Girls Gotta Eat

We are joined by author/podcaster/former pro athlete Lewis Howes to discuss trauma when it comes to dating, therapy, sex, and more. We dive into why we attract people with trauma, being on a healing journey while you’re dating, the difference between coaching your partner and empowering them, the role of therapy in a relationship, holding off on sex when you first start dating someone, the problem with men not opening up, and the three things you need to know about someone before you enter into a relationship with them. Before Lewis join us, we’re discussing the #1 rule of car shopping as a woman, the evolution of girls trips over time, and (another) LA move update. Enjoy! Follow Lewis on Instagram @lewishowes, check out The School of Greatness podcast, and order his new book The Greatness Mindset. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Get 60% off

Keep running into guys with secret girlfriends? Have you fallen victim to the frustrating “dating filibuster”? We’re here to explain and break down the recent trends we’ve seen on these streets. Before we get into that, we’re chatting about being in different life stages than your friends (and why you shouldn’t worry), Ashley recaps her best month ever, Rayna shares a chaotic story about meeting a new crush, and a listener DM brings us to tears (again). Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Beis: Get 15% off your first purchase at beistravel.com/gge.  Nutrafol: Get $15 off at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE15. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge.

We're getting wild with our friends (and newly engaged couple) Lauren Riihimaki (aka @LaurDIY) and Jeremy Lewis of Wild ‘Til 9 podcast. We chat about the roller coaster of their dating origin story, Lauren's surprising opening line, trust and privacy, how to feel about your partner's sexual past/hoe phase, and tips for making a relationship work when you live, work, and play together. We also discuss why men tend to drift apart from their friends when they get into relationships when women don't. Before our guests join us, we're talking about knowing when to say yes to a trip and when to say no, and unpacking the "Are we dating the same guy?" Facebook groups. Enjoy! Follow Lauren on Instagram @LaurDIY and YouTube, Jeremy @jeremymichael22, and check out the Wild 'Til 9 podcast. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge65 and us

It’s our 5-year anniversary episode (!!!) and we’re covering a lot of ground – sharing what we’ve learned over the last half-decade, gushing over our audience, and answering the questions you have about past hookups, our LA move, best/worst/drunkest guests, and much more (YES we are finally spilling the tea on the male escort interview that never aired and why). Then we’re moving into the friendship conversation – the importance and power of the relationships we have with our girlfriends, why and how we should celebrate friends’ accomplishments other than marriages and babies, and friendship meet-cutes (with some tips for making friends). We’re also (randomly) discussing our bad behavior as kids, why we hate a traditional baby/wedding shower, Ashley’s hydration journey update, Rayna’s water quirk, and an astounding/amazing listener message about butt stuff and having kids. Hope you enjoy and THANK YOU for five wonderful years! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit

It’s our long-awaited episode all about anal (and other butt stuff) with Dr. Evan Goldstein, nationally renowned anal surgeon and founder/CEO of Bespoke Surgical. Dr. Evan explains the inner workings of our butts and the anal orgasm, and gives a step-by-step process for preparing your body/booty for anal sex. We’re also answering those burning questions about poop, positions, eating ass, and more, and he shares the craziest things he’s had to remove from someone’s butt. Before the doctor comes in, we’re recapping our first earthquake, introducing the newest addition to the GGE team, and discussing the concept of “planned happenstance” in dating. Bottoms up! Follow Dr. Evan Goldstein on Instagram @drevangoldstein, see more at his website, and check out The Future Method. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Go to helloFresh.com/gge65 and use code G

We are so honored to have Jay Shetty join us to talk about love – how to realistically look at love, the three ways you should prepare yourself to find it, and keeping it once you have it. We’re also discussing the misconceptions we’ve been conditioned to believe, the importance of self-love and non-romantic love, what the “list” we have for our perfect partner should and shouldn’t look like, how to structure your social calendar when you’re in a relationship, and more. Before Jay joins us, we’re catching up on Ashley’s knee injury, Rayna’s houseguest, and knives as self-defense (lol). Enjoy! Follow Jay on Instagram @JayShetty, visit his website to order his new book 8 Rules of Love, and check out his podcast On Purpose. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Tushy: Save 10% when you go to hellotushy.com/gge. Article: Get $50 off your 1st purchase of $100 or mo

It’s an episode dedicated to something we all (or most of us) have done and aren’t proud of – sabotaging a relationship. We discuss all the ways people sabotage relationships, the reasons we do it, and how to stop, plus we’re sharing our experiences and the saboteur behavior our listeners opened up to us about. Before we get into the topic, we’re breaking down the correlation between chicken wings and blowjobs and recapping another week in LA (spoiler alert: Rayna tripped again, Ashley had to walk out of a workout class). Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge21 and use code GGE21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping. Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first Pretty Litter order at prettylitter.com/gge. Athletic Greens: Go to athleticgreens.com/gge to get a free 1-year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D + 5 free tra

Coming to you from LA, we are joined by the hilarious Trevor Wallace and Michael Blaustein of Stiff Socks podcast. We’re having an extra uncensored discussion about dick size, the “unique” ways guys masturbate, and porn watching habits. Then they “mansplain” the reasons guys: Watch your Instagram stories after they ghost you, talk about future plans when they don’t want a relationship, always resurface (sometimes after years and years), continue to DM/text you when you don’t respond, and more. Before the guys join us, we’re talking about the routines we already have in LA, Rayna’s hot tub goal, and Ashley’s shocking outdoor shower. Enjoy! Follow Trevor on Instagram @trevorwallace, Michael @blaucomedy, and check out Stiff Socks podcast. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Shopify: Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/gge. Rocket Money: Go to ro

It’s a new year with new dating goals and new trends on the horizon, and THE STREETS ARE CALLING! We’re breaking down what experts and our listeners are expecting for 2023, from conscious swiping to skinny kings to “death of the dinner date," and more. We’re also talking about what we’re NOT doing anymore and how to manifest what we want. Before we dive in, we’re recapping Ashley’s hometown holidate, Rayna’s NYE booty call, and books we’re loving. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at blueland.com/gge. Babbel: Get up to 55% off your subscription at babbel.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge.

We are so excited to kick off a new year with such a special guest – James Clear, author of the best-selling book Atomic Habits. We chat with James about why bad habits form and how to break them, how to build better habits and stick to them, the most common mistakes people make and how to avoid them, plus understanding and achieving our goals. Before the interview, we’re sharing our own goals for 2023, a hilarious date story about Rayna’s dad, and Ashley’s sex toy/doorman encounter. Enjoy and Happy New Year! Follow James on Instagram @jamesclear and check out his website to sign up for his newsletter and more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge21 and use code GGE21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping. Athletic Greens: Go to athleticgreens.com/gge to get a free 1-year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D + 5 free trav

In traditional GGE fashion, we’re recapping the whirlwind year that was 2022! We’re sharing the milestones we had and lessons we learned, the guys we f*cked and the friendships that got us through. Ashley presents her annual Top 10 Moments, Rayna recaps the best/worst celebrity breakups, and we’re sharing our listeners’ biggest accomplishments this year. Before we review 2022, we’re discussing Ashley’s emotional move, what happened with Rayna’s latest hookup, and masturbating with long nails. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Babbel: Go to babbel.com/gge for up to 55% off your subscription. Tushy: Save 10% off when you go to hellotushy.com/gge. Nutrafol: Get $15 off at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE15. Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge

It's finally here -- the long-awaited mama's boy episode! We brought in marriage and family therapist Whitney Goodman to break down the mother-son dynamic and how the "mama's boy" forms, how it can look when you're dating/married to one, the different levels of impact it has on your relationship, how to approach the situation, what NOT to do and say, and more. We're also sharing our own experiences, our listeners' top mama's boy concerns, and a hilarious/ridiculous story submission that blew our minds. Before Whitney joins us, we're talking about Rayna's recent hookup, Ashley's face procedure, and the two types of people watching The White Lotus. Enjoy! Follow Whitney on Instagram @sitwithwhit and visit her website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $40 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Storyworth: Get $10 off yo

It's a rare and special occasion: A couple on the show! We loved chatting with Lauryn and Michael Bosstick of The Skinny Confidential about their decades-long love story (they met/dated/got caught hooking up when they were 12) and how they keep their marriage and sex life spicy when they've been together so long, have children, and work together (partially). We're also discussing how two alpha personalities can work as a couple, and blowjob tips, including the "coin technique." Before our guests, we're unpacking some handjob intel we received from a man fan and Michelle Obama's relationship advice, plus giving fresh recs. Enjoy! Check out The Skinny Confidential podcast and follow on Instagram @tscpodcast. Follow Lauryn @laurynbosstick and Michael @michaelbosstick. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge18 and use code GGE18

Chances are, your partner does things to annoy, frustrate, or even infuriate you, and we’re here to discuss them – everything from leaving wet towels on the floor to not posting you on social media to prioritizing his friends over you to well, breathing. We’re breaking down the question of “Should I be mad about this?” and offering advice for how to communicate your discontent and/or let some things bother you less. Before we tackle the topic, we’re sharing our hometown hookup stories, reminiscing on going to camp as kids, and sharing our thoughts (and a listener story) on the grapefruit blowjob technique. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Raycon: For a limited time, go to buyraycon.com/gge for 20% off your entire order. Pretty Litter: Get 20% off your first order at prettylitter.com/gge. Helix: Get up to $200 off all m

We could not love this episode more, and are so happy for you to hear our conversation with sex therapist Vanessa Marin about communication in your sex life. She explains how to bring up a sexual slump or frustrations in your relationship with the exact language to use and type of conversations to have, how to tell your partner to stop doing something you don't like and start doing what you do like, techniques for spanking and choking and how to get your partner to do these things the way you want it (and vice versa), the best way to 69, and more. Before Vanessa joins us, we're chatting about Ashley's unexpected erotic encounter and Rayna's secret dream job, and discussing those feelings of "all my friends are married" that can creep in especially during the holidays. Enjoy! Follow Vanessa on Instagram @VanessaAndXander, preorder her book Sex Talks HERE, and check out her website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandi

We are thrilled to be joined by psychological astrologer and author Jennifer Freed, Ph.D. who walks us through the four astrological elements and discusses how to use our cosmic DNA to live our fullest lives, choose partners, and have better sex. She debunks the narrative of certain signs being compatible with each other, provides life hacks for finding a healthy partner if your picker is off, and explains why we choose partners like our parents. And she educates us about what being "above the line" and "below the line" means, and we chat about how you can be your sexiest and most confident self. Before Jennifer joins us, we're catching up on a throuple Ashley encountered in Denver, a guy Rayna met with a surprising twist, and if should follow up on a booty call. Enjoy! Follow Jennifer on Instagram @drjenniferfreed and check out her website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you

Our fave Chrissy D/Chrissy Chaos/Chrissy Daytime is back for his third GGE appearance, and opening up about everything that's changed in his life, and how his (formerly tumultuous) relationship has done a 180. We talk about bombing on daytime TV, why he got off social media and the effect it's had on his relationships and career, butt stuff, and we answer some "Is This Weird?" submissions. Before Chris joins us, we're discussing Ashley's move for when you get ghosted, Rayna's secret stepfamily, and Tell Me Lies. Hope you enjoy! Follow Chris on Instagram @chrisdcomedy, listen to Chrissy Chaos and Hey Babe!, watch his Netflix special Speshy Weshy, and see more at his website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week:  Hello Fresh: Go to hellofresh.com/gge65 and use code GGE65 for 65% off plus free shipping. Buffy: For $20 off your order visit buffy.co and enter prom

We’re diving into that gray area of infidelity and discussing strip clubs, lap dances, happy endings, emotional affairs, Only Fans, and porn. We’re sharing results from 30K+ listeners polled, and the wide range of feelings people have about all of these occurrences in their relationship. Before we get into the topic, we’re announcing a new member of the family (!!!), chatting about our preferred couple behavior at a party, and discussing the new season of Love is Blind. Enjoy! You can now watch our episodes on YouTube! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Helix: Get up to $200 off all mattress orders plus 2 free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge. Bright Cellars: Visit ​brightcellars.com/​gge6bottle ​for 50% off your first 6-bottle box. Must be 21+. Some state restrictions apply. Beis: Visit beistravel.com/gge to get 15% off your first

It's another episode about moneeey, and this time, we are joined by financial journalist and best-selling author Nicole Lapin to chat about money and dating – what someone’s money style says about what kind of partner they’ll be, red flags to look for on a date, how to approach awkward conversations about finances, handling salary disparity with your partner when it comes to rent, vacations, etc., and more. Plus, we’re also tackling money issues with friends (like that one friend who never pays you back and why you shouldn’t go in debt for someone’s wedding). Before Nicole joins us, we are sharing our (and our listeners') wildest cheap date stories, debating another theory about breakup season, and chatting about how friendships change over time. Enjoy! You can now watch our episodes on YouTube! Follow Nicole on Instagram @nicolelapin and check out her podcast Money Rehab. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for SNACK CITY 2023 tour date

We sat down with our new friend (and fellow podcaster) Jade Iovine for a raw and vulnerable conversation about mental health. Jade opens up about her depression and anxiety, coming out of her rock bottom, her journey with (and feelings surrounding) medication, and being in a relationship when you have mental illness and your partner doesn't. We also discuss the damaging effects of social media and how to stop letting comparison steal your joy, and Jade introduces us to the concept of reparenting and shares how it's been changing her life. Before she joins us, we're circling back to the foreplay discussion and answering the questions "Can you change a bad kisser?" and "What qualifies as eating ass?" Enjoy! Follow Jade on Instagram @jadeiovine and check out her podcast Tell Me About It with Jade Iovine. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Shed the Silence: J