The Jordan Harbinger Show

You're a straight man who was sexually assaulted by another man when you were just 21 years old, and it's haunted you ever since. Additionally, you bear the burden alone because you've never been able to tell your wife about this traumatic experience. What can you do to make this right after all this time? We'll try to help find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/765 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: As a straight man, you were sexually assaulted by another man at 21 and have never told your wife. The experience has be

Nick Bilton (@nickbilton) is a special correspondent for Vanity Fair, a contributor to CNBC, a former columnist for The New York Times, and author of American Kingpin: The Epic Hunt for the Criminal Mastermind Behind the Silk Road. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Nick Bilton: How does a merit badge-bedecked Eagle Scout become the head of a thriving online black market worth a billion dollars? What are the costs of maintaining a double life? What’s the real reason Silk Road mastermind Ross Ulbricht was caught? What is Nick Bilton’s unique research process for covering a story like this? Is everyone susceptible to the level of Ross Ulbricht’s mix of ambition, hubris, and self-deception, or does it require a certain personality type? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/764 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship developm

Laowhy86 (@laowhy86) — aka Matthew Tye, aka C-Milk — is a Westerner who lived in China for 10 years, and watched it change from an opening and liberalizing society into regression and authoritarianism. His YouTube videos explain China, Chinese culture, and Chinese politics, and decode Chinese propaganda so viewers are armed with the knowledge to identify and resist it. Welcome to what we’re calling our “Out of the Loop” episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media’s news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them. Here, Laowhy86 joins us to share his Westerner’s perspective — with those of us out of the loop — on the uprisings going on in China right now over the government’s draconian lockdowns and ongoing human rights abuses. Listen, learn, and enjoy! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/763 On This Episode of Out of the Loop, We Discuss: Welded into an apartment bu

Mysterious circumstances suggest your brother didn't die at birth per "official" sources in Cold War-era East Germany, but he may have actually been abducted and sold to a family connected to the corrupt political hierarchy of the day. What can you do to find out for sure and give your parents the certainty they've been seeking for decades? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/762 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Jordan just got back from Morocco and he didn't even bring us a lousy t-shirt. But he's got

Bradley Steyn (@bradley_steyn_) is an expert on risk mitigation, operational support, and racial injustice. He is the co-author of Undercover with Mandela's Spies: The Story of the Boy Who Crossed the Square, a memoir of his time as a double agent working for Nelson Mandela during the dying days of South African Apartheid. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to check out part one here!]  What We Discuss with Bradley Steyn: Bradley shares his observations as a white kid growing up in Apartheid-era South Africa. How, as a teenager, Bradley bore witness to the brutal Strijdom Square massacre, in which white supremacist Barend Hendrik Strydom calmly took the lives of eight People of Color and injured 16 with a 9mm pistol. The PTSD, nightmares, anger issues, and emotional distress Bradley was forced to cope with in the aftermath of this horrific experience — and still deals with more than three decades later. How Bradley was recruited for undercover duty by the feared security police of the Apart

Bradley Steyn (@bradley_steyn_) is an expert on risk mitigation, operational support, and racial injustice. He is the co-author of Undercover with Mandela's Spies: The Story of the Boy Who Crossed the Square, a memoir of his time as a double agent working for Nelson Mandela during the dying days of South African Apartheid. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Keep an eye out for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Bradley Steyn: Bradley shares his observations as a white kid growing up in Apartheid-era South Africa. How, as a teenager, Bradley bore witness to the brutal Strijdom Square massacre, in which white supremacist Barend Hendrik Strydom calmly took the lives of eight People of Color and injured 16 with a 9mm pistol. The PTSD, nightmares, anger issues, and emotional distress Bradley was forced to cope with in the aftermath of this horrific experience — and still deals with more than three decades later. How Bradley was recruited for undercover duty by the feared security police of th

When your mother is the other woman in some other family's affair, how do you compel her to do the right thing and walk away? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/759 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When your mother is the other woman in some other family's affair, how do you compel her to do the right thing and walk away? How much is too much when you're considering the cost of an education that should be earning you top dollar? You're no longer physically attracted to the husband who fathered your children. Should

David Buss (@ProfDavidBuss) is a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. He is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on strategies of human mating, and his most recent book is — appropriately enough — The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with David Buss: Why does mating matter? The mating crisis among educated women. How to select a good long-term mate. What leads to mating disasters. What we can do to become better long-term mates. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/758 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Missed our conversation with Daniel Pink in which we discussed the psychology, biology, and economics behind scheduling for optimal effect (including sleep) — and why your ide

Annie Duke (@annieduke) is a World Series poker champion, a shrewd decision-maker, and the author of Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t Have All the Facts and Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away. What We Discuss with Annie Duke: Why "Never give up!" is objectively terrible advice (as even Muhammad Ali might grudgingly admit). Life's too short to keep fighting a battle that's only losing ground when you could better devote the time you're spending to more worthwhile pursuits. Why the worst time to make a decision is when you're already in the middle of it. How the sunk cost fallacy keeps us spinning our wheels in fruitless attempts at progress long after we should have turned back. How we can actually tell the difference between a worthy pursuit and a lost cause — and what we can do to resist our own stubborn impulse to persist beyond reasonable defeat. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/757 Sign up for Six-Minute Networkin

As a child, you were sexually abused by an older sibling, and you, in turn, abused your younger sibling. How can you overcome the guilt and shame you feel to repair your relationship with this person you've deeply hurt? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/756 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Some listener feedback about the butt-dialer situation from episode 732. As a child, you were sexually abused by an older sibling, and you, in turn, abused your younger sibling. How can you overcome the guilt and

Dr. Sohom Das (@dr_s_das) is a consultant forensic psychiatrist who works in prisons and criminal courts to assess and rehabilitate mentally ill offenders. He is the author of In Two Minds: Stories of Murder, Justice, and Recovery From a Forensic Psychiatrist. What We Discuss with Dr. Sohom Das: Telling the difference between someone whose treatable madness is causing them to act out and someone whose irredeemable, criminal badness makes them a permanent danger to society. Over 97% of the mentally ill defendants with whom Sohom works experienced trauma in childhood. Comparing and contrasting psychopaths and sociopaths. How can a psychiatrist determine whether someone in custody is mentally ill or just faking it (and has Sohom ever been fooled)? What precautions does Sohom take for his own safety when working in close quarters with mad or bad people who mean him harm? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/755 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free net

Miki Mistrati (@MrMistrati) is the award-winning director of three international documentaries exposing brutal trafficking and illegal child labor in the multi-billion dollar chocolate industry: The Chocolate War, The Shady Chocolate Business, and The Dark Side of Chocolate. What We Discuss with Miki Mistrati: How human trafficking, child slavery, and inhumane treatment likely contribute to the production of your favorite chocolate products. Why, nearly two decades after pledging to eradicate child labor, major chocolate companies still cannot identify the farms where all their cocoa comes from, let alone if child labor was used in producing it. How the biggest chocolate companies wield their billions of dollars in profits to keep legislation that would hold them accountable at bay. What we, as consumers, can do to effectively censure these companies and help the people they exploit. How to ensure the chocolate we enjoy is ethically and sustainably sourced. And much more... Full show notes and resources

When you're a secret crossdresser who's had a secret affair with another married man whose untimely death left you grieving in secret, it's got you wondering if you should bury your secret things before you die and your wife discovers what you've been hiding from her for all these years? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/753 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Good news! Skeptical Sundays with David C. Smalley will be back in 2023! Should you bury evidence of your crossdressing life and an affair you

Angela Duckworth (@angeladuckw) is a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, founder of the non-profit Character Lab, co-host of the No Stupid Questions podcast, and author of NYT bestseller Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Angela Duckworth: What grit is and how it overrides the myth of innate "talent." How to quantify your own level of grit. How to grow your grit and achieve what once seemed impossible. Why, when you’re a lifelong learner, you’re always going to see in hindsight how you might have done something better in the past — and this is a sign of improvement. How to know the difference between a lost cause to abandon and a challenge worthy of pursuit. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/752 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mi

General Robert Spalding (@@robert_spalding) is a retired US Air Force brigadier general, the CEO of digital infrastructure company SEMPRE, and the author of Stealth War: How China Took Over While America’s Elite Slept and War Without Rules: China's Playbook for Global Domination. What We Discuss with General Robert Spalding: How a 1999 book by military strategists Qiao Liang and Wang Xiangsui called Unrestricted Warfare has become China's playbook for global domination against the Western world. Numerous ways the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) exploits Western weaknesses with this playbook's primary tenet: the best strategy for warfare is not to kill, but to control. Why the CCP isn't likely to crumble under the weight of its own debts as Soviet Russia did, and why a Chinese invasion of Taiwan stands a better chance of success than the Russian invasion of Ukraine. How the CCP uses corporate espionage, global pandemics, and trade violations to pursue its goal of dominance. What can we, as individuals clued

Your best friend's tether to reality was severed by a psychotic break when you were living abroad, and you were disheartened upon returning to discover just how immersed in paranoid delusions he'd become. His state seems to have improved for the moment, but you're worried he could succumb to these delusions again at any time. Is there anything you can do to help him, or is this something he needs to work out on his own? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/750 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there

Yasmine Mohammed (@yasmohammedxx) is a human rights activist who advocates for the rights of women living within Muslim-majority countries, as well as those who struggle under religious fundamentalism in general. She is the founder of Free Hearts Free Minds and the author of Unveiled: How Western Liberals Empower Radical Islam. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!] What We Discuss with Yasmine Mohammed: Why curtailing expression in free societies is the worst possible response to threats made by religious fundamentalists. How the same religious text that serves to inspire millions gets interpreted by extremists to justify gruesome acts of terrorism and tyranny. How fundamentalist scofflaws abuse the tolerance and goodwill of free societies to drain resources and establish footholds conducive to their extremist ideologies. Yasmine shares her story of growing up in a subordinate family of a religiously justified polygynous household — not in some remote, developing nat

Yasmine Mohammed (@yasmohammedxx) is a human rights activist who advocates for the rights of women living within Muslim-majority countries, as well as those who struggle under religious fundamentalism in general. She is the founder of Free Hearts Free Minds and the author of Unveiled: How Western Liberals Empower Radical Islam. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Be on the lookout for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Yasmine Mohammed: Why curtailing expression in free societies is the worst possible response to threats made by religious fundamentalists. How the same religious text that serves to inspire millions gets interpreted by extremists to justify gruesome acts of terrorism and tyranny. How fundamentalist scofflaws abuse the tolerance and goodwill of free societies to drain resources and establish footholds conducive to their extremist ideologies. Yasmine shares her story of growing up in a subordinate family of a religiously justified polygynous household — not in some remote,

Would marrying your type-A "girlboss" special lady friend cramp that type-A "boyboss" lifestyle you've been rocking since college? We'll try to find a reasonable answer to this very serious question (and more!) here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/747 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the deal with people playing videos at full volume on their phones in public spaces lately? Would marrying your type-A "girlboss" special lady friend cramp that type-A "boyboss" lifestyle you've been rocking since college? Your husband's TikTok-influencer ex

Yass Alizadeh (@AlizadehYass) is a clinical assistant professor of Persian language and literature and the Persian program coordinator at New York University. Her research focuses on the layering of ethical themes in the ambiguously coded language of folktales in Modern Iran, the intricate link between politics and fiction, and the critical role of metaphors in the reframing of Iran’s classical oral tales. Welcome to what we're calling our "Out of the Loop" episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media's news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them. Here, we talk with NYU clinical assistant professor of Persian language and literature Yass Alizadeh about the protests going on in Iran right now for people who may be a bit out of the loop. Listen, learn, and enjoy! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/746 On This Episode of Out of the Loop, We Discuss: What spark set