Cupid's Coach With Julie Ferman

Is "your type" the right choice for you, in reality? Listen in on Robin's story, as she and I wrestle with that question, and as she develops the courage to consciously choose to engage with men who are off-type. And how one guy got the girl through patience, persistence, confidence, and a bit of yard work!  

Join in on my conversation with Kathryn Alice, on recovering from loss and discovering the blocks that both protect us and limit us. How to release unhealthy attachments to a past love, former lifestyle or limiting belief, to clear space for fresh, new beginnings. What is Crazy Love? How to manage hot chemistry and how to recognize a true soulmate candidate. Plus, secrets to aligning on the pace of dating, and learning how to nurture a smarter, slower, more conscious courtship process!  

How large is your generosity of spirit? How courageous and compassionate have you been being with your communication? When we screw up, the value in a sincere apology and how to restore trust and engagement. Is why you're single related to your alcohol or pot smoking habits? Is it time to do a 30-day No Alcohol Challenge? What might happen to your dating life if you carved off that extra 10-20 pounds? How broken is your picker? How to negotiate politics and the pandemic paranoia quotient and how your most effective flirting tool today is....your facemask.

Listen in to discover how curiosity is more powerful than judgment in dating. How one new couple is negotiating finances, sex, political differences, who eats what, and who sleeps where. Surprisingly romantic dates over fast food and long, lazy road trips. The slippery slope that unhealthy habits are and how to get back on track. And how Jake transformed from awkward to awesome, simply by being willing to try, to learn, to venture out and to use dating as a vehicle for growth and his own evolution. 

Have you uncoupled consciously from your past relationships? Join me as Katherine Woodward Thomas shares why looking back into our history, with a guide, is essential in getting prepared for a healthy, mature future relationship. What is it to settle - with others and with ourselves? What do our patterns, triggers and choices say about us, and what does it take to move beyond what has been and what is now to what might be in the future?

Love as a powerful motivator, now more than ever! Listen in as I share real life stories of courageous men and women who are finding creative ways to date, even today.  Picnic dates with fresh lilacs, patio, portal and poolside dates, and spontaneous magic under a Cottonwood tree. A socially distant speed-dating event at a shelter in a park in Washington State. What great sports people are being! How one self described Plain Jane built her own social community and how a once separated couple are learning to live together and parent together, turning a crisis into a second chance for love!

Listen in as I interview Match.com's Chief Dating Expert Rachel DeAlto on the art of being relatable. The nature of expectations and why "your type" might not be working for you. Why calling cards are back in fashion and how women can be more assertive in early courtship. Remote video date flops and tips. Connecting through smiles, playfulness, sincerity, and contribution. Taking more chances, and learning to lean into each other!  

Creating dating magic...even now! Stark contrasts, and how do you receive opportunities? Are you a Human No Machine, or do you welcome and embrace opportunities and invitations? How to tell before meeting who's solid - and who's a hot mess?  How to have magical first dates by Zoom and how to have a romantic park bench date. Fun questions and topics for pandemic era first dates. Using this down time to build your black book and to fall more deeply in love with yourself, and how to save a date from going south!

Tune in on my conversation with Christina Weber, founder of Deepen, as we explore bonding through vulnerability. Does loneliness reflect selfishness? Are we truly more isolated when alone or when we're super busy? How does a guy go in for a kiss in today's germ-phobic culture? Transforming fear and skepticism into universal trust by embracing our soul's life journey. Activities that foster and enable relational skills and connection, and how magic is  is available just outside our comfort zones!  

Listen in as I tap into the wisdom of Dr. Ava Cadell, renowned sexologist regarding managing loneliness and depression. Nurturing loving kindness, water therapy, self-care; healing from fear, pain, loss, toxic relationships, releasing shame and guilt. Creating space, holding space, especially in tight quarters.How to come out of this better than before. Can courtship happen via video chat, without pheromones? How to connect and develop intimacy first, saving the bedroom for later. Deepening self love and intimacy with a new love interest through White Tantra. Sex toys, fantasies, erotic talk, roleplaying, developing a healthy body image, good porn vs. bad porn, and why seniors are having fantastic sex! 

Join in on a lively, edu-taining discussion with Jim Cathcart about developing confidence amid uncertainty. How to discover the opportunities in unintended consequences. The power in the word "yet" to shift from stuck to forward movement. The secret to developing discipline and healthy habits. Managing mindset, yours and your date's, and how to get out of a funk. Managing relationships while under pressure, in tight quarters. Creating and respecting boundaries, knowing what to ask for, what to let go of, and when to compromise!

Listen in as Arielle Ford shares how soulmates get magnetized. The healing nature of partnership; how to date, relate, and engage in relationship - even as an imperfect, flawed person. When to and how to reveal our weaknesses, flaws and critical deal-breakers. The secret to getting into alignment on finances and sex. What women can do to nurture masculinity in men and when to let go of being "right" in favor of and in honor of love. How to have more loving moments, how to choose love, appreciation and gratitude, even when things get ugly. What's your part in creating your own happiness and utter contentment?

What does dating look like during a global pandemic? Listen in as I share examples of men and women whose love lives are blossoming, even in these bizarre times. Now is a great time to take new dating photos, with a professional, or at home with your iphone. What about Skype dates, Zoom dates, Facetime dates? Hear about a guy who packed up his RV to explore every park en route to Wyoming to rekindle a lost relationship. How to use this quiet, down time to strengthen your relationship with yourself and to practice healthy, life changing habits. Love ... what else really matters?   

Join me in my office, to observe dating done well, and .... dating done badly. Are you falling into the Bigger Better Deal Trap? Or are you someone who makes your own gravy? Discover why the Hunky GQ guy didn't get the third date, and why the other "less HOT" guy DID. How Skype dates are solving problems, and what to do when you suspect that you might be shooting out of your league!

Listen in as Julie interviews Interview Expert Allana Pratt about the nature of intimacy and the key to that kingdom. What there is to do when romance sparks aren't flying - or when things start to get stale. And finally, why erections are overrated, what rigidity in love truly is!

Listen in on a conversation between two matchmakers. Julie interviews colleague May Hui to glean insights from a decade of speed dating events and thousands of first dates. Discover why 60% of available candidates are overlooked, and why there's gold there to mine. Distance, height, ethnicity -- might you rethink these criteria? Hear about people who did...and what happened!

Why does dating go well for some people and...not for others? Join me as I shine a light on the WHY of both, through real life dating scenarios from this last week. What should she do when the date he doesn't grab the check, or when his idea of a fun second date turns you off. What about the Average Joe who's going for women who consistently turn him down? And what one woman did to unfreeze a man's heart!

Managing the constant stream of communications that hit our desks and devices every day?  It's maddening, and it's affected dating big time. Listen in as we address this pesky issue head on. Discover if your expectations regarding communicating are absurd and unreasonable, or ... manageable for the people in your life. Challenge yourself to take back control of your communications - so those who matter can find you and connect with you. And turn down the noise everywhere else - it may be the one thing that will change everything for you in your dating adventure!

Join me as I share some of last year's Success Stories, the couples who did manage to transform me to we! Discover how couples overcame obstacles like religion and distance, and how some seeds take years to sprout.  Learn how to work an event and the magic in a second chance. Throw some parties of your own this year, get really good at engaging and initiating. And, this year, let's get you coupled up!

Laugh with me over 1958 advice on where and how to snag a man. Which tactics are outdated, and which are timeless and spot on today? I'll give you the courage to ditch that five year old photo and maybe change up your hair or drop those pesky ten pounds. Find out how Mr. GQ blew it at my party - and how to make your holiday events magical. And rethinking those deal-breakers; the long distance relationship that did work out and why it's totally fine that her income doubles his!