Having It All: Conversations About Living An Abundant Loving Life

Ready for a bit of tough love? I read an article recently which triggered me and I decided to record this episode dedicated to sharing with you the two harsh truths about life which can help you move beyond your blockages and ultimately create the life you want. Links: The article which inspired this episode: https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/why-you-need-to-accept-harsh-truth-that-nobody-cares-you-need-to-work-harder.html Link to the new HIA Swag Shop: https://www.matthewbivens.com/store/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world, and as you walk through those doors today, you will only have two choices: love or fear. Choose love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart.” - Jim Carrey All choices in life can be boiled down to a choice between LOVE & FEAR. Today I want give you some A.I.M. - Affirmation Inspiration Motivation - to help you choose love. Links: Grab your "Choose Love" shirt in the new HIA Swag Shop -- www.matthewbivens.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm rebroadcasting an episode from the HIA archive where I talk about my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship - The 5 Love Languages. Links: HIA Swag Shop - https://www.bonfire.com/store/having-it-all-podcast/ The Balance Chart Website - https://www.theydbg.com/ 5 Love Languages - https://www.5lovelanguages.com/5-love-languages/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breakups are hard. When a significant relationship ends it can send you in a tailspin of emotions that can easily lead to destructive behaviors and thought patterns. But within every breakup are the insights for healing and growth. In this episode I'm sharing healthy ways to deal with a breakup, so that you can emerge stronger, more confident, and more in love with the most important person in your life - You! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with staying consistent? You know the feeling. You start something, feel great for a while, then seemingly inevitably you fall off and quit. At that point the self doubt convos enter, the "I knew you couldn't do it!" self talk enters. All that crap. In today's episode I'm giving you some simple tips for helping you be more consistent in life. Link: Video: "How To Develop Grit So You Can Do The Things You Don't Want To Do" -- https://youtu.be/Ph0BLJPbsD8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have principles? What are they? How do you use them? Are you confident that you know what living a principally based life means? Today I'm shining light on this idea of "principles" that so many self help gurus and successful people tout as the key to living a great life. You will learn the 5 key principles that I choose to live my life by and I show you how you can live by them too.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you think vision boards are useless? A lot of people do. And I don't blame them. The idea of making a dream list for your life and watching as it magically appears, does seem pretty unrealistic. But what if you could make the tool work in your life with a few tweaks? In today's episode I share with you my process for creating a vision board that isn't useless, and in fact can be like a wish list for your life. Link: Join me on my Purpose Webinar - https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague?! Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way. Today I talk about how to do just that.  Links: Work with me 1-on-1 https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am concerned for your life. Real talk. If you identify yourself as "busy" and wear your busyness like a badge of honor, then there's a great chance you're putting your health at risk. Today I'm bringing you a conversation with Dr. Garland Vance, who not too long ago was told by his doctor "I am concerned for your life". Garland and I dive into the events that led up to his doctor visit, and the dramatic life changes he made as a result. Link: http://www.gettinunbusybook.com/home-page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't know what your purpose is? YOU'RE SCREWED! You know I'm just playing, but that's how so many of us feel when we cannot answer the all important question, "What is your life purpose?" Today's conversation may seem a bit contradictory from what I've been talking about the last two weeks, but trust me that it's all connected! Links: Register for my FREE webinar on finding your life purpose: https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?" If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP! Today I'm sharing with you a very simple method for answering that fulfillment question, so you can both FEEL and BE more fulfilled in your life. Links: My Free Purpose Webinar - http://matthewbivens.com/purpose My Course on Purpose, Fulfillment, and Passion - http://matthewbivens.com/blueprint Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is your life's purpose? There was a time when hearing that question made me feel ashamed (that I didn't have an answer), jealous (of all the other people who were seemingly on their path), and confused (at not having a clue about how to figure it out). But all of that changed in an instant for me, and that's what I'm sharing with you in today's podcast! Links: My free "Find Your Purpose" webinar - https://www.matthewbivens.com/purpose/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you define purpose, vision and passion? I've had a love hate relationship to purpose, vision and passion. I love them because they are at the heart of creating a truly fulfilled and magical life, and that's what I'm playing for. But I hate them because when I've felt I've lacked any or all of them, I judged myself so harshly. Today I'm talking about the difference between purpose, vision and passion, how they interact with one another, and why they're key ingredients to having it all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you create more balance in your daily life? Do you have a clear answer to this question based off of personal experience, empirical evidence and thorough research? Probably not, and that's totally cool because I did it for you! I researched the current expert advice on living a life of balance and compiled a list of their top tips. The 10 best tips are in this episode, and the entire list of 25 tips is on my website for free. Links: Get the whole list at www.matthewbivens.com/balancetips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is not a typical HIA episode. Today I wanted to let you in on a few things that I have been struggling with, which have impacted my life, relationships, business and this podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a hard time setting and holding boundaries with work? I know the feeling of struggling with holding boundaries. The fear of saying "no", of telling someone you're unavailable, of turning your phone off at night because "what if I miss something important?". In this episode I explore how to create and hold boundaries at work, even if you're starting from the ground floor. Links: https://www.matthewbivens.com/balance-ebook/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when you're feeling imbalanced, burnt out and overwhelmed? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 3 hidden reasons why you're not feeling balanced in your life, and I give you action items to make a change. Links: Balance System Ebook - http://www.matthewbivens.com/balance-ebook/ Forbes article - https://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleystahl/2018/10/22/the-importance-of-work-life-balance-and-how-to-achieve-it/#4b71c5e94e05 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you looked at your average day, how much of it do you spend in a state of Joy vs Sadness? My coach and mentor Day Adeogba shared with me a conversation he had with his kids recently, where he asked them "What do you think your Joy-to-Sadness ratio is?" That idea of a Joy-to-Sadness ratio totally fascinated me and inspired this episode! Tune in to hear about the Joy-to-Sadness ratio, how you can determine your goal ratio and what you can do to experience more joy in life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you improve any relationship in your life? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from many past relationship experiences that have both improved and terminated. The advice today will totally change how you feel about your relationships and who you attract into your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you aware of the impact of the excuses you make in your life? Your desires, goals, & aspirations all move you in a certain direction in your life. Excuses pull you in the complete opposite direction. This is true for all of us (it's principle, not personal). If you're playing for a life of abundance AND you're prone to making excuses, then buckle up because things are going to be rocky for you. In today's episode I'm sharing with you 5 excuses that are keeping you from the abundance you desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices