Girls Gotta Eat

Should you tell your friends the size of your partner’s d*ck? What about their political beliefs? We’re discussing all the things you share about your partner with friends and family, from sexual details to fights to politics to cheating. We break down the differences in what you should share/shouldn’t share, the impact oversharing can have, the types of friends you can tell certain things to, and more. Before we get into the topic, we’re joined by a special guest (Rayna’s hot neighbor!) and he tells us some of his turnoffs and clears up a beef with Ashley.  Enjoy!  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Zbiotics: Get 15% off at zbiotics.com/gge and use the code GGE. Microdose: Get free shipping and 30% off your first order at microdose.com and use code GGE. Hello Fresh: Get free breakfast for life at hellofresh.com/ggefree + code GGEFREE. One break

Our good friend Alyssa Amoroso (aka Publyssity) joins us this week to spill the tea on her relationship, the trip that changed her dating trajectory, and so much more. The main theme of the episode is how shifting your energy can lead to big changes in your life, and we discuss her current relationship from how they met (she offers some insightful dating app advice) to the recent “DTR” to how people treat her now that she’s coupled up (and the mixed feelings she has on it). We also chat about her move to LA, why she got rid of her therapist (and the positive impact it had), and making the decision to stop letting insecurities hold you back. Before Alyssa joins us, we’re sharing some Thanksgiving Eve hookup stories; Ashley has a big life/body update, and we’re now taking dating applications for Rayna. Enjoy! Follow Alyssa on Instagram at @publyssity, check out her podcast Tea with Publyssity, and buy her tea at teawithpublyssity.com.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg

We’re so happy to welcome back marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon to talk about healing work and the five original wounds. She shares her own personal story of her parents’ (nine year long) divorce and how she didn’t think it affected her until later in life when she was ready to process and work through it. Then she walks us through how to pinpoint and understand your original wounds and how they are affecting you today, and gives steps for how to heal and stop holding yourself back from healthy relationships. We also discuss how red flags can be a positive thing, the unhealthy side of choosing partners who put you on a pedestal, and why breakups don’t equal failure. Before Vienna joins us, we have a debut cameo from Sparkle Eyes. Enjoy! Follow Vienna on Instagram @mindfulmft, check out her podcast This Keeps Happening, and get her book The Origins of You. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibe

With all the dating advice/rules/list/etc taking over our online landscape, we couldn’t help but wonder…have we gone too far? We’re so excited to cover the concept of overcorrecting when it comes to dating, inspired by the viral list “Places Women Refuse to Go On a First Date” (we have a lot to say!) and from all the content we see and consume every day. We discuss how some of the information out there could actually be harming your dating life and possibility of finding love, but how you can filter it and make it work for you. Before we get into the topic, we talk about guys on bikes (ick or not?), Rayna's comical texting with her mom about Thanksgiving, something that killed the mood for Ashley like never before, the show Naked Attraction, AND our new Vibes Only products (including a vibrator that will give you the best orgasm of your life). Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes On

If you’ve ever experienced the nightmare of sending a nude to the wrong person (or just have the fear inside of you), you’re not alone. We’re chatting all about nudes gone wrong – sending to the wrong person (family included), uploading to social media, accidental airdrops, and more. We’re also giving tips on how to avoid these incidents, and on the other (aka toxic) side, purposely using the “oops wrong person” as a power play in a situationship. Before we go full send on nudes, we’re talking about our multiple Halloween costumes and unpacking a shocking birthday cake incident. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Living Proof: Get 25% off all orders over $50 at livingproof.com/gge and use code GGE25 to take advantage of their biggest sale of the year. Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at article.com/gge.

We have the hilarious and beloved Andrew Collin back in studio for another banger. We’re talking about glowing up later in life, self-confidence, moving across the country and going through transitional (and often tough) times with your partner, and the fights you get in when you live with someone (especially about food). We’re also talking about the journey from being a binge drinker to a  moderate drinker and sharing crazy drunk stories from our past. Before he joins us, we catch up on Rayna meeting a guy on a plane, an accidental/embarrassing message Ashley sent to her bf, and comparing current relationships to past ones. Enjoy! Follow Andrew on Instagram @andrewtcollin and check out his podcast Puddles with Andrew and Brenna. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/gge. Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus f

We’re myth busting on this episode with all the lies/bad advice we’re told about sex – from blowjobs to blue balls to body counts to penetration being painful. We’re also discussing positions (including a new favorite) and why you can still have great sex without an orgasm. Before we dive into the topic, we’re unpacking a male behavior we hate (and also indicates he’s not interested/intentional), sharing new icks, and advising what never to do when packing for a long trip. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Daily Harvest: Get up to $65 off your first box at dailyharvest.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at quince.com/gge. Lume: Get $5 off your starter pack with promo code GGE at lumedeodorant.com/offer/gge.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Who am I?” and/or “How did I get here?”,  this episode is for you. We are honored to welcome existential psychotherapist and author Dr. Sara Kuburic to discuss the concept of self loss, self discovery, healing, and finding happiness. Sara explains self loss and shares her personal story of questioning her whole life and making changes to find happiness. We discuss the question of “What are we working toward?” especially at the expense of our own happiness, and talk about establishing a healthy connection to our bodies, mental decluttering, and creating space for our true selves to thrive. Before Sara joins us, we’re celebrating our friendiversary, recapping our Texas trip (and the wildest stripper/bonding moment of all time), and doing a pop culture roundup (Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce, Love is Blind, and more). Enjoy! Follow Sara on Instagram @millennial.therapist, find more at her website, and check out her new book It’s On Me. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhes

We have the long-awaited Dr. Jolene Brighten in the studio to break down what’s normal (and not normal) when it comes to birth control and our bodies. We’re covering menstrual cycles, how birth control affects our sex drive and lubrication, the fertility awareness method, Plan B, and even “whisky vagina.” Jolene also explains how to get off the pill and how to optimize your health both on and off the pill. Before she joins us, we discuss our own birth control methods (and Ashley has a big update). Enjoy! Follow Jolene on Instagram @drjolenebrighten, get her latest book Is This Normal?, and find more on her website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE.  Buffy: Get $20 off your order visit buffy.co and enter promo code GGE.

Fire up your phone, it’s an app episode! We’re talking about getting on the apps (the energy to put out and headspace to be in when you’re looking for someone, getting back out there after a breakup and the type of people to look for) and getting OFF the apps (when to pause or delete your account, talking to someone you’re dating about their app status, and more). We’re also discussing whether you’d match with your current partner on an app, and Rayna’s elite Hinge prompt answer. Before we get into the topic, we’re sharing the full update on Rusty (IYKYK), and recapping our Europe trip with a shocking thing Ashley found out about Rayna, plus revealing our new Vibes Only products. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Get 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE.  AG1: Get a free one-year s

We absolutely loved chatting and laughing with Ciara Miller and Mya Allen of Bravo’s Summer House! We discuss serial cheaters (being cheated on with multiple people, crazy levels of lying and deception, being blindsided, shame around telling your family and friends, being able to trust again), as well as interracial dating and when partners don’t understand your life experience. On the lighter side, we talk about reality TV, not liking your bestie when you first met them, fingering, butt stuff, vibrators in the bedroom, and more. We also play a ridiculous, sex-themed round of Would You Rather? Before our guests join us, we’re popping off about Beyoncé, boxers, and bat mitzvahs. Enjoy! Follow Mya and Ciara on Instagram @myallen and @ciaramiller___ and listen to their podcast Codependents. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Jenni Kayne: Get 15% off your first

We are SO excited to welcome back the incomparable Matteo Lane! He fills us in on his recent whirlwind romance and wedding (with a special call-in from the new husband himself), gives us all the impressions (Barbara Corcoran, anyone?), and opens up about his insecurities. We also talk/laugh about flying and crying on planes, Selling Sunset, his career taking off, hair implants, and more. Before Matteo joins us, we’re talking about liking/not liking your best friend’s partner, Rayna’s recent dating energy, and Ashley’s airport hookup, plus new recs. Enjoy! Follow Matteo on Instagram @matteolane and visit his website for tour dates and more.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE.  Buffy: Get $20 off your order at buffy.co with promo code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off

She’s baaack! We’re so excited to be joined again by therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab to talk about family – identifying and addressing unhealthy relationships, setting boundaries, and being able to live a more drama-free life. We discuss what dysfunction looks like, sibling conflicts, having guilt and shame surrounding unhealthy family relationships, why “just get over it” doesn’t work, when your parents don’t accept your lifestyle, and more. Before Nedra joins us, we’re discussing the topic of talking about exes with your current partner, getting excited about Beyoncé and Blue, and sharing an update on our friend who is battling cancer. Enjoy! Follow Nedra on Instagram @nedratawwab, get her latest book Drama Free, and find more at her website. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at

If you find yourself attracted to/pursuing (and getting hurt by) emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you. We discuss how to spot an emotionally unavailable person, all the reasons we seek them out, how family upbringing plays into it, and how to break the cycle. We share our own experiences, as well as some personal anecdotes from our listeners. Before we get into the topic, we’re discussing bathtub sex, drinking (and how much) on your wedding day, and our latest face updates. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellofresh.com/50gge and use code 50GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use  promo code GGE. Caraway: Get 10% off your next purchase at carawayhome.com/gge or use code GGE. 

The Lord has returned! Our most recurring guest Jared Freid (comedian, podcaster, ick whisperer) joins us to talk about THE ICK. We define what the ick is (and what it isn’t), break down icks vs. turnoffs, share our own icks and Jared’s favorites from around the world, discuss ick appropriation and if icks have gone too far, and Jared explains down why guys don’t get the ick. We also talk about Extension-gate, the main difference between “bad dates” in NYC vs. LA, and airline loyalty, and then we have one of the most awkward moments in Girls Gotta Eat history. Before Jared joins us, we’re catching up on Rayna’s Italy trip and our latest thoughts on solo travel, debate which pizza chain is best, and Ashley shares the psychotic thing she did to her brother’s Barbie when they were kids. AND we have tons of TV and book recs. Enjoy! Watch Jared’s new special “37 & Single” on Netflix, follow him on Instagram @jaredfreid, and visit his website for tour dates and more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ash

We are so excited to welcome author/podcaster/Bachelor alum Nick Viall into the GGE studio for some real-talk dating advice. We discuss fuckboys vs. players, how to approach (and not approach) the DTR conversation, the step-by-step process for turning a situationship into a relationship, compatibility vs. chemistry (and what’s more important), why love at first sight isn’t real, and more. We also have Nick translate common things guys say ranging from “I can’t give you what you want” to “I want to lay low tonight.” Before he joins us, we break down the Barbie movie, Ashley’s passion for shopping malls, and Rayna’s date with you-know-who. Enjoy!  Follow Nick on Instagram @nickviall, check out his podcast The Viall Files, and get his book Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday.  Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: HelloFresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellof

Grab your Cosmos, we have the woman responsible for Sex and the City, the real-life Carrie Bradshaw – Candace Bushnell! Candace joins us to talk about the show that became the voice of many generations, forging her own path as a successful woman (when it was much harder to do so), the real story behind Mr. Big, how she met her former husband and why they got married so quickly, why girlfriends are so important, dating men from ages 21-91, her feelings on And Just Like That, and more. Before Candace joins us, we talk about Rayna’s upcoming date with DBCG (if you know you know), Ashley’s bf meeting the fam, and a secret Rayna thought Ashley kept from her. Enjoy!  Follow Candace on Instagram @candacebushnell, and find more at her website (including info on her one-woman show). Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 o

We’re so happy to welcome back bestselling author Mark Manson to give more life advice that doesn’t suck. We’re discussing the truth about happiness – that there is no “formula” for it, why “getting rid” of your problems isn’t the answer, and recognizing delusional positivity. In terms of relationships, we talk about how you and your partner’s strengths and weaknesses counterbalance each other, how conflict strengthens a healthy relationship, and what you can be doing right now to improve your dating life. Mark also turns the tables on us and asks how the podcast has changed our dating life, and he shares his own wild cheating story, which leads us to our final discussion about post traumatic growth (how a lot of people end up thriving after a traumatic incident). Before Mark joins us, we talk about more changes in Rayna’s life (hint: porn and pedicures), Ashley’s DMV journey, and how we got in trouble in high school. We also spill some tea on someone Rayna ran into and who texted Ashley. Enjoy! Follow Mark o

We have a lot to unpack! Ashley turned 40 and is in a relationship, and Rayna reads fiction now and can’t stop being naked. We recap the best trip of our lives from the laughs to the luxury to the perineum sunning, and also discuss aging and being confident in your looks/body. Then we drag And Just Like That (again), hype Colleen Hoover (again), and deep dive on a listener question – should you date the person you have a better sexual or emotional connection with? Enjoy! Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Skims: Get free shipping on orders over $75 at skims.com. Beis: Get 15% off your first purchase at beistravel.com/gge.  Helix: Get 20% off all mattress orders + two free pillows at helixsleep.com/gge with code HELIXPARTNER.

We are so honored to welcome back renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel to discuss a variety of topics for both people in relationships and those looking for love. She speaks on the challenge of meeting people today and gives advice for how single people can reframe dating (especially first dates). Moving onto relationships, we discuss how in every relationship someone needs more security and someone needs more freedom, how reactions in relationships are like a figure 8 and how to manage conflicts better, the theory of fundamental attribution error and thinking we are more complex than our partners, when we are most attracted to our partners and why, and the four things you can do in a relationship to keep the desire thriving. Before Esther joins us, we talk about guys having bad fashion on vacations, Rayna’s surgery, Ashley’s pregnancy prevention, and the stark difference in how we do laundry. We also answer a listener’s email about meeting a great guy right before moving and what she