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Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. What We Discuss with Linda Carroll: What to do when good chemistry goes bad. Why falling in love with "forbidden" people feels so exciting -- even when we know it's wrong. What to do when we find ourselves Facebook-stalking old flames and fantasizing about rekindling relationships probably best left in the past. What happens to an otherwise good relationship under constant attack by misfiring fight or flight chemicals (and how to get back on target). How to get over the end of a devastating relationship and on with your life. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resourc

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's so wrong with a lawyer driving an Accord? Should you be firm or friendly when you're a landlord and you're pretty certain your tenant just lied to you about paying the rent? Is protocol for who picks up the check different between Maui and the mainland? 24 and thinking of living abroad? You'll never have less responsibility than you do now. How do you start making connections from scratch in a new field? When you own your own business, how do you give yourself a raise without making your clients feel like you're trying to pull a fast one? What's the surefire right way to refer to women? Recommenda

Annie Duke (@AnnieDuke) is a World Series poker champion, Ante Up for Africa co-founder, public speaker, and author of Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts. What We Discuss with Annie Duke: Thinking in Bets isn't really about poker -- and neither is this episode. Two things that determine the quality of our lives: the quality of our decisions and luck; we'll learn to understand the difference between the two. Common mistakes we make when evaluating decisions, namely something called resulting -- which all of us do -- which leads to worse decision quality over time. How we can become better belief calibrators, and why this helps us mitigate bias in our thinking and in our decision-making process. How Annie and other world champion poker players have formed decision-making pods with one another to help them get better at decision quality and strategy, and how you can do the same. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relations

Ryan Michler (@orderofman) is a husband, father, Iraq combat veteran, founder of Order of Man, and author of Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. What We Discuss with Ryan Michler: How the dismissal of masculinity as a positive force in popular society has led to an alarming shortage of strong, ambitious, and self-sufficient men. The 13 virtues crucial for men to reclaim their own sovereignty -- and what this means. How men can create a battle plan to level up skill sets within these virtues. Why acknowledging the enemy inside as the source of all troubles rather than blaming external enemies is ultimately empowering. How to formulate an after action review to analyze the effectiveness of every encounter, project, or conversation and grow from the experience. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If you're catching up with the week behind us, make sure to give our conversations with David Burkus and Duana Welch a listen! Struggling with patience? Here's our advice for coping with the here and now in its own sweet time. How can you leave a positive, lasting impression to kick off a positive and friendly relationship with a new connection to your professional network? What can you do for a long distance friend in serious need of potentially life-saving help? Should you intervene in an unhealthy co-dependence between two friends? If so, how? Is traveling the world alone only for drifters and hobos

Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to people’s real-life relationship issues at her Love Science blog and in her book Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do. What We Discuss with Duana Welch: How jealousy differs from envy. The evolutionary purpose of jealousy and why it affects even the typically cooler-headed among us. How we can leverage jealousy like a human smoke detector. What makes both men and women jealous, and how we can use that jealousy to move relationships forward rather than tearing them apart. Jealousy red flags and warning signs -- and rational strategies to employ when we encounter them. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at ht

David Burkus (@davidburkus) is a sought after speaker, business school professor, regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, and author of Friend of a Friend...: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career. What We Discuss with David Burkus: How we can grow our networks based on the science of human behavior, not rote networking advice. How to take advantage of our existing network's weak and dormant ties. What it means to be a structural hole-filling broker of ultimate value to our entire network. How to become a superconnector. Using the illusion of the majority to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy an

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there a way to encourage a significant other to work on him or herself without coming off as critical or patronizing? What if your friends are right and you really are an asshole? How should (and shouldn't) you open a cold conversation with a stranger on LinkedIn? How do you persistently remind a potential mentor you exist without being annoying? Why don't we have more women guests on the show? (Short answer: we'd like to! Please refer them our way!) Should being transgender change the way you network and develop social connections in the workplace? What's the best way to travel and explore the worl

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) rejoins us to deep dive into why the fresh eyes of an amateur often spot what the professionals miss, and how we can get some of that so-called beginner's luck to rub off on us no matter how experienced we happen to be. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: The experience paradox: while experience helps us solve problems with precision and focus, it also blinds us to alternative -- sometimes better -- solutions. Experts rely on technique and convention; amateurs are guided by insight and intuition. What Einstein understood about the importance of maintaining an amateur's mindset when tackling problems no expert had yet solved. Why making it through the amateur stage is crucial for growth -- or even beginning -- any endeavor. (If you knew then what you know now, you might not have even gone through the trouble of starting!) How we can take advantage of our expertise without losing the beginner's amateur insight. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free n

Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and author of Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us. What We Discuss with Will Storr: What is the neoliberal self? Are we born with innate self-obsession, or is it picked up along the way? What happens when our fictionalized sense of self clashes with reality? Why do we overprivilege and credit select individuals for the accomplishments of many while blaming ourselves for not living up to their impossible examples? The dangers of perfectionistic thinking. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our episode with Vanessa Van Edwards should have video by the time you hear this. Sorry for the delay! Andrew Warner is hiring a second in command to run Mixergy, his Silicon Valley-based podcast business. Are you someone who can't stop thinking of podcast marketing ideas? Think you'd be good at recruiting top guests? To apply, go to AndrewWarner.com/hiring The roommate switch? It can't be done. How might an obliger (Gretchen Rubin, episode 18) self-motivate to learn a new language? How do you take notes like a pro -- and put them to good use afterward? Remember: anything "free" comes with a price. Wha

Bob Burg (@BobBurg) is the co-author of The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story About a Most Persuasive Idea, a parable about the power of genuine influence in business and beyond. What We Discuss with Bob Burg: Disagreement -- especially online -- is more common than persuasion or advancing the conversation. What can we do to change this? How "listening with the back of the neck" helps us find common understanding with others. The seatbelt principle of emotions and how we can work on our ability to react in ways that result in more productive disagreements. Setting the right frames and responding to negative ones. How to say "no" in a way that doesn't end up getting us in trouble later down the line. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show no

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to make a graceful exit with social cues. How to nicely interrupt someone with social cues. How to introduce someone whose name you don't remember. How to show someone you are (or are not) attracted to them with social cues. How to show someone you don't believe them with social cues. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Fixated on the past? Not us. Like The Jeffersons, we're movin' on up! That being said, we appreciate you passing the memo along to people who don't yet know about the move. If a friend avoids you to get out of paying back a loan, should you just write it off as an investment in learning who isn't your friend? If you grew up in the US but had to leave because you didn't win the work visa lottery, how do you make do in a place you don't really want to be until you can make it back to the US? Are you Jordan's good friend? How do you go about rebuilding your social circles when your old friends stop calling

James Fallon (@jameshfallon) is a professor of psychiatry and human behavior at the University of California, Irvine and author of The Psychopath Inside: A Neuroscientist's Personal Journey into the Dark Side of the Brain. What We Discuss with James Fallon: The ingredients that go into creating a psychopath. The differences between psychopaths and sociopaths. How we as a society can limit the expression of psychopathic and sociopathic traits -- and why evolution hasn't done the job already. How to spot a psychopath. Why psychopaths are so good at manipulating people -- and what we can do about it. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy N

David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a neuroscientist at Stanford, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, author and co-author of several books including The Runaway Species: How Human Creativity Remakes the World, and CSO of NeoSensory, a company that specializes in sensory substitution technology. What We Discuss with David Eagleman: The science that encourages lifelong learning as a way to fend off the effects of neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer's. How the human brain processes senses beyond sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch -- and how we might upgrade our senses in the not-too-distant future. What flipping a coin can tell us about the subconscious brain. How our memories and self-identities are built from the brain's interpretation of reality -- which is quite different from reality itself. Will we ever be able to download skills directly into our brains? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanha

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you maintain the momentum of your self-improvement milestones in the wake of a difficult breakup? Do you need continuous novelty in your professional life? In any industry, it's better to spend eight hours to miss the chance to work for a narcissist than eight months -- or eight years. But sometimes it's hard to spot them when the industry is entertainment. How do you approach someone cold and build rapid trust with them when you're an INTJ who only knows how to flirt with disaster? Is getting your hopes up just a recipe for disappointment, or should you embrace the motivation of excitement when i

Joshua Fruth is a military intelligence officer, police captain, financial crime expert, and Director of Anti-Money Laundering Advisory Services at Matrix-IFS who joins us to discuss the war on money laundering and why it matters. What We Discuss with Joshua Fruth: What money laundering is and how it works. Who benefits and who loses from money laundering. How an investigator learns to think like the people he or she is investigating. What needs to happen before intelligence gathering can even begin. Why tracking the money trail is so valuable in the fight against criminals and terrorists. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice

Melissa Dahl (@melissadahl) is a senior editor covering health and psychology for New York's The Cut. In 2014, she co-founded New York magazine's popular social science site Science of Us. Her first book, Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, is out now. What We Discuss with Melissa Dahl: Awkwardness does not have to make us feel alone -- in fact, the things that make us cringe can serve to remind us of how connected we all truly are. Our concept of ourselves is often constructed externally -- by how we think other people view us. How awkwardness can help us have tough conversations about race, politics, and gender. How we can stop stop reliving embarrassing memories. How to remap and reframe feelings of awkwardness or embarrassment and use them to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including you

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Having trouble listening to this podcast on Android or iOS? We recommend CastBox or PodcastOne. Tips for someone with little to no self-control who procrastinates and is easily distracted. Is it strange to take the last name of someone you're dating -- even if you're not in a hurry to get married? What's our secret to reading so many books over the course of a week -- and do we recommend it for most people? Tips for learning about a subject or topic in which you don't have a lot of experience. Mean Girls and Heathers exist in college, too. How should you deal with these bantamweight bullies? What's