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Talking points: mental health, masculinity, cultureWhen Movember reaches out, you answer the call. I'm grateful to have interviewed Professor John Oliffe on a recent report co-authored by him—and spearheaded by the Movember Institute for Men's Health. Some of the stats they've released left me a little surprised; like 2 in 5 men in Canada die prematurely, and from largely preventable casues. Listen to this one, team.(00:00:00) - Intro, and the premature mortality of men(00:10:29) - On co-constructed masculinity, and how modern complexity affects how we perceive manhood(00:16:26) - On “protest masculinity”, and what’s causing men to die early?(00:22:34) - Depression, suicide, and getting upstream of the risk factors(00:32:120) - Why hiding what you’re going through so common, and why some men dismiss the healthcare system(00:40:06) - What Dr. Oliffe would say to the man reluctant to see a therapist(00:44:49) - The changes and diversity of modern masculinityDr. John Oliffe is a Professor and Tier 1 Canada Resea

Talking points: relationships, cultureThis might bother some of you, but I think it needs discussing, because I get it all the time in comments, emails, and DMs: serious disappointment and frustration with dating. From men and women both. There are a lot of reasons for this, both surface-level and deeper, but here's what I'm seeing the most. (00:00:00) - Intro(00:05:04) - What we’re not actually teaching young men(00:08:14) - Where do we go from here?(00:11:04) - A gap I see in most relationships(00:13:37) - Have the conversation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuil

Talking points: relationships, the shadow, psychologyEvery man casts a shadow, regardless of how much of "the work" he's done. But whether or not you let it negatively impact your relationships is up to you. Listen in for what shadow work actually means for your relationships, and straightforward advice on how to get started.(00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconception about shadow work(00:03:57) - How the shadow can manifest in a relationship(00:08:40) - But WHY does this happen?(00:12:12) - Tips for shadow awareness in your relationship(00:18:19) - Last but not least: accountability, and what integration means

Talking points: myth, psychology, purposeI've loved myths and legends since I was a kid. As a man, that love has only grown because they can serve up powerful, meaningful guidance. So this week, we're digging into what Arthur, Excalibur, and the Holy Grail teach about the journey of the mature masculine.(00:00:00) - Intro(00:02:38) - Boyhood, coming of age, and crossing the thresholds of manhood(00:07:45) - The symbol and importance of Excalibur(00:16:04) - The sword in the stone CAN’T be pulled by might(00:18:33) - The meaning of pursuing the “holy grail”(00:22:36) - Purpose and ego don’t usually mix

Talking points: inner child, fatherhood, abandonment, the shadowFair warning, there's a lot of F-bombs in this one. We've kept them in because I want people to get a sense of how deep a father wound can go. My guest has struggled with a kind of dualistic life. One day, he's crushing it and confident. The next, he feels uncertain and lost. This is a heavy one, team, but absolutely worth checking out. ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave

Talking points: fatherhood, psychology, mindsetA while back, I put up an episode on the mother wound, aka healing your mommy issues. But there's always more to the story. There's also the "father wound", and it can have massive impact on everything from self-worth to relationships to skill at work. Listen in for a serious look at what it is, what creates it, and what to work on.(00:00:00) - Intro and defining the “father wound”(00:04:47) - The kinds of fathers/childhoods that create this(00:13:53) - Symptoms of father wounding, and why they’re important to know(00:23:52) - Common “archetypes” of fathers that create a father wound(00:26:40) - So what do you do? (00:32:09) - On fathering yourself***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t

Talking points: genetics, culture, psychology, parentingI'm the kid who's always running to see what's over the next hill, so I'm both grateful and excited to have Alex on the show. His latest book is incredible, and gets to the science of how we're actually happier with a little less predictability in so many parts of our lives. If you're someone whose life feels kind of listless right now, this is YOUR episode.(00:00:00) - The “explorer gene”, dopamine, and the impact of modern tech on our ability to explore(00:15:20) - Our relationship with the unknown, and how it messes us up sometimes(00:25:04) - How the unknown can challenge relationships, and how to navigate that(00:29:40) - The difference between exploration and exploitation(00:35:54) - The “free energy principle” and the “effort paradox”(00:52:52) - Tactical insights on amping up your exploration mindsetAlex Hutchinson is the New York Times bestselling author of Endure, a longtime columnist for Outside covering the science of endurance, and a Nationa

Talking points: culture, psychology, masculinityI've covered the data behind this multiple times. A lot of men—not just in North America but globally—are struggling. Today I want to spark some dialogue by bringing some attention to what I think are just a few of the underlying reasons.And I want your thoughts, too. Comment if you're on Spotify, DM me on Instagram. This is worth talking about beyond the usual blame games or "it's always been like this" deflection.***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around t

Talking points: sex, relationships, cultureEditor's Note: FYI team, had some audio snafus that we did our best to remedy. Thanks for your understanding! Grateful that Jamie and I sat down to talk all things intimate relationships. From how culture keeps shaping what men and women respond to, desire, and miss out on, to helping both yourself and her feel not just comfortable but welcome. This is a great ep to listen to with a partner, my friends. (00:00:00) - What most men need to know about women’s desire(00:05:41) - Helping a woman feel like all of her is welcome(00:13:58) - Helping a partner who isn’t fully comfortable with themselves(00:30:18) - For couples that find themselves stuck in monotony or dead bedroom(00:37:58) - Common challenges women face in the “tragic phase”, and how men can move to support them(00:44:04) - Become a gardener, not a consumerJamie Elizabeth Thompson has developed a holistic body of work to support women, men, and couples with letting go of limiting patterns around sex so they

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure. (00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you’re in the cycle(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you’re contributing(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you’re at(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about att

Talking points: masculinity, mental health, friendshipShort but important one, team. I'm sure you've seen the memes that go something like "Is the cure for male loneliness pickleball?" Maybe you've rolled your eyes at them more than once. I have. Nevertheless, the data is clear, and a lot of men out there are starved of quality friend time. Here's how to change that.(00:00:00) - Intro and why friendships are so important(00:02:11) - The challenges, and tips to overcome them(00:05:05) - The value of reciprocity and shared interests(00:10:00) - Conflict is a part of it***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation

Talking points: relationshipsYes, that's a provocative title. Yes, listen to the whole thing. No, this isn't men being mad at women. This is what I've seen time and again, plus what I've been told by multiple women and couples I've worked with, and it's something both parties are responsible for.(00:00:00) - The factor good men are missing(00:04:24) - Defining “emotional containment”(00:08:30) - The big caveat, and an exampleSo like I said, listen to the whole thing. ***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from aro

Talking points: psychology, attachment theoryWe've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now. (00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy (00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment (00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tacticsFor EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.

Talking points: psychology, masculinityIf you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projectionsA Man's Guide To Self-Worth: https://lnk.to/sRB9v6How To Lead In Relationship: https://lnk.to/8xv131***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Pr

Talking points: history, psychology, mindset, cultureLike George Santayana said, those who do not learn from the past are condemned to repeat it. There's so much we can learn about ourselves, where we come from, and what needs our attention when we study the past. Grateful for the host of Cost of Glory, Alex Petkas, coming back on the show to lay down some real history, difficult truths, and deep insights on ol' Gaius himself.(00:00:00) - What the modern man can learn from Julius Caesar(00:17:52) - The importance of philosophy and poetry to ancient men(00:23:06) - Why Caesar’s storytelling ability was so important, and how modern men can benefit from being better storytellers(00:35:51) - The usefulness of old stories and ideas, and the psychological strategies that Caesar used(00:45:48) - How Caesar handled women(00:52:12) - Misconceptions of Caesar’s demise and attitudeAlex Petkas is writer, entrepreneur, and founder of The Cost of Glory,  a bridge for the virtues of ancient heroes and the modern world’

Talking points: relationships, mindsetI see so many men struggle with this, without ever knowing why. Part of it's the realities of modern dating, but there's a few things you can do to rise above. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Here’s the situation(00:04:32) - Stop overfunding the account in an effort to get something(00:06:51) - Be her best option, but don’t stuff it in her face(00:10:55) - Re-prioritize your needs and expectations, and do it like this***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check o

Talking points: money, success, mindset, financesGrateful to have the thoughtful and straightforward advice of Sahil Bloom when it comes to wealth—minus the get-rich-quick schemes and "hacks" you see too often on social media. We covered a ton, from financial skill development and a healthy relationship with money, to how you balance that with what really matters.(00:00:24) - Understanding the Misconceptions of Success(00:12:34) - The Lottery Mindset and Its Pitfalls(00:21:32) - Developing Skills for Financial Success(00:26:04) - The Value of Deep Thinking, Writing, And Conversation(00:30:10) - Understanding Antigoals And "Time Wealth"(00:42:22) - Balacing Risk And WealthSahil Bloom is an inspirational writer and content creator, captivating millions of people every week through his insights and bi-weekly newsletter, ‘The Curiosity Chronicle’. Sahil is a successful entrepreneur, owner of SRB Holdings, and the managing partner of SRB Ventures, an early-stage investment fund. Sahil grad

Talking points: conflict, relationshipsYou're going to get into arguments. There will be differences of opinion. But what if those were gateways to something more? Today, the latest in the Man's Guide series.(00:00:00) - Choose someone you’re willing to conflict with, and be someone she’s willing to conflict with, too.(00:04:11) - Your nervous system sets the tone.(00:07:41) - You need rules of engagement.(00:10:45) - Stop trying to “fix” her emotions.(00:15:25) - Don’t fall for The Trap. Connect instead.(00:18:47) - Lead the repair.***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Talking points: masculinity, isolation, culture, suicideLook, Netflix's Adolescence was solid. But like anything Hollywood, it's not the whole picture. The big picture is complex, systemic, and deeply uncomfortable—and we seem to have built a culture that simply doesn't want to talk about it meaningfully and practically. I'm grateful for men like George (aka TheTinMen) who work tirelessly to point out how men's issues are important, complicated, and deserving of attention. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, and wtf is going on in the UK.(00:12:28) - How do you actually speak to men's issues, and where the conversation unfortunately goes(00:21:44) - The collapse of male spaces, and why are struggling men framed as inconvenience?(00:38:09) - George’s take on increasing levels of loneliness and isolation in men, and possible solutions(00:44:51) - What people get wrong about male suicide(00:50:43) - Is it inherently bad/toxic that a man wants to provide for people?(00:58:51) - Data on how domestic violence and sexual

Talking points: mindset, addiction, pornIt's a serious challenge. You're doing well, you think you've broken free—and suddenly you're back. This week, I dig into practical ways you can reinforce and reenergize your commitment. For more helpful info, check out my free guide here: https://training.mantalks.com/Quit(00:00:00) - Intro, and the first step(00:04:13) - Get to the bottom of what’s driving the urge(00:08:56) - Purpose beats porn(00:11:15) - Redirect AND replace(00:14:05) - Understand porn as a “pseudo-attachment”***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brother