League Of Adventurous Singles With Kira Sabin

OH SHIT. It is gettin' real today.  Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about no matter how much you bitch about it over wine, are you actually ready for love? Listen up as I break down my thoughts on how to detect about whether or not you are even ready for love if someone great shows up.

Oh shit. It is gettin' real today.  Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about (complicated) dating over 35 and what we need to do about it. Listen up as I break down my thoughts on settling, divorce and dating with kids.  It's smart, but a doozy.

Want a psychic?  Hire one. Want a relationship?  You effin' create. Men aren't mindreaders. Listen up as I break down how we need to stop believing that people love us more if they can read our minds. That is looney tunes and kicking your ass...

I have a friend and she wrote a book.   It is all kinds of genius. I have her on today as my first ever guest, Andrea Owen, talking about everything you need to know about closure, effed-up relationships and how to get over them. You want to listen.....immediately. Find Andrea's free chapters and bonus items here and make sure to get on over to amazon and pick up your copy today!

Don't you wish you had a crystal ball to see in the future if your new relationship will all work out? Well you can't so get over that shit now.  However, there are very tell tale signs of people who aren't really ready for a healthy relationship right now. Listen up as I break down  five different personalities that you you should run (not walk) away from.....immediately!  

Can men and women be friends? It is one more in the Kira Chronicles where I am sharing my own mistakes and heartaches for your learnin'.  You're welcome. Listen up as I talk today about my own personal story of thinking I knew what love was and being absolutely and completely wrong.

Sometimes we like to pretend, don't we? Pretend that we have all of our shit together and have everything all figured out.  You and I both know that is bullshit, right? Listen up as I talk today about my own personal story of being too awesome and it biting me in the ass.

So I spent a lot of my life waiting for love to find me.... It took me a long time to realize that I was the one pushing it away by just not asking for it! Listen up as I talk today about a personal story that left me with a huge a-ha moment and changed the way I look at love and relationships.

I can not lie, we believe a lot of crap when it comes to love. Ideas that keep us super duper safe and making excuses of why love is not working for us. Listen up as I talk today about dating myths that even the smartest of smarties are buying into and is kicking your ass.  It's a good one.

Sometimes we blame lots of the bad stuff on love. True story. We allow shitty behavior to happen and call it love although it has NOTHING to do with it. Listen up as I talk today about why that isn't love and what you can do about it. Your Adventure for Today: WHEN YOU ARE IN THAT “SICK TO YOUR STOMACH” UNHAPPY FEELING (IN ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP), I WANT YOU TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU ARE STICKING AROUND BECAUSE OF LOVE OR FEAR AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO START CHANGING THAT.

Dating can be complicated...... However, there are small mindsets that can make it all quite a bit easier and the dating jedi or ninja you secretly know you are. So grab your light saber or black belt and listen in as they are laid out in this 10 minutes of genius I made just for you. Cause I sure think you are awesome.

Rejection sucks. But what if that last rejection was actually not about you?  Or really any of them for that matter.... Here are my pretty darn smart thoughts on the way we love and why we can't really take a break-up so stinkin' seriously. Plus, you are going to get to here about a somewhat-ridiculous, personal kamikaze mission I did myself.  Listen up, Chachi!  Your Adventure for Today: When you find yourself in a new possible relationship that doesn’t feel right, step back and ask if you are uncomfortable because someone is treating you badly or because this is a new type love you haven’t experienced before. Ask yourself: is this healthy? If it is, keep on giving it a chance.

Stupid fear. Sometimes we are pretty darn good at convincing ourselves that our excuses are the real reason we don't have a relationship. "We just didn't have instant chemistry." "I am not going to settle!" Those look like you are taking care of yourself but really....they are fear.  Here are my thoughts on it.   Your Adventure for Today: Journal on these questions. Do you want love?   Do you want a relationship?   Do you want it more than the fear of rejection?   What are you doing to change it?

Occasionally, life hits us over the head with an idea over and over again until we figure it out. That is what this podcast was for me. Listen in on how this mind-blowing idea will change the way you date.  I am serious....it is that good. YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: What could you begin doing differently when meeting new people to start things the way you want them to end? BONUS: I am going to share a song by one of my favorite artists from college, David Wilcox. I woke up with this song in my head and it was the smack that I needed to get this idea out to you. He talks a little in the beginning about how bad his first date went with his wife and how it's badness created the wonderful relationship they have now. I don't necessarily suggest this kind of honesty for a first date, but I do believe being who you are, in all of your imperfect awesomeness, is always the best answer.

They may not even know they are doing it, but people love attention. However, it is your job to make sure you are not just giving it away and getting nothing in return.  Left angry, frustrated and confused. Listen in on how to tell if something is using you for attention and what the hell to do about it!  YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: How are you teaching people to treat you when you first meet them?  Are you bending over backwards and are you willing to do that for the rest of the relationship?  Are you starting how you want it to finish?  Are you showing how you like to communicate?  Solve problems?  Be loved?  If not, then how are they supposed to know and be amazing for you?

Seriously, it might be a problem. No you dirty birdies, I am not talking about orgasms!  Get your head out of the gutter.  What would your mother think?! I am talking about how I get up every day and fake most parts of my life.  Definitely this business, but plenty of other stuff too. Listen in on how and why I fake it every day and how it can work for you too.  Especially when it comes to love.  I am serious!   YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: Stop overthinking everything and start letting go of the outcome so you can just enjoy the deliciousness of the journey.  Stop looking for things to “fit” into your idea of perfect and the way they are supposed to look.  Look at how you can change your perspective to see everything as a success instead of a frustration.  How can you fake it until you get the hang of it?

Seriously, stop doing it. It is so beneath you. What do I mean? Here is what I mean. I regularly get to talk to really smart and amazing singles. However, sometimes we start to talk about a past situation they are stuck on or a mediocre situation that is still hanging around in the air like a bad cheese smell and the smart and amazing gets thrown out the window. They all of a sudden get that whiney sound in their voice and say something usually like “I know they are {fill in totally crappy quality}…but I just still like them. I don’t know why!” At that moment, my inner life coach starts to silently cry in the fetal position in frustration. Listen to some smart stuff on why this is kicking your ass and what to do about it!  Here is my friend Rob that I talked about in the podcast.  He is brilliant.   YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: Journal on these questions. *What stories are you telling yourself that is holding you back from real love? *What stories have you made up about your past relatiobships (good or bad) th

Truly, it is easy peasy. I believe that if there is one thing I have learned in this awesomesauce journey of being a life coach for singles, it is that we make many parts of meeting people and starting relationships WAY MORE COMPLICATED than we have to. We are all so stinkin' scared of getting hurt that we are creating weird ass lists, rules and games to pretty much guarantee no one is getting close to us.  EVER! Check out the easy way to do this without making an ass of yourself.  Your Adventure of the Day: Super easy.  Commit to letting guys know you are interested for the greater good of dating and making sure you don't end up on the crazy train.  

True Story. I realize that I am cotton candy and rainbows most of the time, but this podcast is about hard-core truths! Quit your whining...there is some really good stuff here today! Listen in as Kira drops some knowledge on the difference between love and relationships and which one you should be looking for. Also, a mindset that will help you move into better relationships when you find them. It's pretty good stuff, promise. Your Adventure of the Day: Take a step back and look at your relationship role models.  What did you learn?  Is it going to help you create a good relationship?  Who can be your new relationship role models?  What are they doing to create something that lasts?  What can you start working on today to get yourself ready? Can I help?  

WARNING!!!  I may have been a little salty on this podcast and pretty....let's use the word frustrated, shall we? It is just such an important topic and one that we all need to hear and talk about.  So please ignore my feistiness if it offends, but hear the message behind it.  It is a doozy. Listen below to this feisty, frustrated, saltiness that is all meant with love:)   Your Adventure of the Day: Everyone has something to teach you and even if you have dug in a little and are seeing some differences that aren’t going to work, everyone has a story you can learn from.  The moment you embrace that, this dating thing is going to get a whole lot better.  You might even be amazed what you find out. Go out this week and collect stories.  Open up your child-like curiosity and just listen.  Learn.  and more importantly understand.  Because when we understand who people are and where they are coming from that is where love and kindness and a whole lot of amazing can grow. Get on this.