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We're so excited to welcome a much-requested, long-awaited guest on the show -- Mark Groves! As a human connection specialist and incredible voice in the relationship analysis space, we tapped into him to ask a burning question: Why are people so bad at dating? We also discuss finding your true self in a culture where so much value is placed on relationships, being a people pleaser and setting boundaries, the only way you can get back with an ex, and more. Before Mark joins us, we're recapping the second half of our trip, a masturbation revelation, and some fresh recs. Hope you enjoy! Follow Mark on Instagram @createthelove and check out the Mark Groves Podcast. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Visit babbel.com/gge for up to 60% off your subscription. Nutrafol: Get $15 off your first month’s subscription plus free shipping at nutrafol.

It's been 4+ years since our travel episode, so we figured it was time for a reboot! We're sharing general airport/packing/passport tips, then discussing traveling with friends, your partner, and solo. We're covering how much to plan/not plan, expenses, eating, pooping, and more, plus sharing some wild listener vacation stories as well as our own. And we're recapping our Mykonos trip (and pit stop in London), from a massive flight fuck-up to the sexy adventures that ensued. Hope you enjoy and safe travels! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Native: Get 20% off your first purchase at nativedeo.com/ggedeo or use promo code GGEDEO at checkout. Blueland: Visit blueland.com/gge to get 15% off your first order. HelloFresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge16 and use code GGE16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts. Buffy: For $20 off your order visit buffy.

We are sharing our thoughts, feelings, and actions regarding the overturning of Roe v. Wade. Thank you for listening, and we're listing some of the links mentioned below: Check your state and local elections HERE and HERE Act Blue National Network of Abortion Funds DemandJustice.org Emily In Your Phone The Cut Women's Health Protection Act Contacting Your Senators See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The snacks said GIVE US BELLA! and we have finally delivered. Our assistant/live-show-runner Bella Swaak is in the interview chair, and we're chatting about her background, getting the job, her love life, and more. We're discussing how she runs shit at our theatre shows, developing confidence as a taller woman, and she's spilling the tea on her breakup and current relationship. Before Bella joins us, we cover a lot of ground -- Cancer season, our upcoming vacation, Ashley's dating update, an on-air reveal about Rayna's birthday, J.Lo, and whether to tell your friend if you see their partner on a dating app. Enjoy! Follow Bella on TikTok @bella.swaak and Instagram @bellaswaak. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at

We are so happy to welcome back one of our faves, sexologist/author/intimacy educator Shan Boodram, and cover some incredible topics. Shan walks us through her fuck buddy turned husband, how to set boundaries and navigate a fuck buddy situation, and speaking up when someone's communication isn't doing it for you. We're also discussing rekindling with "the one that got away" and working through sexual slumps with your partner. Lastly, Shan is giving some exceptional masturbation tips so you can end the episode and get right to it. Before she joins us, we're discussing Ashley's hydration journey, Rayna's embarrassing ex moment, and tips for living the boat life. Enjoy! Follow Shan on Instagram @ShanBoody, check out her podcast Lovers & Friends, and visit her website for more. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Get your vibes at vibesonly.com, download the app on the App Store (Android coming soon), and follow

It's an episode about one of our favorite topics/hobbies: DIRTY TALK. And we're announcing the other half of Vibes Only (!!!), an app that is going to elevate the dirty talk in your life and allow you to experience your wildest sexual fantasies (don't worry, we'll explain). We're discussing how to start talking in the bedroom if you're a novice and getting your partner to speak up more, and also addressing more advanced dirty talkers, complete with foolproof lines and tips for all levels. We're sharing our own stories and hilarious ones from our listeners, and also catching up on Ashley's latest date and Rayna's awkward moment with her dad. Hope you enjoy! Shop products and download the Vibes Only app by visiting vibesonly.com. Follow on Instagram @VibesOnly. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Living Pr

We are SO excited and proud to announce our new company VIBES ONLY (!!!), a line of premium pleasure products designed to give you the ultimate orgasm. So naturally, we've dedicated this episode to the topic at hand (pun intended), and are chatting about our motivation for starting the company, sharing our masturbation journeys, and offering pro tips for the best self-pleasure experiences. We're also telling our and our listeners' most embarrassing and hilarious vibrator stories. AND this is only the beginning; the other half of Vibes Only is launching soon and will take these toys (and your sessions with them) to the next level. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Vibes Only @VibesOnly, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: StoryWorth: Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/gge. Buffy: For $20 off your order visit buffy.co and enter promo code GGE. Favor: They are offering a $10 do

Let's dive into one of the great joys of being a woman: Birth control! We are joined by Dr. Sarah Hill, evolutionary psychologist and author of the book This is Your Brain on Birth Control, to discuss our menstrual cycles and all the ways we are affected by birth control. We're getting an education in all things hormones, PMS, sex drive, the way we pick partners when we're on birth control vs. off, whether birth control affects fertility, how to choose what's best for your body, and more. Before Sarah joins us, we're discussing female-led proposals and how soon to program someone into your phone. Enjoy! Follow Sarah on Instagram @SarahEHillPhd, and visit her website to buy her book, read articles, and more. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box PLUS free croissants in every box at wildgrain.com/gge and use code GGE to start your subscriptio

You know it all too well -- the dreaded situationship -- and we're unpacking it on this week's episode. We're talking about what a modern-day situationship looks like, how to assess one before determining a course of action (or no action), and discussing the age-old question "How can I make this person commit?" We're also sharing our own situationship experiences, telling you the one thing most people want in a partner, and hyping you to have your best summer. Before we dive into the topic, Ashley recaps the best day of her life and Rayna reveals the kind of guy she'll never date. Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week:  Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Living Proof: Go to livingproof.com/gge and use code GGE20 to get 10% off your first purchase. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% off a premium subscription at calm.com/gge. Blueland

We had such a great time chatting with our Selling Sunset fave Mary Fitzgerald about her younger husband, being a teen mom, toxic friendships, the wild real estate climate, and more. She opens about her and Romain managing their finances, what she wishes they showed on the show, how she stayed friends with Jason after dating, and her fertility journey. Before Mary joins us, we're discussing weddings -- hooking up at them, bringing dates vs. riding solo, and more. Enjoy! Follow Mary on Instagram @TheMaryFitzgerland and watch her on Netflix's Selling Sunset. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Visit babbel.com/gge for up to 60% off your subscription. Uqora: Get proactive about urinary tract health and 20% off at uqora.com/gge. Milk Bar: Get $10 off an order of $50 by going to milkbarstore.com/gge. Osea: Get 10% off your first order with promo code GGE at oseamalibu.com.

It was an honor to discuss the legalities of marriage and divorce with truly the best of the best -- attorney Laura Wasser. She explains the importance of knowing the laws of your state before getting married, and educates us on prenuptial agreements, from how they work to whether or not you need one. We're also discussing postnuptial agreements, annulments, how to be more informed about the finances in your relationship, and the advice she gives anyone considering or going through a divorce. Before Laura joins us, we give tips for nudes (again) and have a ridiculous conversation/debate about masturbating on planes. Hope you enjoy! Follow Laura on Instagram @laurawasserofficial and find out more about marriage laws and divorce at divorce.com. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Jiminy's: To learn more an

We're talking about a life change that can be exciting/scary/transformational/anxiety-inducing/all of the above: Moving to a new city! We're sharing our experiences, then discussing all the aspects of starting over in a new place -- choosing where to live, making friends, dating, finding your community, dealing with the low moments, and even tips for hiring actual movers. Before our topic, we're talking about misjudging someone by their looks, Rayna getting back on the apps, Ashley's recent app un-match, Selling Sunset, and the ups and downs of living/dating in the 90s. Hope you enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for merchandise, tour dates, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Athletic Greens: Go to athleticgreens.com/gge to get a free 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Favor: They will give a $10 donation to Bedsider.org for every listener who becomes a patie

We have hilarious comedian and friend Ali Kolbert in the studio with us (and Azul) discussing coming out, her standup journey, her relationship, having kids, why she thought Ashley was bi, and more. She opens up about growing up while figuring out her sexuality, and shares the captivating story of her and her girlfriend (who never dated women before Ali), which truly had us on the edge of our seats. Then we're diving into the conversation of having children when one partner is sure and one isn't. Before Ali joins us, we're chatting about male height surgery (yes, it's a thing) and breaking down a cum cleanup debate. Enjoy! Follow Ali on Instagram @AliKolbert and check out her podcast The Ali Kolbert Show. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, NEW merch, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at h

We are joined by the brilliant Dr. Andrew Huberman and he's educating us on attachment theory and the science of love and desire. We're discussing how we develop our attachment style from childhood and how it affects our adult life and relationships, if/how it can change, our brains in different states (for example, when we're anxious and in love), power dynamics in a relationship, how to manage your anxiety in dating (and in everyday life), keeping the attraction and excitement alive in a relationship, and more. Before Andrew joins us, we're discussing home buying, a first in our friendship, and ultimatums. Enjoy! Follow Andrew on Instagram @hubermanlab and check out the Huberman Lab Podcast. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week:  Babbel: Visit babbel.com/gge for up to 60% off your subscription. Living Proof: Go to livingproof.com/gge and use code GGE10 to get 10% off your fir

Alternate title for this episode was "They Always Come Back" and we're talking about what to do when they do. We're laying out all the reasons why your ex will try to slip back into your life and how to assess their motivation and your feelings about it, then react (or not) accordingly. We're sharing a lot of own experiences, as well as our listeners' stories of the craziest ways exes have resurfaced. Before we get into the topic, we're circling back on short kings, discussing dick size, popping off about hotel mini bars, and recapping a hard launch situation that threw us for a loop. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Feals: Visit feals.com/gge for 50% of your first order, plus free shipping. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge. Native: Get 20

Back by popular demand, we are welcoming men's coach Connor Beaton to bring us inside the male mind once again. We're discussing why men feel jaded by dating these days and the most common issues they're facing in relationships, then deep diving on conflict -- underlying reasons why your partner might be upset, how to understand him (and the situation) better in a fight, and more. And while we have Connor, we're asking him some burning questions including "Why do guys get heartbroken once when they're young then turn into fuckboys forever?" and "What do I do when my partner is insecure about my sexual past?" Before our guest joins us, we're celebrating Short King Spring. Enjoy! Follow Connor on Instagram @ManTalks and check out his podcast Man Talks. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Blueland: Go to blueland.com/gge to get 20% off your first order. HelloFresh: Go to hellofr

It's another game changing conversation; we're taking an essential look at texting with Dr. Mimi Winsberg and discussing how this important form of communication relates to our compatibility and chemistry with someone and can even predict the fate of a relationship. Mimi walks us through the five texting languages, how texts can help you determine someone's personality type early on, toxic text traits, landmines to avoid when texting, emojis, response time, spotting liars, and more. Before Mimi joins us, we're spilling some tea on our families, recommending the shows we've been loving, and confessing what we literally don't care about lately. Enjoy! Follow Dr. Mimi Winsberg on Instagram @Text.Whisperer and check out her book Speaking in Thumbs. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Framebridge: Get 15% off your first order at framebridge.com with code GGE. Pretty Litter: Get 20

We're breaking down weaponized incompetence, and how it hurts (mainly) women and ruins relationships. If you don't know what it is, you've probably experienced it in some way; and don't worry, we're defining it and discussing ways to spot it and stop it. We're sharing our stories and examples from our listeners, and recommending a life changing book for overwhelmed mothers (Fair Play by Eve Rodsky). Before diving into the topic, we're recapping the insane Bachelor finale, opening up about our buttholes, and reading a WILD Bumble exchange via Jenny Jones. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more! Thank you to our partners this week: Peloton: Visit onepeloton.com to learn more. Babbel: Use code GGE to get 3 additional months when you purchase a 3 month subscription at babbel.com. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge. Living Proof: Go to livingproof.com/gge and u

We're so happy to welcome podcaster/dancer/winemaker/Bachelor Nation legend Kaitlyn Bristowe, and she's getting just as refreshingly candid as we expected about her relationship, previous breakup, mental health, and more. We're chatting about dating someone more private (when you're not), how she and Jason got out of the friend zone, hormonal depression, nudes, period sex, and more. AND we were inspired to bring back Is This Weird? (you'll see why). Before Kaitlyn joins us, we are deep diving on the relationship "soft launch" -- what it means, how to do it, and our experiences. Hope you enjoy! Follow Kaitlyn on Instagram @KaitlynBristowe and catch her on the DWTS tour! Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg, and Ashley @AshHess. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Blueland: Visit blueland.com/gge to get 20% off your first order. Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Calm: For a limited time, get 40% o

It's a breakup episode for the books with one of our besties (more Rayna's friend) Emily Fedner! We chat briefly about Emily's awesome and inspirational food career before we get into her recent breakup and the ~journey~ from stunned and heartbroken to surviving and thriving. She opens up about being blindsided by her partner of 6+ years, the feelings she'd been having about the relationship before it happened, and how she overcame the debilitating heartbreak (spoiler alert: she's back on the dating scene and killing it). We think this story will resonate with so many, and we're so happy she shared her truth with the GGE family. Before Emily joins us, we're recapping our California sexcapades. Enjoy! Follow Emily on Instagram @foodloversdiary and visit her website for more. Follow us @GirlsGottaEatPodcast, Ashley @AshHess, and Rayna @Rayna.Greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates and NEW MERCH! Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge16 and use code GGE16 for up to 16 free