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A woman had sex with her super-hot neighbor. Then she found out that not only is he unvaccinated, but uses a fake vax card. Should she continue to share her body with this monster?  A young gay man wants to be able to both top and bottom. But when he's topping his gets so in his head that he loses his erection. Dan Savage! Help this man keep a rock hard boner! On the Magnum, a caller who escaped her family's cult when she was a teen has been invited to her sister's wedding. But their abusive cult leader father will be there. Should she skip the whole thing? Dan brings on Amanda Montell author of "Cultish" to talk about cults and how they control their followers.  And, a man wonders if there are any resources or support for people who want to try the exotic practice of monogamy.  206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief

Have you ever lost a dildo up your butt? This man has, but somehow the tale ends up as our opening "sexcess" story.  A 51 year-old woman is seeing a 33 year-old man. It's fantastic, but how long can it last?  On the Magnum, Dan brings back Lina Dune, from "Ask a Sub" to talk about some subby listener questions and her new podcast.  Finally, a couple won't watch porn for ethical reasons. And he doesn't want to be poly or open. She wonders...how can they have any fun?! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to www.thepillclub.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage a

A man's randy co-worker has slept with the wives of other workers and tons of women on the job. He nearly got fired for it, but he's back. Should the caller confront this man and tell him to knock it off? Warn all the females on staff? If someone you were chatting with from an app told you that his previous relationship was with his own therapist, would you consider this a red flag? Would you meet him anyway? On the Magnum, great news! Apple is installing mass surveillance on the iPhone. Just kidding- this is terrible news. Corynne McSherry from the Electronic Frontier Foundation is on to discuss just what this all really means. And, a gay caller asks an age old question: "Is my dick racist?"

Everyone's worried that they are taking up too much space. A straight man feels guilty that he signed up for an activity meant for folks in the LGBT community. And, a transman ventured into a gay leather bar with his girlfriend and got the stink-eye. Is it cool to bring your girlfriend into dedicated gay male space? Everybody's talking about the new animated educational series "Welcome to Kinkyville" that's being developed. Dan interviews co-creator/host Emily Blake about this awesome project, and how YOU (yes you, dear listener) can get involved. Check it out at www.WelcomeToKinkyville.com On the Magnum, each and every year a woman takes a family vacation with her overbearing, materialistic, unpleasant brother. How can she wiggle out of this annual obligation? And, it's a couple's "holy grail" to get his nipples to be as sensitive as her's. Is he permanently wired to have tough ole nips? Dan offers a pragmatic regimen.

On this episode, we are treated to a couple of calls concerning pronouns. One comes from a man who doesn't understand how to use the familiar 2nd person plural when one or more are non-binary. Another comes from a man who proposes a new catch all gender-neutral pronoun to rule us all. Will it stick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr Carole Hooven, author of Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. They discuss how testosterone works, and how we all have to live with it because it's coursing through roughly half of us. It's a great long conversation, and you should tune in. And, we're not going to sugar coat this one: A woman poops when she comes. What can she do Dan?

A woman is sick of being a dirty little secret. Her boyfriend's ex-partner would withhold access to the kids if she found out about the relationship. Can she demand that he tell his ex? A woman fantasizes that she's a gay man when she's having sex. But the rest of the time, she feels like a cis woman. Dan issues a label for her and sends her on her way. On the Magnum, a comedian is creeped out that her ex-boyfriend might come heckle her at her stand-up shows. Dan welcomes comedian Jen Kirkman to talk about dealing with this unpleasantness. And, a bi man is in a long distance relationship with an older man. But he is coming to grips with the fact that he has an unhealthy sex compulsion, and has been taking dangerous risks. Should he break off the healthy relationship with his partner while he works through recovery?

Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry. A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop! On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMANDS YOU TO LISTEN. A bisexual woman is very attracted to penises. She likes everything about cis women except their vaginas. And she's attracted to trans folks...but only if they have a dick. So, is this wrong? When she's on a date, how and when should she ask what they have down below? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com

A nice bi man just wanted to join a nudist community and hang out with his nudist homies, not wearing any clothes and being naked. He certainly DID NOT want to be ogled or groped by the creepy leader of the group. So now what? Should he try to oust the creep, give up on the group, or return and try to avoid him? A woman learned that her boyfriend has been leading a secret double life. Have you ever led a secret double life? Well! This man's secret double life involves an online dom commanding him to crawl around like a dog and urinate in the cups and cookware in their home. So. Your secret double life seems a little less "edgy" now doesn't it? Dan's advice...may shock you. On the Magnum, learn about the sordid, gnarly history of sexually transmitted diseases. Dan interviews Professor Ina Park about her book Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs. Oh, the things you will learn! Finally, hey listeners! A little help? Let's all put our heads together and a find a w

Women beware! A new form of negging has emerged. If you followed a hook-up on Instagram, but he didn't follow you back, it could be INSTA-NEGGING. A trans man iplans to do a lot more butt sex once he has bottom surgery. How can he prepare on a daily basis? On the Magnum, is it ever ok to leave your wife when you are in your 70s? Dan and senior sex writer Joan Price disagree... And, a lesbian begs all those straight couples who pour into lesbian bars at closing time looking for women to be in a threeway with them to Please. Just. Stop. 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brou

A bi woman wants to try three-ways with her boyfriend. He enthusiastically agrees. But it's been a while since she's been with a woman, and wants to have a trial run with just her unicorn. Now, he's getting a little nervous... A woman with a 12 year-old son has been toying with the idea of starting an Only Fans account. The problem? Her son might see some of her content. How can she have this very difficult parental conversation? In one of our favorite interviews of all time, Dan brings on linguist and literature professor John McWhorter, author of "Nine Nasty Words: English in the Gutter: Then, Now, and Forever." They gab about the origins of the word "fuck" and "faggot," how the nature of profanity has changed over the years, and why some words are both sexy and unutterable. And, a man planning a hook-up hears that they can go to the other guy's home, but only if his "actual dog" watches. Is this innocent and ok or so, so far from innocent and ok? 206-302-2064  voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast

Dear Emily Post: What am I to do when I encounter my boyfriend in the basement enjoying large amounts of cocaine, in women's attire, with a gentleman we both know very well? A kinky woman already agreed to open up her relationship with her boyfriend. So why did he have to go out and cheat? On the Magnum, a very ethical stripper, bartender and sugar baby has contracted MRSA and worries she is putting others at risk. Not sure what MRSA is? Well, you will  know plenty about it after you listen to Dan's interview with infectious disease expert Dr. Paul Pottinger. Does she have to quit her jobs? Find out. A woman with a great sex life always has to think about porn in order to come. Is this normal? Must she change her erotic inner life? 206-302-2064      voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Pi

After a dazzling "sexcess" story, we launch into three tales of dreadful parents. Conservative, manipulative, disrespectful, bigoted parents. If you have this kind of parent, our hearts go out to you. Are you a thoughtful gift giver? This woman is, and she REALLY wishes her boyfriend would reciprocate... On the Magnum: Save the lesbian bars! For they are disappearing.  Dan interviews Lea Delaria (from "Orange is the New Black") about the Lesbian Bar Project. Kick in, won't you? https://www.lesbianbarproject.com/ And, who knew saline could be so sexy?!   If you're into that sort of thing. 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to and use the offer

A mother in Central America is worried that her son is being a little too risky when he walks home from the beach in women's clothing. When she confronts him about this, he calls her a transphobic, homophobic boomer. Teens! Am I right? A woman is afraid that her boyfriend will cheat on her. And yet, she fantasizes that her boyfriend is cheating on her. How can she preserve her self-esteem while indulging her cuckqueen instincts? On the Magnum, it turns out the ancient Greeks were wrong about cunnilingus! Dan interviews Mark Haskell Smith author of "Rude Talk in Athens" which explores how comedians in ancient Athens brawled with each other. One of the worst insults was to accuse another of going down on a lady. Silly ancient Greeks. And, are the terms "tops" and "bottoms" only for the gays? And can straight polyamorous people march in the pride parade? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by : a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about w

Our opening "Sexcess" story should flood all you postpartum parents with optimism. A married straight couple has an arrangement where she can go outside the relationship, and he remains monogamous to her. All good. But she wants to tell everyone about it, and he wants to keep it under wraps. Who wins? On the Magnum, meet the elite proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical. He and Dan talk about centering pleasure and beauty in proctology. We loved Dr. Goldstein, and so will you. And, a bewildered father would like to recommend good, ethical porn to his 12 year-old son. Got any recs? 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Allform- premium, customizable sofas and chairs shipped right to your door. For 20% off your perfect sofa, go to . This episode

Sometimes the "happy ending" in an erotic massage can go both ways. Our caller enjoyed orally pleasuring his masseuse so much that he wants to continue the relationship outside the parlor. What is the proper etiquette for asking out an erotic massage practitioner? (Sorry LMTs! We know you don't want to hear ANY of this...) A married woman discovered a gif of jiggly boobs with her sister's face superimposed over them. Where did she see this? On her husband's computer of course. So now what? On the Magnum, a proud, strong feminist woman has rape fantasies that flood her with shame. Dan brings on Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want, to unpack the origins and nature of problematic fantasies. And, somewhere in the deep South, a bisexual man wants ungodly things done to him... 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sp

Dan! Dan! My dildos melted together in the drawer! Horrifically, this is not uncommon if you buy cheap-ass sex toys. A gay man is establishing a potentially great friends-with-benefits relationship. The problem? The guy won't stop sending him stupid little memes all the damn day long. How can our caller put an end to this childish behavior? Over on the Magnum, a Nervous Norman is worried about possible harm that could come to his willy if he got a vasectomy. Reassurance arrives in the form of Dr. Tobias Kohler from the Mayo Clinic. He and Dan discuss the safety of this utterly routine procedure. And because this is the Savage Lovecast, Dan blindsides him with a question about smashing balls. And, can you cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle? Can you platonically cuddle with a conservative Catholic when you are a liberal Jew? 206-302-2064         voicemail@savagelovecast.com Keep it under 3 minutes, ya'll. Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies.

Our opening "sex-cess" story is extra delightful this week, because it centers the "Climbing Boy." Our caller advises you to get yourself one, pronto. Ok, neo-pronouns. Just how ridiculous are they? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Seattle writer Matt Baume about the friendly, pervy world of furries and the super-interesting work they've been doing with virtual reality spaces. And, commenting on a shopgirl's ass- can you get away with it if you're a queer woman? 206-302-2064     This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . The Savage Lovecast is brought to you by Dame Products: a woman-founded sex toy company. Visit to get 10% off your first order.

Boundaries are hard! For instance, a married couple of 12 years decided to open the relationship. So naturally, she started sleeping with her husband's brother in their own house. Of course. And! If you knocked on the door, and your kid confessed that they were masturbating, would you A) Mutter, "Sorry!" and walk away. B) Walk in and chuckle at the site of their underpants. C) Run screaming from the building. You'll have to listen to learn what this lady did. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Alan Davis, who studies the effects of psychedelic mushrooms on depression. It turns out magic mushrooms might just help with mental health in the long term. (The tech-savvy- at-risk youth could have told you that.) And, Dan deconstructs the difference between appreciating the beauty of Asian people and having an Asian fetish.   Everything is so complicated. 206-302-2064       voicemail@savagelovecast.com Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% of

My, what a fetish-y show we have for you this week! Genital stretching? Check. Chastity belts? Sure. Piss play? Why not? Gainer/Feeder? Let's go!  In a more wholesome turn, Dan welcomes Dr. Debby Herbenick back to the show. The sex educator answers a question about the nature of multiple orgasms for women and the unwelcome phenomenon of sex headaches. And finally, Dan gets into some complex thermodynamics as he explains how to keep your dildo nice and cold. But not too cold. 206-302-2064    voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to . This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is del

It's a boy! A pregnant woman upon learning the sex of her unborn baby is devastated that she's not getting the daughter she always dreamed of. Can she learn to love...a son? Have you heard the Death, Sex & Money podcast with Anna Sale? Well! Anna joined us to talk about her new book "Let's Talk About Hard Things."  She and Dan answered a few calls together, which somehow leads to a discussion about an esoteric BJ technique. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum. A married lesbian found out that her wife is cheating on her, on her own damn birthday. Now the wife is asking for an open relationship. After 10 years of monogamy, can they make it work? Finally- "Wanted: sex worker to service my elderly father. Must also cook for him." Does this kind of specialist exist? 206-302-2064           voicemail@savagelovecast.com This podcast is brought to you by . Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for postage, a digital scale, and a 4 week trial. This episode is brought toy by Tushy- the modern bidet attachme