Thank You Heartbreak

Author of How to Kill Your Husband’s Ex, Attorneys and Then Some Kathy Hammond joins Chelsea 7 minutes in for some straight shooting advice on surviving Stepmotherhood. She also opens up about the secret ingredient that has kept her and her husband devoted to each other for 28 years (unconditional respect and support), how an out of character cruise led her to her husband, why you can’t wait for someone else’s approval, how fear often protects us from an incredible future and why, if it’s right for you, do it. To connect with Kathy, visit her:Website: https://kathyhammondbooks.comPurchase on Amazon: How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

CEO of The Mom Complex and author of Slay Like a Mother, Katherine Wintsch joins Chelsea 8 minutes in to talk about dropping the mask she carried for 20 years, slaying her dragon of self-doubt, learning to dance on the plateau rather than scale the mountain higher, and unearthing the golden nugget that revealed her greatest obstacle, saved her spirit, and transformed her life: “I don’t like myself because I’m not being myself.”To connect with Katherine, visit her:Website: https://katherinewintsch.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/kwintschFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/SlayLikeaMotherTED Talk: Unmasking Motherhood : https://youtu.be/DGIuSNks3DAPurchase on Amazon: Slay Like a Mother: How To Destroy What's Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Want__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Founder and Tantra guide for Earth Tantra as well as wilderness survivalist Tara Skubella is no stranger to self-reliance and seclusion. Living on the side of a mountain at an elevation of 9,500 feet in a tiny home with her life partner, she joins Chelsea 13 minutes in to talk about knowing this life was for her from an early age, allowing for independence and solo adventure within a growth-oriented relationship, and how two people come together to serve a purpose. Tara and her ex-husband’s purpose was to adopt their beautiful daughter Ruby and bring her home from China. She opens up about the triangle of codependency that formed within their family, why it benefits children to know marriages aren’t Disneyland, how her own parents’ divorce served as a model for her own amicable divorce, and dealing with our triggers by microdosing on tantra.    To connect with Tara, visit her:Website: www.earthtantra.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tskubellaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/EarthTantraYouTube: https:

Transformational and Interpersonal Coach and Founder of Nibana.life Kapil Gupta joins Chelsea 4 minutes in to shed light on the narrow bandwidth of emotion from which most men live their life. Not feeling good or bad, men will often find themselves trapped by unspoken expectations and addictions of comfort, cruising through life defining their worth by whether they are “better than” another man. It’s only until desperation kicks in that they do the work to live an honest, even blissful, life—beyond worry, shame, or restriction. Kapil talks about the importance of creating a brotherhood where men’s emotions can roam free, where the question “what’s happening in your life?” gets asked, and where good men actually believe they are good, period.To connect with Kapil, visit his:Nibana's Website: https://www.nibana.lifeKapil's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kapsgupta—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterIn

Founder of Good Story Company Mary Kole joins Chelsea 8 minutes in to reflect on the serendipitous night she met her husband, the ease in which their relationship took shape, and the horrific, human tragedy they endured in creating a family. With sadness and strength, Mary recounts the night she lost baby Nora, being in the room with death, how an already solid foundation of sobriety saved her life, and why losing her 16 day old daughter to Ohtahara syndrome threw a wrench into all her ideas of what it was to be a “good girl.”To connect with Mary, visit her:Company: https://goodstorycompany.comEditing: https://marykole.comBlog: https://kidlit.comForum: https://critcollective.comFacebook: https://facebook.com/goodstorycoFacebook: https://facebook.com/marykoleeditorial/Twitter: https://twitter.com/goodstorycoTwitter: https://twitter.com/kid_litInstagram: https://instagram.com/goodstorycompanyYouTube: https://youtube.com/c/goodstorySubmission Course: https://bit.ly/kolesubBook: http://bit.ly/kolekidlit—Work with

Sustainable Designer Alana Mayer joins Chelsea 9 minutes in to reflect on meeting a man who mirrored all the things she was craving to discover within herself, how being in the midst of a personal evolution can make you resist commitment, the challenge of creating boundaries (and, therein, autonomy) early on when new love is so damn exciting, learning to trust that you’ve done enough and also redefine what enough is, and the difference between listening to hear and listening to understand.To connect with Alana, visit her:Alana's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alanamaylooDawn Intimates' Instagram: www.instagram.com/dawn.intimatesWebsite: https://www.thedawnstudio.com—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Joining Chelsea 10 minutes in, Co-Founder of KOYA, Courtney Werner opens up about the joys and challenges of working with family, the benefit of playing the victim within a relationship, how being the hero of one’s own life is a constant choice, why long-distance breakups are harder to heal from, and how curiosity is the best way to move toward new opportunities and new love. To connect with Courtney, visit:KOYA: https://getkoya.comDownload KOYA: https://getkoya.comKOYA’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/givekoyaCourtney’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hello.courtneyruth—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Joining Chelsea 5 minutes in, Sam Varnerin pulls the curtain back on a day in the life of a professional cuddler. She shares a few of her client’s motivations for hiring her, the need to be seen and appreciated for what you do within a relationship, trusting your partner’s words and then letting go of worry, and how laying everything out on a Saturday brunch table is a ritual keeping her boyfriend and her grounded and thriving in love. To connect with Sam, visit her:Website: https://www.snugglewithsam.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/snugglewithsamFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/snugglewithsam—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Blogger and owner of Two Drifters, Amy Hartle joins Chelsea 4 minutes to talk about coping with anxiety in relationships, catching an ex-boyfriend in the midst of an emotional affair, marrying an introvert, and remaining vocal and unguarded with your feelings when your partner falls in love in a slower and more studied way. To connect with Amy, visit her:Blog: https://twodrifters.usInstagram: www.instagram.com/twodriftersxoTwitter: https://twitter.com/twodriftersxoFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoDriftersxoPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/twodriftersxo__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Writer, Yoga Teacher, and Communications Consultant Sonya Matejko joins Chelsea 5 minutes in to talk about the romantic she used to be. Always on the end of being broken up, Sonya realized what she didn’t have was bigger and more concerning than a lasting relationship. By intentionally prolonging her singleness, Sonya began to see that what she'd really been without all along was self-awareness and that this was the lack that was turning her into a surface level romantic. A few gems to look forward to are, how to be effectively curious post-breakup, why true love exists within logic and romance, prioritizing a partner who will teach as well as allow themselves to be taught, learning to value what sex means to us within a relationship rather than only what it means for our partner, how the best of friends keep a single person’s sanity in check, and bouncing back and to new heights after manifesting a layoff.—To connect with Sonya, visit her:Website: www.sonyamatejko.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/aforceo

Founder of KHL Consulting, Kaylie Hanson Long joins Chelsea 13:30 minutes in to reflect on the tragic and unexpected accident that took her husband’s life. The first guest to claim there is no upside, Kaylie shares her trauma in hopes of normalizing a topic that really should be normalized. Grieving as a young woman and dating as a young widow begs the question: What are you going to do with yourself now that you have these experiences? A few gems contained within this conversation are, turning grief into advocacy, the value of focusing on nothing while you are going through something, settling the pingpong balls—aka the mental noise—by being in your body, struggling with religion post-accident, the importance of having friends in different time zones, how new romantic interests teach us just how big our hearts can grow and the poignant reality that just because Kaylie’s husband has passed doesn’t mean she can’t still call upon him for guidance, asking her usual question: What would Jeff do?__To connect with

Comedian Mike Bramante gets honest about recovering from a breakup he wished would have never happened. What transpires in the wake of his heartbreak is a healing that very much goes against the grain of modern dating, in that, rather than rushing to replace, he takes the scenic route back to love and along the way approaches “moving on" as a choice to either forget the relationship (both its wins and losses) or honor the person he’s become in thanks to the relationship. As Mike explains, “Heartbreak is a sad thing but the relationship is the happy thing.” His choice has been to accept the ending in order to appreciate the relationship—a brave move that almost seems instinctual. He also opens up about the importance of bending your absolutes, managing clinical OCD, the tension between the fear of death and the fear of dying before you’ve lived, accepting uncertainty, and how his breakup motivated him to go all-in with comedy. __To connect with Mike, visit his:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelb

Joining Chelsea 8 minutes in, Lori Villafane, author of The Other Gloria, opens up about the heartbreaking experience of having dissociative identity disorder, specifically not being able to access both the good and bad memories of her children's childhood. Today she reflects on the unconditional love she has in her second marriage (a bond she never thought she deserved), what it feels like to develop a friendship with her adult daughters, how forgiveness has helped her overcome the abuse of her past, and why a phobia of being photographed is something she's ready to tackle.__To connect with Lori, visit her:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lavillafanewriterPurchase The Other Gloria__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

To connect with Steve, visit his:Website: www.motivationalfirewood.com__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

Harvard-educated researcher on food addictions and the author of 38 children's books as well as the memoir Searching for God in the Garbage, Bracha Goetz talks about the thread she found after reading through 20 years of her journals and diaries: an eating disorder was inevitable. The biggest revelation of all, however, was what she discovered nourishes our starved souls. In conversation with Chelsea, she reflects on withdrawing from medical school, telling her family she wasn't coming back from Israel, and meeting the man she would marry who joined her in discovering that the biggest pleasure of all isn't food or the absence of it after all.__To connect with Bracha, visit her:Amazon Author Page__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakEmail: Chelsea@breakupward.com

With 15 years of luxury wellness to her name, adventure and travel writer Liz Galloway of Wild Adventures Retreat opens up about how compassion enabled her to get honest with herself and, on an even larger scale, others about a piece of herself that she’d always prided herself on not sharing: that is, that she needed things from others, too. Giving herself the space to have real conversations and honest boundaries created a dramatic shift in her life where friends dropped off and she wound up walking away from business opportunities. The experience of being seen differently and therein treated differently was painful and lonely. By digging deep, enduring many changes, and giving into this sudden sense of betrayal, Liz developed a resiliency and adaptability that, through it all, reminds her that now she can absolutely trust herself.__To connect with Liz, visit her:Website: wildadventures.lifeInstagram: www.instagram.com/traveltowellness__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breaku

Joining Chelsea 13 1/2 minutes in, comedian and writer Jessica Sager talks about how female comics—and people, in general—can have less of a chance to be in the right place at the right time if they're avoiding certain places because there’s a creep there. Reflecting on her own attempted assault on the night of her sophomore homecoming dance, Jessica talks about the giant rush of adrenaline that helped her flee the scene (aka jump out of a moving car) and yet how the shame of being in the wrong place at the wrong time kept her from telling her parents or any other adults. Together they discuss the strange dynamics of older men dating younger girls: is it creepy or is there room for compassion? If men are not where they want to be in life—or where their fathers were at their age—does it make sense that men might date someone who may, on the outside, look naive and vulnerable but, on a deeper level, represent their arrested development and not make them feel like they aren’t far enough along yet? Also unpa

In conversation with Chelsea, the Founder of the Breakup Bestie blog and course Kendra Allen opens up about a lesser known detail in her life: her husband today was actually her most pivotal breakup. The catch is, their marriage never would have happened if she hadn’t completely let him go. She talks about breaking with dignity and grace, the emotional scarring that comes from not forgiving ourselves, the vulnerability of pursuing female friendships, the value of saying I love you even as a relationship is ending and it’s unlikely that you’ll hear the sentiment echoed back, saying yes to every invite and activity post-breakup, how evaluating the pattern of men she dated exposed her to what she didn’t believe she was worthy of within herself, and how sobriety helped her ask the better questions like, “how does this lead back to me?” __To connect with Kendra, visit her:Website: www.breakupbestie.comBreakup Bestie Online Course: https://www.breakupbestiecourse.com/buy-the-break-up-bestie-courseBlog: https://brea

"You feel terrible and then someone’s like, you’re not terrible, you’re actually good and he’s not good for you,” aerial acrobat and belly dancer Brice LaGrand explains to Chelsea why admitting you deserve better is actually more challenging than admitting your abuse. "It’s terrifying because it means you have to accept responsibility and be like, okay, now I have to choose. If I deserve better, then, I have to either choose to not give myself what I deserve and choose not to love myself in that way or I have to choose to start trying to find that and figure out what that looks like. It’s so much easier to just accept where you are and be like this is life now versus trying to improve it and find something that’s better for you.” In today’s episode, Brice details the fork in the road that victims of abuse stand at in the darkest hour. Drawing from his own experience in an abusive marriage as well as his work with a battered woman’s shelter and prevention and intervention programs, he shines a light