Thank You Heartbreak

"My story was typical," Sex & Intimacy Coach Irene Fehr says describing her picture perfect marriage with her ex-husband. "We fell in love. Everything was wonderful in the beginning. We had amazing chemistry. We were the couple that everyone looked at and said, wow, we want to have what you’re having. It looked great from the outside but, on the inside, just by getting married, it didn’t make us experts in being married. It didn’t all of a sudden make us know each other and know how to make a relationship work, how to make love and sex work, how to negotiate, how to take care of each other’s emotional needs, how to even express our own emotional needs. So, the way I wasn’t living my own life was because I was performing. When it came to sex, what was I reading? I was reading Cosmo and the different tips and how a woman is supposed to be. I also grew up on shows like Friends who showed me you’re supposed to be nonchalant and easy about things. I couldn’t fathom this idea that I could actuall