The Holderness Family Podcast

If you had a button to get rid of your ADHD or someone else’s, would you press it? The perception society has around Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder is pretty negative. You would find it hard to believe there are benefits to something that has three unfavorable words as part of its name. I would rename ADHD in a heartbeat if I could. In our book, ADHD Is Awesome, we talk about alternate names we would use or others have come up with. But no matter what we were to rename ADHD, we need to reframe it. This week we talk about changing the perception of ADHD, including the reframing name, traits associated with it, and even your own thinking about your ADHD. Listen to the show and let us know if you had a button to get rid of your ADHD or someone else’s, would you press it? I know I wouldn’t. I am grateful for my ADHD because my ADHD makes me who I am.Special Announcement: We are launching a 3-part bonus series All About ADHD starting on April 8th - stay tuned! Also, you can pre-order our new bo

I heard of schadenfreude for the first time while sitting in the audience of the hilariously wonderful Broadway show Avenue Q. It means pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune. But if schadenfreude is taking pleasure in someone’s misfortune, can you take pleasure in someone’s joy? Enter freudenfreude. On this week’s podcast, we had Dr. Catherine Chambliss teach us how to practice more freudenfreude. Dr. Chambliss shared some of the benefits of freudenfreude and easy practices to include it in our lives (like even if you aren’t feeling that joyous about someone else’s success…fake it! Acting out emotions can help jumpstart those feelings in your system.) Tell us if you have any achievements or fun things that have happened to you lately - we will hype you up! Promise. We are so excited to get our new book out into the universe. You can pre-order it now: Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Play Our GamesShop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content&nbs

I have a solid marriage, a great one actually, but most nights I look over to my husband, who falls blissfully asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, and I’m filled with RAGE. How does he fall asleep so quickly?!? How does his body let him STAY asleep?! Apparently, sleep disruption like I am experiencing is one of the many (many) symptoms of perimenopause. But sometimes, I feel like it’s something *I* have done wrong, something *I* must be doing right. As if it’s all in my head.  I’m writing to tell you, it’s not. This week, we invited Dr. Mary Claire Haver on the podcast to discuss all things menopause. I was able to read an advance copy of her new book, The New Menopause: Navigating Your Path Through Hormonal Change with Purpose, Power, and Facts. (It will be released the same day as our book!) Her book focuses on everything a woman needs to know to thrive during her hormonal transition and to help her take charge of her health. In our podcast we talk about symptoms, how partners can be

Penn here! This week, we recorded a live podcast at SXSW in Austin, Texas about how to (mostly) thrive with ADHD. We talk about how the world wasn’t built for ADHD and what systems I’ve put in place to make life more manageable. My hope is that we can find more understanding for those of us with different, but wonderful brains. If you have ADHD, how would you change your school or workplace to be more ADHD friendly? Big thanks to everyone who attended, we are so excited to get our new book out into the universe. You can pre-order it now: Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Special Sale, Get our game What The Flock for under $20: Our Game, What The Flock?Shop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platfor

Recently, we had the privilege of going on family vacation in the Caribbean and one of the activities we planned was snorkeling. He was particularly excited about seeing the “nerf shark.” (Yes, he said nerf shark instead of nurse shark.) Penn is very smart. He’s one of those annoying people who took the SAT and got an amazing score the first time. So, I cannot tell you how happy it made me that he thought a nurse shark was called a nerf shark. Easily my top moment on vacation. This story led us to talking about the other things we’ve gotten loud wrong in our lives this week on our podcast.Grab Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Play Our GameShop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since the

We have very fun (but weird) jobs where we have to always be producing something. Small business owners know that you have to hustle in order to make a living. Your success (or failure) is a direct correlation of your work. And it’s a lot of pressure. This week on our podcast, we interviewed Celeste Headlee, author of Do Nothing: How To Break Away From Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving. I have to admit some of her advice about slowing down did not seem like it could work for small business owners like Penn and I. It was refreshing to hear even Celeste (who is self-employed) didn’t believe that slowing down could lead to the same, if not more success. Celeste gave us great advice to help me break my busy addiction. Do you have a hard time slowing down? Grab Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Play Our GameShop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song

I am pretty sure I didn’t do “gentle parenting” with my kids. To be clear, Penn and I don’t really have to discipline our children. They are wonderful kids and on their way to be amazing adults. But when they were toddlers having a tantrum, I can’t say that I was gentle. But should I be? Is it too late to change my parenting? Enter our dear friend, Dr. Hope Seidel, a parenting coach and pediatrician. When I posed this question to Dr. Hope, she responded: “Why do you think you need to change, Kim? Because a book told you so?” This is why I need Dr. Hope in my life and why I am so glad she joined our podcast discussion this week. She reminded us that it’s important to ask yourself: What am I hoping my kids will be, and am I creating a home that promotes that vision? You can learn more about Dr. Hope Seidel and her parent coaching here: https://parentwithhope.com/Grab Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Watch Teammates of Target Play Our GameShop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are&n

There was a time when we’d have a reservation at a cozy restaurant to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Things are different now, but not “bad” different. I don’t love my husband any less. In fact, there’s no way I could love him more, but we are not in our date night era. So this week, our producer Ann Marie Taepke (she also plays our Midwest Neighbor in videos) joins us! When you've been together for a long time, it's hard to find new things to talk about. Ann Marie brought us 10 wacky questions to make us laugh and learn more about each other. (Please message us and tell us what song you would sing to save the world!)You can get a copy of the questions we ask on the show here: https://theholdernessfamily.com/10-wacky-questions-for-your-valentine/Grab Our New Book, ADHD Is Awesome! Watch Teammates of Target Play Our GameShop Our MerchJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original m

Last week, we put out a fun video about Taylor Swift and the Super Bowl. It went viral and for the most part people loved it. But some of the comments got us talking enough to feel like we needed to do a podcast on it. Over the past couple months, Taylor Swift has received criticism for supporting her boyfriend Travis Kelce in his career. Some of the recent claims about her are misogynistic and awful. Would anyone say these things if an internationally famous male musician was supporting his female girlfriend? No. (In fact, he would probably be praised.)This week we unpack with our friend Carlos Whitaker. He’s a self-proclaimed “hope dealer” who has found a way to bring people together, people of different political parties, races, religions, to have really hard conversations. Carlos Whittaker is an author, speaker, and storyteller who is bringing hope to humans all over the world. What I love is his saying: "I don’t stand with issues, I walk with people." You can learn more about Carlos and his work her

This week, we had you join us to play our new game What The Flock? (Thanks for being DTF... which is down to flock, of course.) We also have Peter Denbigh, CEO of Skyler Imagination, join us before we play to give a behind-the-scenes look at what it takes to launch a game. We had so much fun making this game, and we cannot wait for you to play it! You can order it from Skyler Imagination or Amazon, and a couple of signed copies are still available: https://skyimagine.com/wtf/Join Our NewsletterPlay Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-fil

*This podcast talks about weight loss and issues surrounding body image* I love the sentiment around body positivity today. Models of all sizes cover magazines, and performers in larger bodies headline tours. But I don't know if I will ever get there. I grew up in the 90s where being thin was socially rewarded. It wasn't until I met Penn that I realized how you look doesn't have an impact on how you're loved or what you are capable of accomplishing.I talk more about this in a recent blog post, but it got me thinking... do I have to be body positive? Is body neutral an option? Enter expert Anne Poirier to talk to us about what it means to be body neutral and actionable ways we can give gratitude to these amazing bodies we have. Learn more about Anne and the work she is doing here: https://shapingperspectives.com/Want to play our new game What The Flock? with us on our next podcast? Email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com!Join Our NewsletterPlay Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn 

Boundaries have been a buzzword for a while, but what they really? (And are we even doing them right?) Today we welcome Dr. Abby Medcalf onto the show to talk to us about how boundaries keep people in rather than keep them out. She gives us advice and examples on healthy boundaries, how to keep them, and why you shouldn't justify them. Learn more about Dr. Abby Medcalf and her book Boundaries Made Easy here: https://abbymedcalf.com/ Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Join Our NewsletterPlay Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage comm

This year I am trying to worry less, and it’s a hard resolution to measure. But I have a theory about needing to do less of something: Adding more. If I try to do more, will I have time to worry? I wrote a blog post last week that kicked off this topic in our weekly podcast. Penn and I talk through what we want more of in 2024 (which Penn is super on board with for the sole reason that it rhymes. Thank goodness I didn’t think of this in 2025.) I asked a bunch of you want you wanted more of in 2024 and your answers did not disappoint.Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Join Our NewsletterPlay Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since

My motto lately has been: "That sounds like a January problem." So when it came to the last podcast of the year, I decided to make it a problem for our lovely team: Ann Marie Taepke and Sam Allen. Hear the 4 of us discuss the best moments from the podcast this year, what Penn & I have learned about each other, and some behind-the-scenes fun. (Should we have Sam and Ann Marie on again?)Have a great holiday break, we are taking two weeks off and will be back on January 9th. See you in 2024! Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Join Our Newsletter (Be the first to know about our new game launch!)Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platfo

I don’t buy lottery tickets. Not because I have moral opposition, but because I know I’ll never get this lucky ever again. Ten years ago, we won the internet lottery. We posted a video we titled, “XMAS JAMMIES” and it went viral. To be clear, we didn’t intend for millions of people to watch that video. It changed our lives forever (it's even how you're listening to this podcast now!)This week we talk about the lessons we've learned over the last 10 years. I wish I had better words to express our overwhelming gratitude for you, the person reading these words. We feel so lucky to be on this journey with you and we can’t wait to see where the next ten years take all of us. Check out our 10 Years Later video. Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Join Our Newsletter (stay tuned on our new game launch!)Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-w

I have to admit, I roll my eyes when people tell me to slow down and enjoy things. When I first heard the phrase ‘Calm Christmas’ my mind heard the word lazy. There are so many obligations and traditions that are expected of us this time of year, how can you possibly slow down? This week we talked to Beth Kempton, author of Calm Christmas and a Happy New Year: A Little Book of Festive Joy, to help inspire calm in us this season. Calm can mean different things to different people. Beth encourages others to have conversations with yourself and your loved ones about what you want out of the holidays. Once you understand what everyone wants, you can be intentional about how to plan for them. You can learn more about Beth and her work here: https://dowhatyouloveforlife.com. She also has the Calm Christmas Podcast and you can sign up for free for her Winter Writing Sanctuary.Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookJoi

Have you ever gotten a gift so bad that it's hilarious? This week we needed a laugh so we asked you for your worst gift stories. You did not disappoint. (Also, did you hear cheese or Jesus? Let us know PLEASE!) Have a question for us? Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parodies, and comedy sketches. Their videos have resulted in over 2 billion views and 8 million followers across their social media platforms since they (accidentally) went viral in 2013. They have a best-selling book on marriage communication, a top-rated podcast, a fun-filled family card game, and most recently, they were the winners on Season 33 of The Amazing Race.The Holderness Family Podcast is edited and engineered by Max Trujillo of Truji

Penn and I are no strangers to sports. We both enjoy playing recreationally, watching matches, and our kids are competitive too. There’s so much to admire about professional athletes. But what can we learn from them? This week we have world-renowned sports psychologist, Dr. Nicole Detling, on the podcast to talk about how to get our heads into a winning mindset.Dr. Nicole has consulted athletes for 25 years, including Olympic and Paralympic medalists, world champions, professional athletes in the PGA, MLB, NBA, NFL, and NHL as well as professional rock climbers, road cyclists, mountain bikers, and water skiers. Professional athletes are ordinary people doing extraordinary things. In Dr. Nicole’s experience, these individuals have higher levels of commitment and perseverance. We discuss how we can get in the zone in our everyday lives, as well as the pros and cons of youth sports. You can learn more about Dr. Nicole's practice here: https://www.headstrongconsulting.com/Have a question for us? Call 323-364

Last month, I announced my Slow 60 Challenge in an attempt to minimize anxiety and unnecessary stress in my life. Maybe you’ve probably heard of the “Hard 75 Challenge” - my Slow 60 is completely the opposite. This week on the podcast, I talk to Penn about my Slow 60 Challenge and how I am doing with it. While I haven’t been able to achieve my goals everyday, I don’t get too hung up if I slip. I make a promise to myself to try again tomorrow. In America, we live in a society that values busyness constantly. It’s led me to ask if it is even possible to live a slower life. Are you working full-time, raising kids full-time, and been able to discover the secret? I’d love to hear from you. Tell me how you “slow” :) Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning videos, including original music, song parod

This week we try our first Holderness Book Club! Nikki Erlick, author of The Measure, joins us this week to discuss her New York Times Bestselling novel. (While I have read the book, Penn is representing the book club member who just comes for the wine.) We talk to Nikki about the inspiration around her book, how the pandemic influenced it, and she answers your questions.We stayed away from spoilers, so if you still want to read the book this will be a good starting point. The premise of the book is thought-provoking regardless if you read it or not: If you could know the length of your life, would you want to find out? Learn more about Nikki here: https://www.nikkierlick.com/. Let us know what you thought about our new format and what book we should do next! Call 323-364-3929 or email us at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com.Play Our GameShop Our MerchGrab Our BookJoin Our NewsletterKim and Penn are online content creators known for their award-winning vide