Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned.  Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and behaviors.  There are many different centers you can have. You can be Spouse centered, Money centered, Family centered, Work centered, Possession centered, Pleasure centered, and more.  Each of these centers has a consequence. The person who is Spouse centered, for example, feels secure when their spouse treats them well, and insecure when they don't. The person who is Money centered derives their sense of self worth from their net work.  Each center carries with it a way of looking at and relating to the world.  As you can see by now, these centers are incredibly important because they shape how we see the world. Quick

The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act.  But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to improve our relationship to our selves, others and life, and that's who we're BEING.  I've talked about Doing vs Being on the podcast before, but today's topic takes it a degree further. Today I'm going in on the question: Who are you when no one is watching? So, I ask YOU -- when you're alone, in your secrecy, with no one watching and no one holding you accountable except for yourself, who are you? How do you treat yourself? What allowances do you give yourself? What language do you use to describe yourself and those around you? The way you answer those questions reveals more about your true state of being than other m

On today’s episode we explore another EPIC CHALLENGE! This time I’m sitting down with my great friend Sandy Chambers as we explore her current challenge: Who do I need to be to feel powerful, healthy and light in my body, and graduate to the Intermediate playing field in the YourDay Balance Game*? Sandy holds nothing back as she shares why she considers this challenge EPIC, the feedback she received about how she can power through her epic challenge, and the actions she has taken to heal and grow. Some of the things we discuss in this episode may not be for young ears. We talk about some grown folks stuff here! The YourDay Balance Game is a world class health and fitness game that is governed by balance and love. The YourDay Balance Game (YDBG) has three dimensions (Fitness, Lifestyle and Consciousness) and each of these three dimensions can be measured (through the Gameday, Balance Chart and COI respectively). The fitness assessment (Gameday) measures body composition, strength, endurance and flexibility. Th

There’s a fundamental belief that separates the people who feel like they have it all from the people who don’t, and that’s the belief that you have the power to CHOOSE. It’s all about CHOICE. That’s the difference maker. People who feel in their heart and soul that they have it all, have made a conscious choice to feel that way. They’ve literally decided that they can have it all in life, and subsequent choices aligned with the core belief. My guest today is a powerful example and evangelist of that belief! Heather Gray’s business name says it all: Choose To Have It All. Sounds sort of familiar, huh? Heather is an executive coach, working with entrepreneurs and business leaders who have achieved that EXTERNAL success - you know, the great career, fat bank account, titles behind their name, but that success has come at the expense of their internal well being. What Heather does is she helps them have the lifestyle and wealth that they want, but also the personal fulfillment that they truly desire. If you’ve r

Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener. Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS. Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged all over again, and wonder "Why this keeps on happening to me" Sound familiar? I'm proposing that you don't need to do more soul searching, meditating, or any of that stuff. What you need to do is develop relationship standards where you get crystal clear on the type of person you will ALLOW into your life (or your bed!) and stick to your damn standards! The less than healthy relationships you have are due to a lack of accountability and STANDARDS around them. What you'll hear in this episode: Why creating relationship standards is only half of the equation How creating standards can help you manifest the person who w

This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something. I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER. On Sunday September 11th, Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I have in my life thus far. Sarah surrendered to her body, to the labor waves, to her coaches. I trusted in our preparation, in the team we assembled, and in my ability to support. Witnessing what I can only describe as pure faith on the parts of everyone involved, I began to think about the other areas in my life where my personal faith is lacking. Where I’m failing to trust someone or something, and where I’m fighting for control rather than surrendering. This episode is all about faith, trust and surrender. I briefly talk about Maya’s birth experience, but spend the bulk of the episode diving into what it looks and feels

Since January 2014 my wife and I have been a part of a weekly accountability group called a Circle Of Influence (COI). A standard part of each COI meeting is to cover one person’s Epic Challenge. Through sitting in dozens and dozens of Epic Challenges (some of them my own), over the past 2.5 years, I’ve experience just how transformational of a process it can be when a person is willing to explore a stuck area in their lives, open to receiving feedback that’s coming from a loving and honest place, and willing to act (or not) on the feedback to impact their growth. I wanted to bring the power of the Epic Challenge to more people, and that inspired this brand new series in the podcast where we will be diving into people’s Epic Challenges! First up is Larry Nichols. Larry is a great friend of mine and a true source of inspiration for me and many others. He has an incredibly big heart and does not hold back on pouring love into everyone he meets, from lifelong friends to strangers on an airplane. He’s just one of

You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker). They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets. But I think the fact that they are used (perhaps overused today) so much has watered down the impact of the message. The things that we choose to focus our time, energy, thoughts and resources on, grow and multiply and become more real for us. We can all conjure up examples of this in our lives. It doesn't take much mental effort to do.   But I know that for at least myself, I don't take it to heart enough, and I wonder why it may be hard to shake feelings of frustration, sadness or resentment.  It's because I'm focusing on them, instead of the amazing things in life! This episode was inspired by an Epic Challenge that a friend of mine brought into our accountability group and received feedback on. Part of her feedback was that "the things you focus on expand", and it hit me in a powerful way because of the pl

By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch! Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one. It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. I love his approach to personal transformation. I love how raw and real he is. I love his boldness and that he’s not afraid to call people on their bullshit. All of that makes for some compelling tv! But no, it wasn’t Tony who inspired me. Instead, I was inspired by the people in the documentary who recognized their opportunity for breakthrough, and boldly stepped into it. This happens a handful of times in the documentary, and each time it’s amazing to watch them process the situation, become aware of their breakthrough moment, analyze the risk/reward, confront the terror that comes up, and take ACTION! This episode is about what it really takes to expe

You know that voice in your head, that tells you just what you need to hear so that you shrink back, play small, succumb to fear. Yeah, you do?! Well, so does my guest on today's podcast. Aaron Anastasi has quite the resume of accomplishments and experiences in his life: He’s an artist and singer with an insanely popular Youtube channel that has over 11.5 million views and 130k subscribers He’s a serial entrepreneur with a number of internationally recognized businesses, including the Superior Singing Method He’s a success coach and author, recently publishing his new book, The Voice Of Your Dreams. He has a master's from Princeton Theological Seminary, and is known to shred down mountains in Colorado and scale glaciers in Bolivia. Aaron still has his inner voice, but it's whispering different things to him now. In our conversation Aaron and I talk about limiting voices, shifting beliefs to shift results, abundance and the power of sexual intimacy for creativity. What you’ll learn in this episode: The d

Yup, this is a very loaded title. But here's the thing: everything my guest talk about are pieces for a massively awesome life. The tools, practices, mindsets and beliefs she shares, when practiced regularly and with intention, will absolutely set you up for a massively awesome life. Honoree has chosen powerful mentors to help equip her tool belt for life's curveballs. Read the episode notes for this one, there's a lot in there. If you haven't heard of people like Napoleon Hill, Tony Robbins and Hal Elrod, then go check them out. Click the links or Google search them yourself, and see if their messages resonate. They've surely helped millions of people get out of their head and get into living! So this episode is not about giving you a formula or template. Quite frankly I don't think they exist and I caution any person or source that claims to have the answer. But what Honoree does is give you incredibly powerful tools and beliefs that you can use and try on for yourself, to help you experience life in its fu

This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for having it all. In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. Faith: belief in something bigger than you; believing in something you don't understand.  Not talking about religion specifically. You can have FAITH and not consider yourself religious. That's how I feel about myself.  Family: the people in your innermost circle.  Think of the symbol for Target (dot, circle, circle). The dot is family. Circle 1 is inner friends. Circle 2 is outer friends/acquaintances. Not always blood.  Listen to my convo with Robert Monroe, and he'll shift how you think about family (Robert was orphaned at age 12, but knows he has a large, loving family, including multiple mothers and fathers) Includes romantic partners as well (spouse, significant other) Friends: the people who are in your inner cir

Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession. His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile. He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy. But behind the smile is a man who has been some incredibly trying times in his life. At a young age Robert was orphaned and learned some brutal lessons about life. But his smile never faded. I’m incredibly honored to bring you this conversation with Robert, where we talk about life, family, parenthood, and much more. What you’ll learn in this episode: A powerful metaphor for viewing your life as a masterpiece How to create momentum and velocity in your life An inspiring definition of "family" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking). This episode will get you thinking. What you’ll learn in this episode: The types of relationships that take away from your health How to reframe “stress” so you regain your power A simple process for relating more powerfully to any circumstance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is a theme on this show that comes up in a number of episodes: Breakdowns lead to Breakthroughs. My guest on today’s podcast knows all about this. Ruby Fremon has had her breakdowns in life. She knows what it feels like to hit the proverbial rock bottom. Her story has many familiar elements: destructive relationship, substance abuse, self hate. But what makes Ruby unique is in her response to these life circumstances. Now, after years of learning what “self love” means, Ruby can say with a smile that she is absolutely love life, and has made it her mission to help others do the same. Ruby is a coach, catalyst and ignitor, helping people bust down their limiting beliefs, conquer their biggest fears, and get unstuck. She is a firm believer that you can have it all in life without sacrificing a thing (so you can see why we get along so well!) What you’ll hear in this episode: How to rewrite the “Why me” script The importance of choosing healthy environments How to get started on “self love” immediately

This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”. I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!” Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it. So I checked it out….and liked what I read! But the point of the article made me think about my one thing and about a topic that I address regularly on this show --- personal mission statements. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why you might have a hard time getting back on track when you fall off How to keep momentum on your goals in life How the “one thing” from the MBG article ties into your personal mission statement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve met some very cool people through this podcast. Typically, I’m inspired to have them on the show because of their work or the message they are pushing out to the world. I’ll see their TED talk, or read one of their powerful blog posts, or hear them in an inspiring interview. Something like that. My guest today impressed me for a totally different reason. I met Matt Giovanisci through Facebook. He posted a link to a webpage he created with the sole purpose of getting himself booked on podcasts. I thought it was incredibly creative. Check it out here: http://www.moneylab.co/guest/ He made this web page, loaded it with tons of unique and funny information about why he'd make a great podcast guest, and put his contact info I loved his approach and humor, and thought "What the heck? I have him on the show". And that's what happened! Matt makes a living by being creative online. He's hosted a few podcasts, created some profitable online brands, produced some hilarious rap videos, and overall has been able to t

Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE.  I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love. In this conversation you'll learn: The difference between conditional and unconditional love Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness" The distinction between attachment and connection when it comes to love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yeah, this episode has a pretty bold title. But bold men are deserving of bold titles. I’ve been inspired by Bill Jamison since meeting him 3 years ago. What Bill has that made me want to record a conversation with him, is this amazing ability to surrender to what he does not know, trust in himself and the process, lead his life with purpose and conviction, love and give with all of his heart, and be an example of what a powerful 21st century man is all about. That’s someone who I want to talk to! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully. Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic. I knew there was something there worth exploring, and I had the time and curiosity to do it. I set out to create a framework for what having it all meant to me, so that I would be able to (from the most objective place possible), declare whether or not I felt that I had it all in life at that particular moment. In this episode, and for the next several weeks, I’m exploring the framework that I developed thanks to my curiosity, experimentation, mentoring, researching and reflection. Today’s episode is about ABUNDANCE and what that word t