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Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #20In this episode:How to let go of negative people in your social circle.Why the AoC programs are based in LA.Where are all the cute people in my town?How can you reduce the chances of a sudden negative personality shift soon after marriage.New segment! Review of the week.Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-20/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Conduct your business with integrity and people will know you as a problem solver instead of just another charlatan trying to sell them stuff. "Trust is more important than like." -Ian Altman The Cheat Sheet: Nobody likes being sold to -- in business or in life. It's all about finding a fit. Are you working, or doing your life's work? Use your unique talents to deliver extraordinary results. Define a niche and value that has endless rewards. When you ask for advice, are you seeking validation or real input? How to ask great questions when hiring salespeople... or when applying for a job. What two questions can you ask to uncover the truth in competitive business situations or relationships? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ian-altman-grow-my-revenue-episode-427/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charm

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #19In this episode:Don't let insecurities and low self-esteem torpedo your relationships.Are communications with your ex-girlfriend above board?What does it mean when your ex-fiance keeps texting you?If you treat a woman well what are you entitled to? The answer may surprise you...The amazing story of Samia Yusuf Omar.Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-19/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having a baby is a stressful, transformative experience for even the most prepared couples. Here, we talk about how to survive the ordeals -- and enjoy the rewards -- of parenthood together."During that [first] three months, you're so tired...you don't even have time to notice there are problems in the relationship." -Marni KinrysThe Cheat Sheet:Why have a baby in the first place? How do you know when you're ready?Pregnancy brain and mommy brain -- why it's real and why it can hurt your relationship.Why babies and women are not always a match made in Heaven.How women feel after having a baby -- struggles, lower confidence, confused identity.What can men can do to help women get through this period of time?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/marni-kinrys-your-wing-girl-episode-426/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.S

Most of us are taught to chase opportunity, but a Person of Interest gets opportunity to chase them. "'Person of Interest' is how you flip the script and become a buyer vs. a seller." -Coach Burt The Cheat Sheet: Why does everyone need a life coach? Do you have the ingredients to become a Person of Interest? Learn why you should never answer the question "What do you do?" (It's a trap!) Would you rather find out if someone's worth your time in 15 months, or 15 seconds? Underestimate yourself at the peril of becoming a commodity. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/coach-burt-becoming-a-person-of-interest-episode-425/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this one:Getting job recommendations.Dealing with non-reciprocating friends.Conquer the fear of flying.And more.More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you learn to think like the top one percent of people who get things done, procrastination is a virtue on par with patience -- and an essential part of your time management strategy."Automation is to your time exactly what compounding interest is to your money." -Rory VadenThe Cheat Sheet:Everything you know about time management is wrong.How can you use your time in a way today that creates more time tomorrow?Time management is as emotional as it is logical.Learn the five permissions you need to give yourself in order to achieve more in less time.Find out how the 30x Rule can give you a 733% ROTI (Return On Time Invested)!And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/rory-vaden-procrastinate-on-purpose-episode-424/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc

Even if you don't believe in yourself, the sleeping genius within you does -- and comes equipped with a backlog of ideas you didn't even know you had."While we live in an age that is demanding breakthroughs, we live in an age that paradoxically refuses to allow us the time to achieve them." -Judah PollackThe Cheat Sheet:How can we harness the power of associative thinking to awaken our inner genius?Why is self loathing a uniquely modern western phenomenon?Cursed with success? Learn how to overcome The Imposter Syndrome.Make the Default Mode Network (DMN) work for you instead of against you.Why should a busy person find the time to take regular walks?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/judah-pollack-hack-your-inner-genius-episode-423/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices.

In this one:How to keep calm inside and out.Why isn't there a show like this for women?Does alcohol matter?And more. Oh, and Maaaaazda...More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review!  This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If being parked in a bad dating pattern is your idea of a comfort zone, consider how a little discomfort will take you to a far better place."Imagine two dysfunctional puzzle pieces out in the universe with a magnet..." -Marni BattistaThe Cheat Sheet:If you want to date out of your league, you just have to be 10% better than 90% of the guys out there.10 things women wish you knew.How can we stop terrible dating patterns?Why do we keep dating people who are bad for us?Screening out the crazies (or screening them in, if that's what you're into).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/marni-battista-advice-from-a-crazy-ex-girlfriend-episode-422/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For better or worse, we mirror the company that we keep. Here's how we maximize its quality for the best reflection."I'm selective with second chances, but I'm always willing to give a first chance." -AJ HarbingerThe Cheat Sheet:Are you due for a friend audit?How do you tell the difference between "high value" and "low value" people?Learn how high value people build you up and low value people tear you down.Where do you land on the Value Scale?Low value people identifiers: the red flags.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-toolbox-screening-and-qualifying-episode-420/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The truth about the modern economy: you make your own credentials (and you don't need a middleman anymore)."All the advice from our parents is just absolutely wrong." -Dorie ClarkThe Cheat Sheet:The game of achieving success today has different rules than it did for our parents and grandparents.How does someone get recognized as a "thought leader?"How do you find and spread your own breakthrough idea?Innovation doesn't have to be difficult.Use the Niche Strategy to carve out your own area of expertise (and discover new ones).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dorie-clark-stand-out-episode-419/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's never too late to shed a lousy job description. Learn to bridge the direct experience gap and stop enduring work you hate."It's painful to learn new stuff, [but] I learned how to surf and snowboard at 40!" -Kevin KermesThe Cheat Sheet:Why it's critical to translate your skills (and the #1 way people fail when trying).How can you stand out and avoid becoming a commodity?Mentor relationships require as much give as take.What is the direct experience gap, and how can you bridge it?Learn the XYZ technique to gauge the needs of potential employers and determine how your skillset can apply -- even if your background is in a completely different field.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kevin-kermes-bridge-the-direct-experience-gap-episode-418/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad

In this one:  -How do I have a tough conversation with my boss? -Why Special K cereal is sexist -And more, natch'   Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-16/   HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!   If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.   Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To succeed, focus on what you want and how to get it, nothing more."Your beliefs really shape what you do or don't do." -Olaniyi SobomehinThe Cheat Sheet:When does discipline really count?Why success isn't as complicated as most people think.A practical exercise to turn fear into confidence.Why physiology plays such a significant role in our emotional state.How to get comfortable with pressure and discomfort.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/olaniyi-sobomehin-im-not-you-episode-417/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tragedy is not a choice; learning how to thrive in its aftermath is. "When you get thrown out of a car going 80, you usually leave a little bit of skin on the pavement." -Cole Hatter The Cheat Sheet: How can you ensure that tragedy creates rather than conquers? You don't have to give up the dream life to help others live theirs. What's the difference between a non-profit and for-purpose business? Literally 'buy happiness' by learning how to build a cause that resonates with you into your business model. Discover the real meaning of "R&D" and how to land meetings with even the most inaccessible captains of your industry. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/cole-hatter-survive-and-thrive-episode-416/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rapport takes time, patience and vulnerability. "You have to be interested to be interesting." - Johnny Dzubak The Cheat Sheet: Why you have to be vulnerable to connect. The three levels of rapport-building. What is floodlighting? How to build rapport if you're shy or introverted. Why making mistakes is the best way to learn. And so much more… Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-toolbox-rapport-episode-415/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us have been taught some BS about sexual desire. "The way to become a person's type is to treat them in a way that makes them feel really, really good." -Dr. Emily Nagoski The Cheat Sheet: Why women are easier to turn off than men. What is yucking people's yums? Dr. Emily explains how fetishes develop. How orgasms are like riding a bicycle. The REAL physical signs she's close to orgasm. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-emily-nagoski-come-as-you-are-episode-414/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can rejuvenate our cells and avoid aging. "We have a clear moral obligation to get these therapies developed as quickly as possible." -Dr. Aubrey de Grey The Cheat Sheet: Dr. Aubrey de Grey explains why breathing is bad for us (really). Is a 4-digit lifespan truly possible? 100,000 people die every day from old age: true or false? Which country spends $30 billion dollars every year on medical research? Will rejuvenation only be available for the wealthy? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-aubrey-de-grey-how-we-can-avoid-aging-episode-413/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Curiosity about everything makes you ready for anything."There isn't a person alive who doesn't think they're interesting. My job is to make that 'interesting' come out." -Larry KingThe Cheat Sheet:What traits come naturally to a good broadcaster -- and can these traits be taught?"Just be yourself" is more than the cop-out advice you probably think it is.How does someone decades past retirement age not only keep doing what they love, but keep loving what they do?What's the deal with Larry King's trademark mic and suspenders?What innovations would a man who's lived through most of the 20th century like to see in the 21st?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/larry-king-curiosity-is-king-episode-412HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices