Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to? There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy.  In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life.  When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney transplant operations. The experiences leading up to and after the surgery played a significant role in shaping how Brian viewed himself, his capabilities and his future. Brian’s story reminds me that it truly is not our circumstances that define us, but how we choose to respond to those circumstances.  Things Brian talks about in this episode: Living a cautious life vs living a courageous life Being stuck in a rut and questioning how he was living his life Working so hard that he was giving himself health problems Being biracial and the feeling of never fitting in  Learning what it means to live authentically (

What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen?  As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one another with the utmost love and respect, but to do the same for ourselves as well.  In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we dig into the topic of "how to treat your partner like a King or Queen". This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with feeling like they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, or anyone who feels their current relationship dynamic has room for growth.  For questions, comments and feedback on this episode, email me directly at matthew@matthewbivens.com or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURD

Do you believe that balance is possible for you? So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again. It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place.  In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, and I’m giving you 3 new perspectives on balance that are going to make it more simple and achievable for you.  STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WAN

What do you do when your life feels out of control? Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating.  I’ve been there and I know the feeling of helplessness and frustration that comes as a result.  However, you don’t have to stay there! There are simple things that you can do that are entirely effective at putting you back in the driver’s seat of your life.  In today’s episode I’m sharing with you 2 simple ways to regain control over your life, feel like you have more stability, and to get your sense of autonomy back.  STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps

What morning habits do all great leaders and people who are doing BIG things in life have in common? (And no, it’s not meditation or cold showers!) They all start their day off by building proactive momentum.  Not sure what that means? No worries! In today’s episode I’m explaining the concept of proactive momentum and I’m helping you break the habits that are driving your stress, frustration and burnout.  STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced on

Do you know why affirmations, self help and success books and “positive talk” just don't work for many people? It has nothing to do with those things being ineffective, and everything to do with the emotional state a person is in when they attempt to connect with those things.  In today’s episode I’m breaking down exactly how this all works and helping you to unlock the true reason why you keep creating the same outcomes despite desiring new results.  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Power vs Force by David R. Hawkins Awareness Suite: Day 1 STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https

What does living a balanced life mean to you?  Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWz

What shame are you hiding? Fellas, this episode is for you. As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate. The truth is, it's not. And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that. In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it. My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light. Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from

What does it take to create an episode of the Having It A.L.L. podcast?  If you’ve ever asked yourself that question then you’ll love today’s episode! I was recently asked by a friend, “How do you continue coming up with ideas for your podcast after 8 years and 500 episodes?”. It was a great question and one that got me thinking about sharing with you a behind the scenes look of what it takes to create an episode of the show as well as keep the podcast going for years to come.  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Win a “Thank You!” bundle, take the quick Having It A.L.L. listener survey here - https://matthewbivens.com/survey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does your calendar say about your priorities?  Whether you use an online calendar, a paper calendar, or simply store all of your appointments and todos in your head (which is impressive!), you have some sort of way of divvying out your most precious resource -- your time! Where you invest your time says A LOT about what you prioritize! A common trait of people who feel fulfilled in life and who “have it all” is that they regularly make time for the people, environments and things they value the most.  In today’s episode I talk about what your calendar says about the level of fulfillment you may or may not be experiencing in your life, and I give you a few simple action items that can help you experience more joy and fulfillment this week!  STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-wat

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life?  So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable.  In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20

How do you relate to feedback? Feedback scares the heck out of most people, but if you run from it then you're handcuffing your potential. I was one of those people for a very long time. I did everything I could to NOT receive feedback, and when I did I usually took it very personally and sat in a funk for a few days afterwards.  Today, however, I understand how important feedback is to growth. Point blank: you will NOT grow without feedback. And that’s growth in ANYTHING -- your job, your health, your hobbies, your relationships, your SELF.  In today’s episode I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet effective practice that I’ve been using to improve my life. It’s called T2B2, and it centers around seeking out feedback from trusted people in your life. Tune in and I’ll share with you how it’s done and show you why you want to start implementing this simple practice in your life right now!  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Why 2023 Was My Most Difficult Year Yet (And What I'm Doing About It This Year): https://w

Are you feeling stuck in life?  We all feel stuck at some point in life. How long we stay feeling stuck depends on a few factors.  Today's day 7 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are applying the lessons from the last 6 days so you can finally get unstuck!  DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/pod

How much of your time each day is spent with the people, places, and activities that you say matter most to you? Today's day 6 of the awareness suite, and in this conversation we are taking a look at exactly where you invest your most precious resource: your time. DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having

How aware are you of the impact that your environment is having on you? From where you spend most of your time, to who you spend most of your time with, your environments shape your health, your attitudes, and your behavior.  Today is day 5 of the Awareness suite, and in this episode we’re taking a look at the environments where you invest your time and energy, and shining a light on the fact that your environments very well may be keeping you from having it all.  DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS

Do you have clear personal standards in your life? If so, what are they?? Most people understand the concept of a personal standard, but in practice have vague personal standards (at best). Yet, if you knew the impact that not having or holding personal standards was having across all areas of your life, I bet you’d get to work creating some!  Today is day 4 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re getting real about personal standards, and why not having clear personal standards that you uphold to a high degree is keeping you stuck, sad and unfulfilled.  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE YourDay Balance Game App (aka the Trust App) Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING A

What emotions did you experience today and what insights into yourself did you glean from those emotions? Most people go through their day feeling any combination of the spectrum of emotions, completely unaware that those emotions are giving insight into what’s going on in their inner world.  Today is day 3 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode we’re digging into the layered messages of your emotions, and making the case that your emotions pack so much more insight than you are aware of!  RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Applying the CBT Model of Emotions: https://cogbtherapy.com/cbt-model-of-emotions DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L

Are most of your thoughts in a day empowering thoughts or disempowering thoughts? Turns out, the VAST majority of most people’s daily thoughts are disempowering.  If every thought is a seed that’s being planted into your psyche, then what kinds of fruit are you growing in your life?  Today is day 2 of the Awareness suite, and in today’s episode I dive into the world of your inner monologue, and we talk about the importance of being aware of your thoughts and where they’re originating from.  DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ GET THE "HAVING IT A.L.L. BLUEPRINT" FOR DESIGNING AND LIVING YOUR GREATEST LIFE https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFER

What communications is your body giving you right this very moment? Today’s episode kicks off a suite that we’re doing all on the topic of Awareness.  When you’re seeking change in your life, no matter what area you want to shift, AWARENESS is step #1! If you are unaware of the thoughts, beliefs, words and habits that are keeping you stuck, then you’ll never be able to break free and build a life where you are having it all.  In today’s episode I dive into the communications of your body, and we talk about not only what your body is communicating to you but also how you can use those communications to steer your life in a powerful direction.  DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obs

Have you ever felt like life moves in a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, advances and setbacks, victories and defeats? The Law of Rhythm teaches us that "Everything Flows, Out and In", "All Things Rise and Fall", and "The Pendulum Swing Manifests in Everything". From the waves of the ocean to the rise and fall of empires, this law governs the rhythm of life itself. In this episode, we delve into practical ways to work with the Law of Rhythm rather than against it. Discover how to recognize the subtle shifts in the pendulum's swing and maintain focus on your desired outcomes, even in the face of setbacks.    RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE The Seven Universal Laws Explained: https://www.mind-your-reality.com/seven_universal_laws.html DOWNLOAD THE FREE "TRUST ACCOUNT" APP FROM THE YOURDAY BALANCE GAME Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WATCH THE #1 OBSTACLE VIDEO Learn what derails all success