Intentional Living With Tanya Hale

Have you ever thought about the fact that every action we engage in has a ripple effect?  When we do something, it will affect the people around us, then they will take that action, turn it into thoughts, feelings, and actions, and their actions will in turn affect the people around them, and on and on.  So what about our actions?  Are they creating the kind of ripple effect that we want to send out into the world?  Let's take a look at this today.

Respect is one of the most basic and fundamental elements in any healthy relationship.  Today we're going to discuss some of the indicators of a lack of respect so you can recognize your own unhealthy behaviors in this area, and also so you can recognize when respect is not being shown to you.  We'll also touch on the importance of consequences and boundaries in regards to respect.  If you don't have respect, you don't really have a relationship.

The word "should" is one that we really should take out of our vocabulary!  All it does is work to create controlling expectations of others and bring guilt and shame to ourselves.  When living from a place of should rather than a place of love, we break down the relationship with ourselves and with others.  Learning to do or do not, rather than shoulding ourselves is a place of self-care and compassion.

I love this one!  Today we are learning about how we can use our future to create our future.  Generally we tend to look to our past for patterns and examples of how to live our lives and create our future, but our past is limited by what we already know.  Our future is full of potential and ideas that we currently just dream of, so learning to tap into our future to help us create our future is an amazing way to move forward.  

Sometimes it seems as though we can't escape the difficulties of our past.  They just keep coming up and coming up and making our current lives so much more difficult.  But if we can really learn to embrace our past for the amazing lessons it has to teach, and to think in more positive ways about the challenges we have encountered in our lives, we will find the peace with our past that will allow us to have faith in our future.

Healing after a really difficult experience can be so challenging.  But healing can happen when we start to see the meaning behind the experience.  Learning to ask ourselves, "What can I learn from this?" rather than "Why did this have to happen to me?" is a process of learning to cue into our thoughts and start creating healing thoughts rather than thoughts that keep us stuck in pain.  Today we'll talk about how to do this.

Emotional abuse is such an inside killer of so many relationships, and most of us don't even know we're engaging in it.  Giving someone the silent treatment is one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse because so often we think we're taking the higher road by not yelling and screaming.  So today we're discussing what the silent treatment is, how we engage in it, and what we need to do whether we are the perpetrator or the victim.  Good stuff!

The River of Misery is the place of discomfort where all good things happen in our lives.  Growing from one form of ourselves to the upgraded version of ourselves is almost always a painful, difficult process, but it's the only way to move forward.  And growing is the only way to be happy.  And the River of Misery is the only way to grow.  So it's time to be willing to embrace the discomfort if we're going become the even more amazing person that we are.

Do you ever think of yourself as a fixer-upper?  Sometimes it seems there is just so much we need to fix to get us to a healthy and happy place.  But what if we were to embrace the idea that there isn't actually anything about ourselves that we need to fix?  What if we were to accept the fact that we are perfect just the way we are?  What if we could start believing that we are completely whole and that it's just our behaviors that need tweaking?  Let's chat about it.

So today I get a little bit personal when I tell you about a recent experience I had hurting someone's feelings and what I learned from it.  Basically, that it's all about love.  If I can get my heart to a place of love, everything in my life is better.  Love really is the answer if we want greater happiness and peace in our lives.

This podcast is prompted by three situations this week where people have felt that they don't need to worry about the consequences of their behavior because it's the other person's responsibility to control their thoughts using the thought model.  And yes, it is their responsibility, but it is also your responsibility to control your own actions and take responsibility for them.  We're talking today about how consequences and boundaries fit in with The Thought Model.  

Choosing to love yourself is one of the most important things we can do in this life.  The love we have for ourself is the impetus for all emotional health and deep peace and happiness.  When we love ourselves we unleash a potential for growth that will change the world we live in.  Today we discuss how to start changing all of those negative thoughts and become a person filled with love for themselves, others, and God. 

Isn't growing up an amazing thing?  The things I know now that I didn't know when I was younger are so great and life-changing.  Today I'm going to share six of my grown-up thoughts that have changed how I view the world and made me a better person.

Finding balance as our lives get busier and busier just seems to be so elusive.  So how do we live lives that don't seem to be spinning out of control?  Let's start by how we view our lives first.  Rather than seeking for perfect balance, embracing the idea that our lives are always unbalanced in certain seasons of our lives is a great first start. The second thing we can do is begin to seek to be centered rather than balanced.  Join me today and we'll chat about it!

The reasons behind why we do things have such a huge impact on the results in our lives.  Today we are discussing how our reasons for engaging in certain behaviors affects our relationship with God, with others, and with ourselves.  This is a concept worthy of a lot of self-reflection to understand where we are and where we want to go.

Ever wonder why sometimes changing behaviors can be so incredibly difficult?  Today we're discussing why that is and how we can work to make changes in our lives that are long-lasting.

Correcting and connecting.  A small difference of two little letters, a huge difference in how to get there and the results once we are there. When we seek to correct others, especially with the wrong motivation, we are always going to run into resistance.  But when we seek to connect with others first and always, we will break down walls that will allow for stronger relationships.  It can be so easy for us to feel as though it is our responsibility to correct the world around us, when really, it is way more our responsibility to connect the world around us. 

Really?  The secret to the universe?  Yep.  Today we are talking about how to really create the kind of peaceful, content life you really want to have.  How our thoughts can create exactly what we want from our circumstances so we can have stronger connections and relationships with those people around us.  Through this you can create your universe just the way you want it.  Really.

Although we often use the words guilt and shame interchangeably, understanding the difference between them can be a real eye-opener. Guilt can actually be a quite helpful feeling to experience as it will drive us to change our behaviors and move into a better space.  Shame, however, is never helpful.  It shuts us down and stops us from progressing.  Guilt says, "What I did was bad," and shame says, "I am bad."  This has huge implications in our daily journey.

One of the more difficult things many of us struggle with is minding our own business.  This is because we've been raised with the idea that it is our responsibility to make sure that everyone is happy and everyone is progressing and things are good.  When we feel this way we can become very controlling and start stepping into everyone else's business.  Minding our own business is really one of the most loving things we can do for people.