Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

Have you been asking yourself "How can I overcome feelings of victimhood and powerlessness?" It's very common to find yourself in a situation where you feel like a victim and where you feel powerless to do anything about it. The uncomfortable truth is that having it all and living your abundant loving life has several pre-requisites: you must be willing to take full responsibility for your life and you must adopt a proactive way of approaching life. These things don't jive with being a victim that feels powerless. In today's episode I'm breaking down the reasons why you're feeling like a powerless victim, and I'm giving you very clear and very feasible steps towards taking back control of your life. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Join the 7 day Trust Challenge (it's FREE!) https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint" - my program for designing and living your own Abundant Loving Life! https://matthewbivens.com/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https

Do you feel like you're in need of more effective ways to manage stress, worry and anxiety? Are you searching for more tools to add to your arsenal? The truth is that you most likely already have tools at your disposal to deal with the challenges that life throws your way, you just aren't using them to their full potential. In this episode, we will explore the different tools that are available to help you manage your stress, worry and anxiety, and I will give you some tips on how you can build habits that you can rely on when the pressure of life builds up. RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE The YourDay Balance Game App: Android - https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iOS - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all

Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage". "You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage". In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you.  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319 OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH ME matthew@matthewbivens.co

What is one key area that separates successful people from those who routinely fail to reach their potential? Well if you read the title of this episode then you know it has to do with the QUESTIONS that successful people ask themselves. In today's episode I'm explaining to you precisely why the questions you're asking yourself may very well be what's keeping you stuck, and I'm helping you broaden your mind so that you can get on the path to bigger and better results in your life. Resources from this episode: 8 Habits That Changed My Life (Struthless YouTube Channel) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gv22NkA8viE&t=535s Offers from our Awesome Partners: Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan Leave the podcast a review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 Check out the entire Having It A.L.L. podcast catalogue: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ G

In today's episode I'm sharing with you 7 lessons and takeaways from the most recent Trust Challenge. These 7 lessons are common threads that come up again and again in my coaching work, and I'm going over them with you today so that you can avoid the pitfalls that leave you feeling hopeless, powerless and victimized. Resources from this episode: Sign up for the Trust Challenge: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ Having It A.L.L. episodes about your "sexual story": Let's Talk About Sex: Understanding Your Sexual Story - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-understanding-your-sexual-story/ Let's Talk About Sex: The Impact Of Your First Sexual Experience - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-your-first-sexual-experience/ Let's Talk About Sex: Figuring Out What You Like In The Bedroom and Expressing Yourself Sexually - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/lets-talk-about-sex-figuring-out-what-you-like-in-the-bedroom-and-expressing-yourself-sexually/ Let's Talk About Se

How high is your trust in yourself? You may or may not be able to answer that question easily. But I bet you have an answer for this one - how confident are you? The link between confidence and trust is so incredibly strong, yet we don't usually think of those two things as related. Today I'm shining light on why confidence and trust go hand in hand, and I'm giving you a pathway to experience higher levels of both in your life.  Resources from this episode: Join the Trust Challenge here: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * GET IN TOUCH WITH ME: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you overcome codependency? And what does it even mean to be codependent? The reality is that many relationships end up in codependency. That happens when your ability to count on yourself is very low, and so you turn to others for your security, guidance, love, acceptance, joy or power. Because codependency results from having low trust in yourself, the solution to it often lies in building a greater sense of self trust and self worth. That's where becoming your #1 investor comes in! In today's episode I will show you the connection between codependency and your self trust, and I'll teach you how to turn your life around by becoming your #1 investor. Resources from this episode: Sign up for the Trust Challenge: https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ 11 Signs Of Low Self Esteem: https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-of-low-self-esteem-5185978 Offers from our Awesome Partners: Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan * LEAVE ME A

What's new with Having It A.L.L.? And when is the next Trust Challenge?? These are some questions I've received recently, and in today's episode I'm answering them! Today I'm sharing with you some announcements from Having It A.L.L., including the return of one of the HIA community's favorite experiences: The Trust Challenge! Resources from this episode: Sign up for the next Trust Challenge (kicking off on March 7th) at https://www.matthewbivens.com/trust/ Offers from our Awesome Partners: Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan More from Having It A.L.L.: Leave me a review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 Check out the entire HIA podcast catalogue: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ Get in touch with me: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it really mean to love someone deeply? We've all heard that "love is a verb", but when you attempt to put that into practice and have the goal of loving deeply, how is it done? In today's episode I answer the question "what does it look like to love deeply?", and we focus the answer on the three most important relationships in your life. Resources from this episode: The Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/ The Odds Of You Being Alive Infographic from Business Insider: https://www.businessinsider.com/infographic-the-odds-of-being-alive-2012-6 * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * GET IN TOUCH WITH ME: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you handle the ups and downs of life? For many people, experiencing down moments is something to fret about. No one enjoys feeling down, but the way you relate to those moments (and what you do as a result) has such a tremendous impact on the direction your life goes. In today's episode I'm talking about a few concepts that will help you ride the inevitable waves of life, and I'm bringing insights from Alexi Pappas and Robin Sharma to help you show up powerfully in the face of inevitable adversity. Resources from this episode: Alexi Pappas interview on Rich Roll Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ni5n8mRe9p0 Robin Sharma video on "How to Stay Positive on a Bad Day": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Muk9-0huE60 * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.

When you desire to create change in your life, how effective is your approach? You'll know whether your approach is effective if you have a strong track record of making changes and reaching your goals! For the vast majority of people who are not as successful with making change, your issue may just be with your approach and not your discipline, execution or willpower. In today's episode I'm sharing insights from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, on a more effective approach to make changes in your life. If you've struggled with making changes, and if you are feeling stuck in your currently ability to reach your goals, then this is an episode you don't want to miss. Resources from this episode: Interview with James Clear on The Drive podcast with Peter Attia: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROV36xBFD20 Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://jamesclear.com/books * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id10932576

So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it. Sometimes we may share a few things here and there to our closest friends (if you’re like me then that’s even off the table), but rarely do we sit down and have raw and honest conversations about what makes us most sexually insecure.  Today we’re having that conversation.  On today’s episode I’m talking once again with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward. We’re sharing our biggest bedroom insecurities, talking about why opening up is important, and giving you real action steps that you can take to dissolve your bedroom fears.  This is Kyla’s second time on the podcast. In our first conversation we talked about sexual energy, and you can listen to that episode below: Re

Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many. It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consistent, not in the areas that mattered most anyway. I could always find examples where I started something and stopped, where I wanted to do something and got all excited for a short period of time, then inevitably fell off. It seemed to happen again and again. But there were two moments in my life that taught me some powerful lessons in consistency, that changed everything for me. In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed

Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires? I know what that feeling is like. To desire something, to see it in you mind's eye, and to get excited about the idea of putting it as a goal on paper. Only to have that tiny voice in the back of your mind telling you "C'mon, let's be honest, you're not going to be able to do it". It's deflating and makes the idea of creating change in your life feel improbable, if not completely impossible. But what if I told you that, with a few simple shifts in how you're approaching goal setting and dreaming about your life, that you could actually FEEL different internally and CREATE some true change in your life! In today's episode I'm bringing you tips from 5 experts who know a few things about achieving goals and creating change. By the end of this episode you'll feel prepared to take on the task of setting better goals for yourself, and actually making progress towards achieving them! Resou

Have you created your Word For The Year yet? The "Word For The Year" is an annual tradition at Having It A.L.L.. We kick off each year with a powerful word or phrase that will provide focus, clarity and inspiration throughout the year, helping you to create real change in your life from the inside out. New Year's Resolutions focus on the DOING, while Word For The Year focuses on the BEING (and that's where your best results will come from). In today's episode I'm walking you through the 6 simple steps to creating your word for the year, and teaching you how to use this tool to make a big impact in 2023. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How effective are you at keeping your New Year's Resolutions? Today we're talking about new year resolutions and why so many of us fail at keeping them going throughout the year. I look at the statistics behind new years resolution failure, the most common resolutions set each year, and explore some reasons why they fail and tips to avoid failure. I also share an interesting psychological angle into why we don't succeed with our resolutions. But all of this is overshadowed by the #1 reason why we fail to accomplish our new years resolutions, which I share at the end! * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with letting go? Me too! It's been one of my biggest and most recurring challenges over the years, and it shows itself in so many different areas. In today's special episode I'm sharing some exciting news with you, along with 5 simple tools that I've been using to help me LET GO and create more presence and peace in my life. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does family mean to you? Better yet, what does family FEEL like to you? In today's episode we explore the idea of family. We look at what happens when we are family centered (that means we get our sense of security, wisdom, guidance and power from the people in our family and from our family reputation), and I talk about my experience of moving from a family center to something that better helped me to "have it all". Resources from this episode:  The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey - https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519 * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What beliefs are you currently holding that is robbing you of your health, happiness, and power? Today I'm talking about the power (and consequences) of your beliefs. Your internal conversations and the beliefs associated with them are something you rep more than any workout. So what beliefs have you been strengthening? Resources from this episode: Alexi Panos Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BsnwZP0l1ng/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being, mentally and emotionally. Visualization helps these individuals live into their greatest selves.  And it can do the same for you as well! I practice visualization techniques regularly, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to live your best life.  * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices