Love Life Connection

Do you find yourself only attracting the bad guy? And maybe not even that interested in the good guy? If yes, then you’re not alone. The good news, is that there’s good reason for that! And no, it doesn’t make you broken or crazy. But a bit of inner work can make a huge a difference. As I coach my caller today on the show, here’s what you’ll learn: Why you confuse the fireworks and pizazz with love How to feel comfortable in a relationship that feels...good and steady Why mantras and affirmations and telling yourself “this time will be different” won’t work and you can stop doing them now www.veronicagrant.com/episode35 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In lieu of a new episode this week, this week I’ve got a quick message to share: My heartfelt gratitude to the women in the Date Yourself Challenge What to expect from this show moving forward The Love Incubator is open! The Love Incubator is 4-month journey with a small group of women who are ready to use the power of community to discover the art of finding love and a lasting, equal partnership in their life. Learn more about the Love Incubator here. Schedule your Incubator Exploratory Chat with me here. Connect with me on Instagram here to let me know what you think of the new show format. https://veronicagrant.com/a-short-message/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend and former coach, Becca Piastrelli. What I love about Becca’s work is how she helps connect connect with themselves and others in a time of what’s known as the Age of Loneliness. We’re all so hyper connected through technology, yet we connect with humans on a daily basis less and less. We can order coffee and groceries without ever talking to a human, and passively following a friend on instagram is considered “keeping” in touch. This creates a huge crisis in mental health, and I think it shows up in your relationships with men. Because you still crave deep connection, so you go about it getting from men, creating codependency and other unhealthy relationships. https://veronicagrant.com/episode134 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Claudia is a dear client in my last round of the Love Incubator, which is my small group coaching program. (Another round is starting soon! Keep your eyes and ears out.) She’s gone through a massive transformation, and now that she can begin to see the light at the other end of the tunnel, she wants to help other women get unstuck and living life on their own terms. But, like most new entrepreneurs, she’s not sure where to start. Should she file for an LLC? Get a business bank account? Hire a photographer? Start making a website? The good news is, you don’t have to ANY of that stuff. At least not yet. When you’re brand new in business, you’ve GOT to focus on the money making tasks quickly. https://veronicagrant.com/episode133 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As my email list, Instagram, and Facebook has grown, I get tons more questions from the community. Some questions, like, “How do I attract emotionally available men?” feel hard to answer in an email or FB live, or even a podcast episode because I spend months breaking down this question with clients. Other questions I get come from a place of playing small and thinking small. And when you’re looking for love, I don’t want “small” to be any part of your experience. No one deserves to settle, including you. In this episode, I walk you through three of the most common questions I get, and then walk you through how to transform those questions. When you transform the questions, not only are they more empowering, but you can actually answer the questions and in doing so, get specific action steps to change your love life for the better. https://veronicagrant.com/three-questions/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you met someone that you really like, but you don’t want to let yourself fall too fast? Maybe you’ve gotten burned in the past, emotions are hard for you, or you intellectualize the chances of “success” in your relationship. Whatever it is, you certainly don’t want to be weak and feel out of control. Truth is, to let love in, you have to soften, open up, and potentially be hurt. But that doesn’t have to be as scary as it sounds. https://veronicagrant.com/episode131 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ll learn: What Venus, Jupiter, and Saturn are up to for the rest of 2018 and how it’s going to effect your love life How to best manage the upcoming eclipses and Mercury Retrograde How to get the best interpretation of your horoscope (what you’re reading in the newspaper probably isn’t it! https://veronicagrant.com/love-astrological-forecast/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re in a good spot with your career, your health, and your daily routine. You’re feeling good. Maybe even on top of the world. You’re feeling like yourself, healthy, and confident. And then you meet someone. And despite the incredible spot you’re in now, you still can’t help but feel the urge to want to throw it all out the window. You want this relationship to work and you want him to like you. And it’s taking everything inside of you to not throw your life out the window for your new relationship. If you can relate, you’ll love this episode and will totally relate to my caller today. https://veronicagrant.com/episode129 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If a tree falls in a forest, does it make a sound? If you have boundaries, but don’t ask for them to be upheld, do they really exist? Okay, I ask this question in jest, but seriously! There are three parts to every boundary you have, and without these three parts, your boundaries don’t really exist. You can have all the boundaries you want, but if you aren’t actually following through with them, then they mine as well not exist. I know that sounds harsh, but I can’t tell you how many women tell me they ‘already know their boundaries.’ That might be true, but just knowing them isn’t enough. www.veronicagrant.com/episode128 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do we like the bad guy? And then the nice guy comes around, and we’re like BORING. If you can relate, you’re definitely not alone. In fact, this is how I was for years. I needed that chase and those high highs. I thought those high highs were love, but they’re not. My caller today is wondering why she keeps chasing guys that are definitely not interested in her. There are infinite reasons as to why you might find yourself in a particular pattern, but essentially, the big thing for you to do is to relearn the what love is. https://veronicagrant.com/stop-wanting-men-who-arent-interested/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most of the time, what we want isn’t as far out of reach as we think it. The trouble is, we think it’s out of reach, then we create stories about it, and spiral from there. That’s when the funk, jadedness, bitterness, and even meltdown can happen. And look, we’ve ALL been there. So please don’t beat yourself up about it. At the same time, you don’t have to stay in your funk or meltdown. So channel your inner coach and coach yourself through anything with the three tips I share in this podcast. https://veronicagrant.com/episode126 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I hope you’re loving the 2-part series on all things sex. It seems like sex is either a taboo topic in our society, or the butt of every joke. It’s hard to remember sometimes that sex is supposed to be amazing, pleasure, and in some faiths, a holy act. But the way we’re taught about sex, no wonder so many of us have complicated feelings about it. Like my friend Kit says, if we were taught soccer the same way we’re taught sex, no one would be playing soccer. https://veronicagrant.com/not-physically-attracted/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kit is a new friend that I’ve met through my friend and old coach, Becca Piastrelli. I really admire Kit’s energy and her relentless dedication to celebrating women’s pleasure. Owning your pleasure, specifically your sexual pleasure, may seem trivial, but I believe that owning your sexual power is a beautiful way to own your power in other parts of your life, especially relationships. Who are you outsourcing your power, your confidence, or your worthiness to? In our conversation, we talk about all things pleasure and women’s empowerment. I think you’re gonna have a fire under your ass after you listen. :) https://veronicagrant.com/episode124 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Through working with the dozens of women in the Love Action Tribe and my countless private clients and clients in the Love Incubator, I’ve found three big beliefs to let go. If you do, you’ll get just about the closest thing to instant gratification there is. Now, personal growth is a life long journey, but there are a few things you can do to immediately feel more free and less stuck. In this episode you’ll learn: The life-changing reframe of “I’m too much.” What a yogurt can teach you about that ex you “wasted” so much time with Three kinds of expectations that keep you stuck https://veronicagrant.com/episode123 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ugh… rejection. Nobody wants to deal with it, but unfortunately, if you want to find real love, then it’s something we all have to come to terms with. It’s 100% impossible to rejection proof yourself AND want to find real love. Living in the fantasy that the “right person” will break down your walls will leave you single, or worse, in an unhealthy, toxic relationship. As I coach Hillary through dealing with rejection, here’s what you’ll learn: What to do instead of rejection proofing yourself What to do when you sense the guy you’re dating is pulling back The coffee pot test to up your texting game https://veronicagrant.com/rejection-the-pullback-and-texting/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve been getting tons of questions recently about how I started my business and how I continue to grow it to the success that it is today. I’ve also been increasingly working with clients on their businesses, and in that process, and in reflecting on what’s made me “successful” (what is success anyways?!), I saw that there were actually lots of parallels between finding soulful love and running a soulful experience. I often say what got you success in your career isn’t going to get you success in love. That’s still true, but only when you look at your success in your career from a more corporate-y, hustle perspective. That’s not what got me success in my business, and won’t be what gets you success in love either. In this episode, I go through 5 parallels between finding love and having a soulful business. And even if you’re not a business owners and have no plans to be, you’ll definitely walk away with lots of takeaways you can apply to love, or moving ahead in whatever your career is. https://veronicagrant

I often hear from women in this community that they know what their intuition is saying; they just don’t listen to it. Or they don’t trust it. Or worse, someone has told them that going with their gut is “bad.” The truth is, primarily as women, our power lies in our intuition is our greatest asset. It gives us an immense power that may make others feel uncomfortable. So they try to take your power away to keep the power balance. I believe that if we ALL listen to our intuitions more than our heads, the world would be happier, safer, and more compassionate place for all beings. The tides are changing, but we still have a lot of work to do. This episode will help you develop the tools you need to be your own best guru and live the life you want, on your terms. https://veronicagrant.com/trusting-your-intuition/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, I coach Carrie through her frustration of getting sooooo attached to the men she dates, then not just being disappointed when a relationship doesn’t work out, but devastated. I find that as adults, we play out unresolved issues from childhood in all areas of our life, but it especially shows up in love. Carrie is playing out a couple unresolved issues from her mom and dad, but she’s playing them out in very different ways. Each way requires a specific line of healing and work to move through them. https://veronicagrant.com/episode119 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today is another live coaching session. We'll talk with Stacy about letting go of the fear that the pickings are slim and a new look at the numbers game! Listen in as I coach Stacey through the fear of being “pistachio.” She’s scared that if she’s herself and expresses her interests or preferences, that the guy she’s dating will be turned off and no longer interested in her. I think as a society this is largely the way women are conditioned. Generally, girls, who grow up to be women, are conditioned to be agreeable, look a certain way, act a certain way, get approval. Then, when these girls become women, in dating, it translates to being rather vanilla and uninteresting to the guys you’d be interested in, and attracts guys who have tendencies to be narcissists or controlling. https://veronicagrant.com/episode118 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head: “Is he right for me?” “How can I ask for what I want without trying to change him?” “What’s happening long term in this relationship?” All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs. https://veronicagrant.com/episode117 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.