive protection plan, so we don't feel exhausted and drained by absorbing other peoples' energy.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This show is inspired by the work of researcher Dr. John Gottman on love and partnerships. John Gottman is famous for being able to predict divorce based on specific characteristics especially around communication in relationships. Today, I talk about the criticism, boundary requests, how to deal with conflicts, the importance of taking responsibility for yourself, and more. "If you are just criticizing someone, you really are just attacking them." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode of the terricole.com/271 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am talking about reactivity, self-regulation, and the common ways to know when we are in a reactivity mode. "Self-regulating is our ability to manage disruptive or upsetting emotions and/or impulse." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at The Terri Cole show at terricole.com/270 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Anne Eason is a speaker, author, and CEO of Thanet House Books. If you are a writer or aspiring writer, this show is for you. "A book carries your message and your life experience out to help people you don’t even know you are helping." - Julie Anne Eason. Learn more about this episode of The Terri Cole Show at terricole.com/269 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is something incredibly uplifting about focusing on what’s going well. Listen in for 3 simple step to harness the power of gratitude. "Gratitude can be this great connector of people." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode of The Terri Cole Show at terricole.com/268 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Healing the Mother Wound" is one of my most popular episodes, and so today I'm talking about self-parenting to heal the mother wound. "You don’t need to involve your parents if your mother is alive. This is really between you and you." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode of The Terri Cole Show at terricole.com/267 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we stay in problematic relationships? I want you to take a good look at the people you are spending time with and how you feel after spending time with them. I know that ending or modifying relationships can be very difficult, that’s why I created a little guide to help you figure it out the best way to change your relationships.  "You are the only bouncer of your VIP section." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/266 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about how to avoid conversations with inconvenient people, and how you can flip the script and only share what you want to share without coming off as awkward or rude. I also share some strategies for dealing with interrupters, what to do when people are on their phone while you are talking, and much more.  "We have to be discerning about who we are talking to, because what’s appropriate in one situation wouldn’t be appropriate in another." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/265 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Words like "denial" and "projecting" are thrown around a lot in casual conversation these days. These words are actually psychological terms that are defense mechanisms, and I think we've begun to throw them around so much that defense mechanism vocabulary can easily get misunderstood. On today's episode, I go over common defense mechanism terms that we often hear, and I clarify what they actually mean. "The more we know about the way our mind works, the better shot we have at really being the boss of us." - Terri Cole Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/264 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I share 7 ways to recognize if you are in a codependent relationship. Codependency can happen in any relationship, not just romantic ones. "When you are codependent, the line between where you end and the other person starts are completely blurred." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are in a relationship where you are often justifying or minimizing behavior, then that can be the case of trauma bond. "It is very difficult to stay broken up with someone if you are trauma bonded and you continue to have contact." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/262 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Mariel Buquè is an Afro-Dominican Psychologist and educator. She helps heal wounds of intergenerational trauma for BIPOC. "When you do not have interactions with a subset of people enough, you operate from a stereotype perspective." - Dr. Mariel Buquè. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/261 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about the symptoms of seasonal depression and what to do to avoid it (or at least lessen the SAD) this year.  "Reframe your relationship to winter, reframe your relationship to the days being shorter." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/260 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you normally struggle with fearful thoughts or not, most of us are feeling overwhelmed in 2020. I give tips to overcome overwhelm. "When we are feeling overwhelmed, it is so easy to be stuck in the disorder thinking where we are just repeating the same fearful thought." - Terri Cole. Learn more about The Terri Cole Show at terricole.com/259 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about the hidden boundary busters that prevent you from having effective boundaries in your relationships. "Our job is to constantly teach people how to treat us." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/258 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everybody struggles with making decisions, but sometimes we find ourselves sitting on the fence, staying stuck in a dysfunctional situation. "If you are an empath or highly sensitive folk, whether you want to or not, you put yourself on the shoes of other people, cause it just happens naturally." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/257 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever asked yourself why a particular commercial elicits a reaction from you? Today's show is about emotional recognition.  "If it causes you pain, then it needs your attention." -  Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/256 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about all the 5 love languages and how you should pay attention and understand what kind of love language you and your partner are speaking. I also talk about being fluent in the love language, how you can use the platinum rule in your relationship. "Love speaks. but not only in words." - Terri Cole.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices