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Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, adventure technologist, Chief Product Officer of Countable, and -- as you'll soon discover -- quite savvy in negotiation. This is part three of a three-part series. Make sure to check out parts one and two!  What We Discuss with Alex Kouts: Why the post-mortem of the way a negotiation plays out rarely finds tactics to be responsible for the outcome -- and what actually is. What we should remember about the human beings on the other side of the negotiation table in relation to our own ability to leverage a desirable outcome. The toolbox of tactics that opens up to us when we can put ourselves in the shoes of the people with whom we're negotiating rather than focusing on our own emotions. Questions we can ask someone on the other side of the table to understand who we're dealing with, what motivates them, and put them in a position to react to us rather than the other way around. How to better look outward rather than inward when under the stress of a negotiation in progress

Barbara Boxer (@BarbaraBoxer) served as a United States Senator for California from 1993 to 2017 and in the U.S. House of Representatives from 1983 to 1993. She is the co-host (with Nicole Boxer) of podcast Fight Back, and author of The Art of Tough: Fearlessly Facing Politics and Life. What We Discuss with Barbara Boxer: The life experiences that fueled Barbara's involvement in politics with the passion of an activist. How to get tough when the odds are stacked against you and you just want to quit. The concept of courage -- how it develops and how to summon it when you really need it. How to seek common ground and get things done when it seems like you're never going to see eye to eye with your colleagues. How Barbara really feels about the relentless attention of her social media trolls. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networkin

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! ZipRecruiter co-founder and CEO Ian Siegel (@ZipRecruiterCEO) joins us for a brief bonus toward the end of the episode, so stay tuned! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Wondering how to get a job in this data-driven society? Make sure to stick around after the end of this Feedback Friday for a bonus interview with ZipRecruiter CEO and co-founder Ian Siegel! Getting caught up? Make sure to check out our episodes from this week with Dr. Drew Pinsky and part two of our negotiation series with Alex Kouts! What's the best way to get to "yes" while negotiating with someone via email? What is the appropriate response when your best friend of 10 years suddenly sta

Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, adventure technologist, Chief Product Officer of Countable, and -- as you'll soon discover -- quite savvy in negotiation. This is part two of a three-part series. Make sure to check out parts one and three!  What We Discuss with Alex Kouts: How to control a negotiation by making the other side reactive. Common mistakes that result in amateurs (and sometimes even professionals) negotiating against themselves. Understand how to use strategic silence -- and know when strategic silence is being used against you. How negotiations tend to differ for women and men. What we gain by giving the other party the illusion of control over the negotiation and what we can do to nudge them in that direction. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com

Dr. Drew Pinsky (@drdrew) is a celebrity doctor who has been hosting shows -- from radio to television to podcasts -- for more than 30 years, most well-known for Loveline from 1984 to 2016. His current hosting duties include The Dr. Drew Podcast and The Adam and Dr. Drew Show among many others. What We Discuss with Dr. Drew: How Dr. Drew reaches to the heart of an issue in seconds with his callers by listening with his whole body. People who seem to "have it all" are dealing with the same issues as everyone else. The difference between how Dr. Drew used to respond to criticism of his work compared to today. What experiencing imposter syndrome usually reveals about you. How we can spot the behaviors of addiction in others as well as ourselves. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Getting caught up? Make sure to check out our episodes from this week with Adam Carolla and Alex Kouts! You always take steps to improve your life with the best of intentions, but soon regress to old, bad habits. How can you break this pattern? Now that you're a free agent after enduring a difficult and draining marriage, are you wasting mental energy better spent on your career by trying to get into another relationship? When you've been raised on the "if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all" philosophy, how do you get along with your in-laws who only seem to know how to complain about everything? How does

Alex Kouts (@akouts) is a teacher, adventure technologist, Chief Product Officer of Countable, and -- as you'll soon discover -- quite savvy in negotiation. This is part one of a three-part series. Make sure to check out parts two and three!  What We Discuss with Alex Kouts: How to negotiate for anything -- from your salary to a new mattress. How the relation between progress and pain works. Why no talent + hard work will always beat talent + no work. Is Google stalking to prepare for an interview or negotiation a good thing? How many "no" answers can you get in five days -- and what could this possibly teach you about negotiation? And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.c

Adam Carolla (@adamcarolla) is a best-selling author, comedian, actor, and host of The Adam Carolla Show -- the Guinness World Record holder for Most Downloaded Podcast. What We Discuss with Adam Carolla: How Adam came up in comedy and resisted negative influences. Why trading time for money is a losing proposition and how we can break the cycle. Sometimes you don't need a grand plan to break away from a medieval laborer's mindset -- just the motivation to do something more with your life. How to tell if we're doing something for ourselves or doing something based on pressure from others. Why it's important to run toward your fear. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When times seem tough, just remember it's rare they ever get "stuck in a cave in Thailand awaiting uncertain rescue" tough. Do you ever feel like you can't accept someone else's offer of help for fear that you will owe them something that you can't "pay back?" Is there ever a right time to have kids? Way of the Peaceful Warrior author and friend of the show Dan Millman writes in with his take. Is it true that there are more and bigger opportunities in the big city? When is Producer Jason going to graduate to Co-Host Jason? When you're creating content for the general public (like Y

Allen Gannett (@allen) is the founder and CEO of TrackMaven, a placeholder on the 30 under 30 lists for both Forbes and Inc., and the author of The Creative Curve: How To Develop The Right Idea, At The Right Time. What We Discuss with Allen Gannett: Creativity isn't innate to a lucky few geniuses; it's a quality that anyone can learn to develop. Why many stories about so-called geniuses are embellished to sell an inaccurate idea of what creativity is and where this quality comes from. What various fields of study have known -- for years -- about the relationship between intelligence and creativity and how this is at odds with popular belief. Steps that show us how we can cultivate the right qualities and environment so that episodes of creative genius are more likely to strike us when we need it. The four laws of the creative curve that, if followed, will endow anyone with creative prowess. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your T

Guy Winch (@GuyWinch) is a licensed psychologist, leading advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives, workplaces, and education systems, and author of How to Fix a Broken Heart. What We Discuss with Guy Winch: While our physical body works overtime to heal itself when injured, our mind counterintuitively works against healing the wounds of emotional trauma. Guy explains why this happens and why it's imperative to intervene. The insidious lengths to which the mind will go to keep us perpetually experiencing pain and how we can take back control from our default autopilot. We can't passively count on time to heal all wounds. We need to take a more active role in our recovery from an emotional wound. If you shame someone who is coping with the death of a pet or otherwise lack the ability to empathize with their pain, you might be kind of a monster. Getting comfortable asking for help when we're recovering from emotional trauma helps others understand that it's okay for the

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you continue to have a relationship with a family member in which you can focus more on positive things you have in common rather than what he or she is stressed or anxious about? Feedback Friday 18 is episode number 26, and here's a listener's follow-up to a discussion we had there. How do you reframe a job -- that's got amazing perks but doesn't challenge you -- and change your mindset so you don't get stuck in a rut? Addiction to anything is a struggle -- even if it's "just" video games and pot. But how can you kick your addictions when you're burned out on real life and do

Sean Young (@SeanYoungPhD) is the Executive Director of the University of California Institute for Prediction Technology and the author of Stick with It: A Scientifically Proven Process for Changing Your Life -- for Good. What We Discuss with Sean Young: Archaic strategies for behavior change that almost certainly never work -- even though people every day who should know better act like they never got the memo. The ABCs of behavior: Automatic, Burning, and Common. The SCIENCE model of lasting change: Stepladders, Community, Important, Easy, Neurohacks, Captivating, Engrained Which of these behavior change tools we can apply to each behavior type. How to formulate strategies to uncover, classify, and eradicate bad habits or build good habits -- and make the desired changes stick. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relat

Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the author of New York Times Best Seller When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, which examines the psychology, biology, and economics behind scheduling for optimal effect -- and why your ideal time to get something done may widely differ from someone else's. What We Discuss with Daniel Pink: Timing is everything -- but we're only now beginning to connect the dots between fields of research to discover the science behind how timing actually works. How humans are wired for time by chronotypes, how to identify our own particular chronotype, and what we can do to match our schedules to this chronotype. What the trough is, how it differs according to chronotype, and how it affects the decisions we make -- for better or worse. How observing the nappuccino and other restorative breaks during the day can minimize the worst effects of the trough. Why lunch is really the most important meal of the day. And much more... Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one s

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Hollywood: gross as it ever was! Do you ever feel threatened or outright disgusted when you think of your significant other's "colorful" dating history? If you've got a cleavage-staring problem, you might benefit from the eye color drill and this listener's feedback. Does crowdsourcing the work of creative professionals devalue their time? How do you express empathy and support for someone who never follows your advice -- even though the consequences usually prove such advice is consistently sound? You can't force old friends you care about to make positive changes in their lives, but do you have to put u

Shaun T (@ShaunT) has become one of the most recognizable fitness trainers in the world while running programs like Hip Hop Abs, Insanity, and Shaun Week. He's also the author of T Is for Transformation: Unleash the 7 Superpowers to Help You Dig Deeper, Feel Stronger, and Live Your Best Life. What We Discuss with Shaun T: Why Shaun T believes in living life with truth, trust, and transparency after decades of hiding in the closet about his sexuality -- and how most of us are in the closet about something whether we realize it or not. What Shaun uncovered about his own patterns of behavior by going to therapy. Looking at our life as a series of turning points, and how we can use those turning points to continue moving forward. Using our anger to motivate us instead of hold us down. Why we often keep ourselves down so others around us won't get angry or jealous. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!

Todd Kashdan (@toddkashdan) is a Professor of Psychology and Senior Scientist at the Center for the Advancement of Well-Being at George Mason University and co-author of The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self -- Not Just Your "Good" Self -- Drives Success and Fulfillment. What We Discuss with Todd Kashdan: Why trying to be positive and happy all the time may be harming your ability to get things done and achieve the results you want. How what you may think of as negative emotions -- like anger -- can be useful superpowers with the proper awareness and application. The problem with living in a time and place when distraction from discomfort comes in an easier and greater variety than ever before. Why every decision you make now is based on how you expect to feel in the future -- and you probably underestimate your ability to tolerate distress. How you can use the discomfort caveat to ease out of the "put on a happy face" rut around others. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are joined by Marni Kinrys (@winggirlmethod) for this round of Feedback Friday! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there a psychological issue at play if you can't help but look at a woman's cleavage in conversation? Is there a way to change this habit? Though you used to be outgoing and oblivious to what people thought of you, you've found yourself more shy and reserved in social situations lately. How can you get back to your normal stride? Here's one quick way to determine if trying to win back your "just a friend" ex is the right call for you. If you feel like you only have time to meet new people on Tinder, do you have time to invest in a serious relationship? How young is too young to move in with a significant other? How can a female athlete

Jason Flom (@itsjasonflom) is the founder and CEO of Lava Records responsible for launching acts such as Katy Perry, Kid Rock, and Lorde, a philanthropist who has supported and championed various political and social causes, the host of podcast Wrongful Conviction with Jason Flom, and the co-author of Lulu Is a Rhinoceros. What We Discuss with Jason Flom: Why Jason has always rooted for the underdog -- from bullied siblings to sports teams to endangered species to the wrongfully incarcerated -- and how he's passed this sensibility along to the next generation of Floms. How one stays relevant in the entertainment industry, which is always asking: "What have you done for me lately?" The role relationships play at the top of the music game -- one of the most competitive industries on the planet. What we can learn from the wrongfully convicted, and why many of us are -- for the grace of good fortune -- just a hair away from a similar fate. Why Jason's bulldog is actually a rhinoceros and what he hopes this

Phil Hellmuth (@phil_hellmuth) has won the World Series of Poker 14 times, is in the WSOP's Poker Hall of Fame, and is the author of New York Times Best Seller Play Poker Like the Pros and Poker Brat: Phil Hellmuth's Autobiography. What We Discuss with Phil Hellmuth: The epiphany Phil Hellmuth had in his early twenties that set the course for the rest of his life. Nonverbal tells and body language for reading other people at the poker table. Why poker is more about playing the people across the table from you rather than the cards in your hands. How poker players control their emotions while playing. How Phil's mindsets and key belief systems have helped him excel in the world of poker and beyond. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and