Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

No matter what your thoughts are on fasting, one thing that's undeniable is that you currently have some sort of relationship with food, with eating and with your emotions, and they are doing a dance together that's either raising your health or lowering it! For me, I love fasting as a tool for healing (physically as well as emotionally, mentally and spiritually). I've been turning to fasting on a consistent basis since 2015, and it has changed my life.  In today's conversation I'm sharing with you my biggest insights from a 3-day juice fast I recently did, and I'm relating these insights in a way that you're guaranteed to be able to apply them to your life (whether you've ever fasted or not).  Bottoms up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you consider yourself a Perfectionist? Are you constantly feeling like you're not doing or being enough? Do you judge yourself harshly because you're failing to live up to your standards or expectations? So many of us suffer from the need to be "perfect". Logically you understand that perfection is not possible, yet you still hold this impossible standard for yourself in life (perhaps as a parent or entrepreneur or friend or just as yourself).  I have had my struggles with perfectionism, and as I've wrestled with it over the years I've discovered a way to stop stressing about being perfect and instead focus on making incremental progress.  In today's episode I'm talking about progress versus perfection, and I'm giving you real strategies that you can apply in your life to focus more on making small steps forward and less on being perfect. Want to get in touch with me to share your experience with perfectionism? Email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens. Learn m

Where are you feeling stuck in life? We all have an "Epic Challenge" - an area in our lives where we're feeling stuck, where we're not enjoying the experience and are having a hard time changing things.  In today's episode I'm sharing with you my most recent Epic Challenge which was creating a lot of stress and frustration in my life. I'm peeling back the layers on what I go through to face my challenges, and the people and processes that I've brought into my life to help me.  Want to get in touch with me to share your Epic Challenge? Email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In what ways do you manipulate in relationships? I asked the question in that way because manipulation is something we can all easily do in relationships. It's not always overt and easy to spot. Sometimes it's very subtle and may not even be something you're consciously aware of. Yet, no matter the type of manipulation, it's evidence of deeply unhealthy feelings and beliefs about ourselves. In today's episode I'm reading an email from a listener who wants some help with her manipulative tendencies in relationships. I talk about the origins of manipulation, how to peel back the layers to address what's really going on, and ways to stop the manipulative behavior as it's happening. I encourage you to listen to this episode whether you're in a relationship or not, because as you'll learn the origins of manipulation have nothing to do with other people. They have everything to do with how we feel about ourselves. Want to reach out to me directly with episode ideas, feedback or anything else? Email me at matthew [a

Where are you experiencing a lot of resistance in your life? Chances are, the thing you're resisting most is actually the thing that contains that answer to you getting unstuck and ultimately having what you want in life. Today I'm talking about resistance: why we resist, what it looks like, what it does to us, and how to learn to level up our maturity so that we can ultimately get what we want in life. Resources The Challenge Of Change: Are You The River Or The Rock? article by Dennis Merritt Jones Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How well are you caring for your fitness? We experience life through our bodies. Our health and fitness reveals the relationship that we have with life. So what is your fitness telling you about how you deal with life? No matter where you are in your fitness, there's room for improvement so that you can create the results and the EXPERIENCE that you truly desire. This is the first episode in April, which means it's our Monthly Habit Focus series. And as you've already guessed, this month we're focusing on your FITNESS. In today's episode I'm going to answer questions like: How do you get motivated to build a fitness routine? What helps make working out and exercising easier? How do you overcome the biggest obstacles to sticking with a fitness routine? By the end of this episode you'll walk away with a deeper internal motivation for improving your fitness, practical tips on creating a winning fitness routine (no matter where you're starting from), and some of the biggest mental blocks keeping you from imp

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and went from there.  But as I began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life (like becoming a parent and starting a new business), and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours.  In today's episode I share with you the very specific habits and routines I use in the morning and evening to set myself up for success each day.  Show Notes: Episode on my Mission Statement - https://www.havingitallpodcast.com/single-post/My-Personal-Mission-Statement-Why-Knowing-What-Youre-Playing-For-Will-Change-Your-Life Balance Chart App - https://www.theydbg.com/ Headspace - https://www.headspace.com/ Evernote - https://evernote.com/ Learn more about your ad ch

What regrets do you have in life?  In today's episode I'm sharing a moving and insightful essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of them in your life. Resources: Bronnie Ware’s article “Regrets Of The Dying” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence? Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it.  This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him in the bedroom and on the Olympic stage.  Jason's article in Men's Health Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements. Here is the original question from listener Kayla that I answer in the episode: How do I stop self sabotage? I feel like I am so good at setting goals and visualizing my perfect life but when the universe throws me a giant test to live into my mission statement and goals, I feel like I fail. Even whenI am disciplined I feel like it is short lived and I end up right where I started. How can I bridge the gap between creating goals and actually attaining them for true transformation?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/

What thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you think about your MONEY? Money is one of those taboo topics in society -- it's not cool to ask another person about their money, many people feel uncomfortable talking about their own money with even their spouse or best friend, and yet money is something that touches every single one of us. We either feel abundant about money, or scarce. Excited or intimidated. Confident in our ability to manage and multiply it, or scared and inexperienced around it (which leads to immature money money behavior and habits). It's time that ends! You can feel different about money. You can have a different money situation (if you choose). You have the ability to make it so! Therefore, for the month of March we are going to focus on getting our money in order. No matter how much money you make or where you are in your relationship to money, there are always things you can address. So get ready to address them starting today! Here are the resources I mention in this ep

Need some relief from the stress of the pandemic? It's been a very stressful year with no end in sight, and that's left many people feeling like they're going to crack. Let me help you deal with the stress, fear, anxiety and weight of the current situation, by offering you some words of comfort and motivation. We've all been in this pandemic together, yet not everyone has dealt with it the same way. The stress you're in right now is real, and there may be simple remedies to the overwhelm that you're feeling. This is a continuation of my new Pep Talks series that I'm delivering to you monthly, that are designed to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life. Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What makes a relationship work? "Common interests" is a typical answer, and for good reason. It makes sense that we need to have things in common with our partners if we want relationship success. But are there certain common interests that rise above others? And are there some common interests that are essential for relationship success? In today's episode I invite my Queen, Sarah Bivens, back on the podcast to talk about how to create real synergy in relationships, and what things you want to be fully aligned on with your partner (and what is okay for you to differ on). This is a great conversation whether you're in a relationship right now or not, because it will get you thinking about the purpose of relationships and what makes a "successful" relationship in your eyes. If you want to get in touch with either Sarah or I you can find us on Instagram @sarahmbivens and @matthew_bivens, and you can always reach me at matthew@matthewbivens.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you "connect with yourself" and why is it important? I received an email from a listener that asked that very question. This is such an important conversation to have because being able to have and feel a deep, intimate connection with yourself is part of having it all. It's the first step in creating deep, meaningful relationships with others. And it's part of what I believe our search for meaning and purpose entails. So connecting with yourself is more than just a phrase that you might see on blogs or cute trending Instagram posts. In today's episode I discuss what it means to connect with yourself, how you might be fueling disconnection with yourself, and discuss ways that you can explore and find your own connection.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you handle the stressors of everyday life? Each one of us encounters stress in life, it's part of the agreement. But not everyone handles it in the same way. The concept of "getting grounded" is something you've probably heard of and perhaps even have a practice in. For me, getting grounded is all about returning to your center when life knocks you off course. As I've taken on more and more responsibilities in life - and as life has whooped my butt again and again - I've developed effective ways to return to my center and get grounded so that I can get back into the game. In today's Monthly Habit Focus episode I'm talking all about Getting Grounded, and I'm helping you learn simple and effective ways to ground yourself when life is coming at you fast and hard. You will learn: what it actually means to "get grounded" why it's an essential part of having it all various methods to ground yourself my go-to grounding habits when life gets more and more stressful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Need a some motivating words to help you take a leap of faith? Let me give you some encouragement and remind you of what you've forgotten about yourself, as you're feeling scared to take the next step. I've been there before, I know what it's like to be in your shoes right now. And I have a few words for you. This is part of a new series of Pep Talks that I'll be delivering to you monthly to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life. Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like. In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships.  My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to show up with purpose, integrity and intention over the next 12 months? It's time for the annual Having It A.L.L. tradition of creating your Word For The Year! This simple yet effective tool acts like a North Star, helping to guide your intentions, actions and thoughts as you navigate yourself towards an awesome year. We've been doing Word For The Year since the early days of the podcast, refining the process each year. In today's episode I'll be walking you through my process for developing your Word For The Year in 2021. By the end of the episode you'll be fully equipped to create a personally empowering word for this year that will help you light a fire within your soul to make this an absolutely incredible year! Click here to get the free Word For The Year download: https://www.matthewbivens.com/word/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to have it all this year? Seriously, are you ready to start believing in your greatness and proactively shaping the life you desire for yourself? Well if so, I'm here as your coach, guide, and supporter this year (and beyond). We have a whole new slate of amazing content coming at you in 2021, all designed to help you ACTIVATE the Having It A.L.L. mindset in your life. In today's episode I'm breaking down what you can expect from this program over the next 12 months, and I kickoff our brand new series where we focus on a new lifestyle habit each month that will help you live your Abundant Loving Life. Let's do this!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever get down on yourself when someone else's self help advice just doesn't work for you? I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine. That was until I realized an important truth! In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into 2021 that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year. Here's the article that I reference in the episode: Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices