The Dating Den

Today I'm joined by April Davis, founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking—and yes, she's married to a divorce attorney, which gives her a razor-sharp lens on what actually lasts. We dig into modern dating beyond the apps: values vs. chemistry, paradox of choice, readiness, standards, gender roles, and commitment—so real love stops feeling impossible and starts feeling inevitable. 3 Main Takeaways Values beat vibes. Chemistry fades; aligned values keep relationships stable long-term. Choice overload kills connection. The app era fuels paradox of choice and "dating for dismissal." Narrow on what actually matters. Readiness > checklist. Openness, fair conflict, and commitment predict lasting love more than "perfect" specs.     Deep Dive — 3 Core Topics 1) Values Over Chemistry (02:24–03:31) Timestamp: 02:24 What it means: Prioritizing values (character, life goals, family, faith, kids) prevents future mismatch that chemistry can hide. This shifts selection from short-term spark to long-term fit—dramat