The Jordan Harbinger Show

Getting your record expunged after the embarrassment of earning a DUI can take years, but you need to land a job today. So how do you find work fast when you have a criminal past? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/633 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Getting your record expunged after the embarrassment of earning a DUI can take years, but you need to land a job today. So how do you find work fast when you have a criminal past?  [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us field this one!] Despite

Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) is the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including his Wall Street Journal #1 bestseller, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Jon Acuff: Why are only eight percent of new year’s resolutions realized? (Incidentally, that’s the same percentage of applicants accepted to Juilliard.) The harm perfectionism causes and what we can do to navigate through it. The Planning Fallacy and how it causes overachievers to fail before even beginning. Strategic Incompetence: why you should deliberately be terrible at some things. Secret Rules: what they are, how they’re made, and how these invisible scripts affect our lives (and what we can do about it). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/632 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course --

Amanda Catarzi survived a cult-dominated childhood and abuse at the hands of sex and labor traffickers. In the years since, she has helped law enforcement bust trafficking rings, written federal anti-trafficking legislation, and worked to save countless victims. What We Discuss with Amanda Catarzi: 70 percent of human trafficking victims are women, and 30 percent are men. They usually die (overdose or violence being primary causes) within seven years. How Amanda's upbringing in an isolated cult that matched teen brides with middle-aged men and preached absolute male dominance over them programmed her to consider abusive relationships normal. Why moving to the other side of the country didn't turn out to be an escape from the childhood traumas that haunted Amanda, but just the next chapter of her abuse by expert manipulators. How training as an MMA fighter was the perfect cover for this abuse as no one questioned Amanda's bruises and black eyes when her "coach" trafficked her out to violent johns. How A

A well-intended law in your state makes it impossible for victims of sexual abuse, or their loved ones, to get psychological help without triggering a mandatory report. In your situation, such a report would ruin the life of the offender -- who was a minor at the time and may not even remember committing the crime. How can your family seek the help it needs without initiating legal complications that will only make the overall situation worse for all parties -- including the victim? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/630 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A well-intended

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into what you should do if you're looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door -- while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face. What We Discuss: How to make sure you're aligning the job you want to do with the employer who needs you to do it -- without wasting everyone's time in the process. Why you should use Ramit Sethi's Briefcase Technique to anticipate what someone needs before you meet, and up the stakes when it comes time to negotiate terms. The best resources to use and questions to ask yourself when you're doing research on someone in anticipation of a meeting. A cold email script you can adapt for your purposes to maximize the chance of landing that crucial meeting. How to create a relationship that will generate business for years to come even if your pitch doesn't close at the first meeting. And much more... Full show notes and resources can

Amanda Montell (@amandamontell) is a language scholar and author of critically acclaimed Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language. Her latest book is Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism, which explores how cults co-opt the words we use in order to control us and affect our behavior. What We Discuss with Amanda Montell: How the uncertainty of current times drives people toward the solace of community — and the sights of aspiring cult leaders and con artists. What personal experience drew Amanda, a language scholar, to explore how language is one of the most powerful tools of manipulation cults use to exploit their victims? What thought-terminating cliches are and why they're so effective at shaping behavior. How MLMs operate like cults and who they predominately target with empty promises of wealth and prestige. How to tell if your language is being taken over by cultish manipulators. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/628 Miss our

You're an American citizen living and working in Kyiv, Ukraine. The embassy just released a statement recommending you evacuate as the situation with Russia escalates, but you've considered staying there and becoming an independent journalist to cover what happens should armed conflict come to pass. Is this a foolhardy death wish disguised as a passion project, or a perfect time for a prudent career pivot? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/627 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You're an American curr

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) is Wharton’s top-rated professor, the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and the author of several New York Times Best Sellers. Here, he joined us to discuss Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Adam Grant: How to give to someone you don’t know without being awkward and transactional. What stage gates are and how you should use them. How to avoid committing social capital suicide. What Abraham Lincoln could teach us about the power of powerless communication. Why you'll be a better, more effective giver if you practice chunking rather than sprinkling. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/626 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with actor, producer, and

Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the NYT-bestselling author of When and Drive. His latest book is The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us, about the transforming power of our most misunderstood yet potentially most valuable emotion: regret. What We Discuss with Daniel Pink: As uncomfortable as it can make us feel, regret is a universal, healthy part of being human. Understanding how regret works can help us make smarter decisions, perform better at work and school, and bring greater meaning to our lives. The four core regrets we each have, and the insights they give us for finding a better path forward. How we can reimagine regret as a positive, propelling force rather than an anvil of shame we have to carry around in perpetuity. How regret works like a photographic negative: knowing what we regret most allows us to focus clearly on how to avoid repeating whatever got us there. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/625 Sign up for Six-Minute Networ

You're concerned your 21-year-old daughter is making a mistake by moving abroad to be with her Bahrain beau of five years -- especially since they've only corresponded remotely and have never been face-to-face in real life. You can't outright forbid her to leave as she's an adult now, but is there any way you can get her to reconsider the gravity of what she may be getting herself into? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/624 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you convince your 21-year-old daughter

Ludacris (@Ludacris) is a Grammy-winning rapper, a SAG award-winning actor known for roles in Crash, The Simpsons, and the Fast & Furious franchise, and the philanthropic founder of Kid Nation and The Ludacris Foundation. What We Discuss with Ludacris: Does Ludacris really own a car from every Fast & Furious movie in which he's appeared? What was Ludacris' initial rap name? Is Ludacris the Where's Waldo of hip-hop history? How has Ludacris maintained much of the same support team over the past couple of decades -- all without written contracts? The pandemic's silver lining for famous people: it's a lot easier to maintain anonymity in public when you're encouraged to wear a mask everywhere. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/623 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our two-part conversation with the Danish family man who infiltrated the illicit Nort

Ishmael Beah (@IshmaelBeah) is a former child soldier, UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador, and the New York Times bestselling author of A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier and Radiance of Tomorrow: A Novel. His latest book is Little Family: A Novel. What We Discuss with Ishmael Beah: What the volatility of life in a warzone is really like from the perspective of a child. How desperation drives human beings to rationalize committing any number of atrocities to survive. Why trusting old neighbors, friends, and even family in the midst of a civil war can arouse suspicion and cost you your life. The choice for all too many children in an area embroiled in armed conflict: accept recruitment into one of the factions as a soldier, or be killed before someone else can recruit you. How rap music saved Ishmael's life. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/622 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanh

A "friend" who once admitted to having a crush on you came over to continue a night of drinking and crash on the couch. You pushed him away when he tried to kiss you because the crush isn't mutual and you have a boyfriend. Then you woke up in the middle of the night to him spooning, touching, and trying to make out with you. You pushed him away again and went back to sleep. Is this a form of sexual assault, or did you cheat by allowing yourself to get drunk and winding up in this situation? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanhar

Richard Clarke (@ghsrm) is the former National Coordinator for Security, Infrastructure Protection, and Counter-Terrorism for the United States, and is the co-author of Warnings: Finding Cassandras to Stop Catastrophes. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/620 What We Discuss with Richard Clarke: What is the Cassandra Coefficient? Discover how to use the Cassandra Coefficient to filter signal from noise when it comes to warnings. Understand how to spot your own cognitive biases and what you can do to diminish their effect on your decisions. Learn to persuade people to see things from your perspective and motivate them to take action. Find out what someone at the top levels of government does when their personal politics don’t agree with those of the current administration. And so much more… Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relatio

Danny Gold (@DGisSERIOUS) is a journalist, documentary filmmaker, long-form writer, and co-host (with Sean Williams) of the Underworld podcast, which covers organized crime around the world -- from Balkan warlords to Brooklyn wiseguys. What We Discuss with Danny Gold: How coming from a family of Holocaust survivors inspired Danny to pursue journalism and keep an eye on the world's most unsavory and unreported misdeeds. What it's like to get caught red-handed trying to secretly record a violent human trafficker on his own turf. How Danny finds ways to relate on a human level to people who may be responsible for committing unfathomable atrocities. Why assuming everything is going to go wrong -- and preparing accordingly -- is the best way to survive as a freelance reporter in the field. How even the darkest shadows cast by the human experience can bring out the brightest and best facets of humanity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/619 Sign up for Six-M

Your fiancée knows her weed habit triggers your own addictive tendencies, but keeps it in her daily routine anyway. Now she's giving you flak for your recent lapse in sobriety, and this is making you wonder if getting married next month is really the best move for both of you. What should you do? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/618 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you proceed with the marriage next month when your fiancée refuses to quit her weed habit even when she knows it triggers your o

Daniel Levin is an attorney, political commentator, and author of Nothing but a Circus: Misadventures Among the Powerful and Proof of Life: Twenty Days on the Hunt for a Missing Person in the Middle East. What We Discuss with Daniel Levin: How the Syrian regime kidnaps westerners and blames the opposition, keeping them in captivity -- often for years -- as bargaining chips. How Daniel became the go-to person for hunting down a missing person in Syria when no government, embassy, or intelligence agency would help. What proof of life means in a kidnapping scenario, and how someone in search of a missing person goes about finding this. How people use leverage to get what they want from one another in a place where no one does a favor without wanting something in return. The nuances of negotiating with criminals. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/617 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jor

Martin Kove (@MartinKove) is a prolific actor best known for his portrayal of the evil karate sensei, John Kreese, in The Karate Kid trilogy and Netflix's Cobra Kai series. Be on the lookout as he hosts the upcoming Kicking It with the Koves podcast with his kids Jesse and Rachel. What We Discuss with Martin Kove: How Martin nailed his audition for The Karate Kid by channeling his anger at not having ample time to prepare for it. Why we need more role models for leadership and personal responsibility in popular culture -- in the western genre, if Martin had his way. How Martin finds common ground with the hard-to-love characters he sometimes portrays in order to make them relatable. Does playing villains for months on set ever rub off on Martin's real-life behavior (and does this tend to work for or against him)? How does Martin look so young and stay in shape as a 74-year-old? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/616 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our

You'd love to invite your dad to your wedding, but he has a habit of getting drunk at gatherings and making a spectacle of himself. Is there a way to politely request sobriety as a condition of his invitation? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/615 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your dad loves to hit the sauce and cause a scene whenever there's a gathering, which makes you hesitant to invite him to your wedding. Is there a way to politely request his sobriety for your special day? Your job burdens yo

Shawn Achor (@shawnachor) is one of the world’s leading experts on the connection between happiness and success, and is the author of Big Potential, Before Happiness, and The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life. What We Discuss with Shawn Achor: What did Shawn have to teach Pentagon bigwigs about happiness? The science behind the contagiousness of happiness. The importance of mirror neurons. What is the 10-5 Way, and how can it improve your life? At what point in her career was Oprah most depressed, and why should you care? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/614 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with Arthur Brooks about the merits of learning to love your enemies (especially during these divisive times)? Catch up by listening to episode 211: Arthur Brooks | How Loving Your Enemies Can Save America