Sext And The City

For Season 4 Episode 4, What's Sex Got to Do With It, I sat down with Lindsay Metselaar, the Host of We Met at Acme: We have a relationship without sex and sex without a relationship, which had a better shot at survival? Topics include Sex without emotions Taking a friend’s partner seriously Is less sex a bad sign in a relationship How SATC handled a topic versus the reboot Follow Lindsey and We Met at Acme  https://www.instagram.com/wemetatacme/  https://www.instagram.com/lindzmetz/  Follow Sam https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 4 Episode 3 “Defining Moments” I spoke with Ilana Dunn, host of the podcast Seeing Other People, and un-SATC fan for ”Carrie’s question: “The more words we invent the harder it becomes to define things. In a world where you can date without sex screw without dating and in the end keep most of your sex partners as friends long after the screwing is over, what really defines a relationship?” Topics include:  Being friends with an ex (and the 100 nuances that come with it) Boundaries - how comfortable is too comfortable too soon DTR - DEFINING THE RELATIONSHIP (including lines you can steal to find out about your situationship) Follow Ilana and Seeing Other People at https://www.instagram.com/seeingotherpeople/  https://www.instagram.com/ilana.dunn/ Follow me  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 4 Episode 2 “The Real Me” I spoke with Kornelija Slunjski also known as Koko and Your Boujee Best Friend for Carrie’s question: “Why is it that we can see our friends perfectly but when it comes to ourselves no matter how hard we look do we ever see ourselves clearly?” Topics include:  Trying to be someone we’re not Lowering standards because no one can meet them How your self-awareness is impacting your confidence Understanding who to accept criticism from High maintenance versus narcissism versus confidence Why do we have trouble seeing ourselves Follow Koko https://www.instagram.com/kokobeaute/?hl=en https://www.tiktok.com/@kokobeaute Follow me https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/

Welcome back! We are kicking off Season 4 Episode 1, “The Agony and the ‘Ex’-tacy,” talking all things soulmates with one of my own soulmates, Bridesmaid for Hire Jen Glantz! Carrie’s question of the episode and all the topics we dive into:  If you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? And as you move from age box to box and the contestants get fewer and fewer, are your chances of finding your soulmate less and less? Soulmates, reality or torture device? Being in a relationship is the least interesting thing about you Why you shouldn’t feel bad for not doing what everyone else is doing WHY are you getting married? Soulmates - from lovers to friends and pets 30 & the decade of decisions Follow Jen Glantz! https://www.instagram.com/jenglantz/ https://jenglantz.com/  Follow me! https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/

Hope you enjoyed Season 3! Stay tuned for Season 4 coming to you in 2022!

For Season 3 Episode 18 “Cock-a-doodle-doo” I spoke with Lori Hardacker Author of Dating, What The F*ck?”Carrie’s question: “What if everything isn’t the man’s fault? After a certain age and a certain number of relationships and it still isn’t working and the exes seem to be moving on and we don’t, perhaps the problem isn’t the last boyfriend or the one before him or even the one before him, could it be that the problem isn’t them, is it us?” Topics include:  How men vs women process Setting expectations for what you need The role emotions play for men vs women Differences in communication styles How to make a decision Follow Lori and “Dating, What The F*ck?”: https://datingwhatthefuck.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 17 “What Goes Around Comes Around” I chatted with David Chambers, a dating coach and host of The Authentic Man Podcast on self-sabotage and relationship karma for Carrie’s question: “I wondered does a string of bad dates equal one good one? And will treating someone badly in one relationship ensure you’ll be treated badly in the next? Does everything that goes around really come back around? And if so, will it come around to bite you in the ass? Is there such a thing as relationship karma?” Topics include:  Why we self-sabotage How to identify self-sabotage If you are actually the problem How your past shapes your present Coincidence or the universe sending a sign Follow David and The Authentic Man Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Book a session with David: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/   

In this episode, I connected with Caroline Brown of The Crazy Over 40s Life Podcast to wonder over Carrie’s question, “If you stay single long enough you’re supposed to get wiser about dating - what men to pick, where to meet them. But what really made any of us experts? Wasn’t our single status a neon sign that we couldn’t get it right? What if all these years in New York have only made us older, more confused or dead?  Are we getting wiser or just older?” Topics include:  Why we really want men with money How men look at you differently once you’re married Does dating get easier or harder with getting older and wiser Friendship Follow Caroline at https://www.instagram.com/thecrazyover40slifepodcast/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 15 “Hot Child in the City” I chatted with Kendra of the Crushgasm podcast on middle school insecurities and age appropriateness while wondering: “In today’s youth-obsessed culture are the women of my generation growing into mature responsible adults, or are we 34 going on 13?”  Topics include:  What makes you an adult Kids these days Why the SATC characters make us feel immature Nostalgia having a moment Follow Kendra and the Crushgasm Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/crushgasmpodcast/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 14 “Sex and Another City,” I connected with Disha of the podcast But What Will People Say Podcast to talk about FAKES. And social media. Because it’s really relevant for Carrie’s question:  “When it comes to bags, men and cities, is it really what’s outside that counts?” Topics include:  The dangers of social media Judging a book by its cover Portraying a life we don’t have Validating your relationship online   Follow Disha and the But What Will People Say Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/disha.mazepa/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/   

For Season 3 Episode 13 “Escape from NY” I talked with Layla, host of The Curious Girl Diaries, about Carrie’s concern that:  “I couldn’t help but wonder, no matter how far you travel or how much you run from it, can you ever really escape your past?” Topics include:  Time heals all wounds? Putting people in boxes Loving each other equally   Leave Layla a voicemail: https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com/  Follow The Curious Girl Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 12 “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” I spoke with  Em of the Sexistentialist podcast on radical honesty in relationships. We tackle Carrie’s question of:  “I started thinking about honesty. Maybe the whole idea was overrated maybe coming clean is the ultimate selfish act to absolve yourself by hurting someone who doesn’t deserve to be hurt. In a relationship is honesty really the best policy?” Topics include:  Emotional vs physical cheating Gender roles, media & infidelity Communication issues Radical vs selfish honesty Follow Em and the Sexistentialist Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/sexistentialistpod/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 11 “Running with Scissors,” Nicole and Sarah and The Homance Chronicles weigh in on CHEATING and Carrie’s question of the episode: “Later that night I got to thinking about safe sex, odd how only when our physical life is at risk do we follow certain guidelines to protect ourselves. But what about our emotional lives? Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a little pamphlet to warn us what unsafe behavior might be “high risk” or ourselves or our relationships? And even if you take all the precautions and emotionally try to protect yourself, when you crawl in bed with someone, is sex ever safe?” Topics include:  Why people cheat The other woman Listening to doubt Fantasy versus reality Physical health vs emotional health Follow Nicole and Sarah and The Homance Chronicles: https://www.instagram.com/homance_chronicles/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 10 “All or Nothing,” I chat with Shawn from The Tough Titties Podcast about tough life choices. We attempt to answer Carrie’s wonderings on: “Is it possible that we’ve gotten so spoiled by choices that we’ve become unable to make one? That a part of us knows that once you choose something, one man, one great apartment, one amazing job, another option goes away. Are we a generation of women who can’t choose just one from Column A? Did we have too much to handle or was Samantha right, can we have it all?” Topics include:  Having it all vs having someone to share it with Why wanting a partner isn’t enough The problem with dating apps Settling vs compromise Going back to an ex   Follow Shawn and The Tough Titties Podcast:   - https://www.instagram.com/thetoughtittiespodcast/  - https://twitter.com/toughtittiespod - https://www.tiktok.com/@shawn_jacobson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

I connected with Audree Kate Lopez, of Audree Kate Studios and Simply Audree Kate, to chat Season 3, Episode 9, "Easy Come, Easy Go" of Sex and the City. We talked about: Running into exes Living with your ex The head versus the heart Trying to always fix things A tactic to getting what you want You can follow Audree at @simplyaudreekate and SimplyAudreeKate.com

For season 3, episode 8 "The Big Time," I chatted with Kelly of the lifestyle blog Mimosas and Manhattan. For this episode we talked about: Biological time clocks How men are like cabs Getting back with exes Timing is the only thing that matters Having a baby to fix your relationship You can follow Kelly on Instagram at @courtandkelly and check out the latest on the blog at mimosasmanhattan.com Follow the podcast at @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

This week for Season 3 episode 7 "Drama Queens," I caught up with Jordan Scott, founder of the couple's website idk tonight and app Cobble, to talk all about: Relationship ruts Dating as a business Does a relationship need drama Drama versus chemistry Sign up for idk tonight's newsletter here https://idktonight.com/ Download Cobble now on the app store here https://apple.co/35IcrIn You can also follow on IG for date night ideas @idktonight Follow the podcast BTS at @sextnthecity and @smanthacity

In Season 3 Episode 6 Carrie wonders, "are we sluts?" Me and one of my friends wonder the same thing and discuss: Is romance dead Physical vs emotional connections Slut-shaming Dirty talk How well do you know the person in your bed Follow on IG @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

For Season 3, Episode 5 "No ifs and or butts" we chat Sex and the City with Paige DeSorbo of Summer House on dating dealbreakers including: When it's okay lie Changing for someone Levels of deal breakers Spending to impress Forgetting you have a boyfriend You can follow Paige on Instagram and TikTok @paige_desorbo and @giggly.squad Catch her on Bravo's Summer House Wednesdays and Tuesdays on Amazon Live.

In Season 3 Episode 4 Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl a previous guest comes back and we get into: The power of an outfit Are gender roles a social construct Dating someone in another generation Sexuality Moving in with someone