Sexual Addiction:strength/hope/recovery

Online support and connection are available for those who are struggling with sex and addiction, paired substance/sex addiction, love addiction and other relationship issues on www.sexandrelationshiphealing.com. Addicts and loved ones of these can also get the guidance they need from experts like Dr. Rob Weiss and Dr. David Fawcett.   Listen as Carol the Coach asks Tami VerHelst, Chief Relationship Officer about the drop-in discussion and support groups, podcasts, blogs, daily inspirations that Seeking Integrity offers to promote healing.

Ross Rosenberg has spent his life helping clients and clinicians understand how trauma attachment causes Self-Love Deficit Disorder. Tonight he will be talking about his theories that represents the most modern and scientifically up-to-date thinking about codependency.  "Codependency,” is re-defined and re-conceptualized into “Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)™," which is a trauma, core shame, pathological loneliness, and addiction disorder. The  primary focus of tonights dialogue is on Rosenberg’s Ten Stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment Model, and how through it, a person transitions from being Self-Love Deficient to Self-Love Abundant – The “codependency cure.” If you battle with codependency, this show will provide information about how to resolve a person’s life-time battle with SLDD, and it will also facilitate hope and optimism for both the codependent, SLD, and/or trauma practitioner, or the person struggling with these conditions.

Recovery resources are fully online and this is great news for many reasons. Whether you’re anxious about leaving the house due to the current pandemic or too shy to walk in the door of a meeting or professional’s office, online help is a convenient option. In this episode, sex addiction specialist Forest Benedict shares from his experience as a fully online therapist and coach. We will discuss the benefits and limitations of working recovery online and how this modality can strengthen, connect, and inspire those who participate use it. Listeners will also learn how they can get help if they want to self-isolate due to the Coronavirus. Forest will share about his current Life After Lust program in California and the upcoming worldwide launch of his Heroes in Recovery coaching program. You don’t want to miss this relevant and timely conversation.

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Ken Wells who has written the book, Dare to Be Average:Finding Brilliaance in the Commonplace. He explains how embracing “average” in life impacts the recovery life of an addict? He will explain how to have an open heart and how that impacts "going deep" to assist SA's in finding their brilliance. He believes that you can transform the experience of shame into the personal brilliance of compassion?

MBATT therapists are helping addicts and partners to reduce trauma triggers that interfere in healthy recovery. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Darrin Ford, Founder and Director of TMAATT has been studying years of research that inspired the Mindfulness Academy for Addiction and Trauma Training. Listen to why he believes that it is crucial to working through the chaos and trauma of addiction.

There are all sorts of ways that addicts experience interpersonal betrayal of trauma. Find out how tonight's guest Michael Crocker suggests therapists need to help addicts through the guilt and stop injuring themselves.

It is important for you to understand that you have an addiction, but who are you really? Carol the Coach interviews Rob, who wants to help people understand that he believes that the only way to surrender to one's true self is to surrender to what God wants him to be and when surrender occurs, he is liberated to follow his true legacy. Listen as Rob talks about the importance of understanding the first 3 steps within the 12 steps so that it can be the gateway to alll that you can be!

Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Eddie Capparucci, who has created a process that he has found very successful in treating and sex addiction. He believes the road to recovery from sexual and ography addiction goes through your childhood. It is the various pain points we suffered as children, adolescents and teenagers that impact our sexual and ography addictions today. And the key to unlocking all of this can be found with the inner child.  He has created the Inner Child Recovery Process for the Treatment of Sexual and ography Addiction to answer the "whys" that plague sex addicts and can empower them into abstinence.

There is research that suggests that 1 out of 6 men have been sexually abused before the age of 18. Many men chose not to disclose and my guest tonight, Dr. Kelli Palfy has written a book Men Too. It is a compilation of Kelly's research as a psychologist and a police officer who identified offending patterns and common grooming techniques that added to perpetration. She also wants the public to know why abused children and teens get misdiagnosed as ADD, or ODD. Listen as she encourages the listener to break the silence to increase his mental health.

Carol the Coach interviews Scott Brassart, who has written Sex and Addiction Healing and Recovery: A Daily Reader for Sex and Addicts. He believes this book will help addicts in recovery, because it shares the daily nuggets of information and wisdom that can guide you towards making healthy choices. He feels that there has been very little written to guide addicts on a daily basis that is relevant to the changing times of and sex addiction. Listen as he shares what you might need the most in your own journey through the process of recovery.

Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Alex, whose father was a sex addict. Her discovery occurred when she was contacted by his mistress and given the gory details of their affair. This is a story of the collateral damage that can occur as a result of sex addiction. Alex candidly shares her story of the betrayal and how she had to figure out how to be a child again and to love her dad regardless of the intimate, destructive decisions he had made in his life that affected both she, her mother, and nearly everyone in their lives.

Carol the Coach interviews Charlene Benson, who wrote Unstuck Move from Powerless to Empowered in your Relationships. The "Relationship Coach" wants you to understand the hidden reasons that drive your behaviors and ditch old patterns and embrace a healthier way of loving and experencing love. She will talk to you about the powerful pathways to help you avoid giving up in defeat or getting stuck at an impasse. Relationships can be tough so let Charlene make it a bit easier!

Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. David Fawcett who is a social worker and clinical sexologist. He is Vice President for Clinical Programming at Seeking Integrity and is seen as an expert on gay men. drug use and high rsk sexual behavior. His book Lust, Men and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery is considered a recovery must in working with gay men. Listen as he talks about how Chem Sex, which is the pairing of drugs and sexual behavior,  is becoming epidemic among gays and heterosexuals.

Sex addiction worsens when trauma goes undetected or untreated. This is a prepeat of a show that helps the SA understand about trauma.

Ambiguous Grief is a term that can be applied to all types of grief that do not have a hard definition for the change in a relationship.Tonight, Carol the Coach will be talking to Sophia Caudie who has a new model and book that talks about how difficult it may be to recognize and grieve the loss. She hopes that discussing it tonight will help clients understand how to work on the mourning that accompanies it.

Secrets, manipulations and addiction prevent the partner from trusting the spouse again. Tonight, I will be chatting with Geoff Steurer who is going to be talking about how the sex addict can make the unfaithful partner feel better and  find effective trust-building efforts focused on caring for the  betrayed partner as an individual worthy of respect.

Carol the Coach will be interview Cat Clark who has done a 4 book series about both she and her husband Frank and the transitions that have occured because of partner betrayal. Her immune system was dramatically compromised and so she talks with couples and partners as to what she did to minimize the damage and restore her serenity,

We are all pioneers in the field of sex addiction. Yet many therapists don't agree on whether sex addiction even exists. There are so many questions. Tonight Carol the Coach interviews Michael Salas from Vantage Point Dallas Counselling who weighs in on the controversy. He helps therapists to understand and treat compulsive sexual behavior. He says that when the therapist community struggles to find a balanced consensus on the topic, it can be difficult for people with CPSB and their partners choose the right help. He says that when the therapist who helps clients to unpack their own narratives, establish their own boundaries  and identify the labels that best fit them...It will promotes more authentic, open discussions that help the client come to their own conclusions.

One of the challenges after 6-12 months of sobriety for individuals is handling their emotional life. After all, one reason why addictions start is to avoid feeling emotions to begin with.Our guest Jan M. Bergstrom, who wrote Gifts from a Challenging Childhood; Creating a Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self, believes that individuals have to to heal from family of origin trauma. In our show, she will help us understand how to re-parent our historical parts.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a partner who has had to readjust her whole life as a result of sexual addiction. Here how she coped and found strength as she began to depend solely on her self and safe people within her environment.