Intentional Living With Tanya Hale

Have you wondered about life coaching and how it could help you? Today I will share two experiences of how working with my own life coach and using the self-coaching skills I teach you have moved me forward into more of the person I really want to become.    

Want to learn how to be more self-aware?  Let's start with this question, "Why is that?"  Take any behavior you engage in or any feeling you have and ask yourself this question and you will begin to understand yourself more clearly.  You will start to understand yourself in a way that will allow you the clarity necessary to start creating different experiences for yourself if you'd like.  Let's chat about it. . .

This can be a tough topic. But we're going to chat today about pornography use from both the user and the spouse today. Both have work to do. Both get to learn how to step out of being a victim and living from fear and choosing instead to step into responsibility and living from love. There is so much hope and empowerment available to all impacted by pornography use.    

We are 11 days into the new year and many of our resolutions are starting to not be so fun. What needs to happen for us to actually accomplish what we want to this year? How do we keep moving forward instead of slowing down and eventually quitting? Managing our thoughts around our goals and being very clear on our reasons and motivations top the list. Let's chat about it.

We live in a society that has a bit of an obsession with being happy. We can often see happiness as our ultimate goal in life, and we strive to be happy with everything we do. But where our culture often views happiness as a place of ease with no struggles or challenges, true happiness is actually something much different. Let's chat today about how we can truly have a happy new year.

Your life consists of so much more than being alive and healthy.  It is actually a gift from God.  What you are, who you are, your strengths and your weaknesses, your likes and dislikes, your dreams and desires are all a gift given to you from Your Creator.  Let's chat today about how we can more fully appreciate our lives and Our God who has gifted us with it.

Part of being a human is that some of the things we think and do are amazing, and some of them can be pretty rotten.  Sometimes we can spend so much energy avoiding and denying the darker parts of us, that we don't grow into the person we were created to become.  Because only in discovering our darkness can we begin to replace it, bit by bit, with the incredible light we have the capacity to become.  

Parenting.  One of the toughest gigs on the planet.  And it the gift that continually keeps giving us discomfort!  Today we discuss all the ways parenting brings us discomfort from the day they're born until today -- and why it's not only okay, but amazing and desirable!  Discomfort is just a feeling, and an opportunity to recognize an opportunity for growth.

Middle-Age is the best time for growing up!  Serious.  We have the experiences and the wisdom at this point in our lives to move forward at an unprecedented rate -- if we want to.  When we take the time to review our lives, our growth and progress, we can start to see just how amazing our paths have been, and will continue to be as we move into our futures.  

So many of us have the beliefs that our works, the things we do or don't do in life, are what creates our worth. In actuality, our works and our worth don't have anything to do with each other. Our worth is not, and never has been negotiable by the things that we do. Add to that the fact that discovering and embracing our worth is the key to really finding fulfillment in life, and we have a topic worth exploring!

Many of us are so responsible in our lives, but have never really learned how to be emotionally responsible. We continue to blame other people for our feelings, giving others the credit for us being angry or frustrated or annoyed. We also abdicate our emotional responsibility when we expect other people to make us feel happy or loved or empowered. Part of the joy in growing up is realizing that all of our emotions are our responsibility.

It seems so easy to think that if we change our circumstance that things will get better, and they might, for a very short time.  Eventually we will catch up with circumstance and find ourselves in the same place.  When we learn to change ourselves first and our circumstance second, then we can walk away feeling complete and satisfied.  Let's chat today about loving your circumstance before you leave it.

We have been taught our whole lives to "fake it till you make it," "just do it," "embrace the suck," and "do the thing you don't want to do." Great phrases for a short-term fix. But if we want to really create lasting change in our lives, we have to stop "white-knuckling" our behaviors and create change from our thoughts rather than from sheer will-power. Let's chat today about how to do that.

The thoughts we think about ourselves are incredibly powerful, because they create everything that we are and everything that we will be.  What thoughts about yourself are going on in your head?  Are those thoughts setting you up for a healthier life?  For better relationships?  If not, it's time to switch out those thoughts for ones that will create a better version of yourself.  Today, we're talking about how to do just that.

The story that we choose to tell ourselves and believe is one of the most powerful choices we can make.  Because every story can be told from many different perspectives, and that makes all the difference in whether we approach our lives from a place of power and learning or a place a victimization and stagnation.  Join me today and I'll show you how this works.

The world we live in is a very uncertain place -- and it always has been.  In this very uncertain world, what can we do to be self-certain?  And just where do I get me some of that self-certainty?  We can never be sure of what tomorrow will bring, but we can be certain that when the struggle is over that we will come out on top, a stronger and healthier version of ourselves.  Let's chat about it.

One of the best ways to start digging deep into ourselves and seeing what's holding us back is to start looking at our motivation for what we do.  And ultimately, always, it comes back to love or fear.  When we're motivated by fear, we destroy.  When we're motivated by love, we create.  Understanding and choosing love as our motivation can help us start creating the life and the relationships that we ultimately crave.

So many people have a lot of questions about divorce, the whys and the hows -- and I'm never afraid to answer them even though they are usually hesitant to ask.  So today, I'll share with you some of the most frequently asked questions about how I knew it was the right decision, to my regrets, what I'm grateful for, and also some advice.  

Taking 100% responsibility for our lives is one of the most important things we can do to grow and progress.  And yet, it can be so difficult to do when we have behaviors that hold us back that we're not aware of, or when we know we are right in a situation.  What is there to take responsibility for when I'm not to blame?  More than you would think.  Let's chat about it!

What are the behaviors that would be classified as anti-responsibility?  Chances are, if you are like me, most (if not all) of these 19 behaviors are ones that you have engaged in at some point.  Stepping away from responsibility is a sure-fire way to step away from our growth and progression.  Let's talk today about what anti-responsibility looks like.