Intentional Living With Tanya Hale

The Thought Model is a tool I use in my life and with my clients to help them understand their feelings and actions better.  Building upon last week's podcast, today we're discussing how understanding our thought model can help us to feel more empowered and step into emotional adulthood.

Do you ever wonder why certain situations make you so happy or angry or frustrated?  Do you wonder why you act the way that you do or why the results in your life are what they are?  The Thought Model is a tool I use with coaching my clients that helps them to understand the connection between circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.  This is the basis for my coaching.  If you want to know how to feel more empowered in your life, understanding and implementing The Thought Model is the first step!

Who are the people who come through challenges and adversity more successful and fulfilled than they were before they experienced it?  You got it.  Resilient people.  People who have the ability to bounce back and recover easily.  How do we become more resilient?  Join me today and let's talk about it.

What is the right path and how do we determine if we are on it?  Join me today as I share with you my recent personal revelations about what I've learned about my path and the paths of others.  I love growing up and learning these kinds of things about myself!  

Feeling a deep sense of fulfillment in our lives is something that we innately crave, and yet, so many of us still struggle to get to a place where we feel we've tapped into the level of fulfillment we desire.  In this episode we discuss what does and what doesn't help us to feel fulfilled with our lives and where we are.  

Have you ever noticed that sometimes your love will come with conditions?  And not just conditions on the front end, but conditions on the back end as well?  We often expect that when we show love to another person that they will behave in a certain way in return.  That, my friends, is controlling and manipulative.  Clean love is when we learn to love without any expectation at all.  And that, is an amazing place to get to!

It is so easy to not only blame other people for things that go wrong in our lives, but just as easy to expect people to be responsible for our happiness and for fulfilling our needs.  Well, it's time to step up, my friends, and start taking responsibility for the emotions, including happiness, that we feel, and also for our own needs.  Wanting, or expecting, someone else to take care of these things for us leaves us completely powerless, and who wants that?

Divorce is traumatic, and we can carry that trauma with us for many years.  And it's not just the trauma of the separation, it's also the trauma of many years of developing unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the dysfunction.  This is a great discussion to help you become more aware of the trauma and learn how to work through it.

What do mid-agers and teenagers have in common?  A lot of angst!  And for a lot of reasons you may not have considered.  Join me today as we discuss how our mid-life funk correlates so strongly with the life of a teenager.  

Today I get to interview my good friend and fellow life coach, Jane Copier (janecopiercoaching.com).  Jane is an amazing coach who focuses on helping couples save their marriages.  If you've been married you know that it definitely has it's challenges, but you may not feel that divorce is the option for you.  That being said, you also don't know how to fix it and be in a healthier and happier marriage.  Jane can help!  

Why is personal growth so important?  Because our personal growth puts a lid on everything else that we engage with in our lives -- our relationships with others, God, and ourselves, as well as our work.  We are limiting every aspect of our lives by our lack of personal growth by what is known as The Law of the Lid.  

When is it self-care and when is it selfishness?  Good question!  But here's an important distinction.  Self-care is us taking care of our needs so that we then have the energy to take care of the needs of others, while selfishness seeks to exploit others to take care of our own needs.  We actually have to engage in self-care in order to be self-less.

Did you know that the actual words we speak are only 7% of our communication?  93% of what we say is communicated through the tone of our voice and our body language.  Today we're going to talk about our emotional tones and how they impact our relationships with others.  If we want to truly connect with the people around us, it's important to pay attention to our tones, understand where they come from, and how to change them.

What is it about mid-life that makes us feel tired all of the time?  I'll tell you a secret -- some of it has to do with what you're thinking.  Today we're talking about how to create energy with your thoughts when it feels like you don't have any.  Our thoughts create energy. . . who knew?!?  

So many of us are just not honest with ourselves.  Not on purpose, mind you, but unconsciously our brain perpetuates lies.  At one time these lies may have kept us safe or been coping mechanisms that helped us to manage the difficulties in our lives.  And even when they're no longer useful, our brain continues to tell these lies because they're easy and comfortable.  Learning to become aware of these thoughts and develop honesty with ourselves is vital for our growth and progression.  Let's chat about it.

Did you ever think that we couldn't have courage without fear?  They really do work together.  We often think of fear as only being a negative emotion, but when we adjust our thoughts around it, fear can be a great motivator to move us into courage.  And courage is when we grow and get things done!  

Is patience your thing or not your thing?  Most of us struggle at some level with being patient.  Today we're going to discuss the reasons behind our lack of patience and how to learn how to be more patient, creating a better version of ourselves and healthier relationships with those around us.

Alright, My Sweet Lady Friends, let's have a chat.  What do you want?  Do you know?  Some of us don't.  If you do know, do you let people around you know what you want?  Some of us don't.  Do you speak up and ask for what you want?  Some of us don't.  Today we're going to explore all of these scenarios and discuss why it's so important for us to know what we want and ask for it.

Want to be happier and more content in your life?  Numerous studies point to gratitude as a major player in creating what you're after.  And where can we find gratitude?  In our thoughts of course!  Because thoughts create our feelings.  Believe it or not, gratitude actually has nothing to do with the circumstances in our lives.  It's what we think about our circumstances that creates our feelings of gratitude.

I believe that one of the most damaging things we can do in our lives is to play small.  As women, we often feel this person inside of us wanting so desperately to come out and impact the world in amazing ways.  And yet we keep shushing her and buy into the cultural ideas that we have our place and should stay there.  But I know God gave us these talents, abilities, and desires for a reason.  Because we need to use them.   Let's get started!