Pirate Monk Podcast

"You can say, 'I look at porn 20 times a day', but that is inconsequential to me...The big question is 'Why?'" "You better damn well trust that therapist that you're sitting across from...You've got to feel safe to investigate shame." "In the context of relationships, we're all responsible to get our own needs met. That doesn't mean we go meet our own needs - we've seen how destructive that can be - but we do have to learn how to ask for those needs to be met." Kaka Ray returns to the podcast to discuss the importance of growing up your brain - it doesn't just happen but must be intentional. You can find out more about Kaka's practice at tnnfb.com. For more information on the International Retreat in October 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022-wknd1.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this pod

Nate is away, so Aaron spends an hour with Burlap to Cashmere's Steven Delopoulos talking about his story growing up in NY and NJ in a very Greek family, the nature of God, songwriting, storytelling, and his latest passion project related to Simon & Garfunkel.  For more about Steven, visit his website. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

In today's episode, Eddie Capparucci returns to talk with Nate about his most recent book, Why Men Struggle to Love. They discuss some of the relational blindspots that many men have in making connection. For more on Dr. Capparucci, please visit Abundant Life Counseling-Coaching. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

“Open men's hearts, heal the pain, and change the world.” In a world filled with talk of toxic masculinity, author and speaker Dan Griffin (dangriffin.com) talks to the guys today about what he calls "Conscious Masculinity" - where men make enlightened choices to pursue what it means to truly connect with the full spectrum of what it means to be a man. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"There aren't a lot of safe places in our world.  There aren't a lot of places where people can come and say whatever they want to say and be loved." - Chris Inman In this episode, Aaron catches up with recovery coach Chris Inman to explore the benefits of doing the work to discover our own story and share it with safe people.  Chris shares how he has experienced the importance of uncovering his own story and is now committed to helping others discover it for themselves. If you'd like to talk with Chris further, you can reach him at chris@np-recovery.com.  If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Today, we talk with Daniel Wiens, who has been the key person driving the growth of Samson Society in Italy about his story before getting into details of the International Samson Retreat October 7-9, 2022 in central Italy.    If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"When you confess your sin, you're not going to get stoned to death." Building on our recent discussions with churches that really get recovery, today we talk with John Elmore about the re:generation recovery ministry which began at Watermark Community Church in Dallas TX.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

The statute of limitations has finally expired, so it's time for another crossover episode of Pirate Monk/Porn Free Radio!  Trying to write a summary of this discussion is an exercise in futility as the guys traverse lots of trails, including book writing, Matt's new book (Porn Free, Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look at Porn) and skateboard life.  For more info on Matt, please visit recoveredman.com.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"I love you right where you are...and I don't expect anything. I love you, and I won't quit." "You'll know you've heard the Gospel if one of your first responses is: 'That's too good to be true and I can't believe it yet.'" - Dudley Hall "It was easier for me to believe it for my son than to believe it for myself." - Nate Larkin "If...I open the Bible and find condemnation, then I'm still filtering Scripture through the branches of the bush I'm hiding behind in Eden, avoiding what I believe will be the wrath of God in my own shame." - Aaron Porter   In this episode Nate and Aaron have a gospelicious conversation with Dudley Hall about the Good News of the Fatherhood of God.  For more on Dudley's ministry, please visit kerygmaventures.com.     If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in

"My story isn't my story without the brokenness of who I am." "It is only in their knowledge of the depth of my need of Jesus that gives them the confidence that I could be a help to them in describing a Jesus that could save them." - Timo Strawbridge In Episode 315, Nate spoke about a man that he had yet to meet - Timo Strawbridge.  If you haven't listened to that episode yet, you might want to give it a listen first.  In this episode, Nate and Aaron finally get to connect with Timo and his daughter Kristin about grace, vulnerability, the Rascal Roundup, and the first women's Samson group. If you are intrigued by the thought of a women's Samson group, you can reach out to theresa@trinitylakeland.org for more information.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have b

Our guest today has turned her own story of personal brokenness into her passion for ministry.  Victoria Robinson chose abortion many years ago and today leads others -- both men and women -- toward post-abortive healing.  If you or someone you know is carrying this burden, more information is available at reassemblelife.com.     If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"We set out to create a safe church -- not just pockets of safety within the church." - James Reeves This conversation makes me want to move to DFW so that I can attend this church!  Nate and Aaron talk with Pastor James Reeves about his church, City on a Hill in Fort Worth TX, and how it was intentionally created as a safe place for Christians to be real - kind of like Samson Society!  He also discusses the Fearless Series for Women, a 5-session video series designed to be a tool for Christian women to get the conversation started about sexual abuse.  They are also working on a version for men which will hopefully be coming later this year.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Nate and Aaron have a chat with Chandler Rogers, a man young in years but with insights far beyond his age.  He understands the importance of connection, so he and some friends have developed Relay, an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. It makes it easy to find and maintain tight-knit support in a team-based environment. Visit https://joinrelay.app to download the app or email chandler@joinrelay.app to reach out and learn more.      If you are interested in helping us book and schedule guests for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Registration for this weekend's virtual retreat (January 14-15, 2022) is available at https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-2022 Our guest for this episode is long-time friend of the program T.C. (Tom) Ryan.  For more information about Tom and his ministry, please visit https://www.livingintegrated.org/   Tom's book, Ashamed No More, is available here. You can find out more about the 14-day intensive program that Tom mentioned at https://boulderrecovery.com/ If you are interested in helping us book and schedule guests for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.  

Today, we share Nate's closing chapel message from the 2021 National Samson Retreat.  This is a  challenging must-hear for everyone in recovery.   If you are interested in helping us book and schedule guests for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

To wrap-up the 2021 Annual Samson Retreat in Eva TN, Aaron sits down with our keynote speaker, Jim Cress, and takes questions from the audience of attendees.  Find out more about Jim at jimcress.com. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Today we interview Michael Feighan, formerly of Whitecross to talk about his formative years in music, the adoption of his daughter, working through depression and anxiety, and how all of these things contributed to his newly-released solo album, Someone Prayed. Michael graciously provided the music on this episode. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

In this episode, the guys discuss the subject of Narcissism, especially as it relates to groups, with Jeromy Deibler.  Jeromy is a musician, certified Enneagram and life coach, and pastor. His goal is to help people build connections with others and with God and to show others what God is like.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"While I don't want to advocate for indulging the urges, I want to champion the deeper desires and the longings and the aches that are behind those urges.  With whatever type of porn you might find attractive or arousing, or whatever has been your particular version of it, underneath that is a good and holy beauty and strength that comes from God, and if we can tap into that, then we can bless it and we can express it in healthy ways and we can actually get what we were created for this whole time." Nate interviews Drew Boa (HusbandMaterial.com) about the importance of our story and the process of outgrowing porn. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"It is so much better to have sex with your wife for who she is -- having sex because you love her, not having sex because you love sex." Nate and Aaron interview friend and returning guest, Noah Filipiak, about the release of his new book - Beyond the Battle: A man’s guide to his identity in Christ in an over-sexualized world. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.