Mantalks Podcast: Purpose | Legacy | Relationships | Self Mastery | Business

Talking points: culture, economics, mindset, debt, Ed HardyTo maybe understate things, it's a jungle out there right now, financially speaking. I've really enjoyed Morgan's books and perspective, so in early April, I asked him to come on. He shared TONS of insight on tariffs, what's next, how the average person can change their financial straights for the better, even Fartcoin. Listen in.(00:00:00) - What in the world is going on(00:09:35) - If it’s about bringing manufacturing back, then will jobs go to workers—or to automation?(00:16:37) - On tariff misconceptions and myths, and the difference between personal debt and government debt(00:25:27) - How does the average person weather the storm?(00:29:49) - How building wealth is behavioral, not intellectual, and the anti-capitalist mindset(00:38:19) - What to do when you’re struggling to get your finances under control(00:44:00) - Discovering why you actually want more money, and raising kids with good financial sense(00:59:04) - How do you learn what “enoug

Talking points: relationships, leadershipA while back, I launched a video on how men can better lead themselves and their relationships. It got a ton of dialogue, let's just say. Here's what I mean by lead, and three definitive steps to getting it right.(00:00:00) - Defining what “lead” actually means(00:04:08) - The first thing to do(00:07:14) - Stop taking her emotions personally(00:12:47) - Lead in connection, lead in repair***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.&nb

Talking points: masculinity, regret, anger, cultureIt's been too long since I sat down with The Captain himself. I am continuously grateful for Kyle's honesty about his own life, his process, and his opinion on things. Which means this conversation is as refreshing as it is frank. Strongly recommend sharing this one, team.(00:00:00) - Why is regret such a thing, are men conditioned to beat themselves up, and should it impact our decisions?(00:10:47) - How a recent writing project nearly broke Kyle, and what he learned(00:18:28) - On Netflix’s “Adolescence”, social media, and male role models(00:26:24) - How Kyle manages anger(00:31:38) - On maintaining discipline and motivation for creative or side projects, and what Kyle would’ve done differently(00:41:41) - Why therapy didn’t work for Kyle(00:49:38) - Kyle’s new bookAs is tradition, I'm share Kyle's unedited bio here because it's...well, it's just fantastic."As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a skateboard and I got on with my life. In

Talking points: attachment, relationships, mindsetAnxious attachment can make any relationship feel fraught with tension and threat. It doesn't have to be that way, and there are clear steps you can take that really do get results. Start with these ones.(00:00:00) - Anxious attachment refresher(00:04:04) - Priority number one: develop safety internally—and how(00:09:37) - Number two: recognize false flags(00:14:10) - Number three: practice calm connection***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world

Talking points: relationships, masculinity, mindset, nice guy syndromeA bunch of you have reached out requesting an interview with Nick, aka The People Displeaser, and I'm happy to say we finally got the chance to talk. Nick's practical, no-nonsense frame is a breath of fresh air. If you're looking for ways to combat your own people-pleasing tendencies—and some really good reasons why you should—this is the episode for you. (00:00:00) - Is people-pleasing really that bad, and what creates one(00:08:39) - How “needs” turned into a form of manipulation, and the nuance of privilege(00:14:15) - Does people-pleasing show up differently in men and women, and what the true cost is(00:24:59) - Where does a man start dealing with people-pleasing(00:38:31) - The importance of rejection, and do women play a role?(00:48:55) - Nick’s hard truths for introverts(00:54:22) - What you’re going to face when start putting yourself firstNick Pollard, aka The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker who specialize

Talking points: boundaries, relationships, mindsetThe counter-intuitive truth is this: if you're stuck in people-pleasing, you're generally not people-helping. I see a lot of men go through this, and many are unaware of what it really is and where it comes from. This week, straightforward insight and direct steps to breaking free.(00:00:00) - What the heck is people-pleasing?(00:03:02) - Two specific origins of people pleasing, and uncovering where it started in your own life(00:06:18) - The effect of trauma on one’s needs and self-worth(00:07:34) - The two major challenges of people-pleasing, and how to start breaking out of this(00:10:39) - Reflecting on tendencies, practicing your No, and prioritizing what you need (00:14:45) - On boundaries***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.c

Talking points: anger, trauma, relationshipsThis is an essential episode for two reasons. One, it clearly shows how emotions and behaviors get passed down not just in mind but in body. Two, this episode also shows there are men out there doing real work—and they're committed to it; my guest was already familiar with the somatic part of his feelings. If you grew up in a volatile family, this is doubly worth listening to. ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjo

Talking points: archetypes, psychology, relationshipsI genuinely feel this is one of the most important concepts we as men should understand. It affects a lot of us, and it definitely affected me. It definitely fits the word "complex", but it's absolutely something you can work on. So grab a notepad, dig in, and share with any man you think would benefit.(00:00:00) - Intro, definition, and why knowing about this is useful(00:08:09) - What causes this split?(00:21:55) - Rounding up what kind of man is at risk of this, and where to start healing(00:26:04) - What are you hiding, and what do you reveal(00:32:16) - Important: have conversations ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachme

Talking points: relationships, evolutionary psychology, cultureYou know it, I know it, and Michael Sartain knows it: there are a LOT of men out there facing extreme difficulty. I wanted to pick Michael’s brain on how to help men understand why this is, but from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, and the boots-on-ground experience of a fellow coach. I appreciate Michael’s ability to follow (and focus) the data without getting lost in reactionary antics. Listen in. (00:00:00) - How Michael works with men(00:13:13) - What makes evolutionary psychology such a charged subject?(00:25:40) - Why risk is important for men(00:31:36) - Strategies to boost your risk tolerance(00:39:02) - The difficulty of modern male relationships, and staying neutral(00:48:42) - Does the unwillingness to take risk impact relationships?(00:53:23) - On status, Bonnie Blue, and what most don’t get about the “bottom third” of menMichael Sartain’s journey from a studious kid in Dallas, TX, to a leading expert in high-status networki

Talking points: attachment, relationships, cultureI recently brought in an attachment specialist for the Alliance because a lot of men are noticing an uptick in women who are emotionally distant, avoid vulnerability, and break it off the second things get serious. There are a ton of ways to look at this, and lots of factors, but I wanted to dig in a bit—and give some insight into what YOU can do if you're dating an avoidant woman.***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

Talking points: attachment, marriage, traumaThere’s a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week’s anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father(00:11:21) - Who was there for you? (00:22:52) - The search for peace***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your

Talking points: relationships, attachmentThere's one significant trap a lot of men fall into when they're anxiously attached. Good news? It's manageable—as long as you know where it's coming from. If you or your partner has this attachment style, dig in. (00:00:00) - Defining the trap, and why it happens(00:04:29) - What you’re really up against, and the first step in escaping the trap(00:09:15) - Uncovering where it shows up in your relationship, and taking action(00:12:09) - Don’t just practice in the relationship, and what causes blacksliding***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your

Talking points: culture, marketing, relationshipsI consider it an achievement to have Tad on the show. He's a soulful and wise person who can cut through the BS quickly—and do it kindly, no less. We sat down to discuss the parallels in ethically presenting your case in both the business and dating realms. You'll be surprised at how similar some aspects are!(00:00:00) - How is dating an extension of marketing?(00:13:24) - The meaning of “gauging” a potential partner, and what to look for(00:19:57) - On sunk cost, grief, people pleasing, and our fear of risk(00:27:17) - Is there a connection between fear of approach and polarization?(00:34:43) - How is AI going to change how we market (00:47:33) - What are the key implementations of ethical marketing?Tad Hargrave is a hippy who developed a knack for marketing (and then learned to be a hippy again).  Since 2001, he has been weaving together strands of ethical marketing, Waldorf School education, a history in the performing arts, local culture making,

Talking points: attachment, relationshipsThe way you connect with others really can change for the better, and it's important to know when you're headed in the right direction. If you or your partner has an avoidant attachment style—aka shutdown in conflict, emotional distancing, etc.—this one's for you. Listen in.Not sure what avoidant attachment is? Check out A Man's Guide To Avoidant Attachment: https://lnk.to/3anA6L(00:00:00) - Intro and what you need to understand first(00:02:25) - Sign number one: more emotional availability(00:04:41) - Number two: Better conflict navigation(00:07:01) - Number three: you aren’t debating ending the relationship at the first sign of trouble(00:08:01) - Number four: a deeper sense of trust(00:10:08) - Number five: their needs are more clear, AND they’re moving to meet your needs more often ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide

Talking points: relationships, conflict, love, cultureThere aren’t many folks in the wellness space as frank, wise, and empathetic as Jillian, and I always love having her on the show. This time, we sat down to dig into everything relationships, from culture and social media’s effects (read: not always great) to defining lust vs love, and much more. Strongly recommend this one for a couple’s listen. (00:00:00) - Why are people so disenfranchised with relationships these days, and is there a broader function to relationships that we’re missing?(00:09:00) - What contributes to self-centeredness is relationships, and how do we combat that?(00:15:46) - The purpose of uncertainty and the unknown in relationships, and the difference between lust and love(00:24:34) - On being able to disagree(00:31:59) - How do people get stuck in “cycles of lust”?(00:41:29) - What kind of a man do women want, and why can you not convince someone to love you?(00:50:24) - Why convincing someone to love you is a turn-offJillian T

Talking point: dating, relationships, riskI recently came across some work by Alexander (aka @DatePsych), where he put together some fascinating data. Turns out 45% of men between 18-25 haven't asked a woman out. Ever. What's the deal? Well, here are two of my theories, and I'd love to hear yours.Link to the study: https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitch

Talking points: friendship, masculinity, Ryan Michler and I have been in the men's work biz for a long time, and we've seen the changes—some good, some bad—in how men are talked about and marketed to by our culture and by the wellness and therapy industries. We dig into the necessity of male friendship in the face of growing isolationism, the upcoming Men's Forge, and a whole lot more. Listen in, team.(00:00:00) - Intro and why does it seem like men are having a harder time maintaining relationships?(00:12:27) - On men needing social time and where modern therapy misses the mark(00:17:56) - How are men contributing to their own isolation and loneliness?(00:31:44) - On the importance of some confrontation in male friendships(00:38:32) - Why men need brotherhood as well as challenge, and what to do if you want deeper friendships with other men Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lac

Talking points: mindsetThis is something I’ve seen a LOT of men battle, and with no success—and I include myself in that. This week, I want to reframe the idea of self-worth and give you a few insights that will likely change the game for you. Dig in.(00:00:00) - Reframing self-worth, and why many men struggle with it(00:04:27) - Reasons why self-worth gets damaged (00:07:26) - You don’t build it by winning all the time; recognize effort instead. Here’s why it works(00:12:00) - Release the beast from the basement***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhoo

Talking points: trauma, validation, mindset, relationshipsRecently, I put out a call on Instagram: who wants to join me for a short, recorded Q&A. We had a TON of respondents, but I wanted to highlight four in particular that I feel are unique, but at the same time offer a window into what so many men endure. These are everyday men from completely different walks of life, all different ages, but united in a single fact: they’re doing the work. I’m deeply grateful to each of them for agreeing to be on the show. (00:00:00) - The story of S, six years sober, who struggles with people pleasing and feeling stuck(00:16:04) - C’s struggle with internal validation and the relationship with his father(00:35:15) - D’s working on feeling worthy, but his relationships have never felt safe or trustworthy(00:56:47) - P wrestles with some of the contradictions in the self-help space and past trauma***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://traini

Talking points: mythology, masculinity, traumaMyth isn't just old story. It's also a powerful way to frame the workings of the world, the mind, and everything in between. The story of Perseus is just one example of this, with insights on boyhood vs manhood, facing risk, and much more. Dig in.(00:00:00) - Intro and the first lesson of the Perseus’ story(00:06:09) - The second lesson(00:09:36) - Lessons behind Perseus and Medusa(00:16:09) - How the role of a mother and the initiation into manhood interact***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerf