Save Your Sanity: Help For Toxic Relationships

You know that look, that jerky look of superiority that #Hijackals give you? I call it The Hijackal Smirk. It's that look of disdain, disrespect, and "I'm superior and you are a fool" that Hijackals are infamous for. Got it? Contempt is lethal, hurtful, demoralizing, and a much deeper emotion that fleeting ones that we all have during the day. It is more complex.Contempt is the opposite of empathy and compassion.Contempt actually invalidates others: suggests that they have no good right to take up space or draw breath except to do my bidding. Have you ever felt that from your partner, parent, ex, or sibling? That's contempt.I like the great thought that Tim Otten put into his paper for Tilburg University on "Conceptualizing Contempt." His final conclusion for a definition of contempt was:"[Contempt is] a negative feeling with a downward social comparison wherein one feels superior and judges the other as inferior. One thinks of the other as incompetent, worthless, and one has no respect or appreciation for th