Savage Lovecast

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask?  On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch.   206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. From now until Valentine's Day 2015, get 50% off almost any item, plus a romance kit, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get S

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so.  Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC)  about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historian of Sexuality Alice Dreger to talk about her brave new book, "Galileo's Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and the Search for Justice in Science." Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.c

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot.  Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…)  So much. Always so much.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them?  On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so.  A woman is horrified to discover that her boyfriend has been sending off dick pics to anyone who will look on Craigslist. Dan gently talks her off the break-up ledge.   206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter sna

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes her so jealous that her mouth goes dry. Is this gonna work out ok? A straight man with a newly issued hall pass is having a hard time meeting ladies who will sleep with him because they know he's in a relationship. Why must it be this way? Why?!  On the Magnum, Dan chats with author Johann Hari, on our silly little drug war, and how drug abuse results from boredom and isolation, not drug availability.  And more!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a loving, mutually satisfying Dom/sub situation?  A woman doesn't like to swallow her boyfriend's come. Is this a rare condition?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Zoë Tersche from the website ThisWink.com about how to comport yourself at kinky play parties.  And, a man with a heart condition is sick of his lovers going easy on him in bed. Can he ethically withhold the information that the exciting sex they are about to enjoy might make him keel over?  What a way to go.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirming" churches to come around to tolerance. They also geek out about the Bible like you wouldn't believe.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process would it be polite to disclose that you are already in an open relationship?  A woman likes to be thin. Her man prefers a more hefty physique. How can she deal with his compliments if they only come when she feels bad about herself?  And, a woman's boyfriend is losing his hair, and plans to get a buzz cut. But she really likes a head of long, luxurious hair! If he won't wear a hat or a wig, is it...over?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Chicago Sun-Times columnist Neil Steinberg about tolerance in the wake of Charlie Hebdo.  And, a woman's boyfriend wants to spend a wild weekend in Vegas with his buddies. Fine! But does she really have to do the three hour drive each way to take him to the goddamn airport?  Both ways?  206-201-2720   This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visit

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot about female orgasms on this show, considering he's never been near one.  Bad Science Alert! Female Ejaculate: Is it pee? Dan speaks with fearless blogger Amy Luna Manderino about some annoying hyperventilation in response to a recent study on squirting.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Cooper Beckett from the Life on the Swingset podcast about the joys and perils of swinging. And finally, a new image will come to mind when you hear "She's smokin' hot!!" 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth A

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty photos on Tumblr cause your new boyfriend?  Chest tattoos: hot or not? Dan welcomes Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" to tackle this one in a Second Opinion. And on the Magnum, does a woman have a right to ask about her new boyfriend's prescription for Cialis? Nancy weighs in!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The rest of the family is homophobic. How can he soften the ground with the family, and let him know he has support without outing or embarrassing him?  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes comedian Mike Birbiglia to tackle a question about REM sleep disorder. Also Annie.  A woman is willing to be a sub in the bedroom, but when her new boyfriend barks out orders in the kitchen, well, that's not cool!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date ditches him after discovering that he smokes cigarettes. Is this just what online dating is like?  One condom. Three people. Does this math add up?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with uber-lesbian author and sex educator Allison Moon about female ejaculation and the geyser that sometimes results.  And, listen to a cavalcade of remedies for PMS! This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out.

Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza!  Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rachel Lark, comedian Derek Sheen, and a suddenly recruited, unwitting therapist! And Dan uses the scientific method to prove once and for all that Christmas. Isn't. Sexy.  But you be the judge. Photos are at www.thestranger.com/LovecastChristmasPics 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration.

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong?  When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummeted right around the time that her boyfriend's mother moved in to the apartment below them. Coincidence?  In an action-packed Magnum, Dan welcomes rival advice-giving powerhouse Carolyn Hax to grapple with some serious poly drama and super-freaky, non-communicative parents.  Also, all hail Evan Wolfson! He's the architect of the national gay marriage legalization campaign. He and Dan discuss the plight of a gay, married man who has to move to a state that doesn't recognize his marriage.  All that…and more.  206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Babeland. Get 10% off plus free shipping when you enter the offer code "Savage" at checkout This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shi

A bi man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown up now and coming out for real. How can he maintain a decent relationship with his "family?" A high school teacher and his entire class is horrified to see a female student masturbating in class. How can he teach her the timeless lesson that wanking in pubic is more trouble than it's worth? On the Magnum, Dan speaks with a researcher on the science of teen sexting. (Spoiler: Teens be horny.)  And, a gay man is attracted to transmen. Where can he find them?  And so much more.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is it popular? How can he avoid it?  In another instance of straight male bewilderment, a man in his 50s doesn't "get" bondage. How can he find a woman who isn't interested in 50 Shades of anything?  On the Magnum, Dan spars with family therapist Damon L Jacobs on the PREP controversy.  And a sad tale of yet another rape at a fraternity, with a victim who didn't report it.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage12 for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. 

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father is a religious leader, who begged her to stay in that deep, dark closet or he might lose his "job." He's gonna have a rough holiday this year. Stay tuned.  Dan welcomes Erika Moen, graphic artist and creator of "Oh Joy, Sex Toy," a must-read comic.  And, Dan issues a public service announcement for all you pee drinkers out there.  And so much more.  206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This podcast is also brought to you by ExtremeRestraints.com. Go buy something, and be sure to enter SAVAGE2014 at checkout. This episode is also brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free samp

Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?"  Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the Brothers McElroy for a Second Opinion on how to change your boyfriend's look, the cruel practice of "sexile" and a cold hard look at the institution of the "dude's night out."    On the Magnum, hear Dan try to talk some sense into a young man whose fuckbuddy is a heroin enthusiast. She's twitchin' and scratchin' but he's "leaning toward eating her pussy." Hhhhot!  This is kind of one of our favorite shows. Listen in, won't you? 206-201-2720 Listen to the brothers every single week at MBMBAM.com.  This episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.  This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen from the national rape support organization RAINN about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault.  A father struggles to explain his affair to his 12 year old daughter. On the Magnum, Dan dishes with Dan Pashman, host of WNYC's The Sporkful on the connection between food, sex, and general deliciousness.  And, does the HPV really vaccine work? The answer is yes. But in case you are still skeptical, Dan brings on an expert to confirm.   206-201-2720 Get tickets to our Christmas Extravaganza!!  December 5, at Seattle's Neptune Theatre: www.TheStranger.com/LovecastChristmas This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click

Dan and the incomparable RuPaul chat about Drag Race, foot fetishes and living in Wyoming.  A man's girlfriend wants to seize control of his alcohol intake. But… he's a brewer.  A woman's boyfriend has a nasty, ill-tempered dog that licks and licks and licks him. Yuck?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Brock Bastian about his study which shows how pain brings people together. Awwww.  And, the developing story of "The Cuddle, the Nipple and the Ask. " 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Naturebox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".