Wire Talk With Karen Stubbs

Today we’re diving into the idea of being a countercultural parent. Join us as Karen shares how important it is to parent in a way that aligns with God’s will instead of seeking the approval of others. From practical tips on renewing your mind to choosing God as your guiding “North Star,” Karen offers encouragement to moms who may feel out of step with the world – but exactly in step with God’s design. Episode Recap:3:51 Karen shares about her newest curriculum, The Counter Intuitive Parent8:36 How have you seen parenting trends/choices change over the years?11:38 Were you always countercultural as a parent or did you change as you realized you needed to parent differently from the world? 16:25 What worldly patterns do you see affecting families right now? 19:05 What can a mom do today to renew her mind? 23:00 God is our “North Star” as believers26:30 There is a lot on the horizon for BOAW Moms this year! Scripture for Reflection:Romans 12:2 (NIV) – "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transfo

Today Karen is answering questions from moms whose kids are in college or working and living on their own for the first time. She shares how to support them without enabling them, how to gently guide them toward wise-decision making, and how to encourage them toward maturity while simultaneously stepping back. She also reminds us that now, more than ever, is the time to get on your knees and PRAY for your kids! Moms, this season is hard, but the fruit of these years is worth the investment of time and energy. Episode Recap:3:41 How do I help my college-age daughter who is already struggling with time management while she’s away? She’s calling me in tears weekly!8:00 I feel like my son is growing apart from us as a young adult living in another state. Is this normal? How can I adjust my mindset? 13:02 My daughter calls me all the time about every little thing now that she’s living on her own. How can I help her be more confident in her decision making? 17:18 I think my son could be classified as “failure to la

Literacy coach Welsley Jongko joins us in the studio today to talk about the process of learning to read and to encourage those of us who have beginning readers at home! She explains the current reading crisis in America and the simple but effective things parents can do to support their children on their way to become lifelong readers. There are so many great tips and resources shared in the conversation today, be sure you check the links in today’s show notes! Episode Recap:2:11 Welsley is a literacy coach supporting teachers in the K-5 school system4:00 Karen shares the story of Abby’s dyslexia diagnosis 7:56 Tips for parents who are already overwhelmed by the new school year9:40 How can parents help foster a love of learning in their child? 12:12 Is there a difference between a late learner and a struggling reader?16:00 What are the red flags your child is struggling to read? 23:08 Additional early signs of dyslexia26:00 What is the problem with “whole language” instruction? 30:37 Tips and strategies for

Today Karen is answering questions from moms juggling packed schedules, managing family commitments, and trying to make a little time for themselves! From balancing kids' activities with family time to learning when to say no, in this episode you’ll hear practical advice to help you protect your energy and prioritize what matters most. Pop in those earbuds or grab a basket of laundry to fold and let's figure out what your best "yes" is for this season.Episode Recap:- 3:57 Survival Guide to Motherhood is now available as an online course! Register today- 6:14 My schedule is packed and I was recently asked to lead a group at church. I want to say no, but how can I?  - 8:37 I’m conflicted about travel sports - help! - 12:31 I’m exhausted, how do I stay connected to my husband in this season of parenting?- 15:42 How can I set boundaries now to avoid overcommitment in the future? Scripture for Reflection:Matthew 6:33 (NIV) "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting, reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen talks about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey, addresses differences in parenting styles, and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice rooted in love and respect, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our growth.Episode Recap:5:15 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time? 7:41 Our job is to love and respect our husbands8:00 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do? 11:29 How can I get my husband to take more initiative?15:55 My husband’s moodiness brings me down! Scripture for Reflection:1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow."Questions for Discussion:Can you re

In the final episode of our 3-part series on Ephesians 6:14-18, we're taking an in-depth look at verse 18 and Paul's call to pray in the Spirit on all occasions. Karen and Emily explore what it means to be vigilant in prayer and the different types of prayers we should keep in mind. They also dive into how we, as moms, can cultivate a consistent and effective prayer life and teach our kids to pray. This conversation is rich with wisdom and Scripture, so pull up a chair and have your Bible nearby as we close out this powerful series! Episode Recap:5:55 Ephesians 6:18- Paul’s admonition to the church to pray in the spirit on all occasions8:54 What are the different types of prayers we need to keep in mind? 13:20 How can we develop a consistent and effective prayer life as moms?14:41 How do we teach our kids to pray?  17:47 Putting on the armor of God empowers us21:30 Karen shares various times from her life when she depended on prayer Scripture for Reflection:Ephesians 6:18 (NIV): “And pray in the Spirit on all

Today we're diving deep into Ephesians 6:14-18, exploring how to equip ourselves with spiritual armor needed for the daily battles we face. Karen and Emily discuss the practical steps to "put on" the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, and the gospel of peace, empowering you to stand firm against the challenges of life. This conversation is chock full of Scripture, so grab your Bible and follow along as we discover how to stand firm, knowing that God is with us in every fight.Episode Recap:4:19 Today we’re looking at Ephesians 6:14-18 together 6:54 We have to strap on the truth of Jesus Christ. We have to know what He says, which means reading our Bibles7:58 Use Scripture to combat the lies we face in our daily lives15:10 How do we practically put on the belt of truth? 17:39 What is the breastplate of righteousness and how do we “put it on” practically speaking?22:43 Let’s break down what it means to “have your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace”26:00 We can’t hold

Back-to-school feels like the start of a new year for moms, so it’s a perfect time to prepare our hearts and minds. Over the next three weeks, we're diving into Ephesians to explore the armor of God, a biblical metaphor Paul uses to remind us that we are in a spiritual battle every day. This isn't about fear—it's about living a victorious life through Christ.Join us as we encourage you to wake up, equip yourself with God’s truth, and get ready to stand strong in this new season. You’ve got this, and with God’s help, it’s going to be an amazing school year!Episode Recap:4:30 Karen recaps upcoming speaking events and her travel calendar 6:00 The new school year as the real "new year" for moms9:11 Why is the armor of God crucial for spiritual battles?12:32 We don’t think about the fact that we are in a spiritual battle everyday16:43 How do we practically apply this in our families? Karen offers tangible examples22:14 ‘Stand firm’ means we have to be ready. Wake up! Expect the battles to come and be prepared.24:2

What does God say about you? Do you know?! It is all too easy to get caught up in who the world says you are, so today Karen and Emily remind us the truth of what God says. They talk about identity, the phrase “just a mom,” and fighting against comparison. We hope today’s conversation encourages you to celebrate your unique gifts and talents and focus on the truth that you are fearfully and wonderfully made! Episode Recap:3:45 Survival Guide to Motherhood releases today! 6:30 Karen’s purpose at BOAW Moms is to be your biggest cheerleader11:50 It is critical that we base our identity and find our worth in who we are in Christ16:40 Get off social media and stay in your lane if you struggle with this! 21:15 You are fearfully and wonderfully made, start out each day by meditating on that truthScripture for Reflection:Psalm 139:14 (NIV): “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”Questions for Discussion:Are there specific areas where you’ve struggle

Are you raising confident kids? Today Karen encourages moms to take a step back so our kids can step up. She and Emily discuss the pitfalls of doing things for our kids and the reasons we often fall into that trap. They also talk about the difference between nurturing and enabling and share the critical connection between kids who take ownership and confident kids! Episode Recap:6:40 Why is there a whole chapter on confidence in this book? 8:32 Where are moms missing the mark when it comes to raising confident kids?12:56 What role do chores play in confidence? 14:04 Small, practical ways you can allow your children to grow in confidenceScripture for Reflection:Galatians 6:5 (NIV): "For each one should carry their own load."Questions for Discussion:Can you identify any specific behaviors or actions where you might be enabling your child rather than nurturing their independence? What changes could you make to shift from enabling to nurturing?Reflect on a recent situation where you stepped back and allowed your

In this third part of our series on Karen's new book, "Survival Guide to Motherhood," Karen and Emily discuss the importance of raising kids with a strong foundation in biblical principles, even when it goes against the grain of today's world. They chat about how teaching kids to obey their parents leads to a more peaceful home in the long run. Don’t miss Karen’s prayer at the end of the episode asking for wisdom, courage, and blessings for all the families tuning in! Episode Recap:6:29 Discipline is hard and different for every child and in every season7:43 Discipline has to be taught - it does not come naturally to children11:42 Discipline has to be consistent.13:00 The 3 stages of discipline each require a different focus from parents 17:07 The “B”s of discipline are: Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear18:08 In the later years, we have to give our kids the “why” behind the noScripture for Reflection:Hebrews 12:11 “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harves

How do you make sacrifices for your kids without sacrificing yourself in the process? In today’s conversation, Karen and Emily explore this question and Karen offers wisdom on knowing when it’s time to prioritize yourself. We'll dig into taking care of your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health because a healthy mom equals healthy kids! Episode Recap:(3:31) There is a difference between sacrificing for others and sacrificing yourself in the process(5:42) Surround yourself with the wise counsel of those who are ahead of you on the journey(10:19) Good emotional health for a mom results in good emotional health for her children(15:26) Take care of your spiritual health and invest in a resource to help youQuestions for Discussion:Can you share a time when you felt you were sacrificing too much of yourself for your children? How did you recognize this, and what steps did you take to find a better balance? If you’re in the middle of this right now, can you share more about what’s going on?Karen mentions

Today we’re cracking the spine of Karen’s newest book, Survival Guide to Motherhood. Karen shares insightful excerpts from the opening chapters, exploring the ideas that kids develop like Crock-Pots, joy is a choice, and moms are the CEOs of their homes. Grab your copy of Survival Guide today. Check the show notes for the link.Episode Recap:3:17 Survival Guide to Motherhood is available for pre-order9:58 Process of recording the audiobook version13:25 Moms all want to “get it right” and we all want someone to walk alongside us16:43 Kids are like Crock-Pots21:19 Joy is a choice24:20 Moms, you are the boss of your home26:25 You’re not in control (God is!) but you can control the atmosphere in your homeQuestions for Discussion:Reflecting on Karen's analogy that kids are like crock pots, how have you seen your child's growth and maturity reflect the concept that progress takes time, much like a slow-cooked meal? Is there something going on right now with a child where you are finding it hard to be patient with th

In this episode, we're tackling one of the biggest challenges moms face: determining when to address a child's behavior and when to let things slide. Today Karen is answering your questions about managing high expectations, handling stress-induced blow-ups, guiding toddlers through tantrums, fostering honesty in kids, and navigating family dynamics with your less disciplined relatives. We hope today’s encouragement helps you find the balance between leaning in and letting go!Episode Recap:4:20 Are my expectations for my 5 year old too high? 8:06 Help! I have zero patience for my energetic kiddo right now! 12:28 You don’t have time “not have time” for your daily quiet time with God.14:45 How do I handle a toddler who won’t stop crying? 18:53 I always have to fact-check my child. How do we stop the habit of lying?21:09 My siblings’ children are wild at family functions and it sucks the joy out of our time together. What can I do? Questions for Discussion:How do you decide when to address your child's behavior a

Want to know the secret to being happily married for 37 years? Listen and learn from Karen in today’s episode! We’re exploring how to navigate differences, keep the love alive, and build the strong, united front that benefits your kids. With personal stories, practical tips, and plenty of laughs, this episode is all about celebrating the joys and quirks of married life. Tune in and learn from the best. :) Episode Recap:5:21 A strong marriage brings security to children7:53 Principle #1- Be United10:14 How to actively listen to your spouse17:05 Strategies to navigate and embrace differences21:39 Principle #2- Be FOR one another 27:01 Be your spouse’s #1 cheerleaderQuestions for Discussion:What shared values are most important in your marriage, and how do you reinforce them?How do you and your partner handle differences in parenting styles?What are some ways you keep the romance alive amidst the chaos of family life?Can you share a time when overcoming a challenge together strengthened your relationship?How do

In this episode, Karen and Emily share practical tips for creating a fun and memorable summer for your family. From nostalgic ice cream runs and imaginative backyard play to volunteering and fostering independence in kids, they offer ideas for keeping summer simple and enjoyable. Don’t miss Karen’s nuggets on balancing work with quality family time! Share your own summer ideas with us on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, or Instagram and join the conversation! Episode Recap:3:20 - Karen shares her summer plans5:51 - Karen was a laid back mom, so summer was a always fun for her7:16 - Question 1: I'm a working mom and summer feels frantic for me, help! 11:04 - Question 2: I’m dreading hearing “I’m bored!”  Any suggestions?17:48 - Emily offers ideas: do your research and prepare ahead of time for a fun summer! 23:56 - Question 3: What are your thoughts on summer jobs for teens?26:58 - Question 4: How do I manage working from home with my kids this summer? 30:00 - Remember, you are not the cruise director for your kids’ l

In this episode of "The Summer Before...", Karen and Emily discuss the summer before college and answer your questions about preparing for this big transition. They talk about fostering independence, celebrating your Senior, and teaching essential life skills. Emily shares some hilarious advice on dorm room safety, and Karen reminds moms to lower our expectations when it comes to phone calls. As always, tune in for practical tips and heartfelt encouragement as your child embarks on this exciting new chapter.Episode Recap:5:16 - Karen’s goal was to have her kids ready for independence by the time they left high school 7:19 - How can I celebrate my Senior well? 10:10 - Karen shares how she ended up at Auburn University11:29 - What are some life skills I can teach my 18 year old this summer? 14:52 - Emily gives advice for how not to set your college dorm room on fire ;)15:45 - How do I set my teen up to be supported in their faith while they are away from home17:23 - Your prayer life is essential to your child’s

As your kids transition to a new season in their school journey, summer presents a unique opportunity to support and celebrate them. In this episode, we discuss the developmental changes happening at this stage and the importance of letting your middle schooler discover their identity. We also tackle preparing your daughter for dealing with mean girls and how your child evolves during high school years. Plus, we explore the benefits of summer jobs, ways to connect with your son, and setting reasonable expectations for this new season. Tune in for practical tips and encouragement as you navigate this pivotal summer with your child! Episode Recap:3:25 - What is changing developmentally as our kids move on from elementary years?7:14 - Let your middle schooler start to figure out who they are and find their path13:47 - How do I prepare my daughter for dealing with mean girls? 20:43 - How are our kids changing as they move into the high school years? 25:10 - Is having a summer job important? 28:43 - How can I conn

In this episode, Karen and Emily answer questions about helping prepare your child for their big Kindergarten transition. From building essential skills to creating lasting memories, we've got you covered with tips to make summer fun and to ease you into a new routine this fall. Don’t miss Karen’s life hack for getting those adorable first day of school pictures and her assurance that God goes before your child in every place they go and in every season. Episode Recap:2:45 - Emily’s feelings about her daughter going to Kindergarten next year5:34 - Karen reminisces about Kelsey’s Kindergarten years6:15 - How can I prepare my household for the Kindergarten transition? 9:35 - How do you manage tired and worn out kiddos after a (new to them) long day at school?11:45 - As a working mom, I’m stressed out during the summer. How can I make summer special since Kindergarten will be a change of pace? 14:05 - Are there practical skills I should be working on with my rising Kindergarteners this summer?16:50 - What FUN th

Whether you’re parenting toddlers or teens - these 5 books will give you the tools you need to create a healthier family. Join us as we dive into Karen's top recommendations for parenting books that offer invaluable insights, practical strategies, and wisdom to navigate the ups and downs of raising children. From building strong connections to setting boundaries with love, this episode is packed with essential reads for every parent's bookshelf.Episode Recap:4:25 - These 5 books truly helped Karen in her parenting journey5:25 - Personality Plus for Parents unpacks the four temperaments7:30 - PPP helps you understand the child’s strengths and weaknesses, especially if they are very different from your own13:21- A Grown Ups Guide to Kids’ Wiring - great for “translating” our kids behavior and helping us speak to them in ways that are more effective 15:40 - Boundaries book: moms are afraid to set boundaries with our kids, but boundaries bring security18:17- The Birth Order Book explains how the order of our chil