Savage Lovecast

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter.  In more hand-wringing, a young man wants to be sure he obtains consent from his lucky ladies, but how much asking is too much asking? On the Magnum show, a woman's boyfriend enjoys a nosefull of cocaine every month or so. She hates it. Does she have the right to ask him to choose between her or his precious blow? Dan explains the finer points of slut etiquette to a lass who prefers to dash off rather than spend the night.  And finally, hear the tale of the woman who's snooping revealed that her boyfriend was having an affair with his mother's secretary.  Stop that snooping ya'll, lest you learn something you wish you hadn't.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty?  A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How can she find her people?  A woman has been using OK Cupid for 2 years and still hasn't gotten any action. So Dan chats with OK Cupid co-founder Christian Rudder on what she might be doing wrong.  On the Magnum version, Dan interviews sex researcher Dr. Joye Swan on risk-taking and using the idea of monogamy as a magical shield. And more.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Shoplube.com. Save 10% on Boy Butter, when you enter promo code: Stainless.

After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What now?  Bloody lovin': Dan brings on a pointy-headed professor to discuss the taboo against sex with a menstruating woman.  On the Magnum version, Dan chats with an expert on when and how to call Child Protective Services.  A lesbian who is getting married can't help but notice that her mother was WAY more engaged in her two straight daughters' weddings than the caller's. How can she get mom to show some support?  And, is there etiquette when presenting your hairy ass to a waxer, if you are a gentleman?  And a lot more.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course.  A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay friends are out to sleep with her. Dan senses dark machinations at work.  Are you, a straight woman, obliged to inform your hook-up that his dick stinks to high heaven? On the Magnum version, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria surrounding female sexuality and hook-up culture on college campuses. A woman is so darned pretty that she can't have any male friends because they ALL want to sleep with her.  Dan speaks with male burlesque sensation Waxy Moon on the differences between burlesque and stripping, and what to do if your boyfriend doesn't want to see you in pasties.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch and just gracefully accept their largess?  When he was in first grade, a man recalls a friend who used to roll around with him and kiss him. How normal is this, and when does it tip into molestation?  And more.  On the Magnum show, the long-suffering Doc Barak weighs in on the ethics of some clumsy doctoring in a Southern small town.  A woman tries to salvage some kind of relationship with her ex, after he helped her through a bi-polar meltdown.  And, hear the lasting effects of a really bad party.  206-201-2720 This Episode is brought to you by IFC Midnight, presenting "Breaking the Girls." Out now, on video on demand as well as at the itunes store and all digital outlets.   This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

  Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk about covering the Mitt Romney campaign, something about Dan's son "coming out" as straight, drink, talk and then drink.  This all went down on Father's Day at Town Hall in Seattle. It's super fun.  Be sure to listen for the ill-timed champagne cork.  Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down on?  Here's another gem of a boyfriend: He won't compliment her or show any signs of affection. He hasn't told his friends about her, and won't pay for anything or inconvenience himself in any way. Foreplay? Nope! And yet, our heroine is still smitten. Meanwhile, over at Seattle's gay pride parade, did an angry mob of lesbians brutally attack a kind and hapless preacher? JoeMyGod's Joe Jervis has the story.  On the Magnum version, we present a drinking game. Every time you hear the word "whatever" or "yadda, yadda, yadda," you take a shot.  In a sobering call, we learn of a bad case of Domestic Partnership Castration Syndrome, in which a man loses his erections after going through the commitment ceremony.  And, a fem dom woman prepares to go to a party where the women wear clothes and men remain naked. Will she and her cross-dressing boyfriend have a good time?

Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed.  A man's random ejaculation resulted in a child. Now the child is 12 and neither she, nor her mother's husband knows that he is her biological father. Should he tell?  Is there a way to warn the straight females of the world about your sociopathic sex addict ex-boyfriend?  On the Magnum version, an interview with the father of the modern marriage movement, Evan Wolfson, on the implications of DOMA's repeal. Remember this political moment, children. And, a long rant on the Republican war on women in general, and abortion specifically. And the usual tales of sordid depravity.  This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with another lad on Grindr. Then he met up with a different man, at the SAME HOUSE. What tomfoolery is this?  A lad and his boyfriend are planning to try out a bathhouse for the first time, and ask Dan for some basic tips. What he suggests…may shock you.  And, the inimitable Garfunkel & Oates come on the show to explain a shameful evasive strategy that many women have mastered.  On the Magnum side, Dan talks to a man who may have to adopt his own niece, because his brother (the baby's father) is in and out of jail.   Choking! Groovy fun, or not such a good idea?  Are all drag queens gay? Do they have to be? Because here's a straight woman who's attracted to them.  And a ton more... This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Sav

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeakable things with them. What kind of messed up family are we dealing with here? Another kid! Listen to this kid! She's 18, and her gay co-worker is setting up "dates" between her and his 30 year old friends to have sex with her while he watches. But lest you think he's a monster, don't worry- he's offered to provide the drugs and booze.  And over on the Magnum side, a cool interview with Mollena Williams, a.k.a. "The Perverted Negress" on getting started in the kink community.  And finally, Dan does what Dan does best: he talks a gay lad into demanding that his bigoted family either accept him as he is, or lose his presence at the Christmas dinner table.  Aso much more, really.    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

How soon is too soon for anal?  A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or titillation.  And more.  On the Magnum version you'll hear everything in the Micro version plus… An interview with Daniel Bergner, author of What Women Want about ladies, their libidos, and whether monogamy suits them or not. (Spoiler alert! It does.) Hear the tale of the spooked unicorn. Note to couples who invite in a partner for a three-way: When your unicorn doesn't return your calls, you must let her run free.  And a ton more.  This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other guy's slave?  A woman with high libido drifts from sex-negative guy to sex-negative guy. Why would she do this?  Dan speaks with Tom Plummer from ImmigrationEquality.org about the plight of international gay couples. And more.  On the Magnum podcast, you'll hear an interview with Dr. Marty Klein about shrinks. Are they good for your sex life?  A woman wonders where her new boyfriend's balls disappeared to.  A pregnant woman is dismayed that her boyfriend hasn't slowed down on his drinking and carousing even a little bit. Should he quit partying in solidarity?  206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

This show is for the ladies.  First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant.  Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husband won't fuck her.  And! The magically clever and hilarious Lindy West comes forth with the female perspective on men who think your vagina is disgusting.  There was a long line of women who offered their techniques for getting rid of grabby, cat-calling men. Listen in.  Also, David Jay, from asexuality.org talks to Dan on how to come out as a non-sex-having person.    And a lot more.    Sisterhood is powerful, you know. 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the reading on the Good Sense-O-Meter? Ladies! When creeps dish out cat-calls and unwanted touches, how do you respond? We want to hear your stories. 206-201-2720 On the potential side effects of hair loss medication, the ever prudent Dan Savage counsels "Don't gamble with your boner." And that's just the beginning! On the Magnum side… Sordid tales of video blackmail, an Australian man who won't go down (under,) yet another open relationship catastrophe and, the deliciously heart-warming tale of a woman who obligingly kicks a man in the balls. You'll feel like you were there.  Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy BDSM vs. non-consensual abuse and how to meet a kinky mate.  Also, hear the blow by blow account of a woman who went from her unicorn audition to opening night in a single date. Three-way etiquette tip #46: Couples- it is polite to thank you unicorn with a kind note. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage5 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage  

This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also, is it against the rules of matrimony to not serve cake at a wedding?  Plus  on the Magnum show, Dan speaks with sexual health educator Debby Herbenick about lube and ladies and Vibrator Addiction Syndrome. Also Dan drags his older brother on to talk about how they tormented each other as children. And a lot more.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by  They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage5 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.

How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic?  Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket?  Dan speaks with Dr. Thomas Clark from the CDC about a new worrisome meningitis outbreak among gay men.  And, over on the Magnum side: Finally the answer to the age old question of whether it's ok for a woman to eat her own female ejaculate! Dan speaks with Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, author of "Why Men Fake It" about why men fake it.  And, an avalanche of responses from men and women about accidental lady-buggering. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend.  Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the places he could visit that will add pleasure to his upcoming business trip. Should she freak?  Over on the Magnums, drag queens in hillbilly country, and an interview with Aaron Harzler, author of Rapture Practice, on how to deal lovingly with your nutjob, conservative Christian family.  206-201-2720 Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's taking meds he suddenly has the drive to pursue women. How can he develop the confidence to match?  Over at savagelovecast.com you can sign up for a Magnum show that's twice as long, with no ads.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at Today's episode is also brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends pursue a divorce.  And more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is also brought to you by . Go buy something, and be sure to enter GGG2013 at checkout.