Girl Boner Radio

Interested in starting a self-pleasure practice or getting more out of your single or dating life? Dr. Megan Stubbs’, author of Playing without a Partner: A Singles’ Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness, has so much to say about all of this!   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Dr. Megan Stubbs was surprised to learn about sex early on Beginner’s masturbation tips Why large dildos are so popular Casual sex tips and whether it’s smart to add your COVID vaccine status to your dating profile, with thoughts from Dr. Megan Fleming   Save 15%  at Promescent automatically at checkout by clicking this link: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner 

“Claiming space is living your life unapologetically and bravely. And it sounds so much easier than it is.”  So says Eliza VanCort, and for good reason! The author, mentor and speaker speaks about her personal journey to claiming space and practical tips, particularly for women and anyone reared as a girl.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   Childhood experiences that made Eliza especially passionate about claiming space The role posture can play in self-confidence and perception A few wonky messages we learn about gender  How to claim space during sex Masturbation tips and products worth embracing   Learn more about Eliza VanCourt and her book: https://www.elizavancort.com   Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner 

If you’ve struggled to ask for what you want sexually or aren’t even sure what to aim for, you are far from alone. Kait Scalisi, MPH, founder of Passion by Kait, grew up in a household where no conversation topics were taboo, but conflict was. She now helps others find freedom in pleasure.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Positive versus negative messages about sex and conflict Kait absorbed growing up Kait’s advice for figuring out what you actually want in bed Kait’s thoughts on listeners’ desires and how to bring them up A sex communication tip Kait feels is super impactful and underexplored  Why slipping out during sex happens and what to do about it   Learn more from Kait and her team and get awesome related resources at passionbykait.com!   Save 15% on your first order of lube, arousal gel, delay spray and more at Promescent with promo code august15! Delayspray.com   Check out Dr. Megan’s FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure   Support the show and get fun extras!

Jordan Power discovered a family secret that changed the course of his life. Shana James realized she was bringing more to the bedroom than her body and desires. Dr. Megan weighs in for a listener who’s curious about “dirty talk.” How can you get started, years into a relationship? Learn more about Jordan on Instagram: @jpowercomedy   Watch Shana’s TEDx Talk: shanajamescoaching.com "Get sprung" with spring specials at The Pleasure Chest!  thepleasurechest.com Check out Dr. Megan’s FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure   Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner     Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham speaks about his sexual empowerment journey, benefits of delay spray and his top sex tips for men and couples!    A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Jeff learned about sex, growing up in the 1960s and ‘70s What led him from small town life to bigger pastures A few ways to keep sex exciting long term! How delay spray can help penis owners and their partners, whether they’re dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) or not Promescent’s mission and the tragedy that fuels Jeff’s work   Save 15% on your first Promescent automatically here!   Save $50 on Yarlap with promo code GB50! Learn more at greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks or yarlap.com.    For more Girl Boner fun, join August on Patreon: patreon.com/girlboner     Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Desiree has lived with incontinence for about two decades, since age 6. She wanted to share her story with August because her symptoms have played a big role in her life, including her sexuality, relationships and self-esteem.    A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Desiree’s experience with urinary incontinence, including challenges and ways she’s learned to manage How she navigates sexual intimacy amid her symptoms Facts about urinary incontinence, including the 4 types and how prevalent it is Awesome accessible toys/accessories, available at The Pleasure Chest Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Pick, Yarlap. Save $50 at checkout with the code GB50! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks This episode features voice over artist Rosa Delgado: rosamdelgado6 at gmail dot com   Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin.  

Have you ever felt as though you’ve lost yourself or your confidence after a relationship? Or wondered how a romantic relationship that started out like a fairytale spiraled into lies, gaslighting and pain? If so, you may be one of the many people who’ve grappled with narcissistic abuse syndrome.    August has been there, as have numerous of her past guests. For this week’s episode, she explores the impact of narcissistic abuse with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a sex therapist and psychologist who specializes in treating people on both sides of the equation.   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   What Kate learned about sex and sexuality growing up Common signs of narcissistic abuse syndrome How gaslighting can impact sex and intimacy Kate’s thoughts for a listener whose controlling ex restricted sex and affection Dr. Megan’s thoughts for a listener who’s haunted by her ex’s “porn addiction” How trauma can impact sex and pleasure Important truths about healing from trauma A few powerful things healing

Self-love plays an important role in everything from pleasure and intimacy to our everyday interactions. But how do you cultivate it, especially when things feel difficult?    In this Girl Boner Radio episode, Mike Johnson, author of Making the Love You Want, speaks about his childhood, how he’s cultivated self-love and the impact self-love has had on his life. He also answers Girl Boner listeners’ questions, reflects on how he was depicted on The Bachelorette, and shares his top tips for sexual empowerment!   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Why Mike describes his mom as a shining star of resiliency, determination and persistence Gender roles Mike feels we should do away with, including personal examples from his life How Mike felt revealing the sexual assault he endured during childhood in Making the Love You Want The difficult breakup that brought Mike lengthy grief and how he found healing How he feels about how he was depicted on The Bachelorette Mike’s answers to listeners’ questions!

If you’ve ever had a one night stand and then felt like you shouldn’t talk about it, worried that you cared too much about sex outside of a relationship or acquired an STI from an abusive partner, you’re not alone. Ella Dawson experienced all of these issues and writes about them, both so she can process it all and to help others who relate.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Why Ella believes “casual sex” is a misnomer A few experiences from her life that illustrate major gaps in what we’re taught about physical intimacy outside of relationships The link between intimate partner abuse and STIs What you can get by joining Ella’s Patreon community! What to do when you start falling for your “friends with benefits” pal, with Dr. Megan Fleming   Join August on Patreon for GirlBoner extras: patreon.com/girlboner.    Join us on Instagram: @brosandprose  @GirlBonerMedia  @dr.megan.fleming    Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Ever wondered why sex used to feel easy and pleasurable and gradually, or suddenly, that stopped? Or wished you could experience orgasms or great sex in the first place?    Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, sex therapist and author of SEX POINTS, believes everyone who wishes to can have “rockin’ sex” and that all related challenges are surmountable. She spoke with August about her personal journey and lessons we can all learn from challenges she’s encountered in the lives of her clients, as well as her own.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   Unforgettable sex-talk stories from Dr. Marcus’s childhood Why it’s important to consider sexual arousal, desire and functional challenges beyond the psychological Ways birth control can influence sexual desire and orgasms What many of us get wrong about fantasizing  The myth that women do better with monogamy than men Common factors that can lower what Dr. Marcus calls “sex points” What led her to “lose her orgasms” twice, and how she found her way back to that pl

Does great sex start at 50? It sure can, according to Tracey Cox, a renowned bestselling author and expert about sex and relationships.    A few things you’ll learn in this episode:   What leads to sexlessness in relationships When to accept or change that dynamic Myths about sexless marriages How to talk about low sexual desire or frequency, even if years have passed without sex The truth about “lesbian bed death” How to fuel female sexual desire The role body image can play in pleasure and desire How Tracey went from high to low libido, then to some of the best sex of her life Her top advice for anyone struggling in these areas What struck Tracey most while completing Great Sex Starts at Fifty Dr. Megan Fleming’s Pleasure Pick of the Month! And how you can enter a very special giveaway.   Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner.    IG: @GirlBonerMedia   @traceycoxsexauthor   @dr.megan.fleming   Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.  

Curious about threesomes? Or ways to make your next one better?    Stella Harris, a Certified Intimacy Educator, Sex Coach and author of The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes, is expert at ways to effectively become “a threesome person,” benefits of thoughtful threesomes and how to decide whether or not to bring this type of play into an existing relationship or your life in the first place.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   What many folks get wrong about threesomes Questions to consider before deciding on a threesome Why jealousy isn’t the worst thing (or unusual)  How intoxication can impact threesome play Ways to more comfortably ease into your first one Where to meet people for a threesome Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who’s struggling after a threesome didn’t go as she had hoped   Register for Stella’s book launch party with SheBop here!   Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! Free, discreet shipping over $75.   Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner.   

Have you ever wondered if you orgasm “weird?” August hears about that a lot. The truth is, there are many ways of experiencing orgasm and all of those Os are valid.   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   First orgasm stories of Lynn Anderton, Dr. Lanae St. John and Jayne Renault, all of which took them by surprise 7 types of “female orgasms,” including sleep-gasms, back-gasms, cervical orgasm and more What we tend to get wrong when talking about “clitoral” and “vaginal” orgasms 3 types of orgasm penis owners may experience Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who wonders if using a vibrator consistently can make it difficult to climax without one   To support the show and get fun extras, join August on Patreon! patreon.com/girlboner.  

Have you ever felt let down because your partner doesn’t meet your expectations? Or wondered if you’re having enough sex?    Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychologist and author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them, has been studying relationships for years through his Relationship Science Lab. He’s also been featured by The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic and Cosmopolitan. His empowering TEDx Talk, “Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken,” has been viewed nearly 2 million times.   Dr. Lewandowski joined August recently to explore several common relationship myths that can really cause problems, if you buy into them—which is easy to do! He also shared his own love story, including how he met his wife, some of the challenges they’ve faced and signs they’re on the right track.   A few things you’ll learn in the episode:   The difference a maximizer and a satisficer in terms of relationships, and which is a better aim Why a “sex challenge” isn

Have you felt a more or less sex-inclined lately? Or wished you could have more spicy fun and pleasure during these zany times? If your answers are yes or yes, this episode is for you.   A few things you’ll learn:   Ways the pandemic and social distancing are impacting sexuality, including thoughts from listeners Awesome sex toys for clitoris, penis and couple’s play How to set the stage for spicier scheduled sex A sensual way to spend Valentine’s Day at home Some of Dr. Megan Fleming’s top sex advice  More!   Check out Dr. Megan’s recommendations: greatlifegreatsex.com/resources Support Girl Boner Radio + get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to talk to strangers about their sexual experiences? Julia Rothman and Shaina Feinberg did just that, and more, for their new book, Every Body: An Honest and Open Look at Sex from Every Angle.    A few things you’ll hear in this episode:   An excerpt from August’s first time hitting the streets to ask people, “What’s a Girl Boner?” What Julia and Shaina recall learning about sex early on What struck them most about the books’ stories about masturbation, Shaina’s Betty Dodson interview, body acceptance and religion What takeaways they want you to embrace from their experience creating Every Body  What numerous listeners wish others knew about sex or their sexuality The role attention can play in arousal, pleasure and desire   Check out Sex Hacks with Kenneth Play and the replay Dr. Megan mentioned: greatlifegreatsex.com/sexhacks Join August on Patreon to support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Learn more: girlboner.org

S and C are scientists and foodies who share a deep love. One thing they don’t share is an equal desire for sex. While S is pretty much always “ready to go,” her partner C desires sex less often. And when he does desire it, his wants aren’t always those that S can fulfill.    Shan is a virtual assistant and mother of two homeschooled teens who consistently desired sex less often than her beloved late husband, Jim. Navigating these differences well came in waves, she said, as they learned what did and didn’t help over the years.   For this Girl Boner Radio episode, August spoke with S and C and with Shan about their journeys and ways to manage mismatched libido in a loving relationship.   Content note: This episode includes mentions of abuse, miscarriage and death. Correction: Shan is a "widowed mother of two teens who never went to school," meaning she homeschools them. Shan did go to traditional school. Find Valentine’s Day gifts for you or a parter at The Pleasure Chest!   Save 25% on Dr. Megan’s Rekindle

Have you sent intentions for 2021? How about sexual intentions? As we make our way into a new year and reflect on what hasn’t worked so well in the past, we shan't forget our sex lives!   A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:   A common lube mistake to avoid A type of harmful self-talk that’s super easy to fall into What to do when you feel uncomfortable during sex Which fantasies to speak up about (and ways to do so) Ways to feel more sex-inclined, if or when you wish to More!   Check out the Sexy Self-Care collection at The Pleasure Chest!   Save 25% on Dr. Megan’s Rekindle Desire program!   Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner   Brought to you a day early, in light of Inauguration Day on 1/20! Produced and edited by August McLaughlin  

Sex-Positive Parenting, Fetish Play and Sexual Liberation with Jet Setting Jasmine   As a trauma-informed clinical therapist, sex worker, parent of three and woman of color, Jet Setting Jasmine knows a great deal about these topics, from personal and professional experience.    A few things you’ll learn in this episode:   What Jasmine learned about sex early on and ways she challenged the negative messages early on Benefits of sex-positive parenting and ways implement it How kink and fetish play can support healing from trauma What the hashtag #pornandparenting is all about Ways racism and racist stereotypes harm folks in the BIPOC community Jasmine’s top advice for sexual liberation Dr. Megan’s thoughts for a listener who wonders what to do when a couple is compatible in every way, except sexually   Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner   Download a free gift from Dr. Megan Fleming: greatlifegreatsex.com Produced and edited by August McLaughlin  

Ever considered putting a ring on it? On a penis, that is... Or wondered about reaching climax in "perfect time" with a partner? (Hint: simultaneous Os are pretty rare, but that doesn't mean you can't invite or embrace them.) A few things you’ll learn in this episode:   Sexual trends during the pandemic A bit of cock ring history The best cock rings for beginners How cock rings can help in the erection + pleasure departments Facts about simultaneous orgasms August and Dr. Megan's tips for a listener who wants to experience simultaneous orgasms with her husband The role edging, aka orgasm control, can play   Peruse popular cock rings at The Pleasure Chest! Join August on Patreon + get your handy cock ring guide! patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for occasional Girl Boner updates by email: girlboner.org Learn more from Dr. Megan Fleming: greatlifegreatsex.com Produced and edited by August McLaughlin