Dr. Howard Smith Oncall

  https://youtu.be/0_CdQ5xGbdA   To guide your headstrong teen, present your opinions as rational suggestions rather than imperial directives.  Psychologists at Cardiff University studied the responses of 1000 adolescents to pointed suggestions delivered in various tones of voice.   Each teen heard 30 directives voiced by actors in 3 ways: a controlling authoritarian tone, a autonomy-supportive tone, or a neutral tone.  The results: heavy-handed demands trigger resistance and negative responses while suggestions delivered in a respectful, positive manner backed by credible rationales led to acceptance.   As always, interpersonal relationships benefit more from honey than vinegar.  As children grow and mature, they demand from us, their parents, respect for their independence and ability to make sensible decisions.   Cardiff University. "Teenagers less likely to respond to mothers with controlling tone of voice: New study showed adolescents were less likely to want to engage with schoolwork when mothers spoke