Sexual Addiction:strength/hope/recovery

Carol the Coach interviews Kristen A. Jenson author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org. She felt the need to help parents educate school age children about seeing ography on their tablets. She offers 5 safety rules which help children stay safe from sexting and sextortion. Her new book Bood Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr .is a must for any parent but especially if you are aware that has been viewed in your home!  

There is often times a dark side that feeds sexual addiction. Find out more about how to combat or surrender to it and then what to do next.

Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews a woman who wants to develop trust but is so overcome by hurt that she fears  giving the relationship a fair chance. Listen to the advice that Carol gives to partners of sex addicts who want to heal but are not sure how!

Carol the Coach interviews Brannon Patrick who believes that recovery for both the addict and the betrayed is all about connection. Real recovery happens when someone gets reconnected again.  Connection to God, Self, and Others is what heals addiction and betrayal trauma.  Addiction undermines connection and causes attachment problems. He will outline the specific indicators of healthy connection to God, Self and others and give examples and symptoms of disconnection. He will provide tools and strategies to reestablish vulnerable connection.  He  will illustrate and give examples of self compassion, boundaries and empathy, and nurturing spirituality in recovery. 

Carol will be interviewing Anna Osborn, LMFT who works with couples and individuals healing from trauma to their relationship including infidelity, betrayal and loss. Listen to the conversation that leads to healing and how does a couple develop a new relationship that promotes trust and honesty.

Carol the Coach interviews "Gaslighting Expert"  Ross Rosenberg about this phenomena that frequently occurs in the relationship with the sex addict and his/her spouse. Gaslighting is a complex and well-thought out brainwashing strategy utilized by highly manipulative narcissists. Gaslighters control victims by systematically manipulating them into identifying with and feeling no control over an implanted psychological problem. The resulting distress, insecurity and paranoia creates even lower self-esteem and feelings of hopelessness and powerlessness, while compelling them to isolate even further and seek protection from the gaslighter. They are, therefore, trapped in a double bind from which it is difficult to escape. Find out more about this technique so that you can stop it if it occurs in your life!

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Anne Blythe who is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a nonprofit, online coaching practice for women. All of the coaches at Betrayal Trauma Recovery are trained by The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS for short). After years of attempting to help her husband recover from his ography addiction and "anger issues", he was arrested for domestic violence in 2015. Anne shares her recovery adventure in real time on The Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast, as she and the APSATS coaches seek to educate women about how to safely and effectively navigate their husband’s sex addiction and related behaviors. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery professionals share their tips, skills and techniques to empower women on their betrayal trauma healing journey.

Carol the Coach interviews Jessica Levith who treats women,men and couples sturggling with problematic sexual behaviors. She often sees sexualized anger which is the fusion of anger and eroticism based on an arousal template laid down early in life. There has been little written about sexualized anger, using a non-forensic lens. But for those struggling with insecure attachments, the importance of exploring unhealthy pieces of eroticism is key to cultivating a healthier and exciting sexuality. Listen in as this team talks about how to treat this pervasive issue to promote recovery.Is Sexuali

Carol the Coach interviews Shannon Colleary who is a compassionate recovery coach and author who teaches women how to find real love by attending 12 step recovery meetings and using tools from her Love School to promote healing, self love and healthy interdependent relationships. If you are a partner of a sex addict and you want more from your relationship or you want to find healthy love ... this is the show for you! Listen in as she talks about her 10 week program that attracts real love.

It can be confusing to ascertain if you have features of Love Addiction or Love Avoidance.  This show highlights how love addiction and love avoidance is different from sexual addiction. Learn about how childhood traumas feed into this disorder

Life After Lust is unlike any recovery book available today. It guides the reader into intentional personal growth but also frames the pursuit of a meaningful life as a byproduct of succerssful recovery. Carol the Coach interviews Forest Benedict author of Life After Lust: Stories and Strategies for Sex and ography Addiction Recovery. He has a 52 week plan that helps navigate addicts into healthy recovery and healthy living! This show will help to change your life!

You can’t be a sex addict, you’re a woman.” “Women don’t recover from sex addiction.” “You’re not welcome at this 12-step fellowship meeting because you’re a woman.” These were all things that were said to interviewee as she started to search for help for her sex addiction. Women need help and support in sex addiction recovery.  She started Worth Recovery and the Worth Recovery podcast as a support for women in recovery.  It started with the mission to reach women sex addicts who were recovering from their own addiction – but as her recovery has grown – She learned that she had a parent with a sex addiction and she needed to recover from that, she have a food addiction and she needed to recover from that, she had a dysfunctional family and  needed to recover from that – so has the listenership.  It is the mission of Worth Recovery to dispel shame and build hope in the lives of women recovering from addiction in their lives, however that addiction has touched them – whether it is their own or that of someon

One of the greatest challenges that couples in recovery face is navigating the journey out of the diseased world of sexual addiction and into the healthy and robust life of relational wellness. The trauma of discovery is a gamechanger.  The betrayed (partner) often suffers with PTSD primary to the discovery – with all of the accompanying distressing symptoms including a pervasive sense of unsafety and impending doom, fear, hypervigilance, a questioning of ones’ reality, depressed, anxious, suicidal, angry.  The addict is anxious, angry, lost, avoidant, - the system is destabilized and chaotic. Tonight, Carol the Coach interviews Michele Saffier. LMFT, CSATwho is an expert in helping couples heal. She believes that couples don’t know how to be in one another’s’ presence, how to talk, how to contain anger and fear, how to behave in front of children, who to tell, what to tell, how not to tell; the bottom line is that there is no organic sense of how to cope with the level of distress it faces. In this show,

Carol the Coach interviews Christina Bell who has made it her mission to work with couples whose lives have been ravaged by sexual addiction. She has worked with a lot of couples with sex addiction and has developed  a roadmap to help them through the first year. Tonight's show will teach couples what they need to do to work through the hard work that goes into recovering from  the collateral damage of  sex addiction and learn how to be close again.  

Shame is the most painful of all emotions. People will go to almost any length to avoid feeling it. The problem with addiction as a way to avoid shame is that once the addictive behavior ends, the shame comes back many fold. And it takes stronger and stronger doses of the addiction to move into good feelings again. Working with shame involves helping the person transform toxic shame that leads to the addiction into healthy shame. Carol the Coach interviews Bret Lyon who is an expert in helping sex addicts work through the stages of shame.In toxic shame the addict freezes, feels helpless and is unable to change  behavior. In healthy shame a person can reassess, see oneselves as a flawed human being, living in a community of flawed human beings, who made a mistake and is open to the possibilty of change.

As a resource for partners, PCS offers a  6-day intensive outpatient program in Scottsdale AZ.  They run their program 52 weeks/year. Partners of sexual addicts are a regular part of  the program and an area of particular focus.   Our work at PCS is heavily trauma focused and takes into account co-occurring psychological and medical disorders . The IOP at PCS was the first intensive outpatient program in the country, started by Ralph Earle 40+ years ago. Clients do 55 hours of intensive work in 5-1/2 days (Sunday thru Fri) with 35 hours of individual therapy, and 20 hours of group therapy and psychoeducation. Individual work includes EMDR, psychodrama, somatic experiencing, art and music therapy, equine therapy, brain mapping, neuro-biofeedback and other techniques. Marilyn Murray, the inventor of the Trauma Egg and Circles of Intimacy, is an integral part of our program. We also focus on brain health from an integrative medical perspective, seeking to facilitate on-going therapy work with nutrition, exercise

Partners of sex addicts experience a barrage of painful emotions and reactions after discovering their significant other's acting out behaviors. Typically, these symptoms are consistent with a trauma reaction or even post-traumatic stress disorder. Sometimes they are so severe that they interfere with a partner's ability to function in live and mau require treatment from a physician. Carol the Coach interviews Honor Ashbaugh MD who a primary care physician who is now a therapist treating sex addicts and partners. Dr. Ashbaugh has an extraordinary heart for helping couples navigate the debilitating symptoms that accompany sexual addiction and partner betrayal. Find out what you should know to ease the symptoms!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Milton Magness and Marsha Means who will talking about their new book, Real Hope, True Freedom: Understanding and Coping With Sex Addiction. This book is filled with a conslidation of over 4,000 questions submitted to people who needed to understand the truth on multiple topics related to sexual addicion. This book helps readers understand the reality of sex addiction and to know that recovery is posssible!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Sonja J Rudie who is a certified EMDR Therapist . She is an expert at treating people who have experienced trauma in their childhoods and in the coupleship as a result of the "addiction discovery". Listen as she describes how EMDR can help you!