Personal Development Unplugged

I'm trying - really A five minute quickie podcast How many times have you (and that include me) said "I'll give it a try" or "I really tried to......" you as usual fill in the blank? I hear this in my world of helping people sooooo much. A client often says that they are so desperate to change and they see, hear and feel that I have a way that might support the change they want and that I'm totally committed to help and then they say GREAT! I'll give it a try. A "TRY" -  How empty is that? To get what we want and what we deserve we need that I'll do whatever it takes attitude So what's the answer? Well I won't leave you hanging and it's not a secret and it is simple :O)  -- Come with me and listen -give it a try :O/ (Tee Hee) I think you will get more than a little gem here and as usual I'd love to here what you heard that made sense, and what didn't, so I can improve and share. Talking of sharing - please share this and the PDU podcast to at least one person, it will make so much difference you will not beli

Addictions - what are they and what can we do about them? "There's no such thing as an addiction" Bold statement I know but stay with me because when you believe what I believe you can CHOOSE. I mean if you had the choice you'd choose not to - wouldn't you? Come with me to see the world just a little bit different. This new way of seeing your world another way, my way, just may be the difference that makes the difference. Don't get me wrong in thinking I'm not recognizing the difficulties in changing or making light of this issue because I treat this area of issues really seriously. Seriously but with an intention to find a way to choose to be how you want to be and not be a slave to ....... well you fill in the blank. I'm keeping this narrative quite vague on purpose because I want you to dive deeply with me in this podcast because it's important to both of you and me. Come with me and let me explain the philosophy of how how I successfully work with this issue and even if you don't have this problem you

Feeling Sorry for yourself........... It's your choose What generally do we do when things don't go our way? Even the little things - Mostly (we choose to) feel sorry for ourselves or angry. What do we say to ourselves at this time too? "the worlds' against me" "Everything's gone wrong now!" So let's ask the question(s) What bloomin' good does behaving that way, talking that way do or achieve? - Nada! Better question.......... What could I choose to behave better say better things? These questions presume you have a choice And .......... YOU DO! Come and explore this with me in this short podcast and see what we can learn. Send me your feedback, what you learnt and what other ways you found to do things differently via the special email - feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Awesome :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just email me feedback@personaldevel

When things go wrong - A five minute quickie podcast When things go wrong it's amazing how we can generalize this into every thing we do or are doing and the effect can be disastrous! So what happens, what do we do when something doesn't go right or the way we want it? What do you say to yourself? What are those dis-empowering words we say and what emotions do the evoke? It all goes 'reels of cotton' Let's go through some times in the past when we did that and learn so we can change the way respond and how that can effect our physiology. You see changing the little things in out lives, changing simply things that generalize to other area of our lives can have a far greater effect than going for the 'biggie'. Let's ask ourselves some different questions and notice it's not that difficult - in fact it's easier than you imagine. Have a listen and enjoy. If you do remember it 's great to send in your feedback as it gets the results to sink in deeper and allows them to be shared and help so many others and that fe

Remember the positives because ............ A longer podcast "You are a product of your experiences" A throw away line in a conversation between Joe Rogan and Sam Harris made me think how much of your experiences do we consider? You see we tend to remember the negative times/events in our life and let that define us. That's totally understandable because of our built-in defense mechanism, our reptilian part of our mind that continues to protect us from all those Sabre Toothed tigers :O) Then I got to think about what would happen if we could take learnings from all the events of our past and use them - then we really would be a total product of our experiences. We've got the best computer in the world on top of our shoulders and in every fibre and muscle so it wouldn't really be a problem to do so. The thing is to get this underway we going to need the help of our conscious mind first and get it to send your unconscious mind in the right direction. "How do we do that?"   I hear you ask Have a listen and I'll

Careful what you listen to People can be really good hypnotists even when and especially when they haven't been trained to be one. You see sometimes a hypnotist will say one thing and slip in another thing which you don't consciously notice but it goes in all the same. You see I was listening to two people have a nice, deep and meaningful conversation and all was good then I noticed, because I have been trained to do so, heard a few words that just seemed so innocuous yet so powerful and they went in without being notices. You have to be so careful what you listen to or you may be infected by others beliefs which could be totally incorrect yet you may take them on uncritically. This may seem really sinister but if you have a listen you'll hear what was said and understand why I'm bringing it to your attention. So......... have a listen and let me know what you think. You can do that through the special email I set up feedback@personadevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a

Seeing is believing and following on from my promise in FMQ 234  What three quarter of a million people didn't get here's the visualization track I have recorded especially for you and your continued success in anything you want to accomplish.

What three quarter of a million people didn't get And yes there's a process recorded for you to use, download and create so many great things in your life. Did you know some people don't think they can visualize and don't realise when they do? Some think it has to be in 20/20 vision and that can be so far from the truth - I will explain what I think the truth of the quality of your visualizations. I'll start with a little experiment so show you the power of visualizing and the effect it has on our emotions  - it's such a great skill even if you think it's too simple. Hey the old 'In simplicity there is genius' means we can use this skill in so many different ways, easily, comfortably and with great effect with so little effort. The thing is this not 'whoo whoo la la' it has a biological background too - the RAS the reticulating activating system From a YouTube video with over 3/4 million watches  they missed the one thing that makes this skill work - what a shame  :O( and I couldn't let it go. I had to let yo

The perfect morning routine (Ritual) What is the perfect morning routine or maybe the most perfect evening routine? What is /are the most prefect Rituals that start your day or end? There are some many who tell us of what this perfect way to be, if you search the internet/YouTube you'll be over whelmed at the amount of noise in the area. This can be so destructive as when we can't follow these 'Perfect' ways these 'Perfect' Rituals and make us feel so guilty because we fail at being perfect. I am not saying morning routines are wrong because they are really important when we do them our way and even make them - Wait for it - We make them our DAILY ROUTINES and consistently do things that help us grow. Let's use these - well the shining examples - and model what is being shared and adapt it to suit ourselves. I'll share with you a couple of examples from my coaching clients and how we made it totally possible and successful. I'll even share my flexible way that I think will encourage you to find your way and f

What's behind a behavior? Let's have a look at the way people behave and how we react to that behavior. Did you know people are not their behaviors? I have learnt so much by this simple presupposition from NLP. People are not stupid they believed stupidly. I am one of the worlds worst at trying to keep myself to myself, I think I can hide it yet all the time I'm communicating exactly how I feel behind my behavior to the outside world. I wonder where you can see this and wonder what's going on below the surface or simply have been doing what I have been doing and sending out all the wrong signals. Maybe places where we can be compassionate to what appears to be a negative behavior ans the cause is really something else and how much of a difference that compassion can make. This might not make perfect sense but if you listen all way through I think you will and it will make a difference to how you are in this world. Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests

The morning after - A 5 minute podcast What are the reactions that happen after some deep self work or working with a therapist? They're always the same aren't they? The thing is generally it's different for most people and sometimes different each time and that can worry some people because it's not always what they expect. The saying 'Expect the unexpected' springs to mind' I wanted to take that concern away and share with you some ways I have reacted and ways some of my clients have too. And guess what ? they are all different. I hope you both (not the both of you) enjoy and find this impromptu podcast beneficial and interesting. It was something that caught my thoughts and I decided to record it on the fly do to speak. I'll leave to rest to your ears - have fun As always, do let me know your thoughts and maybe the ways you have been following some personal work. Please do this via the email feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com If you want to share this and any other of the podcasts and subscribe to y

The one thing that stops you A slightly longer podcast Ever had the experience of doing something on impulse? maybe an Ah Ha moment or a burst of inspiration? They don't seem to choose and come from negative or positive places/events in your life. Can you remember some of yours? I was remembering some of mine and I'll share them with you here and then let's explore how we didn't let obstacles get in our way, we were 'buzzed' and full of unstoppable energy. The thing is they all have one thing, at least one thing, in common and when you get to recognize it and can replicate it we are on a winner. This may seem on the surface to be a bit complicated but if you've been here before you will know we break down the complicated into simple and easy to do steps. So go on - press play and enjoy.You never know of all the wonders waiting for you  :O) Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share an

The dangers of self talk I'm so Stupid I'm so dumb What an Idiot He's a dope Have you ever said the above or something similar to yourself? It didn't have to be out load, some times that inner voice, even if it's not heard by others the effect is still the same. I wonder how many time with talk to ourselves like this in a single day? For me, I imagine, it's far to many for comfort. There's a presupposition (useful assumption) in NLP that goes like this - People are not their behaviours and people include me and you. Let's have a dive into the effect of this type of self talk because even just thinking this way will be read and understood by others - I'll explain more if you have a few minutes to listen. We'll even explore how to change thins too! If you have any thoughts on this or any other podcast here please do communicate it by emailing your thoughts feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Please share and subscribe to help spread the word and encourage others to make changes in their lives and strive

Want a free lunch? There is no free lunch - podcast So join the feast! Inspired by a new podcast about the norms we have to live to and if we really need to live up to norms, who's norms? And some personal stories of moving through my comfort zone, one of which happened yesterday. I really struggled to make a decision on something that to most would be a small step but at the time, for me, was a big step for Cloughie and what happened when I did. This might even get you to think of times when you did something that gave you uncertainty or anxiety and..............? This brought to mind something similar that I remember from 20 years ago that gave me huge doubts about me and if I would cope and my struggle with the invisible barrier of comfort and what happened because f it. It's corny but it's all about the first step in and to an adventure of our dreams and sometimes the silly limiting beliefs that try to protect us, me and you, without knowing what will be missed from the rest of your life and the 'if only'

Did you know what you want wants you I have always wanted to think, think deeply that is. I look in awe of those that do and the results of their explorations. The weird thing is as I was thinking about my desire to think deeper about subjects a saying my son Joseph will say quite often is 'What you want wants you' and I began to search where this came from, the originator, but to no avail and I got lost in a few memories that I'll share with you that seemed to connect to 'What you want wants you'. Even this recording was to be a short five minute quickie but seemed to get more detailed and more interesting. The conclusion we draw from all of this? .............you'll just have to listen and find out :O) I wonder what stories of your past align with this and I wonder how deep you will go? If you wish to share and I hope you do let me know via feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjo

Remember this is what you forget A 5 minute quickie podcast This podcast is all about coming home. Home to remember. I'll even share with you a story of an experience with one meeting and watching one of my NLP hero's work which left me with a Ah Ha moment that has stayed with me and effects the way I work 100%. What did I learn - elegant basics and persistence that would change the way I use my skills and work with people - let me explain in the podcast. This also reinforces how to become a master - MASTERY - doing what you know and knowing what you do and build a firm foundation that will guarantee success.  Muscle memory - getting these things in the muscle. You will also get to see through the 'fluff' that so many hide the things we already know. So you may want to reflect on what AND how much you actually know!! As always I love your feedback so do email me with it at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com And a share, subscribe and nice review is a great way to pay it forward  :O) - YAY!!! Shine brig

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Lets get lost and ????? Why do some people go everywhere else to find themselves when only to find they're already here? I'll share a little story of mine of serendipity about being lost and finding  and an Ah Ha moment for me in creating this particular podcast - spooky  :O) AND........ as usual some thought on HOW to find yourself with curiosity without expectation but you have to listen to find out. Let me know where and what you found and we'll share our learings send them to me at feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just click on the iTunes logo or any of the other buttons at paulclough.co.uk and even get updates via email. Go to paulclough.co.uk/subscribe to learn more If you want to access my FREE HYPNOSIS tracks go to paulcloughonline.com/podcast Follow and inter-react on twitter @pcloughie Why not look for me an

More of those wheels and buckets Yep here's the follow on the podcast #123 where we looked where we are under-performing or not improving in various areas of our life as much as we want or have expected. If you haven't listened to #123 then you may be better off starting there but then again who am I to tell people what to do as you may want to revisit this after that having listened to this first??????? Isn't choice awesome? :O) Let's get serious In this episode we dive deeper into the 'hows', ways to find that improvement in specific area of your life and understand the 'Why's' that make all the difference to achieving or not. It may sound a little confusing but trust me you will get it because at the end of the day we, I, aim to make these processes as simple as they can be to get the most out the effort you put in. And I know you will - put the effort in and get the most out of it - because of who you are. Let me know your result, any feedback and anything you feel I could do to improve what I do here all

Stop trying - It doesn't work I'm tying: to lose weight, to meditate, to get fit, to find enough time and you can fill in your blank. It all starts with a little word that seems to slip out TRYING. When you take that word out of our vocabulary we can start to lose weight, to meditate, to get fit, to find enough time and you can fill in your blank and there will be no doubt because you have decide to do it. No more excuses of TRYING. You decide how much effort you put into getting the results you want. It could all boil down to being more specific - more specificity :O) and how much importance or value we decide. Or even take if further ad in the word expect!!!!! To help you with all of this remember those free hypnosis programes you can get right here There's more here you just have to listen and then DO! Shine brightly Paul Please remember you can leave a comment or email me with questions, requests and feedback. If you have enjoyed this or any other episode please share and subscribe. Just click on the iTun