The Jordan Harbinger Show

Randolph Nesse (@randynesse) is the founding director of the Center for Evolution Medicine at Arizona State University and author of Good Reasons for Bad Feelings: Insights from the Frontier of Evolutionary Psychiatry. What We Discuss with Randolph Nesse: What possible purpose do anxiety, depression, and anger serve from an evolutionary standpoint? Why the body's mechanisms for keeping us safe often overreact, and what we can do to get a handle on them when they work a little too well. The evolutionary upsides to worrying about what other people think of us. Why natural selection shapes our behavior toward reproduction rather than health and longevity. Why do women often go for the reckless mate instead of the safe mate -- and why do men stick around at all? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/377 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave

Because of the economic downturn, you're forced to lay off someone who gave up a lot to accept the job on your recommendation. How do you fire someone you care about? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/376 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Because of the economic downturn, you're forced to lay off someone who gave up a lot to accept the job on your recommendation. How do you fire someone you care about? How should you approach handshakes and face masks for an onsite job interview during the pandemic without seeming un

Bob Sutton (@work_matters) is a Stanford Business School professor and author of New York Times bestseller The No Asshole Rule and, most recently, The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt. What We Discuss with Bob Sutton: What is an a-hole, and why do they seem to be everywhere? Why a-holes do not finish first. What to do if you’re forced to work with an a-hole. How to spot the red flags that help you avoid dealing with a-holes in the first place — or know when it’s time to quit the a-holes who are already in your life. How to tell if maybe you’re the a-hole. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/375 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy an

Kelly McGonigal (@kellymcgonigal) is a research psychologist, a lecturer at Stanford University, and an award-winning science writer. She is the author of The Joy of Movement, The Willpower Instinct, and The Upside of Stress. What We Discuss with Kelly McGonigal: How much does the way you think about stress affect your health? Contrary to what medical professionals have been telling you for years, can there really be such a thing as good stress? Why trying to shame someone out of a harmful coping mechanism (overeating, smoking, etc.) can generate the very stress that prompts reliance on that mechanism. How anxiety, pangs of loneliness, and other indications of stress can be seen as calls to action instead of triggers for inappropriate responses. How do genetics play into your relationship with stress? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/374 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbi

Your wife refuses to stand up to her mother about her failing health, instead leaving it up to you to hound her about blood sugar levels, smoking, etc. How can you get your wife more involved in your mother-in-law's health? We'll tackle this and much more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/373 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Some food for thought from Ryan Holiday's The Daily Dad newsletter. Your wife refuses to stand up to her mother about her failing health, instead leaving it up to you to hound her about blood sugar levels, smoking, etc. Ho

Bob Saget (@bobsaget) is a comedian, actor, director, host of the Bob Saget's Here For You podcast, and author of Dirty Daddy: The Chronicles of a Family Man Turned Filthy Comedian. What we discuss with Bob Saget: The shared age at which Bob Saget and Richard Pryor knew they were funny. How Bob's sense of humor developed as a mechanism to avoid pain. Why Bob has reinvented himself repeatedly over the course of his career -- from the wholesome family man he portrayed on Full House to the dirty lecher he played on Entourage (and all points between). The big breaks that can come from life's worst disappointments. Bob's proven remedy for dealing with the haters (and we all have haters). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/372 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitt

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) is a regular contributing writer for The New Yorker, a bestselling author, and an international poker champion -- a title she earned while researching her latest book, The Biggest Bluff: How I Learned to Pay Attention, Master Myself, and Win. What We Discuss with Maria Konnikova: How Maria went from being someone who had no interest in poker to raking in big bucks as an international poker champion. How people make decisions and what poker can tell us about reading human motivation. How to spot real physical tells at the poker table (and real life). How we can control and prevent emotional thinking (aka "going on tilt"). Why, in poker as in life, triumph is your foe, and disaster is where you learn. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/371 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even on

Your father already had another family when he decided to have an affair with your mom (which resulted in you). Now that you're 18, is it right for you to still be kept a secret from this other family? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/370 On this week's Feedback Friday: If you're feeling unlucky lately, see if you're controlling these three drivers for results. Your father already had another family when he decided to have an affair with your mom (which resulted in you). Now that you're 18, is it right for you to still be kept

Update: There is some controversy about the information presented in this episode. A counterpoint to some of the statistics and specifics on the problem of human/child trafficking is in this piece released on Dec 9, 2021 from The Atlantic.  Tim Ballard (@TimBallard) is a former Homeland Security agent who reluctantly got involved in chasing down global child trafficking. As the founder of Operation Underground Railroad, he is featured in the documentary film Operation Toussaint: Operation Underground Railroad and the Fight to End Modern Day Slavery, and is a co-author of the book adaptation as well as Slave Stealers: True Accounts of Slave Rescues -- Then and Now. What We Discuss with Tim Ballard: Slavery is the fastest-growing criminal enterprise in the world. There are more people enslaved right now than there were during the transatlantic slave trade period between the 15th and 19th centuries. Slavery generates three times the revenue of the NFL. With the money from all the trafficking in the world, yo

Coffeezilla (@coffeebreak_YT) is a prolific YouTuber who exposes fake guru scam artists and alerts would-be victims to the tactics used to part them from their hard-earned money. What we discuss with Coffeezilla: How fake gurus who profess to teach you how to get rich quick aren't using these same methods to get rich -- they're using you. The classic framework used by fake gurus to entice their target demographic. How fake gurus leverage cult of personality dynamics to be both relatable and unquestionable. How fake gurus pass off once-legitimate moneymaking methods long after they've become obsolete and worthless. Why you don't have to be especially gullible to fall for what a fake guru is selling, and you don't have to be a steel-willed ice king or queen to resist their sleazy machinations. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/368 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/

Your significant other has picked up some bad habits while self-quarantining during the pandemic; how can you fix your relationship without nagging? We'll figure out this -- and more -- here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/367. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: First, let's address some reactions to the advice we gave to the ex-self-help cultist/current registered sex offender featured on a recent Feedback Friday. Moving across the country would afford you better business opportunities, but leave you without the safety net of free housing

Bill Nye (@billnye) is a lifelong champion of science who is determined to teach you something today that you didn't know yesterday -- whether it's from a television screen, the pages of a book, or next to you at a dinner party. What We Discuss with Bill Nye: Why denying proven science -- like climate change and the efficacy of vaccination -- is in nobody's best interest. On reinvention and pivoting: How Bill Nye went from Boeing engineer to television personality. Why episodes of Bill Nye The Science Guy are still being used to teach kids science two decades after they first aired. How to look at the world with radical curiosity. Why it's key to internalize our fears in order to move forward. And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/366 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Conside

Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) is an organizational psychologist and author of Willpower Doesn't Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success and Personality Isn't Permanent: Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story. What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy: Why treating the results of a "scientific" personality test like Myers & Briggs or Enneagram as gospel is akin to trusting horoscopes to safely guide your life decisions -- inaccurate and potentially dangerous. Hear the story about how Benjamin and his wife almost didn't get married because a personality test indicated they weren't an ideal match. What looking back at the person you were 10 or 20 years ago should reveal about personality as an unfixed, malleable quality. Why categorizing yourself or accepting labels leads to a tunnel vision of mindlessness that tends to accentuate the negative qualities you believe yourself to have. You're always a work in progress -- you're never "finished." The person you'll be in 10 years may well b

One of your fellow medical students is openly racist, misogynistic, and homophobic. Do you have a duty to report this terrible person in hopes it prevents him from ever becoming a doctor with marginalized patients whose lives may depend on him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/364. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If someone could only see your actions and not hear your words, what would they say are your priorities? One of your fellow medical students is openly racist, misogynistic, and homophobic. Do you h

Mick West (@mickwest) is a co-founder and former technical director of Neversoft Entertainment, coder, pilot, Metabunk and  Contrail Science founder, and author of Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect. What We Discuss with Mick West: Why people believe -- and want to believe -- conspiracy theories. The types of bias and bad thinking that allow conspiracy theories to take root and thrive. Who really benefits from propagating conspiracy theories and what they have to gain. Ways in which we can help people discover bad thinking patterns in themselves and others. How to help our friends and family escape the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/363 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider includ

Mark Cuban (@mcuban) is a Shark Tank investor in over 200 companies, owner of the Dallas Mavericks, and author of How to Win at the Sport of Business: If I Can Do It, You Can Do It. What We Discuss with Mark Cuban: The advice Mark is giving his CEOs and founders during these angry, uncertain, and unprecedented times. What Mark sees as the future of the knowledge and technology economies here in the United States. What jobs will exist in the not-so-distant future? How America can beat China, and the areas we need to invest in to do so. How Mark stays on top of trends and separates fact from fiction when it comes to his investments -- and how to reach Mark and get his attention for your own business idea. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/362 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps!

The mindset and linguistic contortionism you developed as a self-help cult (aka Large Group Awareness Training program) follower led to you becoming a registered sex offender. How did things go so wrong, and what can you do now? This and more here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/361. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is the graduating class of '20 finding it especially difficult to plot a life course when everything's so uncertain right now? (Well, it's not '21 yet!) You were a self-help cult follower, which led to you becoming a register

Garry Kasparov (@Kasparov63) is a Russian chess grandmaster, political activist, and author of Deep Thinking: Where Machine Intelligence Ends and Human Creativity Begins and Winter Is Coming: Why Vladimir Putin and the Enemies of the Free World Must Be Stopped. What We Discuss with Garry Kasparov: The part chess played in promoting Soviet Russian ideology during the Cold War. What it takes to become a chess champion now compared to 50 years ago and why Garry considers the game “one of the most aggressive forces of psychological warfare.” What can and can’t be applied from chess to politics and decision making. What Garry knows from experience about authoritarian governments and why we need to be vigilant against them now more than ever. Is our civilization poised for progress or ruin now that supercomputers can beat superhumans at tournament-level chess? And so much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/360 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networ

Justin Ramsdell is a clinical psychologist, an expert witness, an assistant professor of forensic psychology at George Mason University, and a veteran pseudoscience detector. What We Discuss with Justin Ramsdell: Why stressed brains don't make great decisions (especially when there's no light visible at the end of the tunnel to indicate that there is an end). How pseudoscience preys on our cognitive biases to give us the answers we want with the scantest of unprovable "evidence." Why watching YouTube videos and ranting in Reddit threads doesn't count as "research" in the same way that work done by field-experienced scientists with doctorate degrees and peer-reviewed studies under their belts counts as research. Be wary of intellectual trespassers -- who might very well be field-experienced scientists with doctorate degrees and peer-reviewed studies under their belts, but make wild, pseudoscientific claims about areas outside their expertise (e.g., a chiropractor who claims to cure COVID-19 with massage).

Your friend wants to be a mother more than anything, but says she and her husband can’t afford the IVF it would take to make this possible. On the other hand, she habitually buys expensive gifts for everyone in your social circle. Is there any socially acceptable way for you to have a conversation with her about priorities? We’ll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn’t already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let’s dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/358. On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your friend — who says she wants to be a mother more than anything — blowing the money she could be using for IVF