Wife Of An Alcoholic: Recovery | Loving An Alcoholic | Codependency| Michelle Lisa Anderson

When I was married to an alcoholic and substance abuser, he would try to blame his addiction on me. He would call me a nag or controlling or no fun. As if I stopped nagging he would stop drinking. Or he would try to get me to believe if I stopped monitoring how much he drank he would stop drinking so much. Or how about if I had a little more fun (i.e. party with him) he wouldn’t need to party so much. You’re not buying this, are you? All these attempts are ways this disease tries to make us feel guilty. This is called unnecessary guilt. The condemning kind of guilt that doesn't come from God. If you can relate to anything I just shared, let me help put this ridiculous guilt trip and attempt to manipulate it back into perspective. You could be a mannequin. Literally a mannequin - like the ones they have in department stores - and your partner would be drinking or using drugs. Picture it for just a second. You could be one of those mannequins in the store with a wig and a perfect body and be standing in the kit