Save Your Sanity: Help For Toxic Relationships

Trauma-bonding is circular. The abuser creates the trauma, and then wants you to turn to them when you're hurt and traumatized. You are traumatized by something the abuser does, and you want the abuser to feel understood and you lean in. Circular!That's why it is SO important to understand the fourteen signs of a trauma-bonded person that I talk about in this episode. You may recognized the patterns--and the drama--that you are experiencing or have experienced. So helpful!Dr. Patrick Carnes in The Betrayal Bond says that traumatic bonding occurs when "victims have a certain dysfunction attachment that occurs in the presence of danger, shame, or exploitation. There often is seduction, deception, or betrayal. There is always some form of danger or risk." That is that the very thing that hurts you draws you closer. No more, right? This episode could be a turning point in your life and in your relationships.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The definition of trauma-bondingUnderstanding the addictive nature of trauma