Broke Girl Therapy With Stefanie Maegan

At times, I've been insecure in the bedroom. Does my hair look ok? Am I doing this properly? Does he care if I didn't shave? I wanted to take a moment and pick Quai's brain to get a better understanding of a man's point of view during sex and how I can tackle my insecurities in the bedroom. I know what I like, but how do they like it? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm a firm believer that no one is really bad at sex, everyone just likes different things in bed. Some people may require a kink...while others are fine just being on top. With oral, some expect the favor to be returned...while others don't even care to do foreplay. Rachel and I share our notes on what we expect during sex, and yes it gets explicit af. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wasn't going to post this episode, only because I felt like "Bobby" didn't deserve any more of my attention. Now that I have taken some time alone, I reminded myself that I'm not doing this for him or for any other man. I do this sh*t for me. Dating is trial & error. We put ourselves out there & we keep our options open. Unfortunately, hearts will get broken and rejection will happen. In this case, my self-esteem was shut down when "Bobby" ended things with me to be with someone else. My head was spinning and I started to feel like I wasn't good enough for anyone. Moments like this is when you need to have your friends around to remind you of the boss a*s bitch that you are. Thank you, Rose. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Online dating is extremely popular in this day and age, but some people can't seem to find the courage or the knowledge on how to market themselves through an online dating app. Greg, an online dating coach, looks over my profile and gives me tips on how to better my chances on finding the appropriate match. He even answers some listener questions that can help some of you guys get over your fears, gain some knowledge, and put yourselves out there. You have nothing to lose, we're all slightly nervous about this dating game anyway. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The content of BGT is shocking to some people because of how "brave" I am to openly talk about sex. Nadia Bokody is a sex-positive journalist for SHESAID.com, and I can finally relate to someone on the type of backlash we receive as women who are open about our sexuality. But why is it such a taboo subject? Nadia and I break down the reasons why we feel like it's so important to have a sex positive platform. I even take this moment to ask her a few questions about my own insecurities in the bedroom. Because if we don't talk about it, how do we ever figure it out? Follow Nadia Bokody: Instagram: @nadiabokody SheSaid.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. There’s a lesson that I still haven’t learned yet, so life just hits me with the same bullshit to see if I really did grow up. “Bobby" was someone I only dated for about a month and a half, and in that short of amount of time I realized how different he was from the rest. Sadly, it didn’t work out. How did I handle it? A guy named “Ricky” helped me learn that lesson….and a couple of other ones too, lol. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I believe masturbation is self love and self care, but there's a stigma around it that makes (some) people feel ashamed. I struggle with this. Growing up in a strict religious household has made me feel uncomfortable of the idea for years. I'm trying to shake that off, because it's a beautiful thing to understand and love your own body. Since Jafra always talks to me about masturbation, it was appropriate to share with her my own insecurities. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cuffing season is over and Valentine’s Day is here. According to a ridiculous meme, Valentine’s Day is the championship game when you figure out if you’re in a relationship or not. Rose and I love to be single, but we got ourselves in an awkward situation....with feelings. Did we fuck up? This episode is brought to you by For All Media Productions - check out their YouTube for a full video episode of our Valentine’s Day Special. Video link here: https://youtu.be/u8kBCgy9jZE Follow them on Instagram: @forallmedia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is a known fact that us women are detectives. Give us your first name and we'll figure out who all of your ex-girlfriends are. Do men do the same? One drunken night at The Virgil, I met Zotowski while I was inhaling a messy hot dog after the bar was closed. He asked for my number, and to keep things extremely modern - I gave him my Instagram. Of course I lurked the shit out of him, but how far did he go when he lurked me? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes regular sex isn't enough, and we find ourselves wanting to explore beyond the basic sh*t. My roommate, Jules, is a perfect example of someone who proudly owns his sexuality and desire for certain kinks. Honestly, I think that's fu*king dope. WARNING: EXPLICIT AF Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Deveon was the VERY first person I ever went on an online date with. You can all thank him for the beginning stages of Broke Girl Therapy, because he paved the way for the rest of my dating career. Since I am now on this new "season" of my life, I want to make sure I don't repeat any old habits. I invited Deveon on to catch up and seek advice from him on a new love interest I have in mind for 2019. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

HAPPY NEW YEAR! New year, new goals, new bangs lol. To feel empowered and brand new, I decided to get a haircut to represent a new era for the new year. There's something so exciting about starting fresh, and I wanted to bring that attitude into 2019. For New Years Eve, my friends and I decided to end 2018 with a BANG and celebrate in Koreatown. I'm having a blast, and of course with my luck....TWO men from my past decide to show up in the last 30 minutes of 2018 (yes, including "Charles"). So what happens? A lot, lol. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it's been said before, ghosting someone in this day and age is extremely common. We meet someone online or go on one date and decide, "eh, I don't feel like talking to them again." In my opinion, the conversation / "closure" isn't really needed. How about if it was a friends with benefits situation or if you were in an ACTUAL relationship with this person? Is it damaging to us if we don't ever get the real reason why they decide to end the relationship? For me, my ex-friends with benefits ("Charles")went silent and my head has been spinning ever since. BUT that's the beauty of having a "therapeutic" podcast. He won't give me the closure, so I owe it to myself. THANK YOU, NEXT. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of the time on this show, the perspective comes from a heterosexual's point of view. I was inspired by the last episode, "Gender Roles" and noticed how Sixelaafiercee and I only spoke on a one sided frame of reference. How about the gay community? There's always this talk about the importance of "gender roles", but how does it come to play in a relationship when both parties are of the same gender? Do gender roles even matter? I'm curious to know the dynamic, so I invited Richard (a "power bottom") onto the pod to further explain how the dynamic of dating, sex, and relationships work in the community of gay men. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've been on a lot of great dates, but I've also been on a lot of horrible dates as well. This one by far, had to be the worst one. For those who follow me on Instagram, saw that I got excited for a "spontaneous" date but then the next post was me saying that my date dropped me off in the middle of Hollywood LOLOLOLOLOL Of course, everyone is asking "WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED!?" Thankfully, I have a podcast to tell you all about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays are upon us and cuffing season has begun. There's something about the holiday spirit that influences most of us single b*tches (or is it just me?) to want to find a companion(s) for the holidays. According to the internet, there's a specific timeline that naturally happens when a relationship flourishes during this period. Rose and I talk about how relevant this timeline is to our current dating situation and see if any of these guys would be great potential candidates for this year's cuffing season. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Nowadays, dating is mostly all digital. We find someone through an app, we get to know someone through their Instagram, and we freak out if we don't get a text back. Back in the day, they didn't have any of that. Men had to actually pursue women in person and no one had an Instagram to stalk and find out who their ex is (not that I do that or anything, lolz). Something else has shifted, and it's the opinions of what men and women bring to the table to make a successful relationship. My dad and his best friend share their opinions and experiences on how it was back in the day. Although I don't agree with everything, I hope this showcases how much has really changed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My weight is my biggest insecurity, and it plays a huge part of the difficulties I have with dating and having sex. "Does he like thick or fat women?" is the first question I ask myself when I'm interested in someone. Maybe that's why I feel more comfortable going for a thicker dude vs someone who is a lot slimmer than me. That's so fu*king twisted, and I don't want to feel that way anymore. Because who cares?????? It also frustrates me when I hear or see people body shame another person. If anything, it shows me how insecure you are. Why do you care so much? Maybe work on yourself first before putting down other people. "Kiss my fat ass" - Tyra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hookup culture: The detached, non-emotional, and highly sexual dating culture. Everyone is just "hanging out" and "talking" tbh. Naturally I am a monogamous and romantic person in a relationship. Because of this movement, I've been trained and almost brainwashed into thinking I need to be detached in order to survive dating in LA. Ava, originally from the Mid-west (full of monogamy), can agree that she herself too had to adjust in order to keep afloat in today's hookup culture. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices