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A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit. If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide. (00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine(00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning (00:05:00) Reason #3: porn’s accessibility and availability(00:05:49) Reason #4: not fully understanding your triggers (00:07:46) Reason #5: no replacement ritual or routine(00:09:21) Reason #6: last time-its(00:11:06) Reason #7: lack of external support Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful grou

Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research. (0:00:00) - Intro(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy,

Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy! (00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends(03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic(05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity(07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do(11:59) - Imagine getting condemned and praised for dominance Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser

Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shameI'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play.I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or someone you know has any form of disability. It's important not just to help each other along, but to gather perspective on the extra hurdles many of us face, how they're managed or overcome, and the radical change that can stem from all of the above.(00:00:00) - Intro and Bonner's defining moment(00:10:21) - Growing up with cerebral palsy(00:14:31) - The different kinds of family rules, and how came to hide his CP(00:20:44) - How Bonner used athleticism to both get attention and distract himself(00:32:00) - The story of Jak

Talking points: maturity, parenthood I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in. 02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world07:09 - The importance of the human spirit14:15 - How parenting matures you20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking fo

Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight. This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact relationships, work ethic, and even overall success. [00:01:11] - Dougs defining moment[00:03:27] - Defining sexual addiction[00:19:41] - What is intimacy anorexia, and what’s contributing to it?[00:30:37] - Reinforcing yours AND your partner’s experiences, and matching types of expression in sex[00:39:28] - Partner betrayal trauma[00:44:08] - What makes intimate relationships unique[00:46:19] - More on sex and porn addiction[00:50:45] - Sex addiction and ADHD[00:54:11] - Can you be addicted to validation? [00:57:58] - Can

It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your

Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more. [01:02] - Christine's defining moment. [07:59] - Christine on women and anger [12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego. [15:25] - Women and anger. [28:14] - How can men effectively address a woman's anger? [36:57] - How modern relationships have changed for men and women. [48:59] - What conversations should people be having about money? Christine Hassler is a master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With

There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener. What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.co

Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people. If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you listen alongside your partner—or at least share it with them later. [00:01:04] - Nick’s defining moment[00:09:48] - What made you choose IMAGO certification?[00:12:15] - Where do you see modern relationships breaking down most often?[00:15:57] - How would you say social media has affect modern relationships?[00:21:08] - What does it mean when your partner says “I’m not feeling seen”?[00:25:50] - What other ways can we support our partner in being heard?[00:28:52] - So what is IMAGO therapy based on? What tools does it d

I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Fac

Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame Haven't done one of these in a while! Every so often I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in. If you're the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can't seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about something I call "implosive anger", aka when instead of having a healthy relationship with the anger you feel, you suppress and direct it back at yourself. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and j

First off, why is this happening? Second, is there any kind of silver lining? These are the two major questions on my mind this mini-episode, plus why I think there's a growing number of people (men especially) searching for more hands-on, apprenticeship style training. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Fa

Talking points: addiction, psychedelics, the trouble with success, death, grief, masculinity, How I Met Your Mother Honestly, there's not a single topic Josh and I didn't cover in this episode. We've been friends for years and wanted to jam together for a long time, and it's clear we had a ton to talk about. Deeply grateful for his insight, perspective, and stories. This is a great episode if you're looking for the perfect combo of candid, vulnerable, and funny. [00:06:02] - Josh's defining moments [00:18:43] - Addictive personalities [00:23:01] - The power of empathy and forgiveness [00:31:04] - What's brilliant about 12-step [00:35:03] - What was happening in Josh's life when How I Met Your Mother became successful [00:42:06] - What made HIMYM successful, and it's portrayal of masculinity (and Canadians) [00:50:47] - "The baseline question [of HIMYM] was 'Who Am I?'" [00:58:55] - Depth vs growth, Jung's puer aeternus, and death [01:14:03] - The role of a parent, unconditional love, and what Josh's dog Nelso

Artificial intelligence is already changing the game for a number of industries, and I'm thinking erotica won't be an exception. But how? In what ways? And what's next? Lastly, I'd love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram to let me know! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee

Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it's shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story. [00:01:12] - Katherine Ann's defining moment [00:08:50] - the role Katherine Ann's father played in her life [00:15:12] - Were you believed about what was happening, and how did your trauma start manifesting? [00:26:44] - How did what happened shape your perception of men, and how has that evolved since doing trauma excavation? [00:40:16] - What would you say to people who struggle with forgiving what's happened? [00:45:27] - What is trauma excavation? [00:54:44] - Do you get the sense that trauma work has become so mainstream it's been watered down? Katherine Ann is a mother of five grown children – 2 daughters an

Having a bit of give and take? Good. Being flexible within reason? Great. But in my opinion, there's one area of your life where you should never, ever compromise. Listen in. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad c

Talking points: porn, sex, psychology, sexual technique, sexual health Note: there were some technical troubles on this one, so forgive the rougher audio! I polled my followers on Instagram for a lot of the questions Stirling and I covered this episode, so expect a great combo of thoughtful "why" answers and actionable advice on everything sex, arousal, attraction, and more. [00:01:08] - Stirling's defining moment[00:05:23] - How it shifted Stirling's perspective[00:12:57] - How DID you end up in porn, and what is it really like?[00:21:22] - Why OnlyFans took off[00:28:39] - What porn can do to a guy's sexual psychology[00:38:03] - How would you talk to your son about porn?[00:46:44] - How do you map out male dominance in the bedroom in today's society?[00:55:41] - How do you get your partner in the mood?[01:01:56] - How do we bridge the gap between women who want a more dominant man in the bedroom and men who are worried about being so?[01:18:14] - How to get better erections and last longer Stirling Cooper

They're simple, but they consistently bear fruit. In this episode, three straightforward ways to be cultivate higher status—that do NOT involve buying a Bugatti Bolide—that you could start on the second you finish this podcast. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listene

Talking points: AI, gender wars, masculinity, culture, relationships, dating, archetypes, myth All I can tell you is: this is a big one! Traver and I did an episode exchange for this one, and we always (I mean always) have great, wide-ranging conversations. It’s one of the bes gifts that comes from having old friends.  This is the episode to listen to if you want to hear directly from two men’s coaches who have hands on experience with what men are undergoing these days, and some of the ways we can regulate and manage what seems to be ever-increasing chaos. [00:03:52] - How social media conversations have gotten a lot more intense—and why[00:11:03] - How this is affecting men in general[00:16:57] - So much bad s**t is happening. What does your average man do?[00:26:56] - What used to be “luxuries” like a morning meditation practice are now tools for survival[00:33:02] - The effect even a basic participation in online toxicity can have[00:43:39] - “How do we get men back engaged in relationship itself?”[00:58: