Drunk On Spirit

Phew, exhale, maybe we don't have to try so hard to be seen as great. What if chasing being seen as great takes us off course because we follow some blueprint to perceived greatness versus crafting our own paths to personal greatness. This episode explores how chasing being seen as great has its costs - where we run past truer selves, where we can't enjoy any win because we're too busy running after the next thing. And if you're Jessie Spano fans, stay until the very end of the episode.

What if the act of becoming is actually the act of remembering? What if we had to go through the veil of forgetting to enter the light of knowing. It's a time of great awakening and great disruption. This episode is about understanding who the essential self is, who the programmed self is and how to move closer to remembering who you have always been. The last 10 minutes is a mini-workshop, with a series of questions to make this relevant for you. 

How do we accept our insecurities and simultaneously evolve? How do we showcase our insecurities as a way to be more us and to create intimacy with others? In this episode, I offer a conceptual model for the role our pain and insecurities have in our lives. I explore an enhanced way to think about the power of love and the connection between insecurities and intimacy and how one actually enables the other. 

Happy Pride my friends. This episode is all about the art of becoming yourself, of coming out of the shadows, of claiming who you are and living it. I share my coming out story as a way to bring to life the powerful process of self-rejection, hiding, then move into self-acceptance and coming out of hiding and into the light. This is something, regardless of your sexual or gender tendencies, we all have to do. It's time to live in the light.

Sometimes we have to let go to make room for the next level of our lives. And this process of death, letting go, and rebirth isn't always easy. I talk about how to move through these cycles, which are for us, to grow, to evolve and come closer to the truth of who we are. How to know when something is ending, how to let go of it, how to operate in the space between the old and the new and then how to graciously step forward into the next chapter of our lives. Follow along on this episode from Paris.

This episode explores the power of the narratives that play out on the inside of our minds. What we, not only tell ourselves, but how we convince ourselves, sell ourselves, of a certain "truth" that can limit our power, that can create self-doubt and playing small. I'll explore the belief systems upon which those narratives are based and how to change our self-talk to empower ourselves and live a life we believe in.

This episode I dug deep, ripped out my guts, and really our collective guts and laid it bare to be seen. The guts are our inner desire to be wanted, claimed and possessed and all that we do to get it. I'll talk through the the primal link between survival and social acceptance, the pattern of yearning that plagues us all, and "spiritual dispossession" (feeling like we fell from God) as contributing factors. I cover how to become aware, how to reclaim your power and how to possess yourself. It's a good one.

Where do passions originate? What are true soul passions versus more transitory base passions? How do you uncover what you really care about in life that bring you both pleasure and a deep sense of purpose. How do you navigate fear in pursing passions? This episode covers all that and how to use both introspection and experimentation to integrate passion into your life. Grr tiger, go get 'em. 

You have to fight my friends, against everything inside of you and outside of you that’s going to tell you that who you are, as you are, is not good enough, is not lovable. We take on these codes of lovability from our ancestry, our parents, our culture and then we embed them deep into our psyches. We attack ourselves when we fail to measure up, but this pattern doesn't have to ensure. This episode shows us how to win the war where the final prize is our own self-love. 

Sitting by the Salmon River near Portland, Oregon, USA - I talk of the challenge of feeling stuck in life and how to transform it and flow. For me, stuck is more a mental concept than anything else. Our minds think we are not progressing, but life is always moving forward, there is no stasis. This episode covers how to see ourselves as empowered creators of our own reality, how to re-contextualize a phase of life when the outer world moves slower and how to free ourselves to flow, one baby step at a time. 

On a particularly warm day in February, I went to a beach near Barcelona and with the gentle sound of the waves, I recorded this episode. I talk of friendships, being open, allowing friends and partners to see and know more of us, how to deepen intimacy and how to work with and understand rejection. Hope you enjoy this more informal beach blanket style episode.

From a bird-filled park in Barcelona, this episode on confidence was born. It’s all about redefining how we think about confidence, how to uncover the natural confidence that exists in us, how identity expansion and identity innovation are directly linked to confidence and how a spirit of experimentation can enable deeper confidence. And if that none of that interests you, perhaps that epic bird sounds in that park, will. Enjoy.

What if aspects of you were lodged in different parts of the world? What if you had to follow the map in your heart, go to those places and put yourself back together? In this episode, I talk about travel and adventure and how it’s not just a cultural experience or holiday but a pathway to discovering more of who you are. Join me on this journey around the world, from climbing Kilimanjaro to the jungles of the Amazon to see how land has the power to put us back together again.

A personal story of my experience with the feeling of loneliness and how a lifetime of battling it has finally transformed into something deeper. I’ll cover how a broader spiritual perspective helps to understand the experience of loneliness, how the mind tries to turn it into a story and eventually an identity, and how the heart can offer you a pathway out of it into a deeper state of union. I hope my story offers some perspectives with which to enhance your own relationship with that feeling and maybe connect us into a shared experience of unity. Enjoy.

In this first episode, learn about who I am and how I interpret spirituality. For me, spirituality isn’t a convenient moral compass or code that gives you all the rules with which to reach nirvana or heaven. It’s a perspective that asks you to know yourself differently and empowers you to make your own choices, screw up, win and learn from everything in between. I’ll cover juicy things like reincarnation, past-lives, why feelings are so important, self-worth and belonging, and how to free yourself. Kick back relax and have a listen.