Hide And Seek

Let’s talk about prep — specifically, the kind that’s surrounded by whispers, myths, porn pressure, and more than a little anxiety. In Part A of Before and After, Tim and Jon get right up in it (figuratively… mostly) to unpack what douching actually is, when it’s useful, and when it’s really not. We start by clearing up one of the biggest points of confusion: anal rinsing versus vaginal douching, and why lumping them together causes more harm than good. From there, we dig into the why — comfort, confidence, partner expectations — and gently but firmly dismantle the idea that “everyone does it every time.” Spoiler: bodies aren’t porn sets, and they don’t need to be. This episode takes a practical, shame-free look at how the body works, how far is far enough (hint: you’re not meant to reach the colon), and why over-douching can actually make sex riskier through irritation, micro-tears, and microbiome disruption. We talk timing, frequency, water temperature, equipment choices, and why soap should never be invite